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Title: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 11, 2011, 03:48:32 PM
Have you ever wondered what the girls are told? This is from Elena's models a very respected site and a valuable advertiser
here.

PLEASE NOTE: I am not fluent in Russian! There will be many mistakes in any translations that I do here. For the Russian Fluent please feel free to correct any mistakes that I
make. This is an excellent example of why professional and knowledgeable translators
are so valuable.

http://www.zamuzh.com/

Dear girls who desire to find a good husband abroad! I have succeeded at this! I will share my experience and advice on how you can achieve this goal as well. The goal being to find a reliable, honest, loving and, understanding husband.

Isn't this what every girl wants?

Man catalog http://www.zamuzh.com/men/index.htm
Note link doesn't let you search for men if you are not signed up.
At least as far as I could tell

You can begin your search directly immediately! Read profiles of men, who dream to find bride in Russia. New profiles are added each day.

101 things you can do to attract and marry a Western Man.
http://www.zamuzh.com/book/index.htm


PLEASE NOTE THIS IS FROM THE SITE ELENA'S MODELS AND THIS CONTENT BELONGS TO THAT SITE.

Visit Elenas Models for complete information and a highly recommended site to meet the girl of your dreams.

http://www.elenasmodels.com/ (http://www.elenasmodels.com/?goto=ladagirl)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 11, 2011, 04:06:46 PM
101 things you can do to attract and marry a Western Man.
http://www.zamuzh.com/book/index.htm

Please note 2tallbill is not fluent in Russian (or even close)
Note some things I didn't understand at all and edited them out
rather than bullocks them up.


Introduction


To any lonely women that have at least possibly considered a foreign man.

Marriage agencies today have survived economic ups and downs. Our internet- directories each week add more women from the countries of the former USSR.

On the television show “Lonely Hearts”, that airs in America,  American men tell about their desire to meet a Russian woman. Newspapers post marriage profiles in print

Why not consider a foreign man?

The Good news is that- FINDING LOVE AND HAPPINESS ABROAD IS POSSIBLE!!!




PLEASE NOTE THIS IS FROM THE SITE ELENA'S MODELS AND THIS CONTENT BELONGS TO THAT SITE.

Visit Elenas Models for complete information and a highly recommended site to meet the girl of your dreams.

http://www.elenasmodels.com/ (http://www.elenasmodels.com/?goto=ladagirl)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 11, 2011, 04:14:59 PM
Western men are CRAZY about Russian women and are prepared to spend the extra time and efforts to find bride from Russia. The idea to marry a foreigner is not some fairy tale or some wild dream.

Each year hundred, and possibly thousands of Russian women marry the citizens of the USA, Canada, Australia and Western Europe.

Next question - how do they succeed?

Most girls do not advertise their search for fiance beyond the boundaries of their native land. Many marriage agencies are less than helpful explaining the process to make this work, and each woman is forced to develop her own way of the achievement of foreign man hearts, making her own way by trial and error.

A few girls find their way, but most do not succeed.

PLEASE NOTE THIS IS FROM THE SITE ELENA'S MODELS AND THIS CONTENT BELONGS TO THAT SITE.

PLEASE NOTE THIS IS FROM THE SITE ELENA'S MODELS AND THIS CONTENT BELONGS TO THAT SITE.

Visit Elenas Models for complete information and a highly recommended site to meet the girl of your dreams.

http://www.elenasmodels.com/ (http://www.elenasmodels.com/?goto=ladagirl)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 11, 2011, 04:46:25 PM
From Elena's models (note poor translation to English)

Here is my story, who has successfully finished the  process of the finding a husband abroad and now manages one of the most popular marriage agencies on the Internet.

I have been inspired to write my story so that others can find  happiness like I did.

I began to consider the search for husband abroad at age 26. I never was never married and only wanted a man who would love me and I would love him.

I tried some agencies and they had their own agenda which wasn't always the same as mine.

I spent 3 years seeking a foreign man finally deciding that a Russian man would be sufficient. I do not want to give more love than they give to me, I do not want the a drunk man who returns "from work” at 12 noon, I do not want to wait and to hope that eventually he might propose. I want a marriage !!!

My relatives dismissed any possibility me getting married and began delicately to hint that I should get pregnant alone so that I could have a child. It became my habit to cross to the other side of street in order to avoid questions about my personal life.

I didn't matter that I had my own apartment, a car and successful career. All that mattered was that I was an old barren unwanted maid. 

So, at the age of 29 years, in the summer of 1997, I decided to find to itself fiance abroad. I said to myself that from this point on, the search for a husband is my number 1 priority, everything including work and money, was secondary.

PLEASE NOTE THIS IS FROM THE SITE ELENA'S MODELS AND THIS CONTENT BELONGS TO THAT SITE.

Visit Elenas Models for complete information and a highly recommended site to meet the girl of your dreams.

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Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 11, 2011, 05:16:35 PM
After much hard work, my future foreign husband arrived in year to visit me half a year later we were married.

In my search I made many errors and I learned of many things that didn't work. I greatly wanted to find a good person, to fall in love with me and to marry. If you want this enough to do the hard work and other things then you can have it.

The lessons ahead will help you achieve this too (if you work hard enough)

PLEASE NOTE THIS IS FROM THE SITE ELENA'S MODELS AND THIS CONTENT BELONGS TO THAT SITE.

Visit Elenas Models for complete information and a highly recommended site to meet the girl of your dreams.

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Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 11, 2011, 06:01:19 PM
Why consider men from abroad?

1. Not enough men of the age of consent in Russia
2. harmful habits of available men
3. economic situation of modern Russia

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 11, 2011, 06:33:59 PM
Before you start.

You must ask yourself this question
1. Do you really really want this?
Can you leave your family, friends, and everything you know to go somewhere else to find happiness in another country for love?
to speak a strange language with different food and a strange customs and culture?

2. You will suffer much melancholy, and loneliness and your nearest
friend may be thousands and 15,000 of kilometers away.
 
Are you ready for this?

3. All your relatives and close friends will remain behind.
Are you ready for this?

4. You love your work and you will probably not be able to find
similar career abroad. Most likely you will require years of retraining and batteries of tests. In the beginning you will not be able to work
generally, except at the most humble and basic jobs.
Can you do this?


5. The search will require huge amounts of your time, energy
and resources. Answers to letters and simply reading letters
will take many hours. You will probably have to limit other
entertainment and hobbies, forget about favorite T.V. shows
and encounters with friends in order to do this. This can take many months or years.
Can you do this?

6. friends will forget about you and you about them also. It is difficult to remain in the close connection with someone, that is located on other side of the world. You will have to build a new life and circle of friends. Will you be able to do this?


If you can answer decisively  “YES”, then proceed.

Think thoroughly before approaching the search

When you make the decision do not wait, you will not get younger and more lovely.  Time does not wait, and tomorrow situation in the country or in the world can change. That today appears complex, but possible, tomorrow can become absolutely unattainable. Change your life now in order to have sufficient time to enjoy it with pleasure.

PLEASE NOTE THIS IS FROM THE SITE ELENA'S MODELS AND THIS CONTENT BELONGS TO THAT SITE.

Visit Elenas Models for complete information and a highly recommended site to meet the girl of your dreams.

http://www.elenasmodels.com/ (http://www.elenasmodels.com/?goto=ladagirl)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 11, 2011, 10:19:19 PM
Your chances of Success

What news do you want first - the good or the bad?

The good news is that the situation for the search for fiance abroad never was more favorable than today. Thousands of men from the different countries of world dream to find Russian bride. They are prepared for much in order to meet the suitable woman: expenditures for marriage agencies and trip to Russia, the months of correspondence and phone calls, overcoming lingual and cultural difficulties, and so on.

They dream to love and to be dear and are collected to make their future wife happiest woman in the world. It is pleasant even to read such remarkable words, am I right?

The Bad news - not each woman can manage this task. I.e., you, of course, knew that the success was not guaranteed, but situation is even worse - many women have no chances (at the given moment) keep reading to learn how to raise your chances (in the next chapter).

Search for fiance abroad - this enterprise is both complex and expensive so listen to my advice: count your chances before beginning. I propose to you the simple test, which will help you , determine the probability of the successful outcome of your search.

In the left column - name of the parameter (isolated in boldface), to the right - parameter value, also, under it in the brackets a value of this quality. The sum of the collected qualities, expressed in percentages, and is probability of the successful completion of your personal marriage enterprise.

Table of the chances

Age      Value (percentage points)
18-20  (25)    
21-30  (30)   
31-35  (20)   
36-40  (5)   
41-45  (-10)   
46+    (-20)

Edit Andrew deciphered this figure matrix which didn't make sense to me until it was explained
[INSERT] These two examples not in Elena's information,

Figure (difference: Height minus weight minus 100)   

Example #1 a girl is 175 cm and weighs 63 kilos
175 -63 -100 = 12 then she is awarded 25 points for having
a slim figure in relationship to her height.

Example #2 a girl is 168 cm and 67 kilos
168 - 64 - 100 = 4 she gets 0 points for her figure
[End of Insert] back to Elenas advice for girls

Figure Matrix
11 are more (25)   
6-10            (15)   
0-5               (0)   
-5… 0           (- 15)
-6 it is more  (- 30)   



Beauty
Face beautiful  (15)   
likable             (10)   
usual                (5)   
deformed       (- 50)
Hair   very long (lower than the blades) (20)   
long (lower than the shoulders)            (15)   
average (to the shoulders)                    (0)   
short (you can see ears)    :sick0012: (- 20)

Knowledge of another language   
           Fluent, very good, fair  basic     none
Engl.       (30)    (20)         (10) (5)     (0)
Ger.        (5)   (5)          (3)  (1)     (0)
French.   (5)   (3)   (3)   (1)  (0)

Children of up to 18 years   
without the children (10)   
1 child                     (0)   
2 or more more       (-20)

As you see, the girls with the best chances are young attractive women with long hair with no children or one child who can manage
English

But you already know this don't you?
The main thing is now you have clear idea about your chances.

If your result with the minus sign - better forget about the searches for foreign happiness. Western fiancées  hunt for the Russian brides not because they Russians or know how to prepare well.

[opinion by Bill] if you are fat old ugly and have many children
then foreign men already have an inexhaustible supply of such
girls.  [end of opinion]


Some think that luck is the secret of success. Luck, astrology, etc.
Success and luck exist. But to those, who relies exclusively on luck, I would advise to play into the lottery. Relying exclusively on luck is ridiculous. Edison, said “success is 1% of inspiration and 99% of perspiration”. Meaning that hard work is the secret of success.

Searching for a marriage partner abroad is already against theories of luck. If you believe in the luck, can simply continue to hope that you will meet excellent (it can be, and foreign) prince in the bus and he will fall in love instantly in you at first glance during one excellent day.

[Insert]

Let's pick a pretty girl 31 years old, 170 cm 62 kilos with no child
and fluent English

31 years old =                               20%
Figure index = 170 - 62 - 100 = 8.  15%
Pretty =                                       10%
Fluent English =                            30%
No child =                                     10%
Short Hair                                    -20%                                                                   
                                             ___________
This girl has an decent chance         65%

[end of insert]

PLEASE NOTE THIS IS FROM THE SITE ELENA'S MODELS AND THIS CONTENT BELONGS TO THAT SITE.

Visit Elenas Models for complete information and a highly recommended site to meet the girl of your dreams.

http://www.elenasmodels.com/ (http://www.elenasmodels.com/?goto=ladagirl)
 
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: msmoby on February 11, 2011, 11:36:02 PM
Hi Beel

Thanks for taking the trouble to post this !

Having met and married someone who - according to EM - stood zip chance of 'success' ( at the time)  -
1/ 37 years, [ too, old]
2/ 16 yr old child - who had to finish Full time education
3/ spoke poor English,
4/ hair not extending down to her lower back,
5/ (miles from Ukraine ..Siberia)

....... well you get it..   

AND knowing of two of her friends who have met and married in their 50th year - I think we can say that EM might be telling us what type of woman they WANT rather than knowing about 'success'....


Over half of the FSUW - WM marriages this 'ol git knows are ones'  that EM would rate as 'highly unlikely'  :chuckle:



Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Cosmonaut on February 12, 2011, 02:47:10 AM
Good find, Bill

What I found interesting was that in the section about correspondence
http://www.zamuzh.com/book/correspond/next2.htm

The advice is suggesting that the RW should advertise herself as a Western woman and instead of her housekeeping abilities tell about her paid job and signs that "she is living a life".

They posit that Western men are attracted to Western women and the only problem with Western women is that they don´t love Western men (or rather, the men seeking a foreign bride).

Even the chosen picture on that page, a woman on a motorcycle, sends a subtle message giving the woman a more masculine context.

This advice seems to target the men who are looking for a prettier and younger woman than they could attract in the West (that is, all of us) but excluding those who are also seeking a more traditional, feminine and homely woman. Perhaps the latter kind of men are, after all, a small minority in the FSUW pursuit.

Could it be that Russian women believe that they should appear like a Western woman to attract Western men? Or perhaps that is just the experience of the matchmaker that she is propagating through the instructions.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 12, 2011, 05:06:35 AM
Hi Beel

Thanks for taking the trouble to post this !

Having met and married someone who - according to EM - stood zip chance of 'success' ( at the time)  -
1/ 37 years, [ too, old]
2/ 16 yr old child - who had to finish Full time education
3/ spoke poor English,
4/ hair not extending down to her lower back,
5/ (miles from Ukraine ..Siberia)

....... well you get it..   

AND knowing of two of her friends who have met and married in their 50th year - I think we can say that EM might be telling us what type of woman they WANT rather than knowing about 'success'....


Over half of the FSUW - WM marriages this 'ol git knows are ones'  that EM would rate as 'highly unlikely'  :chuckle:

Mrs Moby has decent hair length (below shoulders) and in
addition is both thin and beautiful. I might have messed up
her chart, I will try to fix it. In the next post (not translated
yet) 
Elena describes some advantages regarding age etc.
With more age you get more experience and to emphasize
this in letters.
Udachi

Bill
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 12, 2011, 05:14:10 AM
Good find, Bill

What I found interesting was that in the section about correspondence
http://www.zamuzh.com/book/correspond/next2.htm

The advice is suggesting that the RW should advertise herself as a Western woman and instead of her housekeeping abilities tell about her paid job and signs that "she is living a life".

They posit that Western men are attracted to Western women and the only problem with Western women is that they don´t love Western men (or rather, the men seeking a foreign bride).

Even the chosen picture on that page, a woman on a motorcycle, sends a subtle message giving the woman a more masculine context.

This advice seems to target the men who are looking for a prettier and younger woman than they could attract in the West (that is, all of us) but excluding those who are also seeking a more traditional, feminine and homely woman. Perhaps the latter kind of men are, after all, a small minority in the FSUW pursuit.

Could it be that Russian women believe that they should appear like a Western woman to attract Western men? Or perhaps that is just the experience of the matchmaker that she is propagating through the instructions.

I think that young thin and pretty is a good marketing strategy.
I think that most guys look at looks first, then start reading the
small print.  :nod:


Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: msmoby on February 12, 2011, 05:59:32 AM
Mrs Moby has decent hair length (below shoulders) and in
addition is both thin and beautiful.

Indeed, these are some 'redeeming features' ;) .. Especially considering she was have been considered 'old maid' and having the  'problem' of a teenage kid !

Thanks, as always, for demonstrating your impeccable good taste... :)

I might have messed up
her chart, I will try to fix it. In the next post (not translated
yet) 
Elena describes some advantages regarding age etc.
With more age you get more experience and to emphasize
this in letters.
Udachi

Bill

Certainly, 'older' ladies' know what they want and they aren't as desperate as certain 'experts' would have us believe ;)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 12, 2011, 06:46:26 AM
How to increase your chances

What you are today is your current version of yourself. Of course
many things you may be able to improve, if you are willing to work
at it.

But don't lie about it.

Lying about yourself is the biggest mistake you can make. Under
no circumstances should you lie about your age, language abilities,
number of children etc. Sooner or later the truth will present itself
and you will gain nothing, but there is much harm that lying may cause.   

In many countries you may violate laws, or immigration status if you present false information about yourself. Western marriage and marital harmony take honesty very seriously, and you can spoil relations with even a small untruth.

Furthermore, there are many methods to increase your chances, without resorting to this slippery lies.

If woman is ready to work on herself, then ANY girl is completely capable of raising her chances and of finding to herself a foreign husband. I know 60-year woman, who found herself a fiancée in Australia! 69 year old man, who provides well for her ,is cheerful and sexually active.

Let us look, at what you can do in order to increase your chances.

Age

The older you are, the more difficult to find a partner.

However age gives one irreplaceable advantage - experience, and you should use this advantage to the utmost. More experienced women know about men and life, and better able to use that experience to find a good man.

Do not forget to emphasize this fact in your letters.

Language proficiency

Here everything depends only on you. Language proficiency can be improved infinitely, and this solves many things. If you decided to the search for partner abroad, but you do not know language  tomorrow you can sign up for courses.

If there is no money to the courses - you will purchase self-teacher and audiotapes  and be occupied as the minimum an hour during the day. Do not put aside the study of language thinking that first you will find the perfect man then you will learn

Western men search for the women, who ALREADY speak in the foreign language.

