After the first email kiss

[rhayes026]

Wonderful FSU ladies: The woman I have been writing for 3 weeks just sent me a kiss (I liked it very much). What should my response be? Right now I sent her a big hug. Be aware the last couple of guys she wrote turned into "stalkers" and she is very cautious. It seems as if I am finally gaining her trust, eh?   I do not want to scare her off or make her think I was like the last 2,  so ladies, how do you suggest I handle this because I like this woman very much and will go see her when she tells me it is time. Thanks, Robert

[mirror]

rhayes026,

she showed you her impatient to kiss you and your answer was " I am not ready to kiss you".

[rhayes026]

That's what I did not know Mirror, was should I kiss her back. I have had to go slow with this woman from the get go (I still do not have her address or phone #) because of her over cautiousness. I will send a kiss tonight with a short note if everyone thinks I should. Any and all advice is appreciated. - Robert

Okay since mirror is apparently the only one on I sent her a short note (not in Russian) telling her I wanted the warmth of my heart to surrond her and keep her safe and warm from the cares of the world. And I ended it with a kiss. Thank you mirror for your advice!   

[mirror]

Okay since mirror is apparently the only one on I sent her a short note (not in Russian) telling her I wanted the warmth of my heart to surrond her and keep her safe and warm from the cares of the world. And I ended it with a kiss. Thank you mirror for your advice!   

Your post was addressed to ladies it is why our men didn't answer you.

You are a GOOD BOY if you sent her a kiss.

[rhayes026]

I mainly wanted a woman's perspective on this.    I felt I would be better served,  although the guys can chime in if they want.  8)  You should understand it has been 16 years since I have had anything to do with a woman. Single dad route took it out of me.

[mirror]

rhayes026


I am curious why didn't you want to send a kiss after getting hers? Do you think it is very early?

My advice:don't take everything too seriously what women write in their letters,but pay attention. 

[mirror]

You should understand it has been 16 years since I have had anything to do with a woman. Single dad route took it out of me.

Yes, it is very obvious that you are not spoiled by female attention like the most of men on this forum.

[rhayes026]

I was afraid of scaring her off, I really like her so far. I would love to sign all my letters to her "sealed with a kiss", it makes me feel as if I am becoming "her man". I scared off another woman I liked because I sent her a kiss (as far as I can tell) after 2 weeks of writing. We've been writing 3 weeks and I was not sure if it was too early or not. Just out of practise after 16 years.

[mirror]

I was afraid of scaring her off, I really like her so far. I would love to sign all my letters to her "sealed with a kiss", it makes me feel as if I am becoming "her man". I scared off another woman I liked because I sent her a kiss (as far as I can tell) after 2 weeks of writing. We've been writing 3 weeks and I was not sure if it was too early or not. Just out of practise after 16 years.

Do you think that your kiss can scare her off? Nooo...

I can advice you to be more open,strong and to tell her everything in your letters what you afraid to say..it is easy way to learn about each other. It is wrong way to afraid to loose anybody because you will be easy manipulated  by her.

[rhayes026]

Okay. I feel as if I am walking on egg shells with her. But I will tell her how I feel. If she is not ready, well, I guess it was not meant to be. We will see what will happen, maybe good, maybe bad. After 12 emails from me she ought to understand I'm not like that (stalking). If she says no then I will  just move on. - Robert

[Paul]

Mirror is right, Robert.

Do you think that your kiss can scare her off? Nooo...

It probably wont scare her off, and if it did, so what? Do you really want to be with a woman who does not let you be yourself?

I can advice you to be more open,strong and to tell her everything in your letters what you afraid to say..it is easy way to learn about each other. It is wrong way to afraid to loose anybody because you will be easy manipulated  by her.

Mirror is right again. Sooner or later any woman is going to discover the real you. And, if you are always on your toes worried that any little thing might give her reason to end things, she will lose respect for you and end things quickly (or torture you through manipulation and other B/S).

Stop worrying so much, it will only work against you

[rhayes026]

Mirror is right, Robert.

Do you think that your kiss can scare her off? Nooo...

It probably wont scare her off, and if it did, so what? Do you really want to be with a woman who does not let you be yourself?

I can advice you to be more open,strong and to tell her everything in your letters what you afraid to say..it is easy way to learn about each other. It is wrong way to afraid to loose anybody because you will be easy manipulated  by her.

Mirror is right again. Sooner or later any woman is going to discover the real you. And, if you are always on your toes worried that any little thing might give her reason to end things, she will lose respect for you and end things quickly (or torture you through manipulation and other B/S).

Stop worrying so much, it will only work against you

Ya'll are right, I'm just going to be me and if she still likes me then everything will be okay. I don't want a woman I have to tiptoe around!

[mirror]

Okay. I feel as if I am walking on egg shells with her. But I will tell her how I feel. If she is not ready, well, I guess it was not meant to be. We will see what will happen, maybe good, maybe bad. After 12 emails from me she ought to understand I'm not like that (stalking). If she says no then I will  just move on. - Robert

If she will say NO then you need to move on,yes.

To find a soul mate is not such easy and even maybe impossible for someone. But we can not loose our respect to ourselves during this search. You must know that she will be with you not because you want it...but just because she will want it. If she doesn't want (because of some reason) you can not hold her next of you. Don't lie,don't hide anything,be yourself and feel freely-it is only one way to find a right person.  

[Wild Orchid]

I mainly wanted a woman's perspective on this.    I felt I would be better served,  although the guys can chime in if they want.  8)  You should understand it has been 16 years since I have had anything to do with a woman. Single dad route took it out of me.

I think you read too much into Kiss stuff.

On many dating sites "kiss" is a form of free communication. You send free kiss with some meaning "I like your profile" "I like your sense of humor" etc.. That way you can show a person that you are interested in further communication. Emails are different, but it is still email kiss and no real one, so there is no reason to stress out. If you'd reply to her with a kiss it would be long way to get into stalker ranks 

[rhayes026]

As Paul said, I worry excessively because of my health issues. She understands and accepts those, so everything should be fine. But like I did not say, it is getting on my nerves tiptoeing about and I'd much rather be me - just as gung ho as I was in my youth!  Maybe that is why the previous 4 did not work out. I was not myself, just some overly sensitive guy. I will continue to tell them upfront of my medical issues, and let the chips fall where they may. There will be someone out there for me!