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Title: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: bluesman on October 14, 2013, 05:17:37 PM
Hello everyone, This is my experience. I had a lovely Moldovan girl i have traveled with and we decided on marrige and went through the K1 process. Well it takes 9 months for approval and just before we get approval for interview she decides to go work in Germany as an immigrant. Well the last 3 months she seemed different and sure enough it turns out she was knocked-up by her ex boyfriend while there. She finally told me after she was 2 months along. Now she is acting normal again and will to continue with the process if I desire. Guys, things really started well and were great and she will never understand how much I loved her. She does not love her ex and does not want to be with him but this is the worst a woman has ever treated me. She screwed me over right as the door opened. She was never a golddigger. Very independant,smart and well rounded but she gave up on me and burned me real good. I know she is sorry but I cannot understand how some of these girls can be so heartless. I hate it for the both of us. If there is anything I have learned its that it takes a long time to really know some of these girls. THis woman was the one I wanted and made me feel really good. but I cannot understand her train of thought and reasoning. We are the same age and this will be her first child. I was so close yet so far. I wish I could be with her but all trust is gone now.I wish I had someone to explain to me how some of these girls can be this way.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: TomT on October 14, 2013, 05:27:04 PM
It comes easily to sociopaths. Unfortunately, people with this affliction can be very superficially charming and can inspire love in others.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Boris on October 14, 2013, 05:30:22 PM
I'm sorry this happened to you. But, at least you found out before the visa was approved and she came to the US. Your problems would be magnified by a factor of 10. With time you will feel better and you have learned some things along the way. Good luck...
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Manny on October 14, 2013, 05:32:33 PM
How many times did you meet? And for how long?
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Isthmus on October 14, 2013, 05:37:07 PM
It comes easily to sociopaths. Unfortunately, people with this affliction can be very superficially charming and can inspire love in others.

Very true.

Bluesman, I wouldn't call it a train wreck. Just think of it as dodging a bullet and learning a lesson.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: bluesman on October 14, 2013, 05:39:24 PM
How many times did you meet? And for how long?

3 times for 2 weeks at a time.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: TomT on October 14, 2013, 05:44:55 PM
How many times did you meet? And for how long?

3 times for 2 weeks at a time.

It should have been enough but it's never enough, if you catch my drift.  Unless some remarkable event takes place (as it did), it takes years of living with someone before you really get to know them. I have to say, having a fiancee who gets knocked up by another man is quite a game-changer.

How many of those three visits were spent in her hometown?
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: andrewfi on October 14, 2013, 05:49:52 PM
Are you sure she's pregnant?

Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: bluesman on October 14, 2013, 06:00:05 PM
Are you sure she's pregnant?



No, It would be even worse if she was not.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: TomT on October 14, 2013, 06:01:58 PM
Are you sure she's pregnant?



No, It would be even worse if she was not.

Actually, it would be just about the same. It's a good bet that she got hooked up with a German man, not her ex, while she was in Germany.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: bluesman on October 14, 2013, 06:09:09 PM
Both are possible, but her ex lives in Germany, I will never know for sure.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: TomT on October 14, 2013, 06:13:22 PM
OK. That clarifies things; she didn't go there primarily for work, it didn't pan out and you were her back-up plan.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Isthmus on October 14, 2013, 06:13:52 PM
Both are possible, but her ex lives in Germany, I will never know for sure.

Either way, its over and you are better off that it is. You dodged a bullet. Pick yourself up and try again.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: bluesman on October 14, 2013, 06:20:25 PM
OK. That clarifies things; she didn't go there primarily for work, it didn't pan out and you were her back-up plan.

A plan to escape home i guess
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Mikeav8r on October 14, 2013, 08:04:16 PM
Hello everyone, This is my experience. I had a lovely Moldovan girl i have traveled with and we decided on marrige and went through the K1 process. Well it takes 9 months for approval and just before we get approval for interview she decides to go work in Germany as an immigrant. Well the last 3 months she seemed different and sure enough it turns out she was knocked-up by her ex boyfriend while there. She finally told me after she was 2 months along. Now she is acting normal again and will to continue with the process if I desire. Guys, things really started well and were great and she will never understand how much I loved her. She does not love her ex and does not want to be with him but this is the worst a woman has ever treated me. She screwed me over right as the door opened. She was never a golddigger. Very independant,smart and well rounded but she gave up on me and burned me real good. I know she is sorry but I cannot understand how some of these girls can be so heartless. I hate it for the both of us. If there is anything I have learned its that it takes a long time to really know some of these girls. THis woman was the one I wanted and made me feel really good. but I cannot understand her train of thought and reasoning. We are the same age and this will be her first child. I was so close yet so far. I wish I could be with her but all trust is gone now.I wish I had someone to explain to me how some of these girls can be this way.

