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40 Year Age Gap Relationship
« on: January 20, 2024, 12:56:02 PM »
This one was entertaining...


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Re: 40 Year Age Gap Relationship
« Reply #1 on: January 20, 2024, 01:07:51 PM »
This one is actually a 30 year age gap relationship. It seems they just met, liked each other and went from there. Money had nothing to do with it, she wasn't on a "sugar daddy" site nor was he. Just a totally organic relationship apparently. I suspect she was tired of men her age not capable of committing.


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Re: 40 Year Age Gap Relationship
« Reply #2 on: January 20, 2024, 03:53:17 PM »
This one was entertaining...

So when she's like 40, she'll be changing his diapers.....

I know quite a few (actually all) couples with a huge age gap that didn't survive.

Even the most stable I knew, got divorced.
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Re: 40 Year Age Gap Relationship
« Reply #3 on: January 20, 2024, 04:11:31 PM »
This one was entertaining...

So when she's like 40, she'll be changing his diapers.....

I know quite a few (actually all) couples with a huge age gap that didn't survive.

Even the most stable I knew, got divorced.

Very true.

But good for both of them if they're happy while it last.

In our circle of these wm/fsuw marriages, all but one couple we know, or have known and/or aware of, are also all divorced. I don't believe any of those who divorced had more than a 5 year age difference. I'd estimate about 25% of them had nasty divorces to boot. One involved domestic violence allegation.

One remained married and they're both Russians.

There's no substitute in marrying someone from your own culture. There's enough challenges in marriages, much less with one with a different cultural background.

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Re: 40 Year Age Gap Relationship
« Reply #4 on: January 20, 2024, 04:41:42 PM »

In our circle of these wm/fsuw marriages, all but one couple we know, or have known and/or aware of, are also all divorced. I don't believe any of those who divorced had more than a 5 year age difference. I'd estimate about 25% of them had nasty divorces to boot. One involved domestic violence allegation.
And yet on this board, there's at least 4 couples that are still together afaik.

Myself, I am now going on 13 years with a 6-year age-gap so thats quite normal.
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Re: 40 Year Age Gap Relationship
« Reply #5 on: January 20, 2024, 07:17:42 PM »


Very true.

But good for both of them if they're happy while it last.

In our circle of these wm/fsuw marriages, all but one couple we know, or have known and/or aware of, are also all divorced. I don't believe any of those who divorced had more than a 5 year age difference. I'd estimate about 25% of them had nasty divorces to boot. One involved domestic violence allegation.

One remained married and they're both Russians.

There's no substitute in marrying someone from your own culture. There's enough challenges in marriages, much less with one with a different cultural background.

My wife and I have been married 16 years and lived in several different places. During that time we have met and spent time socially with well over 30 couples of FSU/WM in the various places we've lived. The women in these marriages have been almost exclusively Russian and Ukrainian but mostly Ukrainian. The age differences were all over the map and probably average 20+ years if I were guessing.

Of those 30+ couples there are only 3, 4 counting us that are still married to each other. One of those is a Georgian couple that were married to each other prior to immigrating to the US. That equates to 1 out of 10. Those odds are nauseating. Ironically, the immigrant wife really didn't seem to be the one that caused the demise of the marriage well more than half the time. A lot of them were from what I'd call as damaged American males.

1 in 10 success rate is what I see. Big age gaps is but another hurdle among many many other hurdles

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Re: 40 Year Age Gap Relationship
« Reply #6 on: January 20, 2024, 09:02:32 PM »
This one was entertaining...

So when she's like 40, she'll be changing his diapers.....

I know quite a few (actually all) couples with a huge age gap that didn't survive.

Even the most stable I knew, got divorced.


I rather doubt if he thinks the relationship will last for 20 years or so, but if it does it will because he treats her well and she seems like a genuinely nice person.

In the meantime they seem happy. And if you note, I wrote that the video was entertaining. They aren't married, they've only been an item for 3 months.  :chuckle:

Also, unlike the relationships you mentioned, this is not an American man with an FSUW. They're both American.

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Re: 40 Year Age Gap Relationship
« Reply #7 on: January 21, 2024, 04:39:48 AM »
My wife and I have been married 16 years and lived in several different places. During that time we have met and spent time socially with well over 30 couples of FSU/WM in the various places we've lived. The women in these marriages have been almost exclusively Russian and Ukrainian but mostly Ukrainian. The age differences were all over the map and probably average 20+ years if I were guessing.

