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Direct VS Indirect Interpersonal Communication
« on: October 27, 2018, 04:42:38 AM »
At the moment I am over in Spain. Partly for vacation and partly for work and administration stuff.

Over the past few days I have been sorting out the home I plan to move into in a couple of years. The house had been let out to holidaymakers for many years. Last year I found that the agent had not been doing her job very well. She is now cancelled. The house is now rented to a couple for the next two years, they moved in a few days ago.

In dealing with this stuff I have had some difficulties with both the former agent and the new tenants. I had been trying to understand what was going on. I think that I now have a finger on it.

By the way, the German lawyer with whom I have been working on some of this stuff has commented on how easy it was to work with me. Given what I have come to understand, that's not a great surprise.

Andrew has been infected with Russian culture!

My personal style, these days, is to be pretty direct, straightforward and, on a personal level, honest.
I had thought that I was still the same Andrew from 20 years ago, living full-time in the UK. I am not. I have changed.

A thing that many people have noticed is that Russian people tend to be fairly direct. Say what they mean and take what they want. Well, that doesn't always mesh well with a less direct culture such as Spanish or British.

I am going to have to work a little harder on being less direct, less straightforward when I deal with Britons and Spaniards.

Has anyone else come across in their experience? Have any of us with long term association and contact found ourselves changing in the way we deal with other people?
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