As previously mentioned, you ended up being a plan B unfortunately and she is in need of a Daddy for baby.  The trip to Germany was more than likely to try and patch things up with the ex.  Cut off all ties and move on and heal.  They are not all like that so keep the ole chin up and hang in there.  Continue your search when you are ready to do so.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: patagonie on October 15, 2013, 02:16:34 AM
Guy
you are going to get married to a girl who just showed you few time before the big day that your value is really less than your competitor.
You reward her behavior by marrying with her. This one is especially a trouble with an FSU women. Because more than any AW a FSU women can only love a guy she respects (and we can say this is a universal law, but MORE with FSU ladies). You just showed weakness rather than to be tough.

I let you imagine the rest of adventure with such start.

Your short post is full of neediness :
She decides to go to work as an immigrant (you kid me, before emigrating in USA for something serious like a marriage she suddenly goes in Germany ?)
She was knocked up by her ex GF (are you sure that it is not the opposite ?)
She told me after 2 month along (so during two months you continue to be the puppy dog while she was  :censored: ed every night by .... man or men)
SHe does not love her ex and don't want be with him (your version)
this is the worst a woman has ever treated me (but you want her)
i know she is sorry (your version, when she decided to go to  this guy she was not sorry, sorry is guilt, guilt is something that women don't fear want they think about themselves in relationship, and when they feel guilt, or sorry, it just means that there is no love left and their interest is on an other man).
I cannot understand how some of these girls can be so heartless (so why get married with such girl ?)
I hate it for both of us (why do  you want to hate yourself ? The only one to hate and to fire is her)
THis woman was the one I wanted (but your are the one she don't really want, what is your value ?)
this will be her first child (you are dealing a market with her ?)
all trust is gone (i can believe you, and i would have gone also)
I wish I had someone to explain to me how some of these girls can be this way (yes i can explain you : you have not met enough girl and you are have "bob the nice guy" demeanor with them)

All rebound guys i have met in my life (myself included) had been almost for ever cleaned to the toilets, just a question of time (few months generally, one or two years perhaps).
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: rosco on October 15, 2013, 02:38:09 AM
Well done for sharing this btw, not an easy thing to do but hopefully informative for others.

The boys called this one right I'm afraid.  Pull your socks up and move on, this girl ain't worth knowing whether there's a bun in the oven or not.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: andrewfi on October 15, 2013, 02:51:31 AM
Where she comes from abortion is contraception. That's why I asked if she was really pregnant.

I agree about dumping her but the game may not be what we think.

Why tell you that the baby is not yours when she did not need to say anything?
Just curious, that's me. Babies have been used to manipulate men since god was wearing short trousers and I am sure that at least one former poster has been a cuckoo, but why to tell you, and that it ain't yours. Are you SURE it ain't yours?
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Ladine on October 15, 2013, 02:59:02 AM
or maybe just tell the girl that the guy will do a DNA test? But this test will pay for the girl. Russian girls often can not afford to pay for such tests.  (:) answer game on game
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: redroo on October 15, 2013, 03:53:12 AM
Commiserations Bluesman, again I add, thank God you found out in time.

Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: rosco on October 15, 2013, 04:03:18 AM
Where she comes from abortion is contraception. That's why I asked if she was really pregnant.

I agree about dumping her but the game may not be what we think.

Why tell you that the baby is not yours when she did not need to say anything?
Just curious, that's me. Babies have been used to manipulate men since god was wearing short trousers and I am sure that at least one former poster has been a cuckoo, but why to tell you, and that it ain't yours. Are you SURE it ain't yours?

I wouldn't want to waste anymore time trying to find out unless you enjoy the head  :censored:. Next.....
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Mikeav8r on October 15, 2013, 04:53:11 AM
Where she comes from abortion is contraception. That's why I asked if she was really pregnant.

I agree about dumping her but the game may not be what we think.

Why tell you that the baby is not yours when she did not need to say anything?
Just curious, that's me. Babies have been used to manipulate men since god was wearing short trousers and I am sure that at least one former poster has been a cuckoo, but why to tell you, and that it ain't yours. Are you SURE it ain't yours?