In the second place, if you do not know language, then as you generally do intend to communicate? Through the translator?
I guarantee - you will not be able to conquer his heart, through the translator. This is why translators (in the marriage agencies this usually a woman) work at times for the real half kopeck coins -
they can meet many attractive foreigners and are capable of charming almost any man (maybe your man away from you).
[note Bill added the bold, it was my understanding of her implication]

One of my friends, finished department of foreign languages, and she mentioned, that almost all her girl classmates now live abroad. She  explained that they all married foreigners.

She was puzzled, by this. “You understand, half of them, well, they were nothing special, a little heavy, plain. I do not understand, what these Americans saw in these girls!”

It was no miracle. The girls were a suitable age plus language proficiency plus the absence of children - and even with the average appearance and qualities they have very decent chances.

In 1 to 1 1/2 years of the intensive preparation you can also speak well in the English. They are necessary only desire and hard work  but consider what prize you can obtain at the end! Perhaps the happiness of your entire life will only cost one year of hard work?

Appearance


Following criterion - Your appearance. You will say: I am maybe not perfect! but what God gave, I shouldn't alter”. And you will be wrong!

Certainly, to radically change appearance is possible only by series of the expensive plastic operations, but you can manage, with some hard work to improve yourself, without them.

A man initially sees only your photograph. You need to have a good photograph (In more detail about how to make a good photograph, in the following chapter.) It is later, when your correspondence blooms by your personality, your appearance it will no longer play such a decisive role - man will judge you by your letters. 

No matter how it may seem strange to you- men focus enormous attention on the length of hair. To woman with the long hair to will considerably draw the attention of a man. For the men (and not only foreign!) long hair indicates femininity. But this is precisely what Western women refuse to do! to grow long hair. Grow long hair and let the Western women drive a man into your arms.
[Bill rewrote this but I think accurately describing what she was trying to say]

Figure

What to do with your figure? In some of degree a good photograph can mask some flaws, but what is to be done with the personal encounter? I will say to you honestly - foreigners do not love fat girls. (Possibly, in Turkey and in other such countries) they do still do but is that what you seek?

Solution - to grow thin. Occupied yourself with sport,  eat healthier food. I do understand, this is easier said than done but I did say that this will be easy? Eat more than vegetables, you will reduce the consumption of bread, especially white (by the way, in the West bread in practice they do not eat (as much bread), Salads, the second course and even soups eat without the bread); macaronis and potato you must replace with rice or salads without oil; forego sugar (do you realize, how many calories in a cup of tea with two spoons of sugar!).

If you fast for one day per week you can clean out your system and think of the money you can save and the extra free time from cooking and cleaning of dishes one of the days of week not at all there is - and organism is cleaned, and money saved, and time free remains! It is not necessary to search for radical diets - simply eating a little less food and walk without stopping to rest on the way home (exercise by walking home instead of leisure trek home).

Listen to language cassettes and take a walk into the nearest park. You can do this. Focus your mind, do not forget, why you are doing all of this.

Example from the life. Being the mother of two children, after the second pregnancy and I encountered the problem of excess weight, which previously I never had a problem with. I was confronted with a dilemma either lose weight or buy a new wardrobe. 

Solution? I simply reduced portions in half - and began to half the  food than I had became accustomed. In my view, this is the best in the world diet - it is possible to eat everything, anything, all my favorite dishes, and to continue to grow thin!

Result - I according to this experience know that there is a sure way to lose weight - simply to eat less.

Make a strategy to ensure to you the optimum use of your chances, but do not forget also about the work on an increase your own potential.

PLEASE NOTE THIS IS FROM THE SITE ELENA'S MODELS AND THIS CONTENT BELONGS TO THAT SITE.

Visit Elenas Models for complete information and a highly recommended site to meet the girl of your dreams.

http://www.elenasmodels.com/ (http://www.elenasmodels.com/?goto=ladagirl)
 
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 12, 2011, 07:17:48 AM
STRATEGY OF THE SUCCESS

Formulate your requirements

Begin with a list of what you want to attain. In what country (countries) you would want to live?

What qualities must your future husband have? Try to imagine to
these things.

Take the clean sheet of paper and make a list of his qualities,
such as age, appearance, nature, profession, material position, family status and so forth you will divide sheet into 2 columns and in one name “necessary”, and another - “it is desirable”.

Introduce into these 2 columns your requirements for your future husband - those, which are vital requirements, and those, which you could live without. Compose final list. Now you know, what you want and now can form a plan to get these this kind of man.

I know that this may seem a little cold, but THIS LIST MUST BE MADE!!!

I will explain, why.

The usual objection against the formulation of requirements in the written form: “I already know what I want”. To write down its requirements - this is like getting a compass and a map, leaving to go shopping in a store where you already know the path.

To search without the clearly formulated requirements can be compared with shopping without the specific purpose. Often we buy the pleased thing, and only at home we reveal that it matches with nothing else in our closet. [note Bill guessed at this analogy it could be I got it wrong]

If you do not have clearly formulated purpose, on you any man can produce impression, and not always this there will be the suitable partner.

PLEASE NOTE THIS IS FROM THE SITE ELENA'S MODELS AND THIS CONTENT BELONGS TO THAT SITE.

Visit Elenas Models for complete information and a highly recommended site to meet the girl of your dreams.

http://www.elenasmodels.com/ (http://www.elenasmodels.com/?goto=ladagirl)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 12, 2011, 07:48:16 AM
Svetlana, 34 years (Ekaterinburg):

I did not make written list of the kind of man I was seeking. Certainly, I wanted he to be strong, handsome, clever and to be able  provide for me. Without a list I didn't have direction. It was a mistakes! When exchanging the first letters, I was so happy, that I answered them all. One young fellow -5 years younger me - wrote this remarkable letter, and, although he did not meet my requirements, a lively correspondence commenced. He frequently called me, and we for a long time communicated. He greatly dreamed about our encounter, and although for me it was only friend, eventually I disappointed him because I was not interested in marriage with him. Another young person was my age, and our acquaintance began from the fact that it sent to me the enormous, completely luxurious bouquet of roses. I was, of course, delighted to receive them, so I answered his letters. He was shorter than me, plain appearance and he worked as mechanic in the garage.

I had a high education and we were not a match. But we also began exchanging letters. I was writing to 11 men. When through the pair of months new letters suddenly gushed out in flow, I simply could not answer them also because I was spending time exchanging letters with men who were not my match.

As a result I wasted a half a year the correspondences with my first correspondents, none of them were my marriage partner. I looked again through the letters, which I did not answer, and it found there as many interesting and attractive men! I wrote to several, but majority did not answer, but those, who answered, wrote that they already made their selection and that I answered too late. For sure, if I clearly represented from the very beginning, what I want, I would know how to avoid this situation.

When you clearly visualize your purpose, to you it to much more easily reach. You can immediately note that the man to you does not approach, and not to spend time on men who don't meet your requirements for correspondence.

If man is missing some key requirement you immediately will see, what is not sufficient, and can ask it about this, before spending time and energy. The concept “I will immediately feel that this my fate” is good for those, who rely on the miracle.

If already you are so clever in order to search for partner for the marriage further from the Russian expanses, hardly you will be so foolish in order to hope for Illumination of things that don't exist.

Having a list of requirements helps focus your activity on men who can be your match.

The presence of purpose by itself creates the desire to act, it stimulates your activity. Having the clear idea of your man in your head, you unconsciously will begin to act so as to be pleased to precisely this man.

When you begin to obtain letters, the first time this can cause the state of light euphoria. You will be so they are happy, that you will begin to answer all contract. The flow of letters suddenly grows explosively by a certain time, and if you do not manage it, there will not be sufficient time even to that in order to simply to read the incoming letters.

Many of the letters obtained by you will be touching, and it will be wanted to answer positively you, even if man is clearly not your ideal. DO NOT MAKE THIS MISTAKE! The search for the partner through the marriage agency that is remarkable, that you can find precisely the dear person, who fits your requirements.

Do this and you will find your man

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Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: mendeleyev on February 12, 2011, 10:17:22 AM
Outstanding!  tiphat
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 12, 2011, 10:51:07 AM
Begin Sifting Immediately

If man clearly does not fit your requirements do not enter into the unnecessary correspondence. This might seem unkind, but in reality it is worse to give the man hope for a relationship that can not exist.

Have the courage to tell the truth - that the man is too old for you, or that he is insufficient in some other respect; your sincere answer will help it to correct his search and to write the women who would be a better match for him.

Do not tell men that you already found someone. This can backfire, they can turn to the agency with the complaint, and those will be are forced to remove your data: not one honest agency wants to have in its data base information women, who already found their  other half, this could hurt the reputation of agency. Be firm be and honest.

So what should you say to him? that you are not attracted to him?
It is understandable that you do not wish to offend another person.

Best answer in that case:

“You, of course, in many respects remarkable man, and I are very grateful for your attention. I have exact requirements for my future partner, and, unfortunately, you are not a fit. I desire success in your search”.Let the man know if you do not consider him to be a suitable match. Don't keep his profile information.

The habit of answering all messages, will be useful when you move to the West. Not one man will take offence, on the contrary, you even you will obtain several letters with the appreciation for your negative answer!      [ :chuckle: Bill doesn't believe Elena here except that yes some men will thank them for rejection ]

In this way you can bring numerous friends, and generally, never it will interfere with having a pair of tens of people, which desire success for you.

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Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 14, 2011, 10:36:37 AM
Outstanding!  tiphat

Thanks Mendy :-)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 14, 2011, 10:46:18 AM
If a man writes you it is necessary to answer his letters immediately, without procrastinating. Russian life is difficult, and there may be several reasons to delay, however if you postpone writing him for another month because of difficulties it indicates the following for a western man:

a) disrespect;
b) neglect;
c) disinterest.

To a Western man this is incomprehensible, he is accustomed to having an answer from an email within hours from his other correspondence. To wait weeks or longer he can not fathom.

If your mail comes to the address of marriage agency, you must ring there at a minimum of once a week. Do not allow your letters to sit there for weeks. Answering letters late is of little benefit as you must understand that you are not the only girl in Russia.

Rarely man sends the letter to only one girl, usually as the minimum 4-5. If another girl answers his letters immediately and you postpone answering him what girl will he build a future with?

Answer your letters promptly and you will get your foreign husband.


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Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 14, 2011, 11:18:51 AM
Use Email

Using email, you obtain enormous advantage over other women:

Your relations with the men will be developed 10 times more rapidly; You will appear educated and contemporary;
100% of men in America have computer in their homes
(in Europe and Australia 99,9%) - you will be connected with the best candidates.

You can go to the Internet- cafe, on the main post office or in the public library or find from advertisements in newspapers, you will be sure find suitable access to the internet.

In order to enjoy all the advantages of email, you need to have your own electronic address.

There are nearly unlimited number of Internet service providers, that offer free mailboxes. Most popular of them - mail.ru, exists also many regional providers (for example, mail.ur.ru - for the Urals).

You can also use any foreign service - Hotmail, Yahoo, Gmail and others - and I would recommend to use their services, because many western providers place blocks on the free Russian services - since they are often the source of spam (unasked unwanted  advertisement).

If you do not know English, then it is probably necessary to use Russian services.

Register your mailbox and check it independently, this will cheaper than obtain the letters through the electronic mail of marriage agency. You will ask your Russian Agency to give your personal electronic address for the sending of letters or to send to you letters to your mailbox on the arrival.

The guarantee of services of email - bread for the agency, and possibly, they greatly will not want this to make. Try to register electronic mailbox BEFORE the rotation into the agency, since it will be easier insist on these conditions.

Naturally, to answer the communications, obtained on the electronic mail, is must also in proper time - it is desirable during the same day. If this is not possible, you should explain in your first letter information about how frequently you check your mail so that the man will know when he can expect your answer. In principle, of answering the letters once a week is completely acceptable, but then your letter must be more meaningful. Not a one or two sentences.

Write it inadvance, copy on to diskette and remember to include small additions for each new man - answers to his questions or brief commentary to any theme from his letter in order to make it a more  personal message.

You will should investigate the possibility of the purchase of computer for your home. If you have a telephone, you can be connected to the Internet independently. The purchase of computer can seem by superfluous luxury, but indeed you do not consider superfluous luxury the purchase of a new winter coat or winter boots - you consider that these things ARE NECESSARY to you. So here, possibly, if you spend the money on a computer instead of new winter clothing, the following year maybe you will be in California where winter clothing is not needed. Spend your money ON YOURSELF, but not in Russia. You have planned on moving away before beginning this project.

A computer will help with writing of letters. To easily change or edit or personalize an already existing letter how to write to a new man- this will save to you time and energy, it will be easier to correspond  with a larger number of men, and to make the best selection.

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Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 16, 2011, 05:30:07 AM
The next section of talks about methods of search,
It is a little outdated and I am going to skip on to
the next section.

If you want to read more about it and translate it
read about it here http://www.zamuzh.com/book/variants/next3.htm

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 16, 2011, 05:43:08 AM
HOW TO MAKE A GOOD PHOTO

Your photo - it's what man looks first and above all other things. First and foremost a man pays attention to your photo. Whether we like it or not - Men choose with their eyes.

If you have a good picture - it's 90% success rate. You can be the owner of the title of "Miss Universe", but with a bad photograph of you have virtually no chance. Conversely, a girl with quite ordinary appearance, but with some nice photos, receive hundreds of letters.

At the first stage of initial choice of a man can not appreciate your charm or intelligence, what he sees - is your photo.

Most agencies require a minimum of two pictures: the portrait and full-length. Pay special attention to the portrait: your head in the photo must be full. "Cut off" their heads look bad, even if your face is present in the photo entirely. The same applies to photos in full-length - "cut" legs do not add to your appeal - and as you probably know, men are not indifferent to the feet. This is especially true with regard to foreign men - in the West women mostly wear pants and you should not miss this wonderful chance to add a couple points in your favor.

There are a number of women who, do not send pictures, because "I'm not photogenic, or I would rather see in real life." Forget this  possibility, because no man will bother to find out. Do they think that a man will travel thousands of miles and spend thousands of dollars to see a mysterious bride without a photo?

Following my instructions, you can get pictures, which drive a men crazy, even if you're not one of those lucky photogenic girls who turn every mans head.

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Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 16, 2011, 06:00:54 AM
Where to take photos

It is important that photos are taken by a professional. Many women are send photos taken at home with friends and the camera, with automatic flash - with a dreadful red eyes and a flat face of the size of a pinhead, that does not make out a nose, no eyes, no eyebrows or features, the only thing worse is a Polaroid photo.

With these pictures they're going to find a groom? You want your picture to impress the men, do not forget that this is what you are looking for a man. Your appeal should be obvious, and not requiring  an examination with a magnifying glass to see you.

Most agencies working using the Internet. Men are browsing the photos on the screen and choose the women whom with they like her appearance. The computer screen has severe limitations, and uses only 216 colors - in real life there are more than 60,000.

In addition, the greater the variety of colors and tones in the photograph, the more memory it takes. Agency seeks to limit memory usage and "shrink" pictures, which naturally affects the quality of the image. The size of your photo on the screen is approximately 2 to 3 centimeters, and the quality of the original photo is of crucial importance - the right light and exposure affect the purity of colors.

Professional work will also help to hide minor imperfections such as pimples and wrinkles.

How to find a good photographer? Ask for advice from friends and colleagues, review the ads in newspapers. Selecting a photographer simply because it is in easy proximity to home a shop may result in the loss of time and money, not counting the upset feelings.

If none of your friends can not recommend a high quality service, try calling the dating agency - they usually know a good photographer.

When you find a suitable photographer, look at his work. Photos should resemble portraits like the centerfold on the cover of magazines. If the woman in the photo looks unnatural and hard, looking for another photographer. A true master will be able to make a pretty from an ugly one, and a pretty girl into beautiful,
and a beautiful girl into a dream girl.

Usually you have to sign up for filming in advance, and it will take up to several hours. The photographer has to make at least 15 - 20 shots to make a good choice.

Any of the pictures on the cover of the magazine was selected from hundreds of photos - do not expect that with 2-3 clicks you can get a dream photo!

A good photographer will cost you dearly, but a successful photo is the key to success .

Do not skimp on money to make good photographs.

I will honestly tell you - a good photo is not even the beginning!

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Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: andrewfi on February 16, 2011, 06:42:14 AM
Bill, the bit about sizes is as follows:
Quote
NOTE I Haven't figured this out
Figure (difference: increase is minus weight minus 100)   
11 are more (25)   
6-10            (15)   
0-5               (0)   
-5… 0           (- 15)
-6 it is more  (- 30)   

Height in centimeters-weight in kilos-100 = 'figure'
So, we can see that the greater the ratio between height and weight the more 'attractive' a woman is perceived. For many people, particularly Americans this is obviously true. In the US we can see that slenderness is, in and of itself, a standard of attractiveness. One can have a face like a bag of spanners but if not fat then one will be seen as attractive for no other reason than the lack of avoirdupois.

