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Re: Hello Everyone
« Reply #50 on: July 10, 2017, 12:38:48 PM »
Chasing a girl that you depicted above might be the fist step toward it.
Get counseling how to deal with stress and failure before you go to Ukraine.

I suggest he travel to meet depicted woman, his trip report will keep the pundits busy.

He can find counseling upon his return.
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Re: Hello Everyone
« Reply #51 on: July 10, 2017, 12:57:53 PM »

Both my kidneys where harvested on my first trip, but luckily they grew back.

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They didn't grow back, they gave them back, they couldn't find
a market for your gin floated kidneys. They were going to start
naming your stones if you didn't take them back.  :)

Can't abide gin, or any spirit to be honest. My downfall was beer, but I've knocked that on the head for about a year now, I have no faults at all now, apart from a penchant for sporty Italian saloon cars, test drove a Maserati QP on Saturday, but I don't even need a car here in Dublin City, and the tax on cars here is bad even compared to UK, just something to do!!

Public transport is too damned good, I can go by DART, Bus Átha Cliath or the Luas tram, Luas being Gealic for something, 'fast' or 'rapid' I think.

And at Volshe, I wouldn't call myself successful, certainly not money-wise! I have a tendency of earning it, piling it up, then pissing it away on sporty cars and expensive guitars...

Still, cannae complain.
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Re: Hello Everyone
« Reply #52 on: July 10, 2017, 01:00:50 PM »
Care to post a link to the young ladies profile or at least one photo of her?  :trainwreck:   :ROFL

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Re: Hello Everyone
« Reply #53 on: July 10, 2017, 01:05:44 PM »
Sure...


I would ask the mods to remove her photo and profile. Most of the gang
here at the forum are decent people, but there are always a couple of
small minded men sods who will use her information to cause you grief. 

I've had this done to me and it did cause me significant grief. I've actually
been in Odessa many, many moons ago and a forum member contacted the
girl that I was meeting and started a big ole fight between us and that's only
one example, I could name many others but I won't.

FSUW are not for entry level daters. FSUW don't do vague FSUW like a man of action so be a man of action  If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane. There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.
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Re: Hello Everyone
« Reply #54 on: July 10, 2017, 01:09:21 PM »
I would ask the mods to remove her photo and profile. Most of the gang
here at the forum are decent people, but there are always a couple of
small minded men sods who will use her information to cause you grief. 

I've had this done to me and it did cause me significant grief. I've actually
been in Odessa many, many moons ago and a forum member contacted the
girl that I was meeting and started a big ole fight between us and that's only
one example, I could name many others but I won't.

I had no thought of that, but have to agree there appear to be some jealous types on the forum. If the mods could please remove her photo as it violates her privacy and I should have been more thoughtful before posting it.

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Re: Hello Everyone
« Reply #55 on: July 10, 2017, 01:15:49 PM »
I would ask the mods to remove her photo and profile. Most of the gang
here at the forum are decent people, but there are always a couple of
small minded men sods who will use her information to cause you grief. 

I've had this done to me and it did cause me significant grief. I've actually
been in Odessa many, many moons ago and a forum member contacted the
girl that I was meeting and started a big ole fight between us and that's only
one example, I could name many others but I won't.

I had no thought of that, but have to agree there appear to be some jealous types on the forum. If the mods could please remove her photo as it violates her privacy and I should have been more thoughtful before posting it.

Privacy? She's all over t'interweb..

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Re: Hello Everyone
« Reply #56 on: July 10, 2017, 01:24:21 PM »
I would ask the mods to remove her photo and profile. Most of the gang
here at the forum are decent people, but there are always a couple of
small minded men sods who will use her information to cause you grief. 

I've had this done to me and it did cause me significant grief. I've actually
been in Odessa many, many moons ago and a forum member contacted the
girl that I was meeting and started a big ole fight between us and that's only
one example, I could name many others but I won't.

I had no thought of that, but have to agree there appear to be some jealous types on the forum. If the mods could please remove her photo as it violates her privacy and I should have been more thoughtful before posting it.

Privacy? She's all over t'interweb..

http://www.russianbrides.com/gifts-to-mail-order-russian-brides-Inessa-1758946.html

Jealousy? You should learn more about Russia/Ukrainian halves of members of this forum.....

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« Reply #57 on: July 10, 2017, 01:25:29 PM »

Privacy? She's all over t'interweb..