I wouldn't want to waste anymore time trying to find out unless you enjoy the head  :censored:. Next.....

Agree.  It is a moot point now.  She cheated with one or more guys and then when something that affected her decision process came up, she confessed.  Dump her and move on. She can never be trusted.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: andrewfi on October 15, 2013, 05:01:20 AM
We learn by learning.

It is likely that the situation is not as the OP thinks it is given the stuff that he (and most readers here) probably does not know about prevalent attitudes toward contraception.

Asking a question or two might be enlightening, but as I noted above, I agree about dumping her. If I understand the timeline correctly, she still has plenty of time to get an abortion anyway, even if the foetus is his.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Ladine on October 15, 2013, 06:49:49 AM
I've been using it for many years.

 only interested in my legs? next ...
 interested in my body? next ....
 interested in my personal property? next ....
 only interested in erotic webcam? next .....

  and so on ....  :chuckle:
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: andrewfi on October 15, 2013, 06:58:30 AM
I've been using it for many years.

 only interested in my legs? next ...
 interested in my body? next ....
 interested in my personal property? next ....
 only interested in erotic webcam? next .....

  and so on ....  :chuckle:

I can understand your frustration. Some guys are in a similar boat, taking trips from the UK to Ukraine weekend after weekend trying to find the next Mrs Right and only finding Mrs Right-Now.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: rosco on October 15, 2013, 08:15:47 AM
We learn by learning.

It is likely that the situation is not as the OP thinks it is given the stuff that he (and most readers here) probably does not know about prevalent attitudes toward contraception.

Asking a question or two might be enlightening, but as I noted above, I agree about dumping her. If I understand the timeline correctly, she still has plenty of time to get an abortion anyway, even if the foetus is his.

I think that the OP knows its not his and she's done the deed during his absence, but I may be wrong.

Also, depending on her age I'd assume that she knows all about the pill rather than the abortion route. It ain't the 1950's.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: AKA Luke on October 15, 2013, 11:17:49 AM
I've been using it for many years.

 only interested in my legs? next ...
 interested in my body? next ....
 interested in my personal property? next ....
 only interested in erotic webcam? next .....

  and so on ....  :chuckle:

I can understand your frustration. Some guys are in a similar boat, taking trips from the UK to Ukraine weekend after weekend trying to find the next Mrs Right and only finding Mrs Right-Now.

 :-X
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Ladine on October 15, 2013, 12:01:15 PM
I've been using it for many years.

 only interested in my legs? next ...
 interested in my body? next ....
 interested in my personal property? next ....
 only interested in erotic webcam? next .....

  and so on ....  :chuckle:

I can understand your frustration. Some guys are in a similar boat, taking trips from the UK to Ukraine weekend after weekend trying to find the next Mrs Right and only finding Mrs Right-Now.

 :-X

 (:) :BLUSH:
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: shakespear on October 15, 2013, 12:51:18 PM
Commiserations Bluesman, again I add, thank God you found out in time.

Exactly. 

Have you notified BCIS "IN WRITING" that you are withdrawing your K-1 petition?  If you don't do this, they will continue on with the approval and interview process and you could disccover some time next year that she's living in the USA banging some other dude.  Of course as her "sponsor" the government expects you to reimburse them for all the medical and low income benefits she is receiving.   
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: shakespear on October 15, 2013, 12:52:55 PM
Commiserations Bluesman, again I add, thank God you found out in time.

Furthermore redroo - you have the most fantastic avatar I've ever seen.  If that is your typical Aussie lass, then we're looking in the wrong place   :nod:
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Muzh_1 on October 15, 2013, 12:59:41 PM
Commiserations Bluesman, again I add, thank God you found out in time.

Furthermore redroo - you have the most fantastic avatar I've ever seen.  If that is your typical Aussie lass, then we're looking in the wrong place   :nod:

I already mentioned the same to him quite some time ago.  :smokin:
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: AKA Luke on October 15, 2013, 01:56:03 PM
I've been using it for many years.

 only interested in my legs? next ...
 interested in my body? next ....
 interested in my personal property? next ....
 only interested in erotic webcam? next .....

  and so on ....  :chuckle:

I can understand your frustration. Some guys are in a similar boat, taking trips from the UK to Ukraine weekend after weekend trying to find the next Mrs Right and only finding Mrs Right-Now.

 :-X

 (:) :BLUSH:


This isn't me, I've never ventured to Ukraine.