So, to take a real world example, ex girlfriend:
(171-57)-100= 14
giving an index figure of 14 and a points value of 25


Average American woman (http://usgovinfo.about.com/od/healthcare/a/tallbutfat.htm)

(163-75)-100= -12
giving an index figure of -12 and a points value of -30

Average Russian woman (http://hasid.livejournal.com/559752.html)

(168-69)-100= -1
giving an index figure of -1 and a points value of -15

In truth though, not such a huge difference between the two groups as 'averages'. USAians have that outrider of huger obese people that shifts things along a tad. ;)

Hope that helps.

PS thanks Bill.
I doubt that there is anything in there that a sensible bloke would not suggest to a friend seeking a foreign husband, or on a domestic dating site but there are things that, if they knew, I am sure some posters here might object to.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: RG on February 16, 2011, 09:02:55 AM
While I have no experience with the site/agency and it's pay per letter based, here's a fairly extensive list of articles and "advice" for both men and women; some of it reasonably good if you want to poke through it.
http://www.chanceforlove.com/archives/content/full/43
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 16, 2011, 11:54:37 AM
While I have no experience with the site/agency and it's pay per letter based, here's a fairly extensive list of articles and "advice" for both men and women; some of it reasonably good if you want to poke through it.
http://www.chanceforlove.com/archives/content/full/43

Do you know how to access the Russian language part of the
agency?
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 16, 2011, 12:00:22 PM
Bill, the bit about sizes is as follows:
Quote
NOTE I Haven't figured this out
Figure (difference: increase is minus weight minus 100)   
11 are more (25)   
6-10            (15)   
0-5               (0)   
-5… 0           (- 15)
-6 it is more  (- 30)   

Height in centimeters-weight in kilos-100 = 'figure'
So, we can see that the greater the ratio between height and weight the more 'attractive' a woman is perceived. For many people, particularly Americans this is obviously true. In the US we can see that slenderness is, in and of itself, a standard of attractiveness. One can have a face like a bag of spanners but if not fat then one will be seen as attractive for no other reason than the lack of avoirdupois.

So, to take a real world example, ex girlfriend:
(171-57)-100= 14
giving an index figure of 14 and a points value of 25


Average American woman (http://usgovinfo.about.com/od/healthcare/a/tallbutfat.htm)

(163-75)-100= -12
giving an index figure of -12 and a points value of -30

Average Russian woman (http://hasid.livejournal.com/559752.html)

(168-69)-100= -1
giving an index figure of -1 and a points value of -15

In truth though, not such a huge difference between the two groups as 'averages'. USAians have that outrider of huger obese people that shifts things along a tad. ;)

Hope that helps.

PS thanks Bill.
I doubt that there is anything in there that a sensible bloke would not suggest to a friend seeking a foreign husband, or on a domestic dating site but there are things that, if they knew, I am sure some posters here might object to.

Andrew thank you for the help clearing up the figure matrix

There are a few politically incorrect things recommended by
Elena that would put the feminists panties in a a wad for sure,
however if the goal is to reel in a man then the advice is fairly
good.

Thanks again,

Bill 

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: andrewfi on February 16, 2011, 12:08:45 PM
Bill, while I am sure that some women and WIGs would find stuff to object about I confess I was more thinking of some of the men here.  :ROFL:
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: RG on February 16, 2011, 12:37:40 PM
While I have no experience with the site/agency and it's pay per letter based, here's a fairly extensive list of articles and "advice" for both men and women; some of it reasonably good if you want to poke through it.
http://www.chanceforlove.com/archives/content/full/43

Do you know how to access the Russian language part of the
agency?

Sorry Bill, I don't.  Zero experience with them; I had found and bookmarked the link as something of general interest when i first found it, then looked at the 'agency side' of it and quickly discounted it as a site that I wanted to use.  I believe they are owned by 'global ladies,' and i believe both have had their fair share of negatives reported through various mechanisms.  YMMV, but I found at least some of the articles interesting, if not rocket science for the most part.  ???
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 16, 2011, 02:07:47 PM
Bill, while I am sure that some women and WIGs would find stuff to object about I confess I was more thinking of some of the men here.  :ROFL:

A few of the pedestal preservation crowd might suffer a bout of
the flux  :laugh:
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: andrewfi on February 16, 2011, 03:10:27 PM

A few of the pedestal preservation crowd might suffer a bout of
the flux  :laugh:

Is the flux similar to the vapours?
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 16, 2011, 03:30:07 PM

A few of the pedestal preservation crowd might suffer a bout of
the flux  :laugh:

Is the flux similar to the vapours?

Yes very similar, break out the leaches !
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 17, 2011, 10:17:38 AM
HOW TO MAKE A GOOD PHOTO

Appearance as a whole

The key word to describe your appearance for the shoot - natural . You have to look relaxed and unstressed.

Your photo should give the impression of openness, spirituality and sexuality, availability, and at the same time, confidence and self-esteem. In general, the girl who gets the most letters is the girl whose eyes look like a magazine centerfold- a bit mysterious and alluring.
( Examples here http://www.zamuzh.com/book/photos/example.htm)

A very beautiful girl, looking arrogant, gets only a few letters. You should look welcoming and friendly - and available . You want to appear approachable to a man who might come up to you not worry that you might bite.

[emoticons added by Bill]
 :o  :o  :o  :o  :o  :o  :o
Virtually all men who come to marriage agencies, are experiencing some difficulty in communicating with the opposite sex (this does not mean he has mental defects, just that these men are more shy).

If a girl looks unapproachable or stuck up, they may not even try to contact her.

Practice at home before a mirror (I'm serious!).  Slightly parted lips give the necessary appearance sexuality .
[insert it certainly works for 2tallbill]

Also a good post gets the girl with dazzling smiles in 32 teeth. " If you are not a photo model a dazzling smile make him more attracted to you. Even a quite ordinary girl with an open smile and high-quality make-up can compete with the photo models for a man.

Some women try to claim that "their smile is not attractive"
IT IS NOT TRUE! A smile comes to anyone, but it must be sincere and not tortured. Think of something cute and funny, think about someone who you love - a baby, your mom, or at least about the last party with friends. If you can not "dazzling" smile, try half-smile ("Mona Lisa Smile"), but don't force it, you can make a pleasant smile, practice.

Relax, the photographer is not your next meal. It would be better if you tell him about the purpose of shooting. Maybe you'll feel a little embarrassed talking about it - but it is true, and you want the photographer to understand what you want. Knowing the purpose of the shooting, it will be easier to choose the right moment, when you look best.

Remember - looking at the photo, a man tries to guess your character and personality. If you look friendly and fun in the photo, he decides that in life you are fun and friendly. If you look hard and distant (like most of us at the sight of the camera!) - He decides that you a pessimist or a worrier.

And you have to look young, or at least youthful. Men go crazy for 40-year old woman with her hair below the shoulders, while a young girl with a high hairdo does not excite much interest in them.

Absolutely, regardless of your actual physical age - try to look younger .

Absolutely necessary sex appeal : bare arms and shoulders, chest, legs. I've seen photos of women who were not beauties, but that they had received dozens of letters - just because they looked very sexy.

Importance of sexual attraction photos, I realized when one of the clients on the program of individual search sent us a list of sites with photos of women he found very beautiful. He was very educated, rich and a very intelligent man, and I did not even think that he has been viewing the photos of female models on the Internet. His list had about 100 addresses! Most of the photos were amazingly sexy.


Whether we like it or not, men are very simple and ask themselves: "would I like to have sex with that woman?" If the answer is
"Yes" , then the woman is attractive, if the answer is "No , then
she is not attractive. The decision is not made in the thinking part of his brain, it is made from the part where men used to dwell in caves. 

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Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 18, 2011, 08:00:30 AM
HOW TO MAKE A GOOD PHOTO

Makeup


Even if you do not normally use makeup, use makeup for the shoot. In any of the women's magazines you'll find a bunch of tips on the rules applying makeup, so I will focus only on the specific photo for a marriage directory.

To get a good photo of cosmetics should be used, but in the photo you want to look as though no make up is used at all. This is called "the natural look",  using make-up in pale and pastel shades.

Even if you have a perfect complexion, apply foundation, otherwise the picture will look like your skin is covered with reddish spots. Apply a layer of powder to avoid excessive light, do not go too far, the view should be natural, not like a porcelain doll.

The latest trend in fashion makeup - foundation to "shine", giving the light shine skin, which is used up to the neck

Use a shade of brown or gray tones, refrain from bright blue, purple or pink. Smudge eyeliner (thick black lines around the eyes)

Although the eye to increase the color be sure - professionals do eyeliner pencil in eye color (dark gray or brown) and then shade with shades of a slightly lighter shade.

Mascaras can and must be used, it will give you the look and expressive depth. Do not use colored ink - blue or green, plain black or dark brown is just right.

Eyebrows to shoot to put in order. They should not be too thick or thin, and better do it in a beauty salon, this procedure is expensive. Move them a little bit, you can use for this is not a pencil, and shadows of the right color.

A bit of blush apricot or brown tint, imposed on the cheekbones, the face will give the necessary relief - if your face is round, then blush imposed under cheekbones.

Be sure you use a pencil to outline lips. Full lips do not require a reduction - in the West stars spend thousands of dollars for the operations to have full lips. Full lips look more sexy.

Recently, in one of the fashion magazines I read an opinion that is too full lips does not happen! Too thin lips can be corrected with pencil and lipstick.

Use lipstick red, brown or dark-pink hue. Do not use the purple and crimson hues, and bright lipstick with mother of pearl. Dark lipstick ages.

Consult a beautician for your photo shoot.

The qualitative makeup it will take 1-2 hours. Take advantage of the make-up, if you can afford it. (I am myself a few times was to shoot for magazines and television, and makeup artists to work - just some kind of miracle in my life had such huge eyes! "When asked how this they do, the answer was "Working with Color." At the same time, when looking at the photo does not appear overly made up.

So if you can not afford the services of a qualified makeup artist, is guided by photographs on the cover of women's magazines such as "Cosmopolitan" - all-girl models, tons of makeup, but you would not say, right?

In general, it would be nice to experiment with makeup before the meet for filming. Of course, you basically know what you are going and what not - try out different makeup options proposed in the fashion magazine and see that you like.

Importantly - make-up in any case should not age. 's eyes - to increase as much as possible, lips - sexy and plump skin - smooth and healthy color: this is what we should strive.

 
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on March 02, 2011, 09:43:36 PM
HOW TO MAKE A GOOD PHOTO

5. Hairstyle

Like the makeup, hairstyle requires a lot of attention, but it should not cause the feeling that you spent half a day in a salon.

Hair must be clean and shiny. If you dye your hair, do it just before the shooting, the roots need to be the same color as your hair. Avoid unnatural or day glow colors, such as platinum or bright red.

If you have long hair, leave it down and loose. Straight hair is now in vogue. Short hair should be neatly trimmed and styled.

NO PONY TAILS !

If you have short hair and perming, hair should not "stand straight up." Smooth your hair with gel or mousse. Generally, men do not like short hair. They definitely prefer long. So if your hair is shorter than shoulder length, it makes sense to try to disguise it. Silk scarf on his head (no hat or cap!)

Hairstyles from short hair with a perm will not bring you a man. It is a symbol of "middle age", as most men in the new marriage dream of a new life and a second youth. On the contrary - a scarf on my head gives shade "mystery." Generally, if you're serious about finding a husband - GROW YOUR HAIR LONG.

Bring a comb, curling gear and hairspray to the photo shoot - just in case.


Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on March 02, 2011, 09:57:53 PM
HOW TO MAKE A GOOD PHOTO

6. Clothing

Clothes for filming should be simple, feminine and stylish.

The absolute leader in the fight for male attention - a bathing suit . These pictures look sexy and at the same time quite decent. If you have the figure for it, be sure to make a picture in a bathing suit! The agency rarely get such photos, and increased attention from men is guaranteed.

If you're worried about the problem areas (cellulite on the thighs, etc.), cover them with a  sarong - the West, most women on the beaches enjoy sarong. A sarong can be any suitable color beautiful scarf, tying it at the waist - Fold scarf in half, if you want to make a "skirt"  smaller. Another option - the top of a bathing suit and shorts.Naturally, you'll need, and photos of yourself in clothes.

An "evening" dress with bare shoulders (very exciting for a man), dresses , knee-shirts (show your belly button) in conjunction with shorts or a mini-skirt.

If you need to hide figure flaws, use dark tones, but still leave open arms, shoulders and legs.

Do not make the photos in underwear, dressing gowns, negligees and so on - it looks vulgar. Avoid, bows and frills on blouses - this is too old-fashioned, simple T-shirt, tight across the chest and opens his arms and shoulders will look better.

Expensive fashionable clothes won't attract a man. Men are indifferent to designer labels - it is important that in the photo they could see your face and figure .

Avoid turtlenecks, sweaters, jogging suits, jackets and coats. Coat of natural long-haired fur can give your appearance an exotic, but if there is no need to hide figure flaws, it is not a winning option.

Seek to emphasize the advantages of your figure and hide any flaws . Select clothes that in which you can feel natural.

Color: preferably the main range - white, red, black, blue, pink. Definitely avoid the day glow fluorescent shades of yellow, orange or green.

You probably know what colors show accentuate you. Try to pick colors that match the color of your eyes: blue-eyed girl in the blue dress would look like the photo better than the brown. Shoes are best in white or red - it gives your appearance elegance and style. Pantyhose is best to choose beige, the color of the skin - in the photo, they look much more enticing than black.

Take a variety of shots - Simple, like jeans and t-shirts, and elegant, like an evening dress. This is very useful - to have images in different clothes, most men say: "I am looking for a woman who is equally comfortable feels like wearing jeans in the day, and in evening dress to the opera."

Minimum recommendation of attire for the shoot:

Swimsuit (bikini if you have a good figure, one piece otherwise);
A dress (evening or easier) and shoes / sandals heels;
T-shirt and shorts or a mini-skirt (long skirt with a slit )
Do not forget that you need pictures, not only for the agency, but also to send the men that you write - and they must be different!

In addition to the professional photos, be nice to do some amateur - men are often asked to submit amateur pictures where you look "natural." Of course, for the amateur photo you have to prepare as well as for the professional " (makeup, hair, clothes and so on). The difference - amateur pics you do on the street or at home.

 
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on March 02, 2011, 10:03:31 PM
HOW TO MAKE A GOOD PHOTO
7. Shoes

High-heel sandals, shoes or boots are preferred. Avoid high platforms

In-general, in terms of shoes, the classic "look" - is the win-win situation.

[Note this section is short in part because I had no idea of the specific terms
and phrases that were used so rather than get it totally wrong I shortened it.]
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: msmoby on March 03, 2011, 01:37:39 AM
Virtually all men who come to marriage agencies, are experiencing some difficulty in communicating with the opposite sex[/size] (this does not mean he has mental defects, just that these men are more shy).

THAT old chestnut AGAIN ?! ;)


Whether we like it or not, men are very simple and ask themselves: "would I like to have sex with that woman?" If the answer is
"Yes" , then the woman is attractive, if the answer is "No , then
she is not attractive. The decision is not made in the thinking part of his brain, it is made from the part where men used to dwell in caves. 



Beel, I'm so glad you've found and posted this...

:ROFL:

So why did this footnote need to stay ?


Visit Elenas Models for complete information and a highly recommended site to meet the girl of your dreams. [/size]
http://www.elenasmodels_funny_advice.com/
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on March 03, 2011, 11:42:10 AM

Whether we like it or not, men are very simple and ask themselves: "would I like to have sex with that woman?" If the answer is
"Yes" , then the woman is attractive, if the answer is "No , then
she is not attractive. The decision is not made in the thinking part of his brain, it is made from the part where men used to dwell in caves. 



Beel, I'm so glad you've found and posted this...

:ROFL:

So why did this footnote need to stay ?


Visit Elenas Models for complete information and a highly recommended site to meet the girl of your dreams. [/size]
http://www.elenasmodels.com/ (http://www.elenasmodels.com/?goto=ladagirl)

Moby, you might have busted me, I paraphrased the caveman part.
She said something like the primitive non thinking part of a mans
mind and I just shortened / spiced it up to the cave dweller part.

One thing about Elena, she isn't shy about her opinions and I am
not so sure that she isn't correct in looking at men as the somewhat
simple beasts that we are  ;D
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: andrewfi on March 03, 2011, 03:31:36 PM
Bill, I am sure that you are right.
Problem is that some of we 'simple beasts' really do not like to be told this.

Of course, the document that you are sharing was designed for a different gender of simple beast and thus is unlikely to sit well with simple beasts of a different gender.

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: msmoby on March 04, 2011, 03:30:56 AM
It gave 'simple beasts' of both genders a good laugh .. if only our throats weren't so sore..

May be andrewfi can 'identify' with it better
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on March 04, 2011, 03:40:53 AM
It gave 'simple beasts' of both genders a good laugh .. if only our throats weren't so sore..

May be andrewfi can 'identify' with it better

You are doing the bull dog thing again,

No worries, I am going to be busy tomorrow but will try to translate more
soon,

Udachi

Bill
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on March 04, 2011, 03:46:36 AM
Bill, I am sure that you are right.
Problem is that some of we 'simple beasts' really do not like to be told this.

