How shy are you? (You have two votes)

[leeholsen]

I picked somewhat shy in some social situations and give speeches to hundreds of people.

quite opposites but i have never had a problem speaking in front of a lot of people(20-50), but often will be the quiet one in any group of people i've known for a while. if it's new people, i talk pretty good; but i'm just naturally not a big talker. good thing i chose computer programming and not sales. 

[andrewfi]

As somebody else noticed, shyness is situational.

I have no problem dealing with large numbers of people for presentations, meetings and social events.
I am much more shy when dealing personally.

I think that'd be quite common for many people, particularly those who have had to get used to presentations, business social events and the like.

Result: nobody believes me when I say I am shy. I am sure that is true for many other guys like me.

[shakespear]

Result: nobody believes me when I say I am shy. I am sure that is true for many other guys like me.

Andrewfi, having the pleasure of actually meeting you and spending some extended time with you, shy is not one of the first 20 words that come to mind in describing you   

[andrewfi]

Result: nobody believes me when I say I am shy. I am sure that is true for many other guys like me.

Andrewfi, having the pleasure of actually meeting you and spending some extended time with you, shy is not one of the first 20 words that come to mind in describing you   

See, that's EXACTLY what I mean.
But with respect, you and I were not ever going to be intimate were we?

[shakespear]

But with respect, you and I were not ever going to be intimate were we?

Did I miss you sending any signals?   

[andrewfi]

Don't worry there were no signals to miss.

[Slumba]

Result: nobody believes me when I say I am shy. I am sure that is true for many other guys like me.

Andrewfi, having the pleasure of actually meeting you and spending some extended time with you, shy is not one of the first 20 words that come to mind in describing you   

See, that's EXACTLY what I mean.
But with respect, you and I were not ever going to be intimate were we?

THIS is why we have a PM function on the site, I think ... 

[shawnu1965]

Sigh. If I'm being honest, I am very shy. It's why I probably would not do well if I tried to go back to Ukraine. I have no problem talking to women (if I speak the language), but the intimacy issue is where I am sorely lacking.

[andrewfi]

Here's a thought, something that has worked for me in dealing with the shyness that comes from one on one situations where the outcome/person is important.

I used to have a real problem asking women out. In truth it was the fear of rejection.
When I thought about it, I came to understand that of all the women I had ever asked out for a date I had hardly ever been turned down. Rejection was not the issue but rather fear of rejection, but the fear was unfounded.

Same with sex. I used to be very backward about coming forward - now, not so much. I came to understand that men and women have the same needs and desires and that if a women wants to be with me then she knows as well as I do that sex is part of that picture.
Again, in my life rejection is hardly an issue. So what is to be shy of?

So, whilst I still think of myself as shy and I know that I hang back more than some people might do I understand that I can deal with it by knowing that the numbers are on my side.

Dunno if that can work for other people - maybe it is so obvious that everyone does it.

[1msmoby]

not at all shy ( when it came to flirting  ) but thought Beel should have added pefer to stay away from 'glossy sites' and find a serious wife..

[Rasputin]

Sigh. If I'm being honest, I am very shy. It's why I probably would not do well if I tried to go back to Ukraine. I have no problem talking to women (if I speak the language), but the intimacy issue is where I am sorely lacking.

I don't know about Ukraine as I never went there, but generally based on my experience with women I met in Russia will be the first to let you know if there should be more intimacy if they like you and are attracted to you 

[Muzh_1]

Bill, I will also add this to the other thread.

You should consider changing this: I give speeches in front of hundreds on a regular basis about my personal life to this I have given speeches in front of hundreds on on more than one occasion.

This would be a better indicator if you really want to judge shyness. I would have voted for the change since I've been doing this for around 30 years.