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Re: RW Fever check it and see....gotta fever of 103...And other Random musings
« Reply #175 on: January 05, 2015, 07:14:47 AM »


Yes. Like Shake traveling with Slumba. I think you missed the "golden age" of Ed. :-) I just can't imagine a strong RW being impressed by a man who needs someone to "support" them. "Shrugs." See Tom's post above about the "real man."

Oh, theirs i take as two friends travelling together. Oh my, when you mention 'golden age'... I remember when Italians appeared in this 'neck of woods' (as a dear member here puts it ;)) and started cruising Eastern Europe for 'gals...  :ROFL:
(Most of them were married back home, most indeed ended up paying shopping sprees in Rome, but no more than that lol)
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Re: RW Fever check it and see....gotta fever of 103...And other Random musings
« Reply #176 on: January 05, 2015, 08:33:42 AM »
Your point is well taken, Bill. But, I wonder how the women really felt when guys showed up with Ed in tow or our other similar "situations."

My point is the long term success rate for guys with a wingman must be incredibly low. Maybe they would be better off pursuing other options.

I made my first trip with Stirlitz as a guide/translator. My Russian at the time was
zero and the first girl I went to see didn't speak any English. I do believe that you
should hire your own translator and not rely on an agency translator.

Obviously if the girl speaks good English then you don't need a translator, that is a
totally different argument seeking only girls with good English vs seeking all girls.

FSUW are not for entry level daters. FSUW don't do vague FSUW like a man of action so be a man of action  If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane. There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.
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Re: RW Fever check it and see....gotta fever of 103...And other Random musings
« Reply #177 on: January 05, 2015, 11:55:33 PM »
Your point is well taken, Bill. But, I wonder how the women really felt when guys showed up with Ed in tow or our other similar "situations."

My point is the long term success rate for guys with a wingman must be incredibly low. Maybe they would be better off pursuing other options.

I made my first trip with Stirlitz as a guide/translator. My Russian at the time was
zero and the first girl I went to see didn't speak any English. I do believe that you
should hire your own translator and not rely on an agency translator.

Obviously if the girl speaks good English then you don't need a translator, that is a
totally different argument seeking only girls with good English vs seeking all girls.

Wingman, is some one usually the guys employs to help him in meeting women in foreign situations as it regards fSU women. Think of a wingman as a personel tour guide to the women from the former Soviet Union. A good one and in my opinion Stirlitz is good will handle logistics and can give feedback and insight on some of the aspects he sees in the women you meet. A wingman is most useful if you are doing a WMVM (Write Many Visit Many) program or approach. Using Stirlitz was interesting and while there are some on RUA who complain he stole some guys juice from a freezer his assistance was helpful.

For what it is worth I did not meet my Julia through Stirlitz.
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Re: RW Fever check it and see....gotta fever of 103...And other Random musings
« Reply #178 on: January 06, 2015, 02:12:24 AM »
Okay
just to expound on what AvHdB said
this is a truism.
I'll offer this, your 'wingman' might thank you.
 
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RW Fever How to get started down the right path
« Reply #179 on: April 04, 2019, 03:34:39 PM »
I put this thread together quite a while ago and will try to update things
as I go along. One thing that I can't really help people with is what websites
to use for dating. That is information that grows stale fast.

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Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.
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Re: RW Fever How to get started down the right path
« Reply #180 on: April 05, 2019, 07:02:30 AM »
I put this thread together quite a while ago and will try to update things as I go along.

Your efforts in that regard would be greatly appreciated by new members like me. ~ Doug
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Re: RW Fever How to get started down the right path
« Reply #181 on: April 05, 2019, 01:33:55 PM »
I put this thread together quite a while ago and will try to update things as I go along.

Your efforts in that regard would be greatly appreciated by new members like me. ~ Doug

Thank you Doug,

I am glad that somebody is getting use from it.
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Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.
Get an apartment not a hotel. DON'T recycle girls

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Six common mistakes in the search phase
« Reply #182 on: August 26, 2019, 07:52:48 AM »
Six common mistakes in the search phase

1. Large age differential search parameters. 
What is your age and what are the ages of these women? These
are the type of results one would expect when pushing the age
difference too far.

An example: A 50 year old writes one hundred 25 year old hotties.
95 of the hotties reject him or never reply. The 95 rejections were
from the good girls and the 5 who answer his emails have dubious
motives and/or character.

2. The same can be found with huge differences in looks. 5 foot tall fat
man with 5 teeth contacts only 6 foot tall runway models so very few
respond, those that do have questionable motives.

3. Failure to reject. A guy keeps communicating a girl who has displayed a
few caution flags or doesn't seem to have the same interest intensity. Usually
the girl is hot. You want a girl who is at least as interested in you as you are
in her AND you want a girl who doesn't have any yellow flags or character
concerns.

4. Failure to clear the board. You initiated contact with 25 girls and the ones
who responded positively have all seemed nice, but none of them stand out.
You want a standout. You want a number one girl. You are spinning your
wheels wasting your time and their time, you need to clear the board
and start over.

5. Failure to dump everyone else when you have a clear winner. Once you've
determined that Sally is the best girl then you kick Betty, Brenda and Bernette
to the curb. Otherwise Sally doesn't think you have the same interest intensity
and you get the boot. Women can sense things. They need to sense that you
are really into them.

6. Repeating the same mistakes/failure to review. I started over too many
times to count, but I would review what I did and how I did it. What could
I have done better each step of the way. I didn't want to make the same
mistake again.