Of course, the document that you are sharing was designed for a different gender of simple beast and thus is unlikely to sit well with simple beasts of a different gender.

I doubt that Elena thought that many men would read what she wrote. Myself, I don't
worry very much about such things. There is a bit of blowing sunshine up the skirts on
both sides of the agencies, I thought that it might prove interesting to hear what the
girls are told.

Udachi

Bill
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: msmoby on March 04, 2011, 03:57:57 AM
It gave 'simple beasts' of both genders a good laugh .. 

May be andrewfi can 'identify' with it better

You are doing the bull dog thing again,

No.. I'm simply responding to andrewfi's 'witty justification and explanations'...   :coffeeread:


Looking forward to the next instalment  :popcorn:

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on March 04, 2011, 09:33:18 AM
Looking forward to the next instalment  :popcorn:

Closno
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: mervin on March 06, 2011, 04:26:14 AM
Bill, nice to see they gave you a promotion around here! :) Long time no talk as well. :)

As usual, I didn't read all the replies in the thread, but I've got a few quick opinions to offer. First, I keep in touch with a handful of agency girls I've met in past trips to Ukraine on facebook.  One of them in particular worked for an AFA and Anastasia agency in Poltava and she recently married a man from Copenhagen.  She and I talk a few times per week, so now that you started this thread I'm going to quiz her about this topic and see what she says.

I can however, tell you one reoccurring theme hear from several of female Ukrainian friends - which is the fact that they almost all prefer European men to American's.  However, the main reason for this has to do with location, not a bad opinion of American men. It's just a fact of life that a lot of women in the FSU want to find a man who is closer to their home country.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: msmoby on March 06, 2011, 04:40:27 AM
Hi Mervin

I'm afraid many FSU ladies *I* know wouldn't agree with your opinion... The US was THE most popular place to seek a partner..  why would it's distance not have been a 'concern' then, but it is now ?! ....

Sorry, but to be blunt .. many of the guys writing to FSU ladies and some of the idiots that do get on the plane - expecting to 'conquer all'  and have women falling at their fit 'begging to be flown out of 'poverty'' have a LOT to do with a more jaded viewpoint .

WHO is to blame for that?.. Fellow American nationals who just want these guys green-backs...

Now my response is also over-generalised but it is an all too often quoted 'reason'. :(


Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Rasputin on March 06, 2011, 09:05:36 AM
It's just a fact of life that a lot of women in the FSU want to find a man who is closer to their home country.

I am sure, most would prefer finding a good man inside their home country as well  tiphat My wife, for one, wasn't looking for a Canadian, she wasn't even looking for a foreigner, but she met me and the rest is history  :-X
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: msmoby on March 06, 2011, 11:11:24 AM
many of the guys writing to FSU ladies and some of the idiots that do get on the plane - expecting to 'conquer all'  and have women falling at their fit FEET


I wish we could edit our spelling howlers for up to 24 hours !
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on March 06, 2011, 11:15:14 AM
Bill, nice to see they gave you a promotion around here! :) Long time no talk as well. :)


The work sucks but the pay is excellent. The free rides on the company jet is
really cool because of my long legs.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on March 06, 2011, 11:55:22 AM
HOW TO MAKE A GOOD PHOTO

8. Posture

Pose for photos should be above all else nice and natural.

A very good look at the photos in semi profile (face turned slightly away from the camera, somewhere in the neighborhood of 15-20 degrees), but if you have a
big honking nose (Bill added honking), it is best to shoot directly from the front.

Photo in full length is definitely better to do sitting on a tall stool or from the floor -
but not while standing!

Photographs taken standing up, usually look unnatural - there is no place to put your hands, it is unclear how to put his feet, and so on. To fit in the photo in full length with
legs while sitting, and best of all on the floor.

Successful poses:
sitting on the floor, facing the camera;
sitting on a chair or on the stairs, legs crossed, facing the camera;
sitting, the body sideways to the camera, hugging legs and either facing the camera
or slightly looking away.

See examples here http://www.zamuzh.com/book/photos/example.htm


Some examples of sucessful photos
1. full length swim suit
2. a little belly
3. a little neck
4. sitting or standing but show movement or action
5. mmmmmmm (added by Bill) Legs
6. sitting on the floor (works for Bill too)
7. Portrait
8. Smile with all 32 teeth
9. Semi profile

There are no ugly women only bad photos.

http://www.zamuzh.com/book/photos/example.htm

Please note that 2tallbill is not fluent in Russian and makes mistakes.
This information belongs to Elena's Models and you can see their site
here http://www.zamuzh.com/english/index.htm
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Boris on March 06, 2011, 11:55:57 AM
Hi Mervin

I'm afraid many FSU ladies *I* know wouldn't agree with your opinion... The US was THE most popular place to seek a partner..  why would it's distance not have been a 'concern' then, but it is now ?! ....

Sorry, but to be blunt .. many of the guys writing to FSU ladies and some of the idiots that do get on the plane - expecting to 'conquer all'  and have women falling at their fit 'begging to be flown out of 'poverty'' have a LOT to do with a more jaded viewpoint .

WHO is to blame for that?.. Fellow American nationals who just want these guys green-backs...

Now my response is also over-generalised but it is an all too often quoted 'reason'. :(

Why won't Google translate this??? :chuckle:
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on March 06, 2011, 12:09:30 PM
HOW TO MAKE A GOOD PHOTO

9. Details

The photograph should be you and only you!

Nothing should distract attention away from your face and figure.

avoid: large jewelry, hats, sunglasses, telephone handset at the ear, carrying large items
such as  flowers, toys, dolls, cats, dogs, dumbbells, balls, umbrellas, etc.

Rings on your hands
As you may know, the wedding ring abroad are on the ring finger of the left hand. Any ring on this finger is a wedding ring.

Incidentally, the wedding ring from the West looks different - usually the ring with one large diamond, sometimes it can also be used form of our engagement ring, but the presence of one or more diamonds required. If a man gives you a diamond ring - which means you are married or engaged.)

Men are often shocked asking how it can be that the girl in the profile is already engaged
but it is written that she had never been married, but has a photo shot with a ring on "wedding" finger.

The best - avoid rings altogether, if your most favorite photo you have a ring on the third finger of your left hand, you should avoid using this photo or have the ring photoshopped or chopped away. An engagement ring - in the West this is taken seriously!

As for photos with children. Naturally, your child - it's part of you, and if a man wants to be with you, he should accept both you and your child. Most men love children and are willing to accept and love your child as their own (and not in just words). But for the catalog photo of a child - not the best option.

Every man is seeking a wife . He first must be interested and in love with you.
Photo where you together with your child, it is better to send when your dating
starts to develop.

 
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: msmoby on March 06, 2011, 01:07:21 PM

Why won't Google translate this??? :chuckle:

with which part is 'google' having difficulty :) ?
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: RG on March 06, 2011, 01:25:13 PM
It's just a fact of life that a lot of women in the FSU want to find a man who is closer to their home country.

I am sure, most would prefer finding a good man inside their home country as well  tiphat My wife, for one, wasn't looking for a Canadian, she wasn't even looking for a foreigner, but she met me and the rest is history  :-X

I think this may have changed over time, perhaps as there was more exposure to "real life" as well as economic situations in different countries, as well as women realizing they do have some choices if they wish to pursue them.  I have had some FSU friends still refer to the US as "the best country," seemingly with Canada a not distant second, but I don't necessarily agree with that viewpoint, and can certainly see advantages to those women preferring to remain in Europe.  Of course, that is their prerogative, one which may or may not work out, just as some men choose their own starting criteria and may adjust over time. 

Overall, I think more factual information becoming available worldwide is a good thing, as it levels the field somewhat when men realize they are not simply "choosing someone," but it is very much a two way street, and women realize not only that the "roads lined with gold" or "money trees" don't generally exist, but also in that many of them do have some choices of their own, and fewer may rush into a hasty decision without knowing more.  This may not bode as well for those seeking to "buy" a relationship, but I suspect overall it will contribute to a higher number of happier marriages. 
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: mervin on March 06, 2011, 08:57:08 PM
Hi Mervin

I'm afraid many FSU ladies *I* know wouldn't agree with your opinion... The US was THE most popular place to seek a partner..  why would it's distance not have been a 'concern' then, but it is now ?! ....

Sorry, but to be blunt .. many of the guys writing to FSU ladies and some of the idiots that do get on the plane - expecting to 'conquer all'  and have women falling at their fit 'begging to be flown out of 'poverty'' have a LOT to do with a more jaded viewpoint .

WHO is to blame for that?.. Fellow American nationals who just want these guys green-backs...

Now my response is also over-generalised but it is an all too often quoted 'reason'. :(

Don't be afraid 1msmoby, as an American I'm glad the opinions of the girls you know are different.  I was just stating the opinions I get from a handful of the girls I keep in touch with from Ukraine. I wasn't stating it as majority opinion. :).

However, I do tend to think that people in the FSU have a much more negative opinion of the US than they did 10 years ago, so whenever I hear one of my female Russian/Ukrainian friends say something bad about the US, I chalk it up to slanted media coverage. I for one tend to think that it has affected their perspective on American men. However, If you've got facts that state the opposite than I certainly won't argue with your data. I'm just offering an opinion that's based upon what a few of my friends are telling me. Not pawing it off as fact as I said before. :)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: msmoby on March 07, 2011, 12:07:23 AM
Hi Mervin,

I never suggested you were passing off your opinion as 'fact'.. hence my "I'm afraid many FSU ladies *I* know wouldn't agree with your opinion..."  :)


It's good to discuss a frank exchange of views without a posters feeling the need to discuss my Wife's gynaecological situation or suggesting she might be 'long suffering' for daring to differ from some posters who DO claim to have opinions worth listening to  :chuckle:

Your anti- US slant.... ?   Going by that reasoning- surely  the gals shouldn't like Brits - as they are 'protecting' Beresovsky (http://en.rian.ru/world/20100331/158382854.html), and Chechen =http://rt.com/news/asylum-uk-most-wanted/Terrorists (http://=http://rt.com/news/asylum-uk-most-wanted/Terrorists) via political asylum and we've had the Litvinenko (http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/6180432.stm) murder saga.




Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: mervin on March 07, 2011, 11:38:27 PM
Well, truth be told, I don't know what my friends think of you Brits. Though somehow I don't think most of them have as strongly negative feelings about the UK as they do about the US.  The main thing I've heard them say about Brits is that they can't understand their English as well because of their accent.   I traveled with a Brit named Andy when I was in Ukraine back in 2007 and whenever he and I were together with a group of girls they'd wait for him to get done speaking and then ask me what he was saying. :ROFL: It was pretty comical.

 
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: msmoby on March 08, 2011, 12:50:57 AM
I never understand why cousins from across the pond refer to a British 'accent' ...  As one crosses the British Isles the accent changes every meal stop...A Glasgow / NE England accent are somewhat different than one from (say) London - a person from London might find the former isn't speaking English, either !

It is indeed also true that Russian speakers regard a 'plummy' ( posh) England accent as akin to speaking as if one has a mouth full of spuds ..   :chuckle:

Most FSU folk think one has to speak English as if they have a clothes peg permanently attached to their nose...  ( watched too many Hollywood movies, no doubt) a few visits to the closer side of the pond  corrects this 'impediment'  :)

I wonder where 'poor' Andy was from ?  Was his trip successful ? !

Mervin.. ( although we never 'met' ) it is good to have you 'back' ..  :)


Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Manny on March 08, 2011, 09:42:00 AM
This section of this topic where Andrew causes offence and/or generally insults people has now been moved to Off Topic & Heated Discussion (http://ruadventures.com/forum/index.php?board=12.0).

http://ruadventures.com/forum/index.php?topic=13737.0 (http://ruadventures.com/forum/index.php?topic=13737.0)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on March 14, 2011, 10:34:34 PM
1. What information to say first in your profile

The first information about yourself is very important. You should focus on what you
have to offer instead of first saying what you want in return.

2. Why do Western men hunt for Russian brides?

Why are we so different, living in more affluent countries that foreigners are willing to spend a lot of money just to marry a Russian girl?

Some of them come to Russia several times in a relentless pursuit to achieve his goal.

The general opinion of western men: Russian women are kinder, more caring, and they are good wives. Women in the West, according to their point of view, are too materialistic, demanding and spoiled. To some extent this is true.

Russian women look better and dress better  (and we did not know!), Seem to be more kind and feminine.

Men in the West do not look the bride as a source of additional income, the most important thing for them  is attractiveness and sexuality.

Only narrow-minded, poorly educated man would look for a  "marriage of convenience",
(Seeking a woman based on her income potential)
The rest are quite capable to provide for their family from their own work salaries.

I can't say that the West does not have beautiful women. There are, and quite a lot. But what distinguishes our women - is the desire to be attractive. Our women are more feminine. In them, the sea is warm and charming.

Western women are nice, smiling and quite friendly, but they are "cold." Growing up in an affluent society, they are too independent and self-sufficient. They are strongly aware of their rights and, above all that they do not have to endure any inconvenience.

The first question they ask themselves if there are any, even the most minor disagreements: "Why do I need this?" They are not accustomed to "compromise principles." The more beautiful the woman is, the more she is confident in her undeniable right to receive the best in life - a handsome, athletic, intelligent and educated man, a high material security and tireless care of herself.

Western woman knows the value of themselves and their attractiveness. In the West, men still care for women and not vice versa!

Men with whom I have spoken (many were previously married), in one voice stated: Russian women - a good wife. They found it difficult to explain the difference between a Russian wife and the wife of the west - both are preparing for a family, maintain order in the house, raise children, care for her husband - but agreed in opinion: the Russian wife - is another life, more happy and relaxed. According to their expression, with his Russian wife marriage "works" - "It works out".

After talking with several dozen men, I came to this conclusion: in the Russian women there is nothing special - except for a different culture .

We are just brought in different conditions that give rise to another way of human relationships. We grew up in a cramped apartment. Family of 4 people, three generations, live well in a small two-room flat, which is cramped by Western standards for a single. Even as a student in school has his own desk instead of sharing it between two students.

Our state of permanent overcrowding creates a healthy "team spirit", when, like it or not, have to take others into account. We grow up in a situation where everything depends on everyone. Russian people and especially women, has an amazing ability to adapt.

In family life, this ability translates into boundless tolerance. Russian woman will not overly notice any small infringement of their interests, where a normal woman from the West would have already slammed the door good bye after a heated quarrel. And it's not spoiled or ill-natured - just a Western woman does not have the psychic mobility, which allows you to exist in this situation without losing her integrity.

This is key, where are the differences in approach to family life. If there is disagreement on any issue Western woman will always act according to their own understanding of her rights of the situation. She will not hesitate to go against the actions of her husband. Even if it is to compromise, she would feel deeply unhappy and not at the moment let her husband forget, any the sacrifices that she made.

For Russian women compromise - it's a lifestyle. Relax and enjoy. Russian women are naturally in the adapting their behavior to be harmonious with her husband. This does not mean that she does not try to influence him. She just does not try to deny . She's always together with her ​​husband.

That's the whole secret. We are no better. We are not good. We are simply more tolerant Our personal rating scale of values ​​has more divisions, and where their western thermometer "boils over" we continue to work successfully. Generally it is a great thing - the ability to accept reality and people as they are.

The other is objectively existing option, which is crucial for foreigners - a place the family in a woman's life. Our woman naturally puts family ahead of career. Western men like this kind of a "commitment to traditional family values."

Marriage agencies receive many letters from women whose career is successful, even by Western standards. These successful and professional women find themselves left out, not having family and children. They are happy to exchange the highest professional position in the status of the western housewife.

To a large extent such a position of Russian women is formed over decades of the Soviet system. For Soviet woman it was almost impossible to reach high positions, men have always been much easier to move up the career ladder. Legislation promoted immersion of women in family life: trying to increase the birthrate, the state granted women lengthy maternity leave, which was not and is not present anywhere else in the world.

Western women see housewives position as the rank somewhere on the level of our janitor. She is able to feel happy, just reaching certain professional peaks. In principle, it is something to fight for - a high professional position provides a high standard of living.

In Russia, even with a relatively high position, the woman does not get good money, that provide freedom and independence. On our Russian salaries - at least what career do, you still do not earn enough money to enable a decent standard of living - their own country house, nice car and the ability to contain it, the opportunity to travel first class and then most importantly, bring in money

Since the Russian woman have many difficulties to realize themselves professionally, she preferred not to "force an open door." It is human nature to seek the pursuit of happiness Honestly, family life potentially brings much more satisfaction and less frustration than a job, it's only in Russia we always put everything on its head.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on March 14, 2011, 10:51:30 PM
3. How to present yourself in a favorable light

Common to the "brides directory" the qualities that attract men who are tolerant and the particular importance of family in the woman's life. This is what sets us apart from our Western sisters. It is on this that we should focus, in describing ourselves. Of course, men are always men - in the first place, they pay attention to appearance, but the real reason for their attention to the Russian women - their inner beauty.

