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Dating & Marriage With Women From Russia, Ukraine, Belarus & FSU => Dating in the FSU and Other Countries => Topic started by: xiphoid on April 19, 2016, 07:51:45 PM

Title: Vanished
Post by: xiphoid on April 19, 2016, 07:51:45 PM
I've been in contact with a lady from Kiev for 3 months through EM. Eventually we moved to e-mail and skype. We set a date for a meeting in May. All seemed well - she was going to help me find a place to stay and she express happiness about our meeting. We agreed on a time and day for Skype. But she did not appear at our arranged meeting, does not answer my emails and my Skype messages remain unanswered. I am concerned that something may have happened to her. Any ideas on what to do? I have a friend in Kiev so I can still go but I am still worried.
Title: Re: Vanished
Post by: TomT on April 19, 2016, 07:56:08 PM
How long has she been missing?
Title: Re: Vanished
Post by: msmoby on April 19, 2016, 11:08:47 PM
I've been in contact with a lady from Kiev for 3 months through EM. Eventually we moved to e-mail and skype. We set a date for a meeting in May. All seemed well - she was going to help me find a place to stay and she express happiness about our meeting. We agreed on a time and day for Skype. But she did not appear at our arranged meeting, does not answer my emails and my Skype messages remain unanswered. I am concerned that something may have happened to her. Any ideas on what to do? I have a friend in Kiev so I can still go but I am still worried.

I believe you may have asked this question somewhere else - with more info.

Based on THAT omitted info - the stats suggest she is avoiding you. Esp. if she's still logging into skype

Sorry, move on - or go to Kiev and 'sort it out'
Title: Re: Vanished
Post by: AvHdB on April 19, 2016, 11:19:02 PM
Welcome to RUA  tiphat

Do you know, how many devices does she have to stay in contact with you? If she is limited to one smart phone using Skype and that is damaged beyond repair it MIGHT be an explanation for the lack of contact.

On the other hand she might be testing you.

How far away are you from Kiev?
Title: Re: Vanished
Post by: Steveboy on April 20, 2016, 12:15:56 AM
Forget the stupid wench!

Find another women , preferably not in Kiev  ;D
Title: Re: Vanished
Post by: andrewfi on April 20, 2016, 12:20:10 AM
Move on. If she wanted it she'd communicate.

One thing is for sure,  there's millions of women in your country who have the benefit of being real.
Title: Re: Vanished
Post by: Steveboy on April 20, 2016, 01:11:18 AM
You should also not be wasting 3 months on ANY dating site communicating via e mails! 2/3 days absolutely max to work out if you have anything in common, if so there is Skype/whats up/Viber to continue communication.
Dating sites are just for initial contact and nothing else.  ;D
Title: Re: Vanished
Post by: Manny on April 20, 2016, 02:29:58 AM
Have you sent this person any money?
Title: Re: Vanished
Post by: rosco on April 20, 2016, 02:30:49 AM
I agree with the guys above. Moreover, its simply not cool sending heaps of messages chasing some bird.....you'll only feel stupid afterwards.

You've reached out, she's not replying.....next!
Title: Re: Vanished
Post by: Chris on April 20, 2016, 07:07:55 AM
Someone else got on a plane sooner, you missed the boat, so to speak.
Title: Re: Vanished
Post by: andrewfi on April 20, 2016, 07:45:24 AM
Someone else got on a plane sooner, you missed the boat, so to speak.

If, indeed, she was 'real' in the first place. That's not to say that there was not a real person at the end of the computer connection, but that the intent was never to meet. It is not insignificant that she dipped out at the point at which plans to meet were to be made.

He is probably lucky that she did not go along enthusiastically with the meeting and just as enthusiastically help him to spend money for her benefit whilst in Ukraine (and probably afterward as well).
Title: Re: Vanished
Post by: dcguyusa on April 20, 2016, 05:52:32 PM
Hello
This is my first post on a topic on this forum.  I am registered on EM recently.  Have you tried to contact EM admin about the lady?  Maybe they can contact any other agency that she may be a member of?

I have come across dating profiles that were removed from a dating site.  I would sometimes ask what happened to the profile and the admin would give me the reason (such as lady decided to remove the profile, lady moved away from the area, etc.)

BTW, I received a phone number from a lady in Ukraine last month.  I have tried calling the number (it is a valid number for the city in Ukraine), but nobody answers.  Her profile shows that it has been inactive for over a month.  I sent some emails to see if she responds to them.
Title: Re: Vanished
Post by: Millaa on April 21, 2016, 02:30:20 AM
I've been in contact with a lady from Kiev for 3 months through EM. Eventually we moved to e-mail and skype. We set a date for a meeting in May. All seemed well - she was going to help me find a place to stay and she express happiness about our meeting. We agreed on a time and day for Skype. But she did not appear at our arranged meeting, does not answer my emails and my Skype messages remain unanswered. I am concerned that something may have happened to her. Any ideas on what to do? I have a friend in Kiev so I can still go but I am still worried.