Of those 30+ couples there are only 3, 4 counting us that are still married to each other. One of those is a Georgian couple that were married to each other prior to immigrating to the US. That equates to 1 out of 10. Those odds are nauseating. Ironically, the immigrant wife really didn't seem to be the one that caused the demise of the marriage well more than half the time. A lot of them were from what I'd call as damaged American males.

1 in 10 success rate is what I see. Big age gaps is but another hurdle among many many other hurdles

Spot on.

I harken back over the years there have been a fairly varied cast of characters that graced these fora. Some pretty whacked characters too who crashed and burned in this instantaneously.

But there were also some pretty solid, stand-up gents - many with wealth and means - who were gifting the galleries with golden wisdom in how to trek this minefield successfully.

In the end, literally all of them that I can think of, they too submitted to the MOB statistic.

 I tip my hat to all those who found the right path through this maze. The very scant few, IMO.

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Re: 40 Year Age Gap Relationship
« Reply #8 on: January 21, 2024, 07:50:01 AM »
My wife and I have been married 16 years and lived in several different places. During that time we have met and spent time socially with well over 30 couples of FSU/WM in the various places we've lived. The women in these marriages have been almost exclusively Russian and Ukrainian but mostly Ukrainian. The age differences were all over the map and probably average 20+ years if I were guessing.

Of those 30+ couples there are only 3, 4 counting us that are still married to each other. One of those is a Georgian couple that were married to each other prior to immigrating to the US. That equates to 1 out of 10. Those odds are nauseating. Ironically, the immigrant wife really didn't seem to be the one that caused the demise of the marriage well more than half the time. A lot of them were from what I'd call as damaged American males.

1 in 10 success rate is what I see. Big age gaps is but another hurdle among many many other hurdles

Spot on.

I harken back over the years there have been a fairly varied cast of characters that graced these fora. Some pretty whacked characters too who crashed and burned in this instantaneously.

But there were also some pretty solid, stand-up gents - many with wealth and means - who were gifting the galleries with golden wisdom in how to trek this minefield successfully.

In the end, literally all of them that I can think of, they too submitted to the MOB statistic.

 I tip my hat to all those who found the right path through this maze. The very scant few, IMO.

My wife is 19 years younger than myself , we have been together 12 years.

But Im going to be parting till Im 90..well If I don't drop dead or have an accident  :laugh:
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Re: 40 Year Age Gap Relationship
« Reply #9 on: January 21, 2024, 11:08:51 AM »
My wife and I have been married 16 years and lived in several different places. During that time we have met and spent time socially with well over 30 couples of FSU/WM in the various places we've lived. The women in these marriages have been almost exclusively Russian and Ukrainian but mostly Ukrainian. The age differences were all over the map and probably average 20+ years if I were guessing.

Of those 30+ couples there are only 3, 4 counting us that are still married to each other. One of those is a Georgian couple that were married to each other prior to immigrating to the US. That equates to 1 out of 10. Those odds are nauseating. Ironically, the immigrant wife really didn't seem to be the one that caused the demise of the marriage well more than half the time. A lot of them were from what I'd call as damaged American males.

1 in 10 success rate is what I see. Big age gaps is but another hurdle among many many other hurdles

Spot on.

I harken back over the years there have been a fairly varied cast of characters that graced these fora. Some pretty whacked characters too who crashed and burned in this instantaneously.

But there were also some pretty solid, stand-up gents - many with wealth and means - who were gifting the galleries with golden wisdom in how to trek this minefield successfully.

In the end, literally all of them that I can think of, they too submitted to the MOB statistic.

 I tip my hat to all those who found the right path through this maze. The very scant few, IMO.

My wife is 19 years younger than myself , we have been together 12 years.

But Im going to be partying till Im 90..well If I don't drop dead or have an accident  :laugh:


Parting ways or partying?  :chuckle:

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Re: 40 Year Age Gap Relationship
« Reply #10 on: January 21, 2024, 12:51:07 PM »
Ironically, the immigrant wife really didn't seem to be the one that caused the demise of the marriage well more than half the time. A lot of them were from what I'd call as damaged American males.

1 in 10 success rate is what I see. Big age gaps is but another hurdle among many many other hurdles

Bingo! The bit bolded above is a large part of the problem. I have seen enough American ‘adult’ males that would struggle maintaining a relationship with a gold fish, never mind another human being.

But there will always be outliers and those who confound the statistics. Bully for them.
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