Yes, but imagine what some @ss_hat might do. With her name, birthdate
and city he can find her, contact her and make up some story.

It really has happened to me and not once but several times.

One guy decided to start a bunch of crap with Tom's now wife, but then
girlfriend. One guy started a bunch of crap with Day Dreamer's fiance.
Both those guys frequented the forum.

The a$$hats are out there, keeping the girl semi anonymous is in the OP's
best interest. 

FSUW are not for entry level daters. FSUW don't do vague FSUW like a man of action so be a man of action  If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane. There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
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Re: Hello Everyone
« Reply #58 on: July 10, 2017, 01:28:36 PM »

Jealousy? You should learn more about Russia/Ukrainian halves of members of this forum.....

Yes, if I wanted to die with a pen in my eye, all I would have to do is to
Open the Anastassia Date web page and have my wife walk in.  :chuckle:

FSUW are not for entry level daters. FSUW don't do vague FSUW like a man of action so be a man of action  If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane. There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.
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Re: Hello Everyone
« Reply #59 on: July 10, 2017, 01:32:21 PM »
RW, Crunchy

According to one poster, I dated 50% of the women of Ukraine. She was not one that I recall. But I only shook hands and waved good bye with only one teenager in my journey.


She wasn't 18 yet back when you were breaking all the hearts in the
Ukrainian countryside.

FSUW are not for entry level daters. FSUW don't do vague FSUW like a man of action so be a man of action  If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane. There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
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Re: Hello Everyone
« Reply #60 on: July 10, 2017, 01:34:39 PM »

Jealousy? You should learn more about Russia/Ukrainian halves of members of this forum.....

Yes, if I wanted to die with a pen in my eye, all I would have to do is to
Open the Anastassia Date web page and have my wife walk in.  :chuckle:

Good girl!!!  :laugh:

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Re: Hello Everyone
« Reply #61 on: July 10, 2017, 01:57:59 PM »
I believe healthy nutrient intake and hormone replacement dies have an impact on a persons lifespan. It keeps you lean and in better physical shape, reducing risk of disease and health problems. The goal is to not need a medical intervention in the first place, or do you disagree?
Hormone replacement is not the best investment for your six figures salary.
You are only 47. As a matter of fact, it can reduce your lifespan.
There is a strong connection between hormones and neurotransmitters.
Disbalance in both can bring you to a serious disorder.
Chasing a girl that you depicted above might be the fist step toward it.
Get counseling how to deal with stress and failure before you go to Ukraine.

With a name like Orchid you might be as young and pretty as Inessa, but let's be honest here....and no offense to any older members on the forum, but the reality is that 47 is an old warhorse.

Whether I choose to or not supplement low hormone levels is really only my business, but I appreciate your concern.

No need for counseling. I am a very stable individual. Yes, at my age I have failed in life quite a bit. I have also dealt with stress. Both are part of growing and learning as an individual, in relationships, and in business.

I have also had quite a bit of success in life. I am not where I am today for no reason.

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Re: Hello Everyone
« Reply #62 on: July 10, 2017, 02:22:01 PM »

No need for counseling.

I don't recall anyone here presenting themselves as counsellor and offering counselling. We exchange opinions. It's an open board. :biggrin:
That being said, some opinions, coming from specialists in medicine, are of more value than others and they are aimed at general audience. Being a part of that audience, i personally appreciate Orchid's valuable and informed posts.
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Re: Hello Everyone
« Reply #63 on: July 10, 2017, 02:25:37 PM »
RW, Crunchy

According to one poster, I dated 50% of the women of Ukraine. She was not one that I recall. But I only shook hands and waved good bye with only one teenager in my journey.


She wasn't 18 yet back when you were breaking all the hearts in the
Ukrainian countryside.

For the record, Avvy was not breaking hearts only in Ukrainian countryside, but in big cities too and in many European capitals as well  :-[


Jealousy? You should learn more about Russia/Ukrainian halves of members of this forum.....

Yes, if I wanted to die with a pen in my eye, all I would have to do is to
Open the Anastassia Date web page and have my wife walk in.  :chuckle:



;D ;D ;D

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Re: Hello Everyone
« Reply #64 on: July 10, 2017, 02:30:29 PM »
I have also had quite a bit of success in life.

I would say you are VERY successful and serious.
That's why you has drawn all forum's attention.
Extract what ever you want from the discussion.
Do not pay attention to fun.... or join our fun!!!

