How Much Can You Expect To Spend Pursuing This Endeavor

[TomT]

The number of false starts and unwise marriages can really drive one's costs into the stratosphere. For the sake of simplicity, let's make the unreasonable assumption that the man uses good judgment, does everything correctly and is incredibly lucky. (This is very rare...)

Four visits of two weeks each will run an American in the neighborhood of 3K per trip. To do it for this price, you can count on modest accommodations, frugal meals, minimal shopping and little entertainment. (Otherwise, the sky is the limit.) Bringing each beneficiary to the point of entry will consume at least 2K per head.

I hasten to add that these low ball numbers rarely reflect reality.

[NS1]

The number of false starts and unwise marriages can really drive one's costs into the stratosphere. For the sake of simplicity, let's make the unreasonable assumption that the man uses good judgment, does everything correctly and is incredibly lucky. (This is very rare...)

Four visits of two weeks each will run an American in the neighborhood of 3K per trip. To do it for this price, you can count on modest accommodations, frugal meals, minimal shopping and little entertainment. (Otherwise, the sky is the limit.) Bringing each beneficiary to the point of entry will consume at least 2K per head.

I hasten to add that these low ball numbers rarely reflect reality.

Tom I agree with all of that.
, including it being low ball number. I am three trips and single, already well over that.
But I treat each trip as Holiday also, so I plan on doing and seeing regardless of them women.
The fact I meet some good people and enjoy, also having a nice lady to show me around is always enjoyable.
BUT NOT CHEAP

[welder]

By the time we were married I was probably into this for 12K.  I was fortunate in that my wife was willing to relocate after our initial couple of meetings.  I went to Kiev for 10days.  She came to Ghana(ria) for 21 days.  Three weeks later she came back and we spent several months together.  14 months after we started corresponding we got married in Thailand.  I included this cost in the above.

That being said you could tack another $1200 onto that for lawyers.  I had a law firm handle the immigrant visa as I was out of country at the time.  To finalize the permanent resident card we traveled back to Canada with the family in tow.  Add another $4000.

All said and done around 18K.

[AvHdB]

Participating in a forum like this will greatly enhance your chances for success.  When you need to learn by making your own mistakes you waste a lot of time and money.   I won't say that you still won't make mistakes but you can learn a lot reading and posting here.

The problem is some people can read but can not learn.

[kievstar]

How much your going to spend also depends on how young and attractive a woman is.  A 55 year old man trying to marry a 22 year old hottie may have to spend more than a 55 year old man chasing a 35 year old woman. 

No set formula on how much you spend.  The better looking and younger the woman is generally the more money you should have.  When you marry the women over 26 years old the money tends to be less.

[Muzh_1]

How much your going to spend also depends on how young and attractive a woman is.  A 55 year old man trying to marry a 22 year old hottie may have to spend more than a 55 year old man chasing a 35 year old woman. 

A 55 year old goat chasing a 22 year old hottie WILL pay through his nose until he dies. 

[HoundDaddyLee]

How much your going to spend also depends on how young and attractive a woman is.  A 55 year old man trying to marry a 22 year old hottie may have to spend more than a 55 year old man chasing a 35 year old woman. 

A 55 year old goat chasing a 22 year old hottie WILL pay through his nose until he dies. 

I should create a mathematical model and run some simulations on the cost per year of age difference.

Lee

[JimSavage]

Thank you shakespear for creating a separate thread for this

Thank you to everyone for your input on this subject. I had already read on Edwards website to expect it to cost between 25 and 50k but I think the confirmation and feedback by everyone here is very valuable.

Yes the mention of the time involved is very important thank you andrewfi.

I only get 4 weeks of vacation per year. This is the most I've had in all my years of employment. If I found someone I was serious about I would be willing to
take time off without pay if my employer allows it. But of course this would add to the bottom line of what it would cost to find a wife in the FSU.

@ Millaa, good idea, I will have to see about how long it will take to cross, the effect of wind and currents etc.. More seriously I will have to learn how to navigate that far without land in sight. I wouldn't want to end up at the North Pole, or China, or something.   Do you like kayaks by the way? I could bring one with two seats.

Take Care,
Jim

[NS1]

 

@ Millaa, good idea, I will have to see about how long it will take to cross, the effect of wind and currents etc.. More seriously I will have to learn how to navigate that far without land in sight. I wouldn't want to end up at the North Pole, or China, or something.   Do you like kayaks by the way? I could bring one with two seats.

Take Care,
Jim
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[AvHdB]

The actual crossing will not take that long a decent kayak and favourable conditions a calm sea and you are across. Down to Millaa is very long paddle though.

To start of course it would help if you are on the other side of North America.

[shakespear]

Thank you to everyone for your input on this subject. I had already read on Edwards website to expect it to cost between 25 and 50k but I think the confirmation and feedback by everyone here is very valuable.

I'm assuming you do understand that Edward provides a very personalized and custom service that is on the extreme high end of the cost graph. 

I only get 4 weeks of vacation per year. This is the most I've had in all my years of employment. If I found someone I was serious about I would be willing to take time off without pay if my employer allows it. But of course this would add to the bottom line of what it would cost to find a wife in the FSU.

Three 10 day trips for the first year is excellent.  Consider the first one a total learning experience. 

Millaa, good idea, I will have to see about how long it will take to cross, the effect of wind and currents etc.. More seriously I will have to learn how to navigate that far without land in sight. I wouldn't want to end up at the North Pole, or China, or something.   Do you like kayaks by the way? I could bring one with two seats. 

One or two guys met their better-half on this very forum.  Millaa is a sweetheart who is very clever.  You could do worse. 

[leslied]

Well IMHO you can be $ poor or time poor but not both.

If you are $ poor but can take extended periods off (like when you are unemployed) this can work.  A 6 week beer budget trip can be had for around $5k.  A couple of those trips could see you on your way.

If you are time poor (say 30 days a year) then 6 10 day trips at $4k a piece should also see you on your way - 24k total

Once you have found your lady plan at LEAST 3 trips to build the relationship  cost $10K to maybe $30k if Thailand is involved.

Immigration - do it yourself for less than $5k.

First year.  Marriage well $5k - 20k and up if in the west.  Acclimatization Driving lessons then a car - $20K  Changing your house completely $30K and up.  Complete new wardrobe $10K and up.  Education and training could be $20K could be much more.  Plan on at least $70K

Second Year.  More support needed but less than first year.  Possible divorce when GC arrives - 25% of your net worth.

Third Year.  A baby?!  Plan on $250K to graduating university.  Divorce now 50% of your net worth.

Fourth Year Another Baby? That make half a million total and the only thing you are likely to end up with after divorce is debts and two suitcases...

I think I make my point.  Financial costs/risks escalate alarmingly as you proceed with this quest.  Essentially it will cost you every cent you have and then some. 

Is it worth it???  YES if you chose the right woman!

[NS1]

Shit, I have already spent that much on the past women and they were not the right ones
For the right one it seems like a bargain
Besides, I am not having anymore kids so look at how much I saved already 

[Millaa]

@ Millaa, good idea, I will have to see about how long it will take to cross, the effect of wind and currents etc.. More seriously I will have to learn how to navigate that far without land in sight. I wouldn't want to end up at the North Pole, or China, or something.   Do you like kayaks by the way? I could bring one with two seats.

Take NS1 with you as a navigator and guide on the borscht smell 

[Millaa]

Millaa is a sweetheart who is very clever. 

Thank you