Facebook behavior changes

[Steveboy]

I noticed over the last few months lots of people are now "Hiding" their friends list..its pretty normal now, it never used to be.

Why can this be? People seem to not want others to know that they have a friend called Bob who thinks this, or who has a friend called Natasha who has that view. An example is one of my mates here told me that some expats said to him they were not to happy using his services because he was friends with me.. Can you imagine that! It is how some think and I think it is becoming more the norm..

[Manny]

I try and avoid it as a platform. Forums look tame in comparison to some of the bile on Facebook.

[AvHdB]

I try and avoid it as a platform. Forums look tame in comparison to some of the bile on Facebook.

Well we try to behave!

[Jonas!]

I post zero politics on Facebook... actually maybe one photo every 3 years.    I have a few friends that have gone pollical and have lost lifelong friends over irrelevant silliness.  I read a lot of my friends posts and never comment.   I leave all my commentary to forums such as this.   I think If I post my rather strong opinions, I'd have a lot less friends.   In person, it is a different story.  Sometimes we talk politics, but it comes off ok, and even if opinions aren't aligned it doesn't create a rift or longstanding rancor. 

Jonas! 

[B.B.]

An example is one of my mates here told me that some expats said to him they were not to happy using his services because he was friends with me.. Can you imagine that! It is how some think and I think it is becoming more the norm..

Shunning is a left-wing thing.

B/B

[AJ]

Meh,
I've seen zero change.
I use it almost strictly as business advert.
I never post anything political.and use my business page and group, of about 25k members, work related stuff only.
Use my personal.profile  much more sporadically and some limited family /friends stuff.

It's an easy , inexpensive ,and incredibly effective marketing tool for me.
And only drama if you look for it.

[Jonas!]

I use it almost strictly as business advert.
I never post anything political.and use my business page and group, of about 25k members, work related stuff only.
Use my personal.profile  much more sporadically and some limited family /friends stuff.

It's an easy , inexpensive ,and incredibly effective marketing tool for me.
And only drama if you look for it.

..I'm extremely grateful for Facebook marketplace and groups .  It has been a huge financial boost for business, and all for free.     

Jonas!   

[Steveboy]

But surely when it comes to life long friends it really does not matter what their beliefs or opinions are?

Myself I really do not care what someone thinks, most of my close mates have the same views as me, I have a few who do not but that does not matter It does not mean I need to tell them to clear off. I have one old school friend I have know all my life he is a white supremest he even held the British National party meeting in his local village hall.. But every one knows he's a nazi.. when we all meet up some time's no one cares! To busy drinking and catching up on old times... I can very easy go out for the night with someone who hates Putin or loves him.. Friendship should never get in the way of individuals views .. who needs friends who think you're not entitled to an opinion?

I think today its getting closer and closer to a world where you have to keep your mouth shut for worry of offending someone.. I don't really care who I offend.. tough shit..

[dorbradavid]

It can just as easily be that a person does not want their friends stalked and harassed by strangers. |Sadly, there are some people out there that simply don't understand internet behavior. 

But surely when it comes to life long friends it really does not matter what their beliefs or opinions are?

Myself I really do not care what someone thinks, most of my close mates have the same views as me, I have a few who do not but that does not matter It does not mean I need to tell them to clear off. I have one old school friend I have know all my life he is a white supremest he even held the British National party meeting in his local village hall.. But every one knows he's a nazi.. when we all meet up some time's no one cares! To busy drinking and catching up on old times... I can very easy go out for the night with someone who hates Putin or loves him.. Friendship should never get in the way of individuals views .. who needs friends who think you're not entitled to an opinion?

I think today its getting closer and closer to a world where you have to keep your mouth shut for worry of offending someone.. I don't really care who I offend.. tough shit..

[AvHdB]

It can just as easily be that a person does not want their friends stalked and harassed by strangers. Sadly, there are some people out there that simply don't understand internet behavior.

But surely when it comes to life long friends it really does not matter what their beliefs or opinions are?

Myself I really do not care what someone thinks, most of my close mates have the same views as me, I have a few who do not but that does not matter It does not mean I need to tell them to clear off. I have one old school friend I have know all my life he is a white supremest he even held the British National party meeting in his local village hall.. But every one knows he's a nazi.. when we all meet up some time's no one cares! To busy drinking and catching up on old times... I can very easy go out for the night with someone who hates Putin or loves him.. Friendship should never get in the way of individuals views .. who needs friends who think you're not entitled to an opinion?

