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Offline martincop

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Abrupt end to great conversations
« on: August 01, 2022, 02:40:38 PM »
You message a woman on a dating site. She's excited, we have a lot in common and shared values and we had great messages 2-5 times then she stops. After she doesn't answer my message you send her a message 3-5 days later saying I'd love to continue the conversation etc etc. No response.

This has happened. What are likely scenarios?

Most likely she found a much better prospect. She went back to her ex boyfriend/husband.

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Re: Abrupt end to great conversations
« Reply #1 on: August 01, 2022, 03:43:00 PM »
You message a woman on a dating site. She's excited, we have a lot in common and shared values and we had great messages 2-5 times then she stops. After she doesn't answer my message you send her a message 3-5 days later saying I'd love to continue the conversation etc etc. No response.

This has happened. What are likely scenarios?

Most likely she found a much better prospect. She went back to her ex boyfriend/husband.

She, remember it might be a he, didn't think she could get any money out of you. Or a free vacation. Or despite her common values she felt you weren't a good match. She didn't think you'd offer enough support if she moved to your country. You're too old.

Have you exchanged photos? Have you had a video chat? If so any number of reasons why she stopped. Too short. Too tall. Too fat. Not athletic. Bald. Long hair. Doesn't like the sound of your voice. Bad dresser. The reasons are almost endless.
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Re: Abrupt end to great conversations
« Reply #2 on: August 01, 2022, 04:02:27 PM »
Girls do that because they do not want to discuss the why. There is no way of telling what the problem is that I know of.
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Re: Abrupt end to great conversations
« Reply #3 on: August 02, 2022, 12:54:25 AM »
You message a woman on a dating site. She's excited, we have a lot in common and shared values and we had great messages 2-5 times then she stops. After she doesn't answer my message you send her a message 3-5 days later saying I'd love to continue the conversation etc etc. No response.

This has happened. What are likely scenarios?

Most likely she found a much better prospect. She went back to her ex boyfriend/husband.

The problem is everyone is looking for a better option usually or they just get bored..  women are just like the men, one minute chatting to some guy next minute a nicer guy comes along.. whilst you are chatting for the first time your nothing to that women.. just like women are nothing to you. You will not hesitate to drop a women at a blink of an eye for a better option.. women do the same..

The other problem is sheer boredom many women sign up to dating sites out of curiosity and nothing more.. not cos they are desperate to find some guy, they will sign up some guys will start chatting and after a few hours or days (usually days) they are already bored stiff often thinking something like "Do I need this shit with these stupid men" Remember you mayn't be stupid but lots are and women soon become tired of it.

It's why you need lots of women signing up. like cannon fodder cos they generally have a very short shelf life.


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Re: Abrupt end to great conversations
« Reply #4 on: August 02, 2022, 05:30:59 PM »
You message a woman on a dating site. She's excited, we have a lot in common and shared values and we had great messages 2-5 times then she stops. After she doesn't answer my message you send her a message 3-5 days later saying I'd love to continue the conversation etc etc. No response.

This has happened. What are likely scenarios?

Most likely she found a much better prospect. She went back to her ex boyfriend/husband.

The problem is everyone is looking for a better option usually or they just get bored..  women are just like the men, one minute chatting to some guy next minute a nicer guy comes along.. whilst you are chatting for the first time your nothing to that women.. just like women are nothing to you. You will not hesitate to drop a women at a blink of an eye for a better option.. women do the same..

The other problem is sheer boredom many women sign up to dating sites out of curiosity and nothing more.. not cos they are desperate to find some guy, they will sign up some guys will start chatting and after a few hours or days (usually days) they are already bored stiff often thinking something like "Do I need this shit with these stupid men" Remember you mayn't be stupid but lots are and women soon become tired of it.

It's why you need lots of women signing up. like cannon fodder cos they generally have a very short shelf life.

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Re: Abrupt end to great conversations
« Reply #5 on: August 03, 2022, 04:02:12 AM »
Steve is right, but also look a little closer to home!

Are you a bit intense?
Are you a tad boring?
Can you keep your interlocutor interested?