FSUW are not for entry level daters. FSUW don't do vague FSUW like a man of action so be a man of action  If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane. There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.
Get an apartment not a hotel. DON'T recycle girls

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Re: RW Fever check it and see....gotta fever of 103...And other Random musings
« Reply #183 on: August 26, 2019, 04:28:45 PM »
Good advice bill , problem everyone thinks they know better.
Also everyone seems to think international dating has died.
I suspect its growing, just very different than 10 years ago.
the world is getting smaller.
There is nothing permanent except change.

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RW Fever check it and see....gotta fever of 103...And other Random musings
« Reply #184 on: November 22, 2019, 02:19:56 PM »
Good advice bill , problem everyone thinks they know better.
Also everyone seems to think international dating has died.
I suspect its growing, just very different than 10 years ago.
the world is getting smaller.

I don't think it will ever be totally over. Back in the olden
days international travel was for the rich, now days they
let anybody get on a plane.

FSUW are not for entry level daters. FSUW don't do vague FSUW like a man of action so be a man of action  If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane. There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.
Get an apartment not a hotel. DON'T recycle girls

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Re: RW Fever check it and see....gotta fever of 103...And other Random musings
« Reply #185 on: November 22, 2019, 02:24:58 PM »
Asking questions.

I've posted millions of questions to ask in different places,
but my advice is to make a list of subjects and organize it
into an outline that you need to go over first before you
marry a woman.

If you spend a few hours at this, you will be surprised at how
fast your outline grows and how many subjects that you need
to talk about before you ______________ get on a plane, before
you get engaged, before you get married.

99% of Good girls will want to have these conversations. These 
are true insights about how things might work out between you.

I also recommend putting the list in some sort of order. When you
get to item number 7 or item X that's when you are ready to get on
a plane. When you finish the list that's when you ask the girl to
marry you or dump her because you aren't a good match.

Examples

I. Expectations and roles in a family
   A. What tasks are expected of the husband
     1.
     2.
     3.
   B. What tasks are expected of the wife
   C. What tasks are expected of the children
   D. What tasks Exwife, Mother in law, creepy uncle etc.

II. Conflict Resolution
   A. What is off limits for you in an argument
     1. Gun fights,
     2. Calling my mother a  _____________
     3. Etc.
   B. What is off limits for me in an argument
   C. What to do when we disagree
   D. Something else.   

III. Sex stuff
   A. Frequency
   B. What's freaky good
   C. What's freaky bad
   D. Something else
   E. What happens in the unlikely event that Angelina Jolie wants
   to have sex with me (one time only).
   F.

IV. Kids
  A. Do we want to make any of our own
  B. What if we make one by accident
  C. Who disciplines your child/my child 
  D. What happens if child acts out
  E. One million other things here.

V.  Exwife/ExHusband

VI. Inlaws/Outlaws

VII.  Education, learning English, Driving a car

VIII. Pet Peeves

IX.  Jobs and work.

X.   Goals

XI.  Retirement

XII. This list can go on and on and on and it should
this is your due diligence phase.

FSUW are not for entry level daters. FSUW don't do vague FSUW like a man of action so be a man of action  If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane. There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.
Get an apartment not a hotel. DON'T recycle girls

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« Reply #186 on: November 29, 2019, 01:00:43 PM »
Don posted this in another thread but I thought that I would put it here
so that it wouldn't get buried.

I think men start these TR's thinking it'll be a fun & painless way to tell his travel story.  This can change once the guy realizes his typing skills are rather slow, or within a few installments, realizes it can take a few hours to get a decent sized installment posted. As one begins typing he gets into more detail, all the while trying to make his story a good read, and without coming across as a power point presentation.

 I have about 50 installments in my TR, each one took me about 3 hours to type out, as I would sit down and pound it out all in one shot, without having a full idea what I was going to type.  So about 150 hours later the TR was finished. 

 I suspect many TR's go unfinished based on this alone, other issues like a trip gone wrong, or just giving up after a trip or two.  Even though I was immune to any negativity, I would also suggest guys drop writing the TR like a stone once the criticism from other members begin. Who needs to hear it when you're spending hours typing a story?

Trip reports are a lot tougher to write than people might imagine especially
when things go South, and with me they went South often enough. In my
opinion Writing the T/R is really beneficial to the introspective part of
pursuing FSUW. When things don't work out, I found it helpful to
figure out what I did right, what I did wrong, what I would do
differently. 

During the sifting process am I sifting out the right girls? Am I pursuing the
right girls to begin with? I am usually writing the trip report after the fact
and/or several days behind actual events. That way I get less input from
the peanut gallery, (those people that nitpick everything you do).

There is a way to get better at finding and pursuing FSUW and that's by not
repeating the same mistakes again and again. I would update and revamp
my profile, I would change my introduction. I would make make an effort
to search slightly differently. I would check to see if my net was wide
enough, was I skipping vast areas that I shouldn't be skipping?

As to writing the actual report, I would look at my photos, review the story in
my head and then type it out. There were always details that I forgot and in
retrospect would have been better to add in, but once you post something you
have limited time to edit it, so my theory was get the report hammered out or
you wouldn't get it done.

In 100% of my trip reports there were funny or interesting details that I forgot
about and remembered later, but I got it done.

FSUW are not for entry level daters. FSUW don't do vague FSUW like a man of action so be a man of action  If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane. There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.
Get an apartment not a hotel. DON'T recycle girls


 

 

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