I think today its getting closer and closer to a world where you have to keep your mouth shut for worry of offending someone.. I don't really care who I offend.. tough shit..

Sadly, that is the truth regarding behavior, if you can not respect boundaries and use civil conduct on the internet, I have strong doubts about you in the real world.

[AJ]

But surely when it comes to life long friends it really does not matter what their beliefs or opinions are?

Myself I really do not care what someone thinks, most of my close mates have the same views as me, I have a few who do not but that does not matter It does not mean I need to tell them to clear off. I have one old school friend I have know all my life he is a white supremest he even held the British National party meeting in his local village hall.. But every one knows he's a nazi.. when we all meet up some time's no one cares! To busy drinking and catching up on old times... I can very easy go out for the night with someone who hates Putin or loves him.. Friendship should never get in the way of individuals views .. who needs friends who think you're not entitled to an opinion?

I think today its getting closer and closer to a world where you have to keep your mouth shut for worry of offending someone.. I don't really care who I offend.. tough shit..

Agree.

I personally just dont see much recent change regarding the book of faces.
 Its long been a place where a few that would never rant politically at a group of freinds setting,  will do so to an extreme extent on fb.

I am not saying most do,just a few, and those remain pretty consistant.
The latest thing to be upset about (either side)  changes every quarter, so i jiut havnt seen this conflict changing that fb dynamic to me.

As far as friends lists* and those posting political rants or tagging me in them-Lol
Yes even if its a close friend i'll block that bs,or them , and tell them why good naturedly.
   I'd certainly remain friends with them in person ,but zero qualms of not having their drivel on my pages or befriended* in social media..
  Its a business tool for me ,my customers could* be on any side if any  given issue, and  so i dont tolerate any bs regarding that type of thing.
They can respect that (most do) or not.Thier choice.

Since i use it primarily as business,even my personal.page  friends list* is often just fans or customers i've never met and do not know ,i forgot fb's limits but that was exceeded long ago.very low percent of those people are close frirnds or family.
Its  much appreciated in a business since, so its just not some list i would hide ,or even manage.

I can see if it was a more personal scenario.

[Steveboy]

What about bringing political arguments at say a dinner party? Or visiting grandmother in the nursing home? 

If you're not a member of a forum say.. where and when can you express your view? It also seems the done thing today is just keep your mouth firmly closed?

Its ok to say go to a mega concert and force your opinion onto others especially youngsters..be it a right opinion or wrong opinion

https://uk.yahoo.com/news/volodymyr-zelensky-glastonbury-truth-russia-131814105.html

Will we expect to see video screens installed in all the local shit house soon to keep drumming into us..cant imagine having a shit listening to him going on about a "self inflicted " war..

[Steveboy]

I think zelenskyy will be every where soon.. part of everyones lives..its going to be the new norm you will have to get used to..

[Contrarian]

I think zelenskyy will be every where soon.. part of everyones lives..its going to be the new norm you will have to get used to..

                                                   

[Markje]

It can just as easily be that a person does not want their friends stalked and harassed by strangers. |Sadly, there are some people out there that simply don't understand internet behavior. 

This!

My wife is from Crimea and I get messages from people telling me how they will soon free my mother-in-law from ze evil Russians and thats the benign ones I just ignore. Since I made my friendslist private, that has stopped. Some of em do contact the wife though, whom openly states she is from Crimea and usual insults include 'traitor' , so now she has everything turned off and only uses facebook to track me  She said facebook is not useful to her, ok.ru and yandex are her tools.

If you are on my facebook friends list, there's a good reason for that, Either you're my friend or communicate regularly enough that I want you there. If not , tough luck! I am not interested in everyone and their dog commenting on my personal stuf.

All of my family left facebook ages ago because of all the nutjobs there.

[dorbradavid]

Any chance of you growing up any time soon? 

[Steveboy]

Any chance of you growing up any time soon? 

Noooo thanks I'm happy the way I am.. 

[dorbradavid]

Noooo thanks I'm happy the way I am.. 

You being |happy the way you are" is like a little kids engaging in inappropriate behavior and not caring. Some "growing up" is in order. 

[AvHdB]

Noooo thanks I'm happy the way I am.. 

You being |happy the way you are" is like a little kids engaging in inappropriate behavior and not caring. Some "growing up" is in order. 

Steveboy brings both humour and levity to the this place. I do not always agree with his standpoints though once and while he has a good point. I would suggest listen and entertain all opinions.