My lips are sealed as to who this comment was aimed at
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Ladine on October 15, 2013, 02:06:08 PM
I've been using it for many years.

 only interested in my legs? next ...
 interested in my body? next ....
 interested in my personal property? next ....
 only interested in erotic webcam? next .....

  and so on ....  :chuckle:

I can understand your frustration. Some guys are in a similar boat, taking trips from the UK to Ukraine weekend after weekend trying to find the next Mrs Right and only finding Mrs Right-Now.

 :-X

 (:) :BLUSH:


This isn't me, I've never ventured to Ukraine.


My lips are sealed as to who this comment was aimed at

 :chuckle: :) ;D
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Dogsoldier on October 15, 2013, 02:08:33 PM
I've been using it for many years.

 only interested in my legs? next ...
 interested in my body? next ....
 interested in my personal property? next ....
 only interested in erotic webcam? next .....

  and so on ....  :chuckle:

I can understand your frustration. Some guys are in a similar boat, taking trips from the UK to Ukraine weekend after weekend trying to find the next Mrs Right and only finding Mrs Right-Now.

 :-X

 (:) :BLUSH:


This isn't me, I've never ventured to Ukraine.


My lips are sealed as to who this comment was aimed at

 :chuckle: :) ;D
The suspense is killing me.  :hidechair:
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Ladine on October 15, 2013, 02:41:14 PM
I've been using it for many years.

 only interested in my legs? next ...
 interested in my body? next ....
 interested in my personal property? next ....
 only interested in erotic webcam? next .....

  and so on ....  :chuckle:

I can understand your frustration. Some guys are in a similar boat, taking trips from the UK to Ukraine weekend after weekend trying to find the next Mrs Right and only finding Mrs Right-Now.

 :-X

 (:) :BLUSH:


This isn't me, I've never ventured to Ukraine.


My lips are sealed as to who this comment was aimed at

 :chuckle: :) ;D
The suspense is killing me.  :hidechair:

(http://www.gogabber.com/images/smilies/jaw.gif) is it joke?
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: bluesman on October 15, 2013, 02:45:33 PM
We learn by learning.

It is likely that the situation is not as the OP thinks it is given the stuff that he (and most readers here) probably does not know about prevalent attitudes toward contraception.

Asking a question or two might be enlightening, but as I noted above, I agree about dumping her. If I understand the timeline correctly, she still has plenty of time to get an abortion anyway, even if the foetus is his.


I am sure it is not mine. Not sure I will even know if she is pregnant or not. Dont care at this point guys. Just trying to help the next guy out. I dont know what she is up to at this point either but it dont sound good.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Ladine on October 15, 2013, 02:59:16 PM
Bluesman  Do not worry. I think the child does not exist. Young girls often use this trick. that would get the opportunity to go to another country. The usual pragmatism. and any kind of love. we now have a pragmatic youth
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Halo on October 15, 2013, 03:02:07 PM
But they don't usually use the trick claiming they are pregnant with another man's child.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Ladine on October 15, 2013, 03:09:31 PM
But they don't usually use the trick claiming they are pregnant with another man's child.

maybe the guy was just blinded and did not want to understand that the girl is so telling him not? because we are not accustomed to be rude guests. how can you tell about it differently? She found a way out. said that the pregnant woman from the other in the hope that the guy will leave her first.

this trick also used for separation.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Vinnvinny on October 15, 2013, 03:10:51 PM
I've been using it for many years.

 only interested in my legs? next ...
 interested in my body? next ....
 interested in my personal property? next ....
 only interested in erotic webcam? next .....

  and so on ....  :chuckle:

I can understand your frustration. Some guys are in a similar boat, taking trips from the UK to Ukraine weekend after weekend trying to find the next Mrs Right and only finding Mrs Right-Now.

 :-X

 (:) :BLUSH:


This isn't me, I've never ventured to Ukraine.