Yes, at my age I have failed in life quite a bit. I have also dealt with stress. Both are part of growing and learning as an individual, in relationships, and in business.

So have all of us.

Whether I choose to or not supplement low hormone levels is really only my business, but I appreciate your concern.

If it is only your business, do not mention it in public.

let's be honest here....and no offense to any older members on the forum, but the reality is that 47 is an old warhorse.

No, it is not. 47 is a start of new life. With healthy attitude this life is much better than youth.
We have just went through a tender and funny story when one our precious member thought he became blind when he needed only glasses for reading.
Your case is the same in nature but a little bit more expensive and time consuming.
This beautiful girl is nothing more than a test for you.
You want to know if you are still attractive, successful, and powerful.
Yes, you are.
Go for her! Just take it easy....

With a name like Orchid you might be as young and pretty

Thank you. I am pretty, but not young.



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Re: Hello Everyone
« Reply #65 on: July 10, 2017, 02:32:59 PM »
For the record, Avvy was not breaking hearts only in Ukrainian countryside, but in big cities too and in many European capitals as well  :-[

Hmm... That's become more and more interesting!!!
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Re: Hello Everyone
« Reply #66 on: July 10, 2017, 02:37:00 PM »
For the record, Avvy was not breaking hearts only in Ukrainian countryside, but in big cities too and in many European capitals as well  :-[

Hmm... That's become more and more interesting!!!
 :popcorn:


Yep!  ;D

Вечер перестаёт быть томным...

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Re: Hello Everyone
« Reply #67 on: July 10, 2017, 02:43:29 PM »
Вечер перестаёт быть томным...

Gosh..... I miss Russian so badly!!!  :ROFL:

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Re: Hello Everyone
« Reply #68 on: July 10, 2017, 03:15:29 PM »
I have removed the young ladies profile from this thread as the OP asked. 

Please do NOT post details of people you are involved with on a public thread.  We have hundreds of guests on here every day and someone WILL piss in your cornflakes...

Almost 20 years ago I was looking to marry a much younger woman.  I learned that women younger than 25 are not grown up enough for this endeavor.  This is particularly true if they have attended university.  Simply not enough life experience for the process of emigration.  Young girls are for fun - not marriage  :thumbsup:

When I was 45 I met the woman who is now my wife.  She is 20 years younger than me.  We have been married 14 years and have 2 children together.  Money is a prerequisite but if you use money as bait don't be surprised to catch "gold diggers"...

Have fun.  You current target is very unlikely to be the one but you will learn.  Really you either learn or lose in this game...

Most guys don't listen to advice.  95%+ guys fail.  Think about that.

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Re: Hello Everyone
« Reply #69 on: July 10, 2017, 03:25:16 PM »
I have removed the young ladies profile from this thread as the OP asked. 

Please do NOT post details of people you are involved with on a public thread.  We have hundreds of guests on here every day and someone WILL piss in your cornflakes...

Almost 20 years ago I was looking to marry a much younger woman.  I learned that women younger than 25 are not grown up enough for this endeavor.  This is particularly true if they have attended university.  Simply not enough life experience for the process of emigration.  Young girls are for fun - not marriage  :thumbsup:

When I was 45 I met the woman who is now my wife.  She is 20 years younger than me.  We have been married 14 years and have 2 children together.  Money is a prerequisite but if you use money as bait don't be surprised to catch "gold diggers"...

Have fun.  You current target is very unlikely to be the one but you will learn. Really you either learn or lose in this game...

Most guys don't listen to advice.  95%+ guys fail.  Think about that.

RW, read on or rave on.

There is so much common sense here on RUA. Please listen to the logic and thinking of Slavic women present.

I would on one point disagree 97.8% fail.
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Re: Hello Everyone
« Reply #70 on: July 10, 2017, 03:29:09 PM »
I have removed the young ladies profile from this thread as the OP asked. 

Young girls are for fun - not marriage  :thumbsup:

Thank you for removing the woman's photo Leslied. It has been mentioned by several members but I am not looking for marriage.

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Re: Hello Everyone
« Reply #71 on: July 10, 2017, 03:35:17 PM »
There was a thread  a couple years back with a link to an agency in Moscow, perhaps this is what you desire?

They mostly depicted models.
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« Reply #72 on: July 10, 2017, 03:40:40 PM »
Hi RW_Recruiter:

Welcome to the forum.  I'm going to assume your are serious
in your intentions and are not a troll.