Russian girls are the clear market leader, "custom-brides": first of all, they are white. Next of considerable quality - most of them have good education, that the West is valued far more than in Russia. (My husband is constantly flaunts the fact that I have a degree of Master of Philosophy - a fact that I was in Russia preferred to keep quiet.)

Having higher education is an honor in itself, regardless of area of ​​expertise. All the foreign men with whom I spoke to certainly recognize that the Russian people are smart and savvy.

On that note, how to describe yourself?

Write down on a sheet of paper the qualities that you think you inherently have. Write  everything, including the negative, such as selfishness, stubbornness, etc. Also list your  interests, hobbies and activities that you particularly like. Do not invent non-existent qualities or interests. Honesty and frankness in describing yourself will help you avoid problems in the future - do not forget, you're going to one day meet your preferred choice. What will you do when he finds out that you are have never been a downhill skier?
while in your letters, wrote that adore skiing? He would decide that everything else you
said in your letters is not credible. If you like hours spend hours just lying on the couch, staring at the ceiling, then say so.

Browse through the list and decide which of the inherent qualities you have fit accordingly with what men love about "Russian brides". Surely there is a dozen or two (if your list has  less than 20 qualities, then you have not tried seriously and you need to go back to a new compilation of your list). Write down the "appropriate" qualities you have on a separate sheet.

Now consider which of your qualities and interests most closely define your personality. This does not necessarily have to be some kind of "relevant" qualities.

Typically, girls describe themselves rather boringly: good, honest, sincere; interests - traveling, reading, music, love to cook, build a comfy home, the love of children and animals. All this, of course, well and good, but it was too alike and too boring, so much to make you want to yawn. In an effort to adjust yourself under the image of "a typical Russian woman, you lose your individuality - you need something that makes you interesting and different from others.

In my experience, the greatest interest in men cause women who are intelligent and intellectually developed, are capable of deep feelings and seek in a marriage of equal partnership rather than subordination. These women in the West, are worth their weight in gold, and competition for their attention to high.

Do not try to seem someone other than you really are. Each person is interesting for what she is. If you want to find a suitable partner for you, rather than merely to someone, be yourself. Describes yourself, and not imaginary "ideal".

Be sure to mention if you have some unusual hobby or play a musical instrument. At the time I wrote in my letter that I like racing cars (race cars). Agency edited these words as "motor racing" (car racing). Many men were intrigued by this phrase, and asked me about this in their letters about my hobby - it was something special.

The general principle of giving information about yourself: What can I give from the fact about me that men are looking for? Your specific personal qualities and interests are designed only to give a "flavor" to your appearance. Think about which of your qualities will be most interesting man of your dreams. You can get some idea of what they are looking man, looking at men's ad in our men's catalog . Use the principle of "like stretches to like - if you possess these qualities that they would like to see in their chosen one, do not forget to put them on your list.

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on March 14, 2011, 11:02:24 PM
WHAT TO SAY ABOUT YOURSELF

4. Finishing Touches

Check the correctness of the translation. Finding a Russian-English dictionary appropriate, in your opinion, the word is not too lazy to look in the Anglo-Russian dictionary, this word is translated into Russian. Sometimes words have different meanings which you do not want to be associated with you.

For example, the word "intercourse" is given in dictionaries as the equivalent of the word "acquaintance", although in modern English it is used to refer to sexual intercourse. Imagine what it would sound "I would like to find a man for intercourse" - and you just wanted to say that you want to find a man for dating ...

The most frequent errors in translation:

Careful - instead of caring (the correct word / phrase is "caring")

Clever - translating smart (the correct word / phrase is "intelligent")

Honor - translating "proud" (the correct word / phrase is "honorable"; also can be used similar to English meaning "confident" - confident, or "faithful" - honest, true)

Cultural - translating culture (literally, this attribute does not translate better to use the phrase "well mannered" or "well educated")

Close people - instead of "close friends" (the correct word / phrase is "people I care about", or better yet - "My family and friends")

Family - Russian expression "to create a family" means "married" in English also means "to have children." Therefore, many men are surprised when 40-year-old woman wrote "I want to create a family" (the correct word / phrase is "I want to get married")

Gay - in our dictionaries this word is given as the equivalent of the word "gay" and in modern English it is exclusively used as a "homosexual" ("gay" is better translated as "fun loving")

Me and My Son - in English taken to put children first and themselves last (the correct order would be "my son and I")

Merry / Marry - women are constantly confuse these words with each other (the first word means fun, but for use in describing himself no good, the correct word / phrase is - "happy" or "fun loving"; second means to marry - to marry)

Handsome - beautiful, speaking about a woman (used only to describe men's physical appearance)

Pretty - pretty, speaking about a man (only used to describe women's appearance, for a man you should say "good looking" or "attractive" or "handsome")

Even if you think you know the translation for a word, do not be lazy check the dictionary.

Another common mistake is to make long sentences with multiple clauses. English sentences should be short. English-language text editor like Word underlines the proposal longer 1,5 - 2 rows of green and demands to make them shorter. Rule of thumb: if you can put either a comma or a period, use the period.

In English, the place of the subject, verb and add-ons are strictly defined: first the subject, then verb, then complement. Even if you write in Russian and intend to use the services of an interpreter, it is desirable to follow this order, otherwise it will be very difficult to adequately translate your letter. Avoid wordy descriptions and colorful idioms. Generally, a good Russian idiom literally becomes a nightmare in English.

If you intend to use the services of an interpreter, give preference to those who passed the practice or lived some time abroad, they have a "sense of language," which there is no substitute.

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: leslied on March 15, 2011, 12:13:47 AM
Bill,

Thanks for taking the time and effort to translate this - you have done a great job.  It is essential reading for guys in the search phase.  Both for the insight it provides into the approach of the ladies and in highlighting the need for the guys to be similarly prepared!

Manny,

This thread has the makings of a sticky, perhaps you will consider making it so.
 

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: nunya on March 15, 2011, 10:00:34 AM

Agree with Leslie. 

With a major exception of one thing, minor exception of a second thing, I think a pretty accurate post.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on March 15, 2011, 01:12:50 PM

Agree with Leslie. 

With a major exception of one thing, minor exception of a second thing, I think a pretty accurate post.

Thanks for the compliment Jack,

I missed more than one thing for sure, and I guessed at more than a few,
I definitely cut out and omitted some stuff/garbage as well. If I missed or cut out
something major especially if you deem it beneficial or if I turned something
completely around, feel free to correct it.

Udachi

Bill
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on March 15, 2011, 01:13:28 PM
Bill,

Thanks for taking the time and effort to translate this - you have done a great job.  It is essential reading for guys in the search phase.  Both for the insight it provides into the approach of the ladies and in highlighting the need for the guys to be similarly prepared!

Manny,

This thread has the makings of a sticky, perhaps you will consider making it so.
 

Leslied I appreciate the kind words,


Bill
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: nunya on March 18, 2011, 08:31:11 AM
Bill, what you have started out with in your post,......."The first information about yourself is very important.".......  is so true. The information you post, as well the quality of your photo, are very important factors in getting that all important first meeting.

First the minor thing that I somewhat disagree with.

You write,....."decide which of the inherent qualities you have fit accordingly with what men love about "Russian brides". Surely there is a dozen or two (if your list has  less than 20 qualities, then you have not tried seriously and you need to go back to a new compilation of your list)."........

Your suggesting that if each man has not listed 20 qualities about himself to go back, that he needs to find more qualities about himself.  I think sometimes to much information is not so good.  I would rather a guy pick seven or eight of his top qualities, qualities that most Russian/Ukraine women would find of value in their future husband.   But to have to list 20 such qualities in my profile, or letter, seems a bit to much.   Again this was more of a minor difference.


Now my major difference of opinion.

When men are writing many ladies, either by a letter, email or profile, most men have one chance, one opportunity, to sell themselves. Each man's main goal is that all important first meeting. When we write that first letter, email or profile we are hoping that we have created enough interest with that woman that she will agree to that all important first meeting.   


With this suggestion,  ......

"Write  everything, including the negative, such as selfishness, stubbornness, etc."  .....  "If you like hours spend hours just lying on the couch, staring at the ceiling, then say so."  .....   

I know I would never do such and would never recommend a client to do.


First objective, get those all important first meetings. Sell yourself.  Don't lie, but don't write you are a selfish man.  If you are a selfish man, if you are a cheap man, do not mention such in your first letter.  To tell any Russian women in your first letter or profile, that you are a selfish man, that you like to stare hours upon hours at the ceiling,  I suspect this man will get very few first meetings.


Now, once a man has accomplished that goal of getting a first meeting with a special woman, now that she has had a chance to meet him face to face and he to meet her face to face, now, if the man feels this woman has real potential, now this man can discuss some of the negative aspects of his personality.  If the woman has a real interest in a man after meeting him she is probably more inclined to now accept some negative aspects about him.  But to read of any major negatives/issues of an unknown man in his first letter or profile most serious Russian/Ukraine women are not going to be inclined to even meet the man.   

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on March 18, 2011, 02:05:02 PM
Your suggesting that if each man has not listed 20 qualities about himself to go back, that he needs to find more qualities about himself.  I think sometimes to much information is not so good.  I would rather a guy pick seven or eight of his top qualities, qualities that most Russian/Ukraine women would find of value in their future husband.   But to have to list 20 such qualities in my profile, or letter, seems a bit to much.   Again this was more of a minor difference.

Jack I totally agree with what you are saying. However, what this thread is about what Elena at Elena's models advises her girls who join her site.

Elena gives her advice in Russian and this thread is my translation of her advice. I thought you were saying that I got the translation wrong (which I am sure I did occasionally) 

I thought it would be interesting to read what was being told to the girls in the way of advice (and maybe find a little propaganda thrown in from time to time).

To read the original Russian version see it here http://www.zamuzh.com/
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: mervin on March 21, 2011, 09:31:22 PM

Mervin.. ( although we never 'met' ) it is good to have you 'back' ..  :)

Thank you 1msmoby.  :) It's been very nice making your acquaintance as well.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: ChrisE on April 09, 2011, 12:13:57 AM
 Hello, and thanks for all this information on the topic. I had already read most of this on EM months ago when I first found the site. When I saw the topic posted, I felt my heart skip a beat-I thought this is where I might actually find some real answers! But unfortunately it wasn't what I thought it would be.
  My biggest question after my trip to Ukraine is what the agencies tell the girls that make them so afraid? When I was there and not having any luck meeting the ladies I had arranged to meet, I tried to set up some time with others from the cities I happened to be in. But even the ones I had been communicating with for months, and had been very close to online, all declined without having the agency involved. One lady actually said she was scared, and it was against the agency rules. She is the one who stood me up in Simferopol, as I described in my introductory post. The second time she promised to meet me, she said she had to "prepare herself" for the meeting, although she was terrified. (her words) This sounds to me like there is something very bad going on with these ladies, and I have a feeling like they have been threatened somehow, or told a lot of evil stories to scare the crap out of them about some foreigners. Of course, they would all have loved to meet me if I pay the agency $75 to set up a meeting, and another $15 an hour for a translator/escort, even if the lady did speak fluent English. Ever hear the expression "Something's rotten in Denmark"? I think they must have meant Ukraine, if not all FSU countries. I can only say that I know of one exception for tha ladies, but she is planning on coming to the US to meet-far away from any agency to oversee.
  Has anyone else had any experience with this, or know what the real story is? I would be really grateful to know what is going on behind agency doors!
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: andrewfi on April 09, 2011, 04:26:21 AM
Chris, obviously I can not speak for this particular agency, you must make up your own mind about that.

BUT, there is no shortage of scare stories in Russian and Ukrainian media about women meeting foreign strangers - and foreign and a stranger is EXACTLY what you were!

If you read this forum and others like it where men tell their tales you will quickly come to understand that there is no shortage of men who are, shall we say politely, socially challenged. Some of these people while claiming to be 'normal' I would not want any female friend of mine to ever meet on her own.

From the perspective of the women the story is something like this:
They join an agency to meet foreign blokes. They can do so using free options but they choose an agency because they perceive it as being safer and more convenient. When they meet a bloke who seems OK but then wants to separate her from the agency before they meet, what is a girl to think? Unless she is spectacularly dim she is going to see this as a risky option for her - and she is right!

The woman is not thinking of your cost, after all, she knows that you chose to pay the price in the first place. All she sees is that you want to get her on her own and away from what she sees as the protection of the agency.

Of course, agencies are aware of this and I am certain that some will take advantage of this. Also, I am sure that some agencies make a contractual agreement with the girls to use their services - in fact, as you probably did too. ;) The thing is that the girls have more to gain from abiding by the contract than you do and so are much less likely to want to break any deal that they entered into honestly.

But, HEY! You got on a plane, you are ahead of the game!
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Boris on April 09, 2011, 06:16:13 AM
Chris, obviously I can not speak for this particular agency, you must make up your own mind about that.

BUT, there is no shortage of scare stories in Russian and Ukrainian media about women meeting foreign strangers - and foreign and a stranger is EXACTLY what you were!

If you read this forum and others like it where men tell their tales you will quickly come to understand that there is no shortage of men who are, shall we say politely, socially challenged. Some of these people while claiming to be 'normal' I would not want any female friend of mine to ever meet on her own.

From the perspective of the women the story is something like this:
They join an agency to meet foreign blokes. They can do so using free options but they choose an agency because they perceive it as being safer and more convenient. When they meet a bloke who seems OK but then wants to separate her from the agency before they meet, what is a girl to think? Unless she is spectacularly dim she is going to see this as a risky option for her - and she is right!

The woman is not thinking of your cost, after all, she knows that you chose to pay the price in the first place. All she sees is that you want to get her on her own and away from what she sees as the protection of the agency.

Of course, agencies are aware of this and I am certain that some will take advantage of this. Also, I am sure that some agencies make a contractual agreement with the girls to use their services - in fact, as you probably did too. ;) The thing is that the girls have more to gain from abiding by the contract than you do and so are much less likely to want to break any deal that they entered into honestly.

But, HEY! You got on a plane, you are ahead of the game!

In my experience the girls were more than happy to separate themselves from the agency and proceed "dating" in a normal fashion. A first meeting, as Andrew points out, through the agency is prudent to make sure that your not a quack but after that an insistence on using the agency terp, driver, etc. would be a deep yellow flag for me. But, again, it's your money...
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: ChrisE on April 09, 2011, 10:29:22 AM
 In the case of the woman I was to meet is Simferopol, it was her idea to leave the agency out of it for out meeting. She (as well as every other lady I have told this to) did not have any clue as to how expensive it was to go through the agency. She was dumbfounded when I told her how much it cost to use the site to chat, email, or send gifts. I believe one thing they are told is to encourage their men to use all the online "extras", maybe telling them it will aid their chances in making the match. But of course on Anastasia, all these extras are obcenely expensive and eat credits faster than a slot machine at a native american casino. Then there are the "gifts" that are needed to make personal contact. Just to buy a few roses and have them delivered, with their delivery fee added in of course, can easily top out over $300. I did this only once (I know, crazy) and got the picture of the delivery-so I saw what the lady got. Since I was over there, I now know the quality of roses that were sent were the cheapest crap available, and also know what top quality long stem roses cost, plus delivery. For the price I paid, I could have had a small truckload of them delivered!
  So I think the ladies are "trained" to make money for the site, and yes, probably have the scare stories reinforced in them. I am very sorry for the fact they sometimes have to experience men who are so "challenged", as it makes things much worse for everyone else. As the rule, I know bad news and scare stories will travel many times faster than a good one-and I have heard many times of the "Russian woman's grapevine" to spread news and gossip.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on April 09, 2011, 03:21:06 PM

  My biggest question after my trip to Ukraine is what the agencies tell the girls that make them so afraid? When I was there and not having any luck meeting the ladies I had arranged to meet, I tried to set up some time with others from the cities I happened to be in. But even the ones I had been communicating with for months, and had been very close to online, all declined without having the agency involved. One lady actually said she was scared, and it was against the agency rules. She is the one who stood me up in Simferopol, as I described in my introductory post. The second time she promised to meet me, she said she had to "prepare herself" for the meeting, although she was terrified. (her words) This sounds to me like there is something very bad going on with these ladies, and I have a feeling like they have been threatened somehow, or told a lot of evil stories to scare the crap out of them about some foreigners. Of course, they would all have loved to meet me if I pay the agency $75 to set up a meeting, and another $15 an hour for a translator/escort, even if the lady did speak fluent English.

It sounds like the agency could be running a commission based system. If they go through the agency they get $20 and zero if they don't. 

One of the first things you want to do is get the agency out of the equation for everything. The communication, the translation etc.

Udachi !

Bill
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: d672 on April 09, 2011, 09:17:17 PM
 I met the lady who I am now exclusive with on Elenas Models. She actually put me through a little test (unkown to me) before she decided she wanted to meet me on skype. Later she told me if I didn't pass her little test she would have brushed me off as another keyboard romeo and end our communication. Luckily I passed her little test and we have a very close relationship today.

 She also told me that the agency warns the ladys about men who are known to be dangerous, keyboard romeos or Casanovas who often come to meet many women in 1 trip. In fact she says that different agencys communicate with each other about who these men are and warn thier ladies on thier sites about them. They do this to protect the ladies.