My lips are sealed as to who this comment was aimed at

I've no idea who it could be either as I've never seen such guys myself, and if anyone would have seen them I would have. I considered attempting to authenticate Andrew’s opinion but unfortunately I can’t get my head up my posterior that far.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: bluesman on October 15, 2013, 03:18:36 PM
Bluesman  Do not worry. I think the child does not exist. Young girls often use this trick. that would get the opportunity to go to another country. The usual pragmatism. and any kind of love. we now have a pragmatic youth


This is not the case. She was coming but had to tell me prior to her exam. She thought about this for 2 months I assume and the damn thing is is that she is still willing to come. The more I try to figure it out the more confused I am. I feel that If she were truly pregnant and willing to come then her main interest would be to have the child here.I feel that this situation is honesty mixed with dishonesty to a degree that I cannot truly figure it out. BTW she is in her 30's so she is not a pragmatic youth.She changed in the last year. Quit driving lessons, quit her friends one by one and so on. Could IOM tell me if she was pregnant from the test?
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Vinnvinny on October 15, 2013, 03:21:12 PM
bluesman, stop trying to figure it all out. There is no point.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Ladine on October 15, 2013, 03:27:17 PM
Bluesman  Do not worry. I think the child does not exist. Young girls often use this trick. that would get the opportunity to go to another country. The usual pragmatism. and any kind of love. we now have a pragmatic youth


This is not the case. She was coming but had to tell me prior to her exam. She thought about this for 2 months I assume and the damn thing is is that she is still willing to come. The more I try to figure it out the more confused I am. I feel that If she were truly pregnant and willing to come then her main interest would be to have the child here.I feel that this situation is honesty mixed with dishonesty to a degree that I cannot truly figure it out. BTW she is in her 30's so she is not a pragmatic youth.She changed in the last year. Quit driving lessons, quit her friends one by one and so on. Could IOM tell me if she was pregnant from the test?


BM I would have regarded it differently. There is a category of women who with age become more pragmatic. Because they are not mixed with the hormonal drive with a real purpose. Most likely she just wants to have another life. But do not think that it will be connected with love. She plans to take the training for citizenship and work. But in her view I do not see any place for you. pure pragmatism . and as long as you're willing to give her the green light to another country . it will try to throw everything in her country. she would do anything just to leave our faster FSU. Yes it 's not fair to You. but only 50 %. In any case, it is truer to say that the child is not yours .. or not?
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Ladine on October 15, 2013, 03:29:13 PM
bluesman, stop trying to figure it all out. There is no point.

He just wants to know WHY?
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Vinnvinny on October 15, 2013, 03:33:22 PM
bluesman, stop trying to figure it all out. There is no point.

He just wants to know WHY?

I know, but he never will. That's why there is no point trying to do so.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Ladine on October 15, 2013, 03:35:31 PM
bluesman, stop trying to figure it all out. There is no point.

He just wants to know WHY?

I know, but he never will. That's why there is no point trying to do so.

Why Vinny? I am here..... I will try it  :)

 эээх ты Винни Пух. Пяточка тебе не хватает ))))
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Hammer2722 on October 15, 2013, 03:43:00 PM
Bluesman  Do not worry. I think the child does not exist. Young girls often use this trick. that would get the opportunity to go to another country. The usual pragmatism. and any kind of love. we now have a pragmatic youth


This is not the case. She was coming but had to tell me prior to her exam. She thought about this for 2 months I assume and the damn thing is is that she is still willing to come. The more I try to figure it out the more confused I am. I feel that If she were truly pregnant and willing to come then her main interest would be to have the child here.I feel that this situation is honesty mixed with dishonesty to a degree that I cannot truly figure it out. BTW she is in her 30's so she is not a pragmatic youth.She changed in the last year. Quit driving lessons, quit her friends one by one and so on. Could IOM tell me if she was pregnant from the test?

Isn't pregnancy cause for an automatic denial of the K1 Visa?
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: AKA Luke on October 15, 2013, 03:46:08 PM
bluesman, stop trying to figure it all out. There is no point.

He just wants to know WHY?

I know, but he never will. That's why there is no point trying to do so.

Why Vinny? I am here..... I will try it  :)

 эээх ты Винни Пух. Пяточка тебе не хватает ))))

bluesman, stop trying to figure it all out. There is no point.

He just wants to know WHY?

I know, but he never will. That's why there is no point trying to do so.

Agreed, move on. Sounds like a lucky escape.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: gfinfla on October 15, 2013, 03:48:33 PM
Bluesman  Do not worry. I think the child does not exist. Young girls often use this trick. that would get the opportunity to go to another country. The usual pragmatism. and any kind of love. we now have a pragmatic youth


This is not the case. She was coming but had to tell me prior to her exam. She thought about this for 2 months I assume and the damn thing is is that she is still willing to come. The more I try to figure it out the more confused I am. I feel that If she were truly pregnant and willing to come then her main interest would be to have the child here.I feel that this situation is honesty mixed with dishonesty to a degree that I cannot truly figure it out. BTW she is in her 30's so she is not a pragmatic youth.She changed in the last year. Quit driving lessons, quit her friends one by one and so on. Could IOM tell me if she was pregnant from the test?

