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About Sexually Transmitted Diseases
andrewfi:
Ladies, as I am sure you all know STDs (sexually transmitted diseases) are common everywhere. Most can be cured but some such as HIV, genital warts, cold sores etc can not be cured but are often invisible.
Given that even condoms are not a perfect preventative for the virus that causes genital warts or cold sores, at what point in a relationship would you have a discussion about whether either you or your man was a carrier? At what point would you get tested for these afflictions?
If your man told you that he was a carrier of a viral STD that was incurable such as genital warts, HIV or cold sores what would your reaction be? Would you break up with him? Would you take a chance that you'd not be infected?
What you expect of your man if you told him that you were a carrier of such an infection? Should he understand that these things are commonplace and accept you as you are?
In Estonia we tend to get checks for these things pretty often although most women, particularly of reproductive age, seem more concerned about chlamydia than HS-1 or HS-2. How does it go in Russia or Ukraine?
andrewfi:
So ladies, about STDs...
Orchid:
--- Quote from: andrewfi on April 01, 2014, 02:04:26 PM ---Ladies, as I am sure you all know STDs (sexually transmitted diseases) are common everywhere. Most can be cured but some such as HIV, genital warts, cold sores etc can not be cured but are often invisible.
Given that even condoms are not a perfect preventative for the virus that causes genital warts or cold sores, at what point in a relationship would you have a discussion about whether either you or your man was a carrier? At what point would you get tested for these afflictions?
If your man told you that he was a carrier of a viral STD that was incurable such as genital warts, HIV or cold sores what would your reaction be? Would you break up with him? Would you take a chance that you'd not be infected?
What you expect of your man if you told him that you were a carrier of such an infection? Should he understand that these things are commonplace and accept you as you are?
In Estonia we tend to get checks for these things pretty often although most women, particularly of reproductive age, seem more concerned about chlamydia than HS-1 or HS-2. How does it go in Russia or Ukraine?
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You have asked several very important questions.
I will try to answer only couple of them.
“How does it go in Russia?”
In Russia, there is a law when any person who contacts with food (for example sell at grocery store or cook at restaurant) must be checked for STD twice a year. It applies as well for everyone working in medicine, sport, with children… They have a book with records (санитарная книжка) and government can request it at any time. I think it helps control STD in a country.
There is nothing like this in the USA. Person with syphilis can serve at bar, and surgeon with Hep C can do surgery. Nobody cares.
“If your man told you that he was a carrier of a viral STD that was incurable such as genital warts, HIV or cold sores what would your reaction be? Would you break up with him? Would you take a chance that you'd not be infected?”
First of all, there is no any chance not to be infected because there is no effective protection in the world at this time, except own immune system.
If man that I love would have incurable viral STD it would not prevent me to be with him.
I would realize that there would be always three of us: me, him and incurable STD.
But it could be incurable cancer, cardiac problem, or mental disorder as well.
andrewfi:
Thanks, I didn't know about the 'sanitary book' thing. It seems like a good idea.
As for your second point, I understand and agree entirely with your perspective. After all, over half of us carry HS1 or HS2, often without knowing it. That said, I think there is a difference between, for example cancer and STD's. At least at the start of a relationship. I might choose to not get involved with a person I knew to be dying of cancer, or who I knew to be mentally ill. Chances are that I'd not do so in respect of an STD, especially given the prevalence of them. However, if I were in a relationship then I can't imagine rejecting a person because they become ill.
Do you and your friends/peers get STD checks when you start relationships?
sashathecat:
--- Quote from: andrewfi on April 02, 2014, 01:56:09 AM ---Do you and your friends/peers get STD checks when you start relationships?
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Last time I checked I was not a lady but my wife asked me to have thorough bloodwork done when we became serious. She said it is something that is commonly done in Ukraine when you begin a relationship with a new partner. It is a smart and responsible thing to do.
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