 When she told me this I asked her what her "marrige agent" told her about me. She told me that they had no info on me and told her to be very cautious with me because anything could happen. Maybe this is why you had ladies stand you up and seem scared to meet with you.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: andrewfi on April 10, 2011, 04:09:51 AM
It is a problem for the women and for you guys.

When you work with an agency then, in the end you need to work within their parameters. The choices you make about the women, it seems to me need to be made on different grounds than their choice of HOW they meet you.

To carp about money, IMHO, is unreasonable, you know the price, you are not going to to get too many shocks from an agency of any kind of repute.
I can understand full well the wish to save money but at the cost of breaking the kind of rules that EVERY dating site I have seen in the US suggests that its female clients follow? It seems to me that to treat the women of Russia or Ukraine differently to how women in your country expect to be treated - giving them less protection - is to disrespect the very women that you would choose to wed.

If a woman is happy to exit the system then that should be her, unconstrained, choice - IE. if she says yes then fine, if she says no then fine too! And you can choose to pursue, or not, the object of your erection affection.

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: ChrisE on April 10, 2011, 10:59:17 PM
 I fully intend to treat FSU ladies with much more respect than American women, but still it seems that they will not break with the agency for any reason. I had one lady ask me directly to come meet her as soon as possible outside of the agency, but after traveling from one side of Ukraine to the other to see her, she suddenly became "too afraid"(her words) to meet me, so stood me up-twice! She kept saying also she "needed to prepare herself" first, but wouldn't explain what that meant. She closed up like a clam. Nothing I asked her about why, or about the agency itself would she answer, although she seemed to be squirming really bad-like she had something really big she wanted to say, but couldn't or wouldn't. When I chatted online with her and told her just to drop the whole idea of meeting and just break everything off, she cried, but still wouldn't explain why. It killed me to break it off with her, but I didn't have any choice.  it was all very fishy to me!
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: NS1 on April 20, 2011, 10:03:43 PM
I know in one case of a girl out right threatened by agency.
So if it happened once!!! They controlled her ever move or tryed to.
So for us understanding this maybe helps how we go about it.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: andrewfi on April 21, 2011, 04:09:30 AM
Chris, just a thought, why not treat American women with the same respect that you think you will show to foreign women?
Two reasons:
You probably need the 'game practice' in order to be 'match fit' with the treating women well thing.
AND
Should you not treat people equally anyway?

Would you need to look overseas for a woman if you treated the ones around you better than you do?
Just askin' is all. ;)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: ChrisE on April 21, 2011, 07:06:21 AM
 It's not a matter of not treating American women well, it is that they expect to be treated in a certain manner. Unfortunately it is not always as well as I would like. I have tried to be really kind and sweet to ladies and it was always returned with suspicion or disbelief. AW -at least the ones I know-think if a man treats them really good, they have some ulterior motive.
  So the game goes something like this: Guy sees hot girl-Guy has to act like macho "bad boy" to get her attention-If he's lucky, he will get some notice-If hot girl decides she likes the "bad boy", she will take it onto herself to attach to him-Hot girl makes it her mission to "change" the "bad boy" into her vision of a gentleman-If guy really is a "bad boy", she will fail miserably. She will then be in a bad relationship and will develop a hatred of men. -Girl who is no longer so hot back on market, with really bad attitude, still seeking her "bad boy" to domesticate. Cycle continues
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: RG on April 21, 2011, 12:02:33 PM
I fully intend to treat FSU ladies with much more respect than American women, but still it seems that they will not break with the agency for any reason. I had one lady ask me directly to come meet her as soon as possible outside of the agency, but after traveling from one side of Ukraine to the other to see her, she suddenly became "too afraid"(her words) to meet me, so stood me up-twice! She kept saying also she "needed to prepare herself" first, but wouldn't explain what that meant. She closed up like a clam. Nothing I asked her about why, or about the agency itself would she answer, although she seemed to be squirming really bad-like she had something really big she wanted to say, but couldn't or wouldn't. When I chatted online with her and told her just to drop the whole idea of meeting and just break everything off, she cried, but still wouldn't explain why. It killed me to break it off with her, but I didn't have any choice.  it was all very fishy to me!

This sounds strange, with information certainly either not shared by you, or possibly unknown by you.  I've had a number of people want to "prepare" for the first phone conversation - these weren't agency "pros" by any means, but their first phone conversations with a "foreigner", with some amount of nervousness and worry about their accent in English and our ability to communicate.  If it is someone's first foray into online meeting, even local sites, some amount of hesitation or concern isn't unusual.  Amplify that by it being with a foreigner, allow for a wide range of "knowledge"/fantasy about foreigners, plus whatever horror stories she may have been told (by an agency, or even country propaganda), and it may take some amount of time, especially if someone may have jumped into the whole ideal impulsively, but now starts to think about it really being "real life."  For most people, there may well be some level of butterflies or concern right before meeting, anticipation and eagerness suddenly clouded by "what if?"s - it's tough to guess, but most people certainly do overcome these issues if/when they exist, and manage to talk/meet/etc.

Regarding not "breaking" with the agency for any reason, well - there are the above considerations, along with whatever an agency may be telling them, which may override their typical behavior if they are on the un-knowledgeable or nervous side to start with.  It may be that they are not yet comfortable enough with you to disengage the agency, or of course, it's also entirely possible they just aren't that into you, or may be making $ for themselves.  Context is everything here, really; if on someone's first or second email, they are demanding full name, address, email, phone, that might well be too fast for someone (although yes, people certainly do ask for that, or try to demand it).  If you've been exchanging long, detailed, personal emails daily for a month, with each person expressing a lot of interest for the other and things seemingly going well, I'd say you probably should have already been on the phone, with interpreter if needed, or there should be a pretty good excuse as to why not.  I've been requested by the other person more often than I've asked to go to personal email, and it just hasn't been a problem given some reasonable communication beforehand.  However, I never used pay per letter or sites that seemed likely to promote communication only within their system; too much chance for abuse exists.

If you are really seeing that many unwilling to move away from whatever agency or site you're using, you can look at yourself and your communications - if you were having a similar conversation with someone locally, would you expect them to be giving an email or phone #?  Are you assuming interest where it may only be polite mail exchanges, or do they seem genuinely interested?  And at the lady - is there any reason to believe she truly has no email address, computer, Internet cafe?  She certainly has a phone.  Not everyone has a home computer or home Internet access, but quite a significant number do have a way to get online.  Does she seem more shy or nervous than others, and if so, have you discussed it to your satisfaction, or are you pushing for direct contact after 1 or 2 emails/too soon?  Finally, look at "other motives" - if she/they seem into you, you've been communicating for a time and both sides seem comfortable, why else might they want to "not break from the agency?"  Fears need time and discussion, but there's a point at which it needs to be overcome, while email addresses are free as are Skype IDs, there is little to stop the creation of a temporary one at the very least.  Fear of the agency itself?  Possible.  Even more reason to get away from an agency, if true.  Fear of foreigners, or had a bad experience?  Ok, but yet they are on a site/agency explicitly for such things, so they will need to get past that one, or perhaps should cancel their account instead.  The other reason is more obvious - the site advertised heavily here recently actually advertises "earn while you date" - that would seem incentive enough for some to prefer to keep their communications on such a system, and coincidentally a model in general that many of our non-affiliated members would recommend avoiding altogether.  If a woman benefits from you emailing her, opening her emails, using chat or video chat, is she interested in you, or simply in keeping those benefits coming?  It may be time to find yourself a different avenue other than what seems to not be working for you currently.  singles.ru, freepersonals, elenasmodels , or somewhere else with real positive reviews (ideally ones not made by on-site testimonials or by someone with a vested interest in your using the system), and see if your "luck" changes.

About your girl - I'm sure several will think instantly "scammer" of some sort, and it's a possibility, although the question would be how does she benefit if you came to visit, instead of simply continuing to pay for agency services/communications?  Maybe she was impulsive in asking you to come soon, but you weren't as ready to meet as she thought, and she freaked out with nerves/fear/other.  Maybe she has a boyfriend or husband, a pre-existing or new one, or reconciliation.  Maybe she intended to meet, and the agency offered her "incentives" to stay with them?  There are lots of maybes, but in the end, you went to see her, and she wasn't there.  I would not recommend repeating that often.  If it was simply "too soon," learn from it and adjust for next time.  If the issue is elsewhere, again, learn from it and adjust your strategy/planning.

Are you still in contact with this one, and if so, I assume direct contact - phone, email, etc?  Or was the post-trip communication still via the agency/paid?  I'm sure you want answers, and it's great if you can get them, but she would need to have a damned good explanation to not move on, even moreso if you went solely to visit her (which I think is not the case here, but may have been?)

Can we ask what agency, and how long you communicated before your trip?



Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: ChrisE on April 21, 2011, 04:41:02 PM
 Ok, lots of questions, and unfortunately not as many answers. But I will try to answer the ones I can. I have had this trouble with 2 agencies-The first being Natasha club. After writing to quite a lot of ladies over a few months, one panned out to be what I thought was the best. At that time I finally was able to request the agency for her personal contact info, which the sent. It consisted of her name and email address-no phone or mailing address. Of course, she never responded to her email, or wrote me . She only would write by way of the agency, even though I specifically requested her not to do that because of the cost. Now I don't know if the translator at the agency edited out portions of my letters, but she never even mentioned anything about my request or that I had requested her info. I had asked for a mailing address and phone number-and she only replied that I should get it through the agency. She kept telling me she wanted to meet, but I couldn't even get her on the phone! I asked the agency, they said they gave me all they had. Big circle jerk, and red flags popping up all over the place.  It was heartbreaking, but after a while I had to close my wallet and go someplace else.
  This someplace else turned out to be AnastasieDate. At the time I didn't yet know about EM, or many of the other sites. I went to Anastasia because of the live chat and video feed mainly. But of course it was a lot more expensive, charging for every little thing they could-even chat smileys! But I met some of the greatest women I had ever chatted with-ever! Of course it didn't take too long to find a few very special ladies who stood out from the crowd. Yeah, they were hot looking like so many others, but it was just those with compatible personalities and strong attraction that I stayed chatting with for long. Of course I made sure the feelings were mutual so neither of us were wasting our time (or my money!) After a period of a few months writing and chatting daily with several ladies, I had decided it was time to go see a couple. It was a hard decision, as there were women from Simferopol, Odessa, Nikolayev, Kharkov, Kiev, Sumy, and a few other cities who all wanted me to come meet them. Some I id not know very well yet, so eliminated them. Others I had become very close to, having very personal and intimate chats with them. So I had to make a choice, making a couple first choices, and others were "plan B", "plan C", etc.
  I had arranged through Anastasia on their "Date a Lady" plan (the only allowable way to meet a lady with them) which costs $75 for setting up the meeting and the first 90 minutes with the translator. Of course I was responsible for making all the other arrangements. I set up a meeting in Kharkov, and the other lady from there I was interested in agreed in chat that she didn't need the agency to meet, and that she would meet me when I got there. I was able to get my apartment address past the chat filter, and she was fine with that-so she said.
   Of course, once I got there and got all settled into my apartment, I was exhausted. I had been awake for almost 2 days straight! Then I ended up staying up half the night waiting for the lady to appear-and she never did. By this time I finally passed out. Unfortunately I was so exhausted I slept through 2 alarms, and missed my appointment with the lady I had set up to meet through the agency. OK, Maybe I wasn't too late-so I tried calling the number I was given. That's when I found out the apartment phone couldn't call cell numbers because they are considered long distance. I couldn't just go to the meeting place because I had no clue where it was. Hell, I didn't know where I was! Tried the internet, agency live support-dead! Tried email, got an automated reply that I should get a response within 24 hours. Yeah, ok-so then I knew I was screwed. By later in the day when the apartment agency rep finally came and brought me the cell phone I had ordered for the day before, it was too late. I couldn't get the agency to answer. I never did get to meet this lady, and lost my $75 to boot. So it was on to plan B.
  Plan B consisted of ladies who assured me they would meet me away from the agency if I had the chance to get to their city. My first choice there was a lady from Simferopol, she was ecstatic to have me come see her-or so she said. Yes, we had been chatting for quite a while online, and she had even gone so far as saying she was falling in love with me, and wanted to bear my children. Ok, that threw me a bit, but I thought maybe it was a cultural thing, with her "Womans Dream" thing I kept hearing about kicking in. I was assured she would meet me at a certain place and time the next day. So I quickly set up another apartment in Simferopol, and hopped a train.
  The next morning I arrived in Simferopol. I was met by the apartment agency rep as agreed, and he took me to my apartment, where I slept most of the day. (Anyone ever try to sleep on a Ukrainian overnight train?) So this is the part I wrote about earlier, and elsewhere, where I was stood up not once, but twice by this lady. She would only "feel ready" if I went through the agency to meet her (another $75, and $15/hr for translator service past 90 minutes, with a 3 day minimum lead time to set it up) , and that wasn't going to happen. I had chatted with another of my lady contacts that happened to also live in . Again, she would not see me without the agency involved. It was the same with a couple other ladies I knew lived in Kharkov, but them I didn't know very well so thought it was understandable at the time. The lady from Odessa also would not break from the agency, and I thought I knew her the best of them all!
  Of course there was a special lady in Nikolayev, but I wasn't able to get there for a couple reasons. First, I was stupid enough to get stood up a second time by the woman in Simferopol, and secondly, I was even more stupid to sort of dismiss any romantic possibilities with this woman because of her agreeing 25 years younger. Of course she was the one who cried when I told her I was not coming (she actually begged me in chat). But by then it wasn't possible time wise as I had only 2 more full days left and the first lady who stood me up had set up a meeting through her agency in Kharkov-so I had to go back. As most already know how that turned out, I wont go into that again. (Although she actually emails me now and again)
  So I am no longer chatting with the girl from Simferopol. I have actually stopped even logging in to Anastasia, and stopped giving them my money. But before my credits ran out the lady from Nikolayev was able to get enough information through the chat filter that I was able to track down her personal email. She has since stopped going to the agency, and communicated exclusively with me-and she is the only lady I talk to now. We of course email most every day, but we also use Skype and phone calls. We are at the point where she is trying for a visa to come visit me here is the US, although I doubt she will get it (but I hope!). If that doesn't work out, I will of course find some way to get to her-even if it's only for a few days. We WILL get together soon, some way, some how.
  So the red flags fly brightly when I see or experience certain things. I learned that;
1) When dating a woman on a site, and after a period of time she will still not give you her phone number or address, she's probably not really all that serious, or she is afraid of something.
2) If a woman insists on going through the agency for all her communications, she will not break from them even when in country.
3) I a lady has been discussing marriage and having children but won't meet outside the agency, It probably isn't going to happen.
4) if you do meet a lady and fall for her, then ask her to marry you and she then accepts, it's probably a good thing. The exception is when after returning home she says she loves you, but is not IN LOVE, and that she will learn to be in love after you get married-then it probably aint gonna happen!
5) If you ask a woman details about the agency, and she avoids the question, plays it down, or just ignores it-then there is something she's hiding, and it can't be good for the guy. Maybe she's getting paid, or they threatened here in some way-who knows if she won't talk about it.
  Now I am sure all the local agencies operate differently as they are independently owned and operated. I was able to talk to my lady about the agency she went to in Nikolayev, and she was open with me about what she experienced. As for her agency, they do not get paid, nor are they threatened in any way. They are given stern warnings about the "rules", and something I didn't understand about how they can get into trouble if the "rules" are not followed. I don't know what kind of trouble they could possible get into other than being removed from the agency, but it seems to scare most of the girls enough that most don't even think of going against the rules. I am also told that when the ladies are at the agency to use their computers, the administrator watches them all like a hawk to make sure no information is passed that shouldn't be, and that the ladies behave as they should. One reason I admire my lady is that she used one of the agency's computers to email me when the administrator went on a bathroom break-she's definitely got spunk!
  So I guess to sum it up-the big pay per letter agencies may have a lot of great ladies to choose from, and some of them might even be willing to come out of the agency to meet, but I think there is just too many unknowns and behind the scenes activities that are detrimental to actually getting with one of the ladies. I think it was a small miracle I found the one I did, but it was a huge investment in money, time, emotions, and aggravation. Would I ever go to one of those sites again? Hell no! Too many other good options that are available. If I ever have that kind of money to squander away, I'll just go to the indian casino and play the slots-the odds are better, and it's easier to walk away from.
  I hope this helps to answer some outstanding questions
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Boris on April 22, 2011, 02:16:03 PM
Chris...I'm glad that you have posted your experiences here. I remember when I started out. Reading about other people's mistakes helped me avoid making many of my own. Most people are embarrassed to post about their failures. So, again...Thanks...B.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: NS1 on April 22, 2011, 05:00:25 PM
Chris...I'm glad that you have posted your experiences here. I remember when I started out. Reading about other people's mistakes helped me avoid making many of my own. Most people are embarrassed to post about their failures. So, again...Thanks...B.
I agree 100%
Help him guys don't shit on him!
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: ChrisE on April 22, 2011, 06:24:16 PM
 Thanks Boris, Nova. I have no problem telling the world about any of my screw-ups because I am human and it happens. Maybe someone will get a laugh out of it, but hopefully others will learn from my mistakes. I have learned from them, and I also learned that to make something happen, one has to go make it happen. This means taking whatever risks are needed if they are justified-and this includes looking like an idiot sometimes.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: andrewfi on April 22, 2011, 07:12:05 PM
Chris, you done good!