Isn't pregnancy cause for an automatic denial of the K1 Visa?
No
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: AJ on October 15, 2013, 04:22:49 PM
Thanks for sharing your story.

You found out she's basically a flake now, before things progressed further to marriage.
The warning signs you say where there ( distancing herself from friends/family etc)

You seem to have moved on, and have a good attitude about it.
So just don't let it damage future relationships.

I wouldn't waste much time figuring anything out.
You are no longer  involved with her, and do not want to be, there's no real need to understand the why,unless you can grow or learn from it.

 Since it appears she simply makes choices that are in her best interest *at the moment*, with little regard to others (pretty common really) there doesn't seem to be much opportunity in there to learn much,  other than most dogs, are better than most people.

Sorry vinny.
 ;D
I'll refrain from posting a dog  photo for your sake though.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: chelseaboy on October 15, 2013, 05:22:18 PM
" Most dogs are better than most people "

There's a reason why it's said that a dog is a mans best friend.

bluesman,

             Sorry to read what happened to you.

Don't try and figure out why she did what she did,it'll drive you nuts..seriously.

People are people..they do what they do,,you can never really know what someone else is thinking.

Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: TomT on October 15, 2013, 07:13:26 PM
bluesman,

This question got lost in the shuffle:

how many of your three visits were spent in her hometown?
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Mikeav8r on October 15, 2013, 07:28:25 PM
bluesman, stop trying to figure it all out. There is no point.

He just wants to know WHY?

A common mistake men make regarding relationships...why why why why...we drive ourselves crazy asking the question...we are logical..we need answers.  It is pointless and like Vinny pointed out ...there is actually no point in finding out.

Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: bluesman on October 15, 2013, 08:43:23 PM
bluesman,

This question got lost in the shuffle:

how many of your three visits were spent in her hometown?

None, Thanks guys im feeling alot  better. We stayed at her apartment but not her hometown. I know thats a flag but we had good times originally. She just morphed into this more recently and im not sure if it was the mask coming off or if its the change or both. I appreciate the support from everyone and hope I can write about something happy one day here.
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: Mikeav8r on October 15, 2013, 09:02:07 PM
bluesman,

This question got lost in the shuffle:

how many of your three visits were spent in her hometown?

None, Thanks guys im feeling alot  better. We stayed at her apartment but not her hometown. I know thats a flag but we had good times originally. She just morphed into this more recently and im not sure if it was the mask coming off or if its the change or both. I appreciate the support from everyone and hope I can write about something happy one day here.

You can.  There is a saying in the aviation community..."There is nothing more useless than the runway behind you"

Step 1 - Put her behind you.
Step 2 - Land on your feet..
Step 3 - Gas up and take off again...

 tiphat
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: ozybob on October 15, 2013, 09:35:47 PM
bluesman ,

take all the good advice mate and move on ,
as others above have said , ''there is no why ''

you might spend countless hours of your time , trying to nut out ''why ''she did this or that , complete waste of time  , the only one you can control and come to terms with is you ?

all you need to focus on is your own conduct & possibly what you learned from it about yourself , if your happy with all you did etc ,

BOB

Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: patagonie on October 16, 2013, 01:27:49 AM
bluesman, stop trying to figure it all out. There is no point.

He just wants to know WHY?

A common mistake men make regarding relationships...why why why why...we drive ourselves crazy asking the question...we are logical..we need answers.  It is pointless and like Vinny pointed out ...there is actually no point in finding out.
+1
Absolutely, we try to understand rather than to focus on our daily life, we retire themselves from all to think, to rationalize about like searching a big secret, like if all our life depended of the answer ....  :'(
Title: Re: My Trainwreck Story
Post by: rosco on October 16, 2013, 08:22:18 AM
But they don't usually use the trick claiming they are pregnant with another man's child.

maybe the guy was just blinded and did not want to understand that the girl is so telling him not? because we are not accustomed to be rude guests. how can you tell about it differently? She found a way out. said that the pregnant woman from the other in the hope that the guy will leave her first.

this trick also used for separation.

Interestingly, I met a Swiss chap who had his heart and part of his bank stolen by a Ukrainian lass. Her get out was that she'd met up with her ex and became pregnant....

Perhaps this is a method used by some women wanting to sever connections, knowing it cuts the guy deep?