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Offline alex005

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Re: My Visit
« Reply #25 on: June 26, 2010, 10:15:59 AM »
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Here is the question. If you meet them, are walking down the street and bump into A when in Kiev with another date, and she then says she wants to have nothing more to do with you ever, what would you feel? 


Yes I think of that.
It certainly is not easy to be a man in the FSU world :)

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Re: My Visit
« Reply #26 on: June 26, 2010, 10:16:38 AM »
Yes it will be hard for me not to meet other ladies, considering the interest these ladies are showing in me.

There will always be women showing interest in you in Ukraine or Russia. The challenge is knowing when you have found one woman who is worth ignoring the interest of all others.

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« Reply #27 on: June 26, 2010, 10:29:31 AM »


As such I have the time and resources to explore this world before making up my mind. I own my own business which is doing well and I can have several weeks holiday in a year.
Now if I do make the effort to meet a few ladies will it make me a sex tourist? :)

"Before making up your mind?" Perhaps not. It is always good to remember that the lady has some say in the matter as well. If it turns out the one you decide upon has herself decided she does not wish to be in such a competition, you would be back to square one.

From your previous description of your visit, it seems you are already pretty well matched with that young lady. If so, you might consider just thanking your lucky stars that it was so easy and see where the relationship takes you. Should it not work out for some reason, don't worry--there are plenty more out there.

The other two would be far more likely to wait to meet you now than to wait and be among the competition later; if they go another direction in the mean time, there are many others in a reasonable age range for you.

On the other hand, if there are aspects to the first young lady that were not apparent from your post, you might have some sort of reservations about her. That would of course be quite different altogether.

I think you place far too much emphasis on the "interest being shown" to you. That carries no obligations with it, but it can easily become a very slippery slope down which you can slide away from a real life relationship with a potential long term mate.

Trust me on this one--if you have found a lady who is not materialistic in Kyiv, that is an accomplishment not to be taken lightly.

As for being a "sex tourist"--doesn't that depend upon how serious you are about actually finding a mate, and to what extent you are "auditioning" them between the sheets?

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« Reply #28 on: June 26, 2010, 11:01:59 AM »
I hear you and I will certainly think about it.

Thanks

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Re: My Visit
« Reply #29 on: June 26, 2010, 11:28:16 AM »
alex005,

If she does not ask you for money/gift nor imply such idea, you can start friendship with her!    :smokin:
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« Reply #30 on: June 26, 2010, 12:36:30 PM »
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alex005,

If she does not ask you for money/gift nor imply such idea, you can start friendship with her!   

Friendship with whom Loyal?

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« Reply #31 on: June 26, 2010, 12:42:14 PM »
OK I have thought long and hard about this. I needed to get it sorted before tomorrow as I needed to have 100% concentration for the football :)

So I have decided to concentrate on A for now. I phoned her and told her that I will certainly be in Kiev on 14Th off August and will be with her till the 30Th. She was over the moon to hear this :)

Now I am not sure what I am going to tell the other ladies, god why is it so hard to be a man? :)

Thank you to everyone who offered advise.

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« Reply #32 on: June 26, 2010, 01:02:16 PM »
OK I have thought long and hard about this. I needed to get it sorted before tomorrow as I needed to have 100% concentration for the football :)

So I have decided to concentrate on A for now. I phoned her and told her that I will certainly be in Kiev on 14Th off August and will be with her till the 30Th. She was over the moon to hear this :)

Now I am not sure what I am going to tell the other ladies, god why is it so hard to be a man? :)

Thank you to everyone who offered advise.

It should come a no surprise that I think you are being wise. Giving the time and attention to see what may develop between you is likely to maximize your chance to really see if it has a future.

What you tell the others depends upon what you have said to them already.

Many men take the easy way out and simply stop communications--although I think that is rather cruel. You might consider telling them the truth--you met someone before you could explore a relationship further with the lady in question, and you believe it is necessary to see whether the one you met first might be the lady you search for before you feel free to meet anyone else.

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« Reply #33 on: June 26, 2010, 01:19:52 PM »
I agree with David. Simply tell the truth.
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Re: My Visit
« Reply #34 on: June 26, 2010, 02:35:23 PM »
I agree with David. Simply tell the truth.

Agreed, just tell them that you are communicating exclusively for now with someone and you don't consider it fair to string them along and wish them good luck in their search, you don't have to write War and Peace, just be honest and a couple of paragraphs will suffice, however, I also agree it does depend a lot on what you have already told them about your intentiions.

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« Reply #35 on: August 05, 2010, 11:26:26 AM »
So I have decided to concentrate on A for now. I phoned her and told her that I will certainly be in Kiev on 14Th off August and will be with her till the 30Th. She was over the moon to hear this :)

You and "A" still on for next week alex?, and did your concentration remain or have you now got one or two other buns in the oven? tiphat
« on: January 14, 2010, 02:18:43 AM »
Would she be offended to get a text without telling her ahead of time?

Offline alex005

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« Reply #36 on: August 06, 2010, 06:32:36 AM »
Daz

Hi

Yes I will be traveling on the 16th. This time from Gatwick on Ukrainian Airines.
I will be there three weeks and it is still an exclusive trip. I thought about the VM thing but it seemed too much trouble for me.
Let us see how it goes this time.
BW