Confusion afterward is normal.

I dunno what to say too much. I can sasy that women are women, but everywhere they have to trust. If I told you what happened to me tonight well...

How much time do you have?
What can you chuck into the pot?

Coz, thing is, while YOU may have travelled around the world she just went a $5 taxi ride and she ain't thinking about your problems right now.



Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: мcs on April 23, 2011, 05:54:23 AM
This is definitely something I can reply on from first hand experience. I just returned from Ukraine this week and am working on putting together my trip report...be patient Don it is coming.
Anyhow, at first my girl's friend was going to help in the translation for no charge. When I get in country an Agency translater is there and I ask my girl about it off to the side and she seemed rather intimidated. It was $90 per day or $15 per hour up to 6 hours. I still thought that was reasonable so I played along for the first few days. The translater would come and take me out during the day for no charge so that wasn't too bad. After the fifth day she knew that we were a match and said to me, get your lady away from the agency if we were going to have a chance of having a future together. I was stunned, however I really liked my girl and all three of us discussed how to go about it.
I was also told that my girl refused money from the agency when I was in country. The translater and I became friends over the two week period and she told me how her agency would take almost all of the money that I would pay and she would get a small fraction. She also said that she would like to start translating on her own. So Fellas PM me if you want her info. She works in central Ukraine.
The Agencies use fear of rejection if the ladies do not play along with the Agency's Policies. So it may not be the case that your lady is scamming you, she is being lead along by the agency's policies.

Smitty
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: andrewfi on April 23, 2011, 07:22:27 AM
Smitty, which agency did you use that pays the girls to be with the guys? I gots ta say that seems a tad rum to me.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: мcs on April 23, 2011, 08:18:00 AM
Hey Andy
I know it sounded a bit fishy to me at first as well. Basically it was a minimal amount. Out of the $90 I believe it was less than a dollar. More or less to help with transportation costs to the agency and such. I was told by the translater that my girl refused. I'll include a bit more info in my trip report. I actually met my gal on Elena's, but she belonged to a small agency in Kremenchug. It was more or less so she would help keep me using the agency services that's all.  (translation, delivery etc.) She received no money for meeting with or writing me. I really think the agency is on the up and up. I had a couple of issues arise and the people there on the ground helped me out a great deal so I cannot really report that they hung me out to dry. I think for know I will respect the agency and not bad mouth them if that is alright.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: andrewfi on April 24, 2011, 03:57:05 AM
OK, fair enough, if they were, in effect, offering to pay her bus fare then that is a very different thing to putting her on the payroll and I'd consider that in exactly the same light as you did. I'd see it as a positive thing.

Of course the agency wants their clients to use their services, if people did not do so then the agency would not survive and, of course, the best advocate for the continued use of the agency is the female client. In part this is why I can not understand the manic insistence of some guys to stop working with the very organisation that actually made their meeting possible in the first place.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: NS1 on April 24, 2011, 06:38:04 AM
I stopped useing agency because they were trying to manipulate every thing we did.
Including not translating what we said. very bad.
But how would you know?
You are in strange country and relying on others, thinking they are here to help.
I was lucky, we figured it out and started seeing each other after they went home.
So, I think having your own is good for many reasons, never mind what they charge.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: мcs on April 24, 2011, 08:57:04 AM
Hey Scotia
We took a weekend off without interpreter and everything was fine. I new some key phrases before I went over and made sure that I used them in conversation. I played dumb for the first few days pretending like I knew nothing. It sounds pretty harsh,but the interpreter and I had discussed this and she appreciated what I was doing. I was only trying to protect both Aly and my interests as well.
Smitty
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: мcs on April 24, 2011, 09:01:20 AM
Andy
I totally agree with not breaking off from the agency. They saved my bacon on a couple of occasions. The only reason that we are trying to break away from the agency a little, is merely a time issue for Aly. She has to travel from one side of the city to the other and she still has her daughter to think of.
Smitty

PS TR on its way tomorrow!!!
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: ChrisE on July 02, 2011, 08:25:30 AM
  I had an interesting meeting the other night. I had put up an ad for a Russian language study partner, and I met with one local guy who also has dated many FSUW in Russia and Ukraine.
 
  One woman he dated very seriously for a time was a long time member of Anastasia date, and he was informed of many of the inner dealings. What I found out is that the women earn "credits" for whatever they can get WM to spend on them through letters, chat, etc that they can use towards "gifts" or other incentives. His lady had gotten a lot of great stuff like a digital camera and a smart phone from her pile of credits.
   
   This would go far to explain why so many women on A-Web refuse to go off site, and delay or refuse to actually meet even after a very long online "relationship".
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: bpike on September 08, 2011, 10:39:38 AM
I stopped useing agency because they were trying to manipulate every thing we did.
Including not translating what we said. very bad.
But how would you know?
You are in strange country and relying on others, thinking they are here to help.
I was lucky, we figured it out and started seeing each other after they went home.
So, I think having your own is good for many reasons, never mind what they charge.

Yeah... Translation / interpretation is easily manipulated. Most agencies won't let you use your own interpreter either. The worse case scenario is if you speak no russian and she speaks no english because both of you can be manipulated with respect to what is said very easily.

Really, the lady and the guy would do themselves a huge favor by learning each other's language. If you meet halfway and take it from there it'll help immensely.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: bpike on September 08, 2011, 10:44:26 AM
Kudos to you, Bill! Love the posts you made at the beginning of this thread  :thumbsup:
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on September 08, 2011, 11:10:35 AM
Kudos to you, Bill! Love the posts you made at the beginning of this thread  :thumbsup:

I will have to translate more of Elena's advice it's time consuming.

I should move some of the off topic stuff, but I am not supposed to
mod my own thread. 

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on September 08, 2011, 11:52:01 AM
Note this advice is from Elena at Elena's Models to her girls.

4. Finishing touches

Check the correctness of the translation. Finding a Russian-English dictionary is ok, but often it is more complicated than that. Oftentimes words have additional meanings ​​that you do not want to associate with.

For example, the word "intercourse" is given in dictionaries as the equivalent of the word "sex", although in modern English it is used to refer to sexual intercourse. Imagine what would sound "I would like to find a man for intercourse" - and you just wanted to say what you want to find a man for dating ...

The most frequent errors in translation: Careful - instead of caring
(the right word is "caring")


Clever - translating smart (the right word is "intelligent")

Honour - translating "proud" (properly "honorable"; can also be used close to the English meaning "confident" - confident, or "faithful" - honest, true)

Cultural - translating cultural (literally, this attribute does not translate easily you should
say "well mannered" or "well educated")

People close - instead of "close friends" (the right phrase is "people I care about", or better yet - "My family and friends")

Family - Russian expression "to create a family" means "married" in English also means "to have children." So many men are surprised when 40-year-old woman wrote "I want to create a family" (correctly it should be "I want to get married")

Gay - in our dictionaries this word is given as the equivalent of the word "gay", but in modern English it is used exclusively as a "homosexual"
("gay" is better translated as "fun loving")

Me and My Son - in correct English taken you should list others first and yourself last (it
should be "my son and I")

Merry / Marry - women always confuse those words with each other (the first word denotes happy, better to use - "happy" or "fun loving"; second means to marry - to get married)

Handsome - beautiful, (used only to describe a male appearance)

Pretty - pretty, talking about a man (only used to describe women's appearance, for a man you should say "good looking" or "attractive")

Even if you think you know how to translate a particular word, do not be lazy and check the dictionary to see if there are additional meanings.

Another common mistake is to make long sentences with multiple clauses. English sentences should be short. English-language text editor like Word underlines the proposal as long as 1.5 - 2 rows of green and needs to make them shorter. Rule of thumb: if you can not put a comma then you should place a period and start a new sentence.

In English, the place of the subject, verb and add-ons are strictly defined: first the subject, then verb, then complement. Even if you write in Russian and intend to use the services of an interpreter, it is desirable to follow this procedure, otherwise it will be very difficult to adequately translate your letter. Avoid flowery verbose descriptions and idioms. In general, a good Russian idiom becomes a gibberish in English.

If you intend to use an interpreter, give preference to those who studied or lived
for some time abroad, they have a "sense of language," for which there is no substitute.

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on September 08, 2011, 12:14:37 PM
Note this advice is to FSUW from Elena @ Elenas models.

YOUR FIRST LETTER

1. First impressions lasts a long time!

Your first letter - this is your first personal contact with a man, your first and possibly
only chance to make a good impression, to have a chance of a relationship in the future.

You never get a second chance to make a first impression - if the first letter was unsuccessful, the second most likely will not be easy. The English expression is: "First impressions last" - first impressions are long.

2. Putting together your first letter

The first letter to a man should be long enough to interest him, but so long that he
will get bored  1.5 - 2 pages is best. It should be informative, but at the same time entertaining and interesting. A little bit of humor is always welcome. And, of course, it must be in English (or their native language). A man can hardly run to look for a translator, rather so chooses to respond to another letter. If you put together a well
prepared and thought out first letter you will only need to make small variations to use
it again and again.

Start your letter with "Hi", "Hello" or "Dear", putting the man's name after treatment. "Hi" has an informal tone, "Dear" - a more rigorous treatment is usually translated as "dear."

If you are the initiator of the contact, mention where you got his address from. Tell him
that you're looking for a partner such as he, and quote a few phrases from his own profile.

If you are answering a letter from a man, first of all thank him for his attention and
his warm letter, and tell me that you liked it (I guess if you do not like him, you simply write a short note of rejection.) It is important to show the man that you read his ad or profile and not just send all of them the exact same letter. Cite or retell a couple of phrases that you liked best, and tell me what you think, perhaps you will come to each other (I think we may be right for each other) and that would start with him to find out
if this is true (I would be happy to start corresponding with you and get to know each other better).

Briefly tell him with whom you live, whether you have brothers and sisters, what kind of education received, for where and for whom you work. All this "autobiography" should not occupy more than half a page - but it is very important that Westerners attach great importance to family ties.

Next, tell him what kind of person you are, what you like and dislike, your values, your  dreams, and desires for family. If you have kids, tell a little about them, especially if the man also has children. (More on what to say about yourself in the "What can I say about myself.")

When discussing your positive qualities, sometimes it seems immodest "to praise" yourself - so describe yourself as if the words of were from others ("My friends say that I am ..." - "My friends often say ..."). Tell more about your hobbies - not just "I love music," and what kind of music do you prefer, what is your favorite team. If you have any pets in the house, tell him about them, about a funny incident with them and all of funny stories about you.

Ask a few questions that you would like to know about the man about his country. It is desirable that the questions about the country were more frequent, let the man know that you already know a lot about his birthplace, but would like to know more.

A man must feel that you are interesting. Don't ask if he is planning a trip to Russia.
Say what you will be happy to guide, when he arrives.

http://www.zamuzh.com/book/1LETTER/next2.htm
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: leslied on September 08, 2011, 12:45:37 PM
Kudos to you, Bill! Love the posts you made at the beginning of this thread  :thumbsup:

I will have to translate more of Elena's advice it's time consuming.

I should move some of the off topic stuff, but I am not supposed to
mod my own thread. 



Manny,

As this thread is a sticky perhaps you can move the off topic posts to a chat thread - where they belong.

Keep up the good work Bill this is one of the most revealing threads in this section!
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: soyoukan on September 08, 2011, 02:51:10 PM
i know its 5 pages late, but this did make me laugh

[opinion by Bill] if you are fat old ugly and have many children
then foreign men already have an inexhaustible supply of such
girls.  [end of opinion]

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on September 09, 2011, 12:22:09 PM
YOUR FIRST LETTER

3. How to make your letter stand out - from the others?

You want your first letter to be original, something that you yourself would like to
receive. Take a look at the samples for guidance. 

Back when I was writing letters I put together a great first letter, in which I received responses quite a bit higher than average. My knowledge of English at the time was far from perfect, and I always had difficulty expressing his thoughts. So how to do you find
a way out of this situation?

I used the letter that I received from men. When I found something pleasing, an idea, phrase, or expression, I included them into my introduction letter. Gradually and over
time it evolved into a great first message - interesting, fun and, most importantly,
100% "British". Always nice to read an intelligent, literate writing - this alone will provide your answer from a dozen others.

Your letter should not make the impression that you are unhappy. It must come from a woman who is quite satisfied with myself, life and others, but which lacks the complete happiness of a good husband to share her life with.

Topics to avoid in the first letter: problems in everyday life, the shortcomings of Russian men, unhappy marriage, politics, the size of your paycheck, money problems or health, drugs and alcohol in Russia, etc. You do not want to man to think that a foreign marriage for you is just a means to escape from the harsh reality of Russia?

 YOUR FIRST LETTER

4. Write by hand or typing?


Edit by Bill, Elena obviously wrote this a long long time ago when computers were
not as prevalent and this section is out of date so I moved on to the next section

5. The general tone of the first letter

Write as if you were already friends. Ask the man to reply to your letter, something like
"I am waiting for your reply."

Be sure to attach your photo, otherwise it is not worth sending. The photo in your first letter does not necessarily have to be professional - (More about the photographs see 
"How to make a good photo") If the photo is not from the studio, add a caption about
it.

6. Details


Edit by Bill, Elena obviously wrote this a long long time ago and this section is out of date so I moved on to the next section, she gives advice on stuff like color of paper, envelopes etc


7. The first e-mail
Edit by Bill, Elena obviously wrote this a long long time ago and this section is hopelessly out of date


Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on September 09, 2011, 12:26:44 PM
Keep up the good work Bill this is one of the most revealing threads in this section!


i know its 5 pages late, but this did make me laugh

Thanks guys

Bill
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on September 30, 2011, 01:00:33 PM
1. The key to success with your correspondence

Ok so the initial phase is behind us, and finally you start to get letters from men and
they begin writing responses to your letters. Correspondence - a 90% success rate.

Wait, you say, you said that the preparation of a good photo is 90% of the formula for success. Yes, I said that. Correspondence is 90% of the remaining 10% that you have
left to achieve the goal. - not so much, right? But most of the girls make mistakes in this
last part.

Let's look at it in terms of men. He chose you out of hundreds of women in the catalog  He has already chosen you, it is believed that in general you will come to him. Why he will not marry you at once? Because he must make the right choice, and most importantly, that it is the right man for you.

His correspondence is with about a dozen girls, and you're one of them.
He is interested to find a life partner - she must be a clever woman, decent, responsible, thoughtful and - most importantly! - Genuinely interested in him. It's just common sense: show me someone who is wants to connect his life with a stupid, dissolute, disorderly, selfish woman who will spit on him.

If you can prove to the man that you are the kind of woman he chose you. It's so easy!
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on September 30, 2011, 01:06:38 PM
CORRESPONDENCE

2. Don't simply adapt to stereotypes

Do not try to convince a man, that you like to be a good housewife and appreciate coziness and warmth. In the West, the cooking is so simplified that easy to cope with.

None of them are also not going to marry a woman who wants to sit at home and nothing more. Many men have asked me why so few women talk about their work, and so much about how they love to do something around the house. Western men are more likely to help their wives at home, and your attachment to the crazy house activity can make men think that they will have a large part of their lives "to create home coziness."

A man needs a live breathing active woman, but not perfect, and is not afraid to seem inadequate. Share your blunders and mistakes, as well as their successes.

With all that in Western women irritates them too much independence, foreign men like Western women. We are all in the minds of stereotypes, and in fact men are looking for confident women, smart, and that in world is their oyster, not housewives.

Western man seeking woman, such a highly developed and interesting as the western lady, with only one difference - that his woman loves him. That's it!
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on September 30, 2011, 01:23:42 PM
Note by Bill: much of this is outdated so I cut out many of Elena's remarks

CORRESPONDENCE

3. Timely respond to the letter


I've already talked about this in the beginning, but it is one of the most important things to remember so I will repeat it. When you receive a letter respond to it immediately! Now  while you are still on the Internet.

Many men wonder why they were sent by e-mail messages remain unanswered for several days or even weeks. For them it is a sign that you're not interested!

In this light, access to a computer connected to the Internet is becoming the number one priority. If you can not buy a computer, a good idea to find a job where you will have access to the Internet.

Ask your marriage agency to call you when they get a letter for you. If you have your own email account, check it at least once a week. I respond to email messages received on the same day, and most customers are surprised such a speed, usually on the Internet you get the answer somewhere in 3-4 days. If you answer the same day, you will be able to exchange letters to 6.5 by the time the other girls only respond to one letter. Guess who will have the better chance?
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on September 30, 2011, 01:31:21 PM
CORRESPONDENCE

4. Be interested!


A man must always feel that he is interesting to you. We are interested in
people who are interested in us.

Ask the man to "tell me more about yourself", your family, brothers, sisters, parents. In the West, people appreciate family ties. If he has children who live with his ex-wife, find out how often he sees them. Ask him to send photos. Do not think that his love for children will take away part of his love for you - on the contrary, if a person carefully and responsible attitude towards their children, as carefully and responsibly it will also apply to his future wife.