Long ago I got few letters from one American guy. I wasn't interested in him, so replied trying to be polite. One day he stopped to write. Not a problem, I decided. But I was surprised receiving few pages from his "sister" couple weeks later. "She" wrote her brother was died in a car accident three days ago, and his ashes were scattered around in the air. The most extravagant explanation I ever red. Usually the "writers" don't bother coming up with stories, they just disappear.
Title: Re: Vanished
Post by: andrewfi on April 21, 2016, 05:54:30 AM
Long ago I got few letters from one American guy. I wasn't interested in him, so replied trying to be polite. One day he stopped to write. Not a problem, I decided. But I was surprised receiving few pages from his "sister" couple weeks later. "She" wrote her brother was died in a car accident three days ago, and his ashes were scattered around in the air. The most extravagant explanation I ever red. Usually the "writers" don't bother coming up with stories, they just disappear.

Making up a story like that is one way to make sure that the contact ends I guess.  (:)
Title: Re: Vanished
Post by: Slumba on April 21, 2016, 09:41:05 AM
I've been in contact with a lady from Kiev for 3 months through EM. Eventually we moved to e-mail and skype. We set a date for a meeting in May. All seemed well - she was going to help me find a place to stay and she express happiness about our meeting. We agreed on a time and day for Skype. But she did not appear at our arranged meeting, does not answer my emails and my Skype messages remain unanswered. I am concerned that something may have happened to her. Any ideas on what to do? I have a friend in Kiev so I can still go but I am still worried.

Long ago I got few letters from one American guy. I wasn't interested in him, so replied trying to be polite. One day he stopped to write. Not a problem, I decided. But I was surprised receiving few pages from his "sister" couple weeks later. "She" wrote her brother was died in a car accident three days ago, and his ashes were scattered around in the air. The most extravagant explanation I ever red. Usually the "writers" don't bother coming up with stories, they just disappear.

It's a pretty good one! Sometimes people think Americans don't try hard enough!   :laugh:
Title: Re: Vanished
Post by: dcguyusa on April 21, 2016, 05:08:46 PM
I found the same topic discussed by the OP on another forum.  Since the profile was deactivated for over a month ago, I guess my suggestion to ask EM admin about her would not have been of any help.  it is possible that she no longer is interested in you and is not responding.  Of course, just about anything is possible (sudden illness, needed to move out of living quarters, arrested, impromptu absence, invitation to a romance social, etc.)
Title: Re: Vanished
Post by: dcguyusa on April 21, 2016, 05:10:46 PM
I've been in contact with a lady from Kiev for 3 months through EM. Eventually we moved to e-mail and skype. We set a date for a meeting in May. All seemed well - she was going to help me find a place to stay and she express happiness about our meeting. We agreed on a time and day for Skype. But she did not appear at our arranged meeting, does not answer my emails and my Skype messages remain unanswered. I am concerned that something may have happened to her. Any ideas on what to do? I have a friend in Kiev so I can still go but I am still worried.

Long ago I got few letters from one American guy. I wasn't interested in him, so replied trying to be polite. One day he stopped to write. Not a problem, I decided. But I was surprised receiving few pages from his "sister" couple weeks later. "She" wrote her brother was died in a car accident three days ago, and his ashes were scattered around in the air. The most extravagant explanation I ever red. Usually the "writers" don't bother coming up with stories, they just disappear.

It's a pretty good one! Sometimes people think Americans don't try hard enough!   :laugh:

Ask his sister to fax you a copy of the obituary and/or death certificate.   :snivel:
Title: Re: Vanished
Post by: xiphoid on April 21, 2016, 07:25:09 PM
Here I am. Yes I posted again for a different slant on things because I was worried about her welfare. Not anymore. After I wrote her off and moved on she writes me as if nothing happened and wanted to meet on Skype next Sunday. I asked what happened if all was well. No response except that she removed me from her Skype. No matter, as of yesterday I have a lunch date waiting for me in Kiev. Also I have an old friend that lives there in Kiev and he offered to introduce me to some possibilities. It will be nice to return to Kiev after all this time.
Title: Re: Vanished
Post by: xiphoid on April 21, 2016, 07:42:04 PM
P. S. In regards to some comments here in this forum, no she never asked for money or gifts and I already have my tickets. The 3 months had some long interruptions when we did not communicate. She did however avoid flower deliveries though. I can only conclude that she is playing a warped game or setting me up for a scam later on when I arrive in Kiev. Anyway the most important thing for me is that this be a learning experience for those starting out.
Title: Re: Vanished
Post by: TomT on April 21, 2016, 09:30:09 PM
The most common reason for the the disappearance of FSU girls is keeping company with other men. If you don't have her full attention, the best course of action is to keep looking. This particular girl seems more volatile than most; you can live without the drama.
Title: Re: Vanished
Post by: AvHdB on April 22, 2016, 01:47:43 AM
I agree with Tom, you can find plenty of drama closer to home, unless you live on Antartica.

It is close to Syringa time in the botanical park so that is good thing to do in Kiev during your visit. Please post a travel report.