As a very rough guide, how many of your messages end with a question? If the answer is not many, you probably come across as boring! Be the online version of a good conversationalist - listen, don't speak. Ask questions about her. Let her have her shout! it is an odd thing, but you will come across as a better conversationalist if you are a good listener and show it by asking questions related to what she just told you. Seem interested in her.

I can't speak for you or anyone else, but I can say that this works for me. Either that or I am a dating site whisperer able to pick up on the few real profiles and get into interesting conversations with real people.
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Re: Abrupt end to great conversations
« Reply #6 on: August 03, 2022, 05:31:58 AM »
Steve is right, but also look a little closer to home!

Are you a bit intense?
Are you a tad boring?
Can you keep your interlocutor interested?

As a very rough guide, how many of your messages end with a question? If the answer is not many, you probably come across as boring! Be the online version of a good conversationalist - listen, don't speak. Ask questions about her. Let her have her shout! it is an odd thing, but you will come across as a better conversationalist if you are a good listener and show it by asking questions related to what she just told you. Seem interested in her.

I can't speak for you or anyone else, but I can say that this works for me. Either that or I am a dating site whisperer able to pick up on the few real profiles and get into interesting conversations with real people.


Yes absolutely 100% most guys on dating sites are so bloody boring I expect most women just fall to sleep...

Even the questions asked are boring as hell... Often a women will say "tell me about yourself " Mans answer "What do you want to know" That's it..

You need to work out what sort of women she is very fast.. if she looks like the home maker then talk about making cakes..  :laugh:

If you looks hot.. then dont waste time get straight down to sex and what does she like.. how many times she has an orgasm in an hour.. what sex positions he like and with who.. :laugh:
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Re: Abrupt end to great conversations
« Reply #7 on: August 03, 2022, 06:13:07 AM »
I have had 'women' ask me the 'What do you want to know' question. For me, that's a good sign I will not go further. However, one also needs to ask good questions. So, something specific about what has been discussed. For example, if she told you about a restaurant, ask her what she liked best, and maybe even close it in by asking something like 'was it great for food or was it the ambience you liked best?'

That shows you were being attentive, and it also draws her out. You will soon find out if she is real or just making stuff up by the responses. You will come across well by doing this. You also get to expose frauds as they cannot answer such questions about places they have not actually been to. Also, if your interlocutor seems to forget what has been recently said then she, he, it, is almost certainly a team working on you.
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Re: Abrupt end to great conversations
« Reply #8 on: August 03, 2022, 08:41:29 AM »
I have had 'women' ask me the 'What do you want to know' question. For me, that's a good sign I will not go further. However, one also needs to ask good questions. So, something specific about what has been discussed. For example, if she told you about a restaurant, ask her what she liked best, and maybe even close it in by asking something like 'was it great for food or was it the ambience you liked best?'

That shows you were being attentive, and it also draws her out. You will soon find out if she is real or just making stuff up by the responses. You will come across well by doing this. You also get to expose frauds as they cannot answer such questions about places they have not actually been to. Also, if your interlocutor seems to forget what has been recently said then she, he, it, is almost certainly a team working on you.


I work with my wife 24/4 She still asks me questions like "Do you still like girls from Moscow with small tits" Then rabbits on about bringing me round an escort with small tits so I can lick her pussy.. :laugh: :laugh:

Well cant talk about work all day long..
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Re: Abrupt end to great conversations
« Reply #9 on: August 03, 2022, 09:22:45 AM »
Sounds like the perfect wife - unless that's a conversational landmine that'd explode and blow off your balls!
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Re: Abrupt end to great conversations
« Reply #10 on: August 03, 2022, 09:37:18 AM »
Sounds like the perfect wife - unless that's a conversational landmine that'd explode and blow off your balls!

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Re: Abrupt end to great conversations
« Reply #11 on: August 03, 2022, 10:30:31 AM »
You message a woman on a dating site. She's excited, we have a lot in common and shared values and we had great messages 2-5 times then she stops. After she doesn't answer my message you send her a message 3-5 days later saying I'd love to continue the conversation etc etc. No response.

This has happened. What are likely scenarios?

Most likely she found a much better prospect. She went back to her ex boyfriend/husband.

Did you talk on Skype or other messenger with a webcam?
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