I made my first visit to Russia in 1997 as part of an Anastasia tour.
I had the time of my life.  But times are different now.

You are getting some really good advice here from some experienced
people.  Anastasia net does not have the best business reputation and
it is quite likely that this lady is "earning" a cut from all the revenue her
photo is generating for the agency and that somebody other than her is
writing the letters to you.  But it is not impossible that she is a serious
lady with honest intentions.

There are some warning signs you should be made aware:

1)  Is the agency insisting on you paying for a translator and a driver?
If so this is a bad sign.  If you feel you need an interpreter it is best to
line up your own rather than allow the hosting agency to do that for you.
Same with drivers - however the subway system in the FSU is remarkably
good and "gypsy" taxi drivers are readily available and very inexpensive.

I might recommend you consider "going it alone" without an interpreter.
You can buy an Etaco portable translator that translates speech virtually
instantaneously and will cost you far less than the services of an interpreter.
It is also a way to gauge the seriously of the lady's intentions of starting a
relationship with you.

2)  Look up the discussion on the "5 Date Rule" on this forum.  Trust me,
just like in the USA, if you are not having sex with this lady within the first
5 dates, she certainly isn't romantically interested in you and likely is using
you for financial gain.  Don't continue to throw away good money after bad. 

3)  It all likelihood, a 25-26 year age difference is too wide.  After all, you
are old enough to be her daughter.  There are rare success stories under these
circumstances and everyone thinks THEY will be the exception.  In my opinion,
you can push the age difference out to 15 years if you find one with a child

4)  checking passports and claiming to be willing to sign a IMBRA release do
not guarantee the intentions of the lady.  Having her show her willingness to
separate from the agency and communicate with you without an agency tells
you more about her true intentions than anything else.

5)  if your "gut feelings" tells you thinks what is going on is not right - listen!
Trust your gut feelings.  They're almost always right!

I have a feeling that this trip is going to be a very informative and expensive
learning experience for you.  But it's one that all of us who are or have been
married to a lady from the FSU have experienced ourselves.  Enjoy the ride and
please provide a trip report of your experiences.  As a forum mod, I'll insure that
the insults are kept to a minimum and that criticism is made in a positive and
not ridiculing spirit.

If you have any specific questions to ask me, I'll be more than happy to provide
you an honest opinion and answer to your questions based on my 20 years of
experience in this endeavor. 

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« Reply #73 on: July 10, 2017, 03:46:11 PM »
Excellent and very helpful advice shakespeare. Much appreciated and will take heed.

After all, you are old enough to be her daughter.   

Last time I checked I was still intact  :)


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« Reply #74 on: July 10, 2017, 03:50:58 PM »
Yes, I met her on a dating site called Anastasiadate.

We have chatted quite a bit and get along very well. Not sure why it would not work out, but plenty of women on the planet if not.

You likely need some deprogramming.

Let me tell you something about Adate.  They have a bunch of feeder agencies and while (as I understand) they try to police them it is an impossible task.  I know a girl who was formerly on Adate and while I was visiting her she suggested I look at some of her pics on her profile (she was an attractive girl and liked to be admired).  So she went off to take a shower and I logged on to a dummy account that I used to keep at Aweb to have a look. 

And I discovered she was online.  Or rather "she" was online because the woman in the profile was taking a shower in my flat.  So when she got out of the shower, I showed her.  We joked about chatting with "her" and sending a pic of her and I together, but that would have required a more detailed registration that I was interested in making.

So some pointers:

A.  Don't use PPC or PPL sites.  The incentive to "cheat" is too large, so you are going to run into a lot of fakes, either real girls whose profiles are being operated by others, or by model girls who have no idea they are even on a foreign-facing dating.

B.  If you ignore A, then establish direct communication and get her off of the PPC/PPL site as soon as possible.  If she is resistant or disappears shortly after, then, well, I guess you know. 

C.  Women select for height without mercy.  If things are going to work with you and that girl (assuming she's legit), you need to be 6'5"+.  If you are, then she will likely be forgiving of things such at your age.

D.  Age gaps relationships are possible, but not probable.  You have to be exceptional in one or more ways - and not just in thickness of wallet - to make it work.  But don't assume that you are a magical "exception".

D.  Don't get spun up over her.  If you go, fine, but have a back-up plan because you may find yourself either on your own in ODS or going on one date and then she's gone. 

Good luck,

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