Do men avoid contacting women whose profile picture is in a bikini?

[Voyager]

The question was originally posted in another thread.

My question is how men view these things, and what different things may they mean to  different men, because IMHO, being beautiful and having bikini photos in the profile belongs to online dating.

So point is a woman has choices on how she markets herself and will attract the type of men who respond to that marketing - a woman in a tasteful bikini beach shot is fine - a woman in provacative bikini poses is another... best if you want to attract a good man - market yourslef as a good woman -

The poll is for men only please, but ladies can post in the thread of course.

And by "bikini pics" I would say that applies if the primary pic or all the pics of a ladies profile are in a bikini, or if they are provocative.

It wouldn't apply if the woman has several pics on her profile, and one of the secondary pics is a tasteful bikini shot.

[Donhollio]

Do men avoid contacting women whose profile picture is in a bikini?
 
.... no

[cufflinks]

It is a matter of context really if there are a group of tasteful photos of her in her work and natural life poses portraying favortie pastimes including enjoying the beach in summer and tasteful why not.  It will be obvious to a good man looking for good Wife Material if she is in-fact a decent woman.

However if these are provocative stripper like poses with clear "camel toe" and and see through nipple titillation shots in various Pole Dancing type poses - what does a woman expect to attract.  Fact is a man in business needs a woman who will help him succeed which means she needs to be a good hostess with a pleasant personality because big customers and clients often invite you to their homes and when that happens they want the benefit of their wives opinions of both you and your wife before they decide to trust you with important business.

A smart educated woman of style and substance will naturally get it and comport herself in a modest manner and dress appropriately for the occasion - tasteful bikini and summer cover up sun dress at the beach - fine - slutty hooker stripper chic outfits and pole dancers poses not advisable.

In a world where we are increasingly competing with the likes of China, Vietnam, India and Japan it becomes more important than ever that your wife be a savvy woman who knows how to help you succeed in life.

Above all a woman who seeks a "Good man" needs to avoid broadcasting an image of anything that exudes a stripper, hooker, sexpot mindset as a good man will red flag her as a money pit and future train wreck and hit the next button every time.

Of course any one is free to argue with me and claim exceptions to the rule but we live in challenging times and good desirable men tend to be much more conservative and cautious when it comes to women who will make or break them in business and in life.

[alenika]

I do avoid men in bikini in profile photos, may I vote too? 

[cufflinks]

Curious - what did you have in mind by the "other" vote - full frontal nudity or what? 8)

[Rasputin]

And by "bikini pics" I would say that applies if the primary pic or all the pics of a ladies profile are in a bikini, or if they are provocative.

It wouldn't apply if the woman has several pics on her profile, and one of the secondary pics is a tasteful bikini shot.

Pretty much. I would not have disqualified a woman with one or two photos taken on a beach among other photos, but would have been careful with any woman who was putting too much effort into being provocative.

[rhayes026]

Mayhaps you need a poll for the women to vote about men in skimpy clothing.

The bikini photos do not bother me, but I find it is mostly the younger women doing bikini photos, therefore out of my ballpark. IMHO I think they might feel all they have to offer is themselves, since they do not have a  job history yet. But I've actually been wrong before and it would not surprise me if I was wrong again. I tend to post without thinking it out!  -Robert

[Paul]

Would not if there was a bikini pic anywhere in her profile, modesty and taste are important to me.

[2tallbill]

It never mattered to me either way.

[Voyager]

Do men avoid contacting women whose profile picture is in a bikini?
 
.... no

Oops! I should have specified contact women with intent of marriage... 

If the intent is only "dating" bikini pics are probably  a +   

Curious - what did you have in mind by the "other" vote - full frontal nudity or what? 8)

I often put this in my polls, as a catch-all

For example, could be:

"I would only write her as a plan B"

or "Only if the rest of the profile was very interesting"

And there are a fair number of profiles that are topless/see-thru

[2tallbill]

You can look at a scantily clad woman in several different ways

1. she is a tramp
2. she is confident in her own skin
3.  she is brainless  and can only catch a man by distracting him
with her figure.
4. she likes how he looks
5. she is a naturalist
6. she dances on tables for dollars naked
7. she was influenced by seeing many other photos of bikini clad
girls in the agency.
8. she is competitive an wants to attract the best man and
will use every effort to be successful.
9. I could go on an on

[Manny]

This is a double edged sword (not to mention an excellent topic) in my opinion.

What constitutes "provocative" will differ from guy to guy. A lot of you American guys are a bit straight laced when it comes to sexual stuff (not Shaky of course), and Europeans tend to be a bit more relaxed.

A lot may depend on how shallow the guy is. A guy seeking a connection on levels other than slimness and age gaps, may (perhaps wrongly) shun a woman showing bikini pictures. A guy who is a wannabe sex tourist may relish such pictures and misinterpret their intent.

I saw - quite by chance - a whole professional nude set that are languishing on a girls gallery on a Russian Odniklassniki type site. She is married with a kid and I have met her pottering around her dacha with her parents in Russia. Nice enough girl, not the type of girl you might associate with such pictures. Why are they in the public domain? Because she is proud of them because she looks good on them. She will be an old wrinkled woman one day she told my wife laughing.

It boils down to motivation. If a woman puts bikini pictures up as a pro dater or green card girl, that is to be expected. If she puts them up because she is proud of her figure and sees nothing wrong with it (after all, anyone on the beach that day saw her didn't they?) then what harm does it do?

The hard part is discerning the purpose of that motivation. That can only be done by a combination of other factors: other photos posted, profile content, conversation, writing, online due diligence etc.

It must be remembered that the FSU is a much more sexually relaxed society than the US and some parts of Europe. Men are hoping to embrace and enjoy that positive feature of the women. Why attempt to pre-judge women on the values of your society? Just because Mary Jane from Idaho would not dream of placing a bikini shot on her profile lest anyone "objectifies" her or applies some other non-feminist non-PC thoughts toward her, does not mean Sveta from Samara shares the same thoughts. Sveta may well enjoy a bunch of guys thinking, "Wow, she's hot" because she is the product of a society that encourages and celebrates femininity.

What of professional/modelling shots? They can be much more "provocative" than a few random bikini shots. I think the shots themselves, placed in context needs to be considered. Natural caution would make me tread carefully with such a woman, but it would not prohibit me contacting her.

[Paul]

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Ask a Russian Eastern European woman what she thinks about a man without a shirt on in his profile.

[Ada]

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Ask a Russian Eastern European woman what she thinks about a man without a shirt on in his profile.

You already know my opinion, but others might benefit from a woman's point of view on that: I can't have any respect for those men and I think, by showing such a picture in their profiles, they either have no idea about what women think, or, they think (in their curly minds ) they might attract a certain type of women.  

Edit to add: Either way, they overestimate themselves.  

[Excedryn]

Generally, I tend to skip right on by profiles in which the majority of the photos are in bikinis unless something in her profile catches my intention. While I see absolutely nothing wrong if women prefer to market themselves in this fashion something else must be present in her profile that will add substance to her, as a person, other than her curves and photogenic smile. If I was searching with just my eyes I am certain I would write to many bikini clad ladies. I simply am not though and first impressions, which in this market is the whole profile and not just parts, does count and my curiosity needs to be engaged to prompt a response. If you have seen one woman naked - you have seen them all naked and bikinis leave little for the imagination.