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Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
« on: November 06, 2013, 01:46:40 AM »
We often caution people here about the dangers of falling in love with photographs.

In recent years, most have been cautioning against falling in love on Skype.

Someone here (I forget who) once admitted to proposing over Skype.  (:)

Today here, I found this comment:

p.s. To my amazement it is possible to fall in love in Skype and you can tell if she loves you also...Sounds absolutely crazy I know..but, it happened to me..

Maybe I am old fashioned in that I think nothing is a substitute for face time and getting on a plane.  :chuckle:

But as I think we are likely to see more of these kind of comments, I thought we may as well have a topic on it.........
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Re: Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
« Reply #1 on: November 06, 2013, 02:27:37 AM »
Ahh! the purity and trueness of love through an Internet relationship far passes that of one based on physical contact  :-X
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Re: Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
« Reply #2 on: November 06, 2013, 02:39:14 AM »
Let's be honest Manny, you are a tad old fashioned!!  :-X

Before meeting my wife, we Skyped every day and built up a good rapport with which to spice up my first visit. Having discussed almost everything over a 3 week period, sometimes into the real early hours, we both got just a little bit excited thinking about the road ahead.

In fact, I recall her saying a few days before I left that she was a little sad as it was entirely possible that the reality wouldn't meet up to the expectations. All true but I assured her that if the romance wasn't there, then we had become friends and we'd enjoy 5 days in Minsk having a ball.

Of course I didn't allude to the fact that I may just meet one of her friends!!  :innocent:

Falling in love and proposing however, give yourself a slap man!!!


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Re: Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
« Reply #3 on: November 06, 2013, 03:17:46 AM »
I guess if people can 'get it off' in camera, falling in love and proposing is quite tame.  :)

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Re: Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
« Reply #4 on: November 06, 2013, 03:18:46 AM »
First, can I preface the following by noting that, in my opinion, the poster of the original words had good reason to not be 100% straight with his audience.

However, people DO claim to have fallen in love before even meeting their penfriend and, of course such has happened throughout history. For myself, I think that it is as Rosco suggested. If things go well then a degree of trust and thus a rapport is built and that eases the path for much that follows.

A while back I was involved in a similar situation. I was chatting online with a young woman, we used online chat from the dating site and then moved to the phone, not Skype, she lived in the same city as me, no more than a 10 minute bus ride away. She was very concerned to be able to trust me to her level of satisfaction before upgrading our communication. When we eventually met we were not disappointed by what we found and our first meeting became a continuation of the long conversations we had been having by phone.

Love, not a bit of it, of course!

There is another angle to this as well.
Online dating while becoming more and more common started out by offering the chance for people to meet up without the normal difficulties of shyness and fear of rejection. That is still the case. It is much easier to reply to a contact invite with a contextually appropriate response that you'd like to fix her pipes like a plumber online than ever it would be to do so face to face.
If the replied suggestion is not proceeded with then the rejection carries no pain. Talking on the phone before meeting is simply a part of that process. If one or other parties feels they are not interested in proceeding then things just stop and usually, the emotional impact is pretty small, certainly smaller than that when one has had a face to face relationship and rejection.

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Re: Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
« Reply #5 on: November 06, 2013, 07:58:38 AM »
Ahh! the purity and trueness of love through an Internet relationship far passes that of one based on physical contact  :-X

For some reason, this:

p.s. To my amazement it is possible to fall in love in Skype and you can tell if she loves you also...Sounds absolutely crazy I know..but, it happened to me..

....made me think of this:

<a href="http://www.youtube.com/v/hnBDT14DuNg" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" class="bbc_link bbc_flash_disabled new_win">http://www.youtube.com/v/hnBDT14DuNg</a>

 :chuckle:

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Re: Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
« Reply #6 on: November 07, 2013, 08:03:03 AM »
Was that Air Supply?! Man what a great band!

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Re: Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
« Reply #7 on: November 07, 2013, 08:45:07 AM »
Was that Air Supply?! Man what a great band!

Indeed.  But woe to the ASM* in the R/UW game.  :chuckle:

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Re: Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
« Reply #8 on: November 09, 2013, 05:03:01 PM »
We often caution people here about the dangers of falling in love with photographs.

In recent years, most have been cautioning against falling in love on Skype.

Someone here (I forget who) once admitted to proposing over Skype.  (:)

Today here, I found this comment:

p.s. To my amazement it is possible to fall in love in Skype and you can tell if she loves you also...Sounds absolutely crazy I know..but, it happened to me..

Maybe I am old fashioned in that I think nothing is a substitute for face time and getting on a plane.  :chuckle:

But as I think we are likely to see more of these kind of comments, I thought we may as well have a topic on it.........
Well I would have never posted it in the first place if it didn't really happen...
But it did...
Alla and I are skyping tmr at 9am... we can hardly wait...
funny thing about Skype is .. I was amazed she would get up at 4am Skype with me..Then she would go to work 10 hours..
I quite shocked how good FSU women look when they first roll out of bed..WOW!!

But one point I need to make...With Skype..
Who needs translators????
who needs socials???
Who needs dating sites???(after you find a girl)
Who needs ground support on arrival???
Who needs a stack of Profile prints out???
Who needs a marriage agency???
Who needs to pay for letter translation????
Who needs to pay for chat time??? (with a fake Adate lady name Boris)
Who needs to pay for contact info???
NO BODY NEEDS ANY OF  THIS WITH SKYPE!!

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Re: Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
« Reply #9 on: November 09, 2013, 05:16:29 PM »
Who needs reality?

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Re: Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
« Reply #10 on: November 09, 2013, 05:37:38 PM »
Who needs reality?
Everyone does..
But why do so many WM need their hands held and babied along through this process of finding a FSU lady.. I think WM are spoiled and need to put their big boy pants on and figure some of this out for themselves..
Are they men?? or boys??
FSU Ladies do not want boys...

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Re: Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
« Reply #11 on: November 09, 2013, 06:04:42 PM »
Who needs reality?
Everyone does..
But why do so many WM need their hands held and babied along through this process of finding a FSU lady.. I think WM are spoiled and need to put their big boy pants on and figure some of this out for themselves..
Are they men?? or boys??
FSU Ladies do not want boys...

I can agree with Skype an it value. Falling in love, without meeting Ahhh NOT!
Well not true, seen a car online once I fell in love with.
But I women, I prefer we meet first :)
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Re: Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
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Re: Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
« Reply #13 on: November 09, 2013, 08:37:08 PM »
Skype whilst significantly better than email or telephone is not a substitute for meeting in person.  You can learn more about a person in 1 hour together than months of skyping.

Sitting in a cafe watching a woman's reactions to a crying baby nearby told me more about some of her personality traits than the months of skyping that preceded it.

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Re: Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
« Reply #14 on: November 09, 2013, 09:56:29 PM »
But why do so many WM need their hands held and babied along through this process of finding a FSU lady.. I think WM are spoiled and need to put their big boy pants on and figure some of this out for themselves..
Are they men?? or boys??
FSU Ladies do not want boys...

The issue is not whether Westerners are men or mice; it's whether people fall in love with each other or with constructs. It's common enough for the latter to occur, even in traditional face-to-face dating. As for proposing by Skype, that is the height of lunacy.

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Re: Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
« Reply #15 on: November 09, 2013, 11:12:44 PM »
But why do so many WM need their hands held and babied along through this process of finding a FSU lady.. I think WM are spoiled and need to put their big boy pants on and figure some of this out for themselves..
Are they men?? or boys??
FSU Ladies do not want boys...

The issue is not whether Westerners are men or mice; it's whether people fall in love with each other or with constructs. It's common enough for the latter to occur, even in traditional face-to-face dating. As for proposing by Skype, that is the height of lunacy.

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Re: Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
« Reply #16 on: November 10, 2013, 06:54:20 AM »
People put a show on for the camera, get real.
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Re: Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
« Reply #17 on: November 10, 2013, 09:11:50 PM »
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As for proposing by Skype, that is the height of lunacy.


 Then put me on the list of lunatics :evilgrin0002:

 

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Re: Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
« Reply #18 on: November 10, 2013, 09:34:27 PM »
lonedrake,

I see that it's your first post here. Welcome to the forum.

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Re: Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
« Reply #19 on: November 10, 2013, 09:42:11 PM »
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Welcome to the forum.

 Thank you :thumbsup:


 I just consider this an extension of the other forum. Mostly the same members,some exact same topics and the same format. It seems like one person made both websites.

Does anyone have any numbers how many members here are not members on the other site?

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Re: Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
« Reply #20 on: November 10, 2013, 10:18:13 PM »
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As for proposing by Skype, that is the height of lunacy.


 Then put me on the list of lunatics :evilgrin0002:

tha depends on your definition of lunatic lol

question is really did you propose on skype before you met at all in person , or you proposed on skype to her after you had met at least once and possibly many times ??

proposing on skype before you met in person might fit the lunatic definition well i think  :dh:

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Re: Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
« Reply #21 on: November 11, 2013, 09:57:34 AM »
Lone Drake,

You are certainly a lunatic.  We all agree.  Anyone who actually chooses to live in Minnesota can't have all his gears meshing correctly.

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« Reply #22 on: November 11, 2013, 05:14:03 PM »
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You are certainly a lunatic.  We all agree.


 Excellent tiphat. We have a a forum consensus. That does not happen to often :-X


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or you proposed on skype to her after you had met at least once

 This :plane:

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Re: Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
« Reply #23 on: November 11, 2013, 06:39:35 PM »
Well well well,
At least on Skype you know you are at least talking to a girl..
I think it is a great way to get to know each other..
You can also see a lot of things...
Condition of apartment,
Condition of the Lady..LOL!
If she will make time for you and her to Skype..
Other people in the house..etc..
It is much more difficult to talk to your lady on the phone...
It is much more easier on Skype..I do know a lot of Russian..
but I have learned so much Russian while skyping..
I always have Google translator up..we use that a lot..
I can copy and paste links to cool videos on youtube..
It is much better than phone calls..

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Re: Falling in love/proposing via Skype.
« Reply #24 on: November 11, 2013, 08:45:44 PM »
Well well well,
At least on Skype you know you are at least talking to a girl..
I think it is a great way to get to know each other..
You can also see a lot of things...
Condition of apartment,
Condition of the Lady..LOL!
If she will make time for you and her to Skype..
Other people in the house..etc..
It is much more difficult to talk to your lady on the phone...
It is much more easier on Skype..I do know a lot of Russian..
but I have learned so much Russian while skyping..
I always have Google translator up..we use that a lot..
I can copy and paste links to cool videos on youtube..
It is much better than phone calls..

I don't think anyone would argue, that Skype is a great tool..

The lunatic part, is falling in love on Skype before meeting :duh:
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