People in the West love to all living things, and especially what belongs to them - dogs, cats, fish, trees in the garden, etc. If a man has a dog, ask a few questions about it's  behavior, lineage, and so on. Ask them to send photos. If you have the most or someone of his close friends also have a dog, please tell more about it, and any various funny situations or stories.

If a man has a garden (usually every home has at least a small garden), ask what the trees and flowers grow there. Ask him for a photo.  I hope you get the point.

Find out what kind of music like your man. Ask what his favorite CDs. Buy a CD or cassette and tell us in the following letter about your feelings, when you listened to this record for the first time. Be sincere, don't tell him it moved your soul if it didn't .

Don't only ask questions, tell him a little about yourself and then ask how he himself with the similar situations.

For example: "I really like the park near our office. There's quiet and cozy and I like to sometimes just sit on the bench, relax and not think about nothing. Do you ever do this?"

Your letters should not be monologues or questionnaires. Combine both of them together.
 
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on September 30, 2011, 01:37:16 PM
CORRESPONDENCE

5. Be interesting!


Give the man some food for thought. If you read a good book or an article, watched a movie, share your thoughts with the man and ask his opinion.

Express your attitude about global events, such, for example, as the war in Chechnya, the famine in Africa, the earthquake in Japan, etc. If you have some history associated with it, tell him.

A man must see that you are interested in things and events around you and you have an opinion about what is happening.

The best way to interest a man - it's a good joke. Try to describe your event occurring with a sense of humor, and a man will be looking forward to another of your letters.

Do not write: "I have nothing new to say." If nothing is interesting there, make the uninteresting interesting!

For example: "Speak to communicate fluently in the language, you should know 2.5 million words. Last week I learned two English words, at this rate, only after some 25 years, I will know English perfectly!"

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on September 30, 2011, 01:40:56 PM
CORRESPONDENCE

6. Be interested


Let the man know that he is interesting to you. No, he will not simply assume this.

Perhaps you think that the fact that you write him a letter, implies your interest in him,
however this is not enough.

You should just tell him: "Dear John, I find you as a very interesting man. I'm glad we are friends." Or: "Our correspondence so means a lot to me. I'm afraid to make plans in advance, but I want you to know - for me it is very serious."

Men who come to marriage agencies, are usually shy and do not believe that intelligent, educated and attractive woman would be interested in them. Give them this confidence, and you will selected above all the other candidates !!!
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Larry on September 30, 2011, 01:47:00 PM
I love this thread.  With the exception of some TRs, it's my favorite thread here.  EM gives excellent advice to the girls.  I doubt many girls read it.  And even fewer follow it.

The formula for predicting a girl's success which she gives on I believe it's p. 2 of this thread is very interesting.  The only quibble I have with it is that it produces a number that is too high.  I ran the numbers for all three of my FSU current and previous girlfriends and got percentages of considerably over 100%, which should not be possible.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on September 30, 2011, 02:17:04 PM
I love this thread.  With the exception of some TRs, it's my favorite thread here.  EM gives excellent advice to the girls.  I doubt many girls read it.  And even fewer follow it.

The formula for predicting a girl's success which she gives on I believe it's p. 2 of this thread is very interesting.  The only quibble I have with it is that it produces a number that is too high.  I ran the numbers for all three of my FSU current and previous girlfriends and got percentages of considerably over 100%, which should not be possible.

I think that she may have weighted the formula with the idea that women are often
more critical of themselves (and each other) than us guys are of them. You rated a
girl over a 100% but if she examined herself she likely would have came up with a
much lower score.

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Larry on September 30, 2011, 03:15:52 PM
I love this thread.  With the exception of some TRs, it's my favorite thread here.  EM gives excellent advice to the girls.  I doubt many girls read it.  And even fewer follow it.

The formula for predicting a girl's success which she gives on I believe it's p. 2 of this thread is very interesting.  The only quibble I have with it is that it produces a number that is too high.  I ran the numbers for all three of my FSU current and previous girlfriends and got percentages of considerably over 100%, which should not be possible.

For some reason my (larry's) response, which follows, is being included in the quoted material,  so it looks like Bill is replying to himself.  I haven't been able to change it:
[edit by Bill I think I fixed it]

Bill, this explanation sounded plausible, so I went back to run the numbers being a tougher grader.  It had been quite a while since I had seen the formula.  But what I found was that almost all of the formula involved things that were not judgment calls.  The facial attractiveness component is a judgment call and of course women could be tougher than men about this.  But the difference between beautiful and likeable (the next lowest choice) is only 5%.  Knowledge of English is a bit of a judgment call too.  But every other item is not: the figure formula (height and weight), hair length, age, number of children.

When i went back and ran the numbers being a tough grader I got figures for all three girls that ranged from 110% to 120%.  I think Elena just didn't set up the formula correctly.  Nonetheless, I think it's a useful and helpful exercise and contains all the easy to analyze components.  And who knows, maybe she created it this way on purpose in order to give hope to more girls.

I think that she may have weighted the formula with the idea that women are often
more critical of themselves (and each other) than us guys are of them. You rated a
girl over a 100% but if she examined herself she likely would have came up with a
much lower score.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: ChrisE on September 30, 2011, 05:17:07 PM
Bill, could you post the link to the original post on EM? It might be good in some cases to send it to some potential ladies for them to read IMO.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on September 30, 2011, 05:26:28 PM
Bill, could you post the link to the original post on EM? It might be good in some cases to send it to some potential ladies for them to read IMO.

I am not sure of the wisdom about sending it to potential ladies but
here it is  http://www.zamuzh.com/ (It was on the first post of the thread)

Udachi

Bill
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on September 30, 2011, 05:33:36 PM

Bill, this explanation sounded plausible, so I went back to run the numbers being a tougher grader.  It had been quite a while since I had seen the formula.  But what I found was that almost all of the formula involved things that were not judgment calls.  The facial attractiveness component is a judgment call and of course women could be tougher than men about this.  But the difference between beautiful and likeable (the next lowest choice) is only 5%.  Knowledge of English is a bit of a judgment call too.  But every other item is not: the figure formula (height and weight), hair length, age, number of children.

When i went back and ran the numbers being a tough grader I got figures for all three girls that ranged from 110% to 120%.  I think Elena just didn't set up the formula correctly.  Nonetheless, I think it's a useful and helpful exercise and contains all the easy to analyze components.  And who knows, maybe she created it this way on purpose in order to give hope to more girls.

Yes, it makes sense to weed out the fatties and recruit the thin girls

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on September 30, 2011, 05:41:02 PM
CORRESPONDENCE

7. Keep it interesting


Do not rest on your laurels. From time to time make amateur photos of yourself, preferably in an activity - in the gym, on the beach, skiing, at the computer. Everything said previously about the hair, makeup, clothing to take a good photo still applies.

Be sure to make a short description above or below your photos - preferably humorous.

Do not let a man get bored. Do something new and unexpected, but not too often. Send him e-mail before it received an answer to the previous one - simply because you "missed him."

Make a series of photographs of the city and send it to him with your personal comments - this is my school where I studied, this is my office, it's my boss,  my mom, in our country, it is the central area of ​​the city.

Take a picture of attractions, but do not send a set of postcards with views of the city, this should be your personal vision. Tell him why you are doing it, so that he does not feel
like a stranger when he arrives. Use the word "when", not "if." You should always give a man to understand, we are confident that your relationship will "work."

Operate on the principle of "To Be Continued." Give a short description of the history and promise to tell more in my next letter.

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on September 30, 2011, 05:47:59 PM
CORRESPONDENCE

8. Lead efforts to complete


It is necessary to gently - very gently - to push a man to make each of his next steps. You're not going to write to your for the rest of your life are you? Gently push him along.

Pattern: familiarity - correspondence - telephone / Skype - his arrival - your visit(s) - a wedding.

If a man does not ask for your telephone number give it to him yourself, indicating the best time to call. If he does not share with you the plans of his visit to Russia, mention casually that they had heard that without a preliminary meeting in Russia, it will be difficult to get a visa for entry into the United States / Canada / Australia (for a visa to Europe a preliminary meeting is not required). And so on. Your relationship should evolve dynamically.

At the same time, in any case should not create the impression that you too take your time. Self-esteem is very important. A man must feel like it you are lucky, this magnificent woman - and he managed to win it. Men do not value the "easy prey".

I want to repeat: do not be afraid of men, they themselves are afraid of you. Be friendly and open, avoid suspicion or mistrust. In the West, not made to lie, if a man wrote that he was every week 6:00 trains in the gym, so it is, even if he has a stomach like a pregnant woman. If not trained, would weigh 2 times more.

If you have a few correspondents, keep copies of your letters, and put into a file or folder  of the candidate. Read the previous letter before writing a new order to avoid repetitions. In the same folder put all letters and photos received from this man. Organization and planning - the key to success not only in business.

Continue to weed out men who don't suit you, tell him about it in a gentle manner. If a
man doesn't suit you then stop the relationship immediately. This is not a game, it's real people, with their affections and feelings.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Vinnvinny on September 30, 2011, 05:53:56 PM
Bill: Do you know when these guides were written? Around 1953 is would seem.  :reading:
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on September 30, 2011, 06:00:32 PM
Bill: Do you know when these guides were written? Around 1953 is would seem.  :reading:

I know what you are saying  ;D a feminist or two would have to peel their eyebrows
off the ceiling.  If I had to guess I would say that she probably wrote it in the early
1990s

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on September 30, 2011, 06:17:22 PM
Telephoning

The importance of telephone conversations

Preparing for negotiations
Start a conversation
End of conversation
Short tips

1. The importance of telephone conversations

In contrast to letters, telephone communication has personified. The tone of voice, tone and intonation can tell you much about the caller - Talking on the phone - a conversation with a real person.

If after one or two letters do you feel that the man you like, tell him your home phone and the most convenient time to call. If your home phone you do not like to use the opportunity to negotiate a working number, try to arrange talks through a friend or friends, before agreeing to a date and time of call.

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on September 30, 2011, 06:22:42 PM
Telephoning

2. Preparing for negotiations

Once you have told the man her phone number at any time the bell rings and you have to be ready. Tell everyone at home that you probably will receive a call from an English-speaking person, and write a message that they reply with, in case you are away for the moment. The main thing that needs to be said in the message - that the man called the  right place where you really live, and the time / date that he should call back.

Not bad, if your family will learn to the same man's name (usually the caller will be presented before to ask if you are at home), although this problem and may be beyond their strength.

Preparing family members to call if possible of your absence, do not forget to consider options for the case when you do take off the tube. Think about what you say. If your English is not perfect, you may want to prepare a few sentences, so that your conversation is not hung an awkward pause. Put these notes within reach of the phone.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: ChrisE on September 30, 2011, 07:15:25 PM
Yep, after reading more of this, only parts may be helpful to send a lady. The rest I am sure would be seen as an insult coming from a guy. But maybe in a well advanced relationship, it could make interesting reading and a good laugh!  :coffeeread:
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on September 30, 2011, 08:11:46 PM
Yep, after reading more of this, only parts may be helpful to send a lady. The rest I am sure would be seen as an insult coming from a guy. But maybe in a well advanced relationship, it could make interesting reading and a good laugh!  :coffeeread:

You can always ask her to translate some of it for you. You know about how
you are so curious about what they tell the girls and how is it different from
what they tell the guys, blah blah blah it might work.

Udachi
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: nunya on October 01, 2011, 12:55:29 AM
Bill: Do you know when these guides were written? Around 1953 is would seem.  :reading:


If I had to guess I would say that she probably wrote it in the early
1990s



I'm not sure if I'm understanding the guides Vinn or you Bill are referring to but if it is the actual material that Elena wrote that would have been in the late 90's and very early 2000's.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Vinnvinny on October 01, 2011, 03:29:57 AM
The give away for me.

If he does not share with you the plans of his visit to Russia, mention casually that they had heard that without a preliminary meeting in Russia, it will be difficult to get a visa for entry into the United States / Canada / Australia (for a visa to Europe a preliminary meeting is not required).

 :chuckle:
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: ChrisE on October 01, 2011, 08:10:51 PM
Yep, after reading more of this, only parts may be helpful to send a lady. The rest I am sure would be seen as an insult coming from a guy. But maybe in a well advanced relationship, it could make interesting reading and a good laugh!  :coffeeread:

You can always ask her to translate some of it for you. You know about how
you are so curious about what they tell the girls and how is it different from
what they tell the guys, blah blah blah it might work.

Udachi

That's an awesome idea Bill! Might get a straggling woman I am interested in to pick it up a notch or 10 if she has the incentive.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on October 24, 2011, 12:01:32 PM

If I had to guess I would say that she probably wrote it in the early
1990s


I'm not sure if I'm understanding the guides Vinn or you Bill are referring to but if it is the actual material that Elena wrote that would have been in the late 90's and very early 2000's.

Yep, you are correct.

Here is what Elena said
Quote "I started to write this book in 1999 and finished in 2000, published on my website www.zamuzh.com .
I Began writing a book under my maiden name Petrova and finished under my married name Solomon." unquote

Elena also went on to say
Quote "This year (2011), I completely rewrote my book "101 board as to marry a foreigner" , taking into account my 12 years of experience as a marriage agency sladelitsy Elena's Models and experiences of thousands of couples who found on our website your soul mate."  Unquote

I call BS on Elena, there is no way that she updated this stuff in 2011. It is completely out of date.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on November 09, 2011, 06:54:42 PM
Telephoning

3. Starting a conversation


The most important thing in a conversation - the beginning. If a man feels comfortable with you from the very beginning, you win a hundred points in his eyes.

Most important is the tone in which you answer, "Hello." In the novel, Remarque's "In the French manner," the heroine meets on the phone "as if each call she was waiting at least an invitation to dinner." This is very important - how you answer the phone call BEFORE you know who is calling. This fact shows you a lot as a person. The tone of voice should be soft and warm, and timbre - a lower deeper sound. Work out at your leisure and choose the best sound. Use the "friendly" greeting all the time - and it's in your everyday life does not hurt.

The caller must feel that his calling makes you happy. Why do we love dogs? (Again, Carnegie.) Because they are always happy to see us!

According to the English-speaking tradition, calling first thing is, after the initial greeting and phrases and find out if he could talk to the unknown person (Hello, it's James Din. Can I talk to Irina ?..), asks: "How are you?" (How are you?). What should I answer: "Fine, thanks" (I am fine, thank you) and, in turn, ask: "How are you?" (And how are you?). We, in the Russian tradition, we love to take the bull by the horns and do not adhere to these rituals, the result looks very rough and rude.

It is important to concentrate at the beginning of the conversation, so that you don't miss the man's name -  otherwise it will be uncomfortable to ask again. If, however, despite all efforts, you did not catch, do not hesitate to ask again - and do it immediately. Men do not expect you to perfect language skills and are ready to repeat - it's better than to make a mistake and get his name wrong.

After the initial sentences should say something like "I'm glad to hear from you" (It's so nice to hear from you).

The beginning of the conversation you can practice in advance with previously learned phrases.
The most neutral start a conversation - the weather: what you have, what they have. If there
is a sharp political news - talk about it. Tell the man anything about his last letter, or ask whether he
is yours. Find out how his dog, a cat, a pregnant niece or someone else who is dear to him. If you have
a few correspondents, nice to have on hand notebook with the names of pets and family - even if you remember them by heart, just in case.

Be prepared for a long and detailed conversation. Americans usually call on Sundays, they have huge discounts out there, and for a nominal fee (7-10 dollars), we can say what you want. Also gaining momentum telephony over the Internet - so there is generally speaking the cost of cost of a local call.

Keep it simple, the man won't think that you are stupid he will blame himself more.
If you can't get a point across say, "Okay, next time will be better."
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on November 09, 2011, 06:58:59 PM
Telephoning

4. End of the conversation


At the end of a conversation do not forget to say "thanks for the call" (or Thank you for the call) and that
you enjoyed the conversation.

It is advisable to schedule the next call. If the man doesn't mention it, bring it up yourself.
Do not hang up first, according to the Western rules of etiquette, the caller should hang up
first.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on November 09, 2011, 07:04:23 PM
Telephoning
5. Quick tips


Smile when you speak, he will hear the smile in your voice! Do not chew, smoke, or drink
during the conversation. He will hear that as well.

Call him yourself (once or twice) and say that you just wanted to hear his voice, speak very briefly
and say goodbye first. Do not forget to introduce yourself and do not play games saying 
"Hi, this is me." Do not forget to ask how he is doing.

If you call and get his recording or voicemail, leave a message and get ready for an early
call back. If at some point during the call, you do not know the answer to a question, it is
better to answer later than to give the wrong answer or information.

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Larry on November 09, 2011, 07:37:22 PM
Great thread Bill.  I wish one in 1,000 girls on Elena's Models followed half this advice. But they don't.  And  consequently very few will find marriage to any western guy.  I  know they have to wade through so many unserious guys, sex tourists, etc.  But they never understand it takes effort; almost no FSUW is willing to put in this effort  to find marriage.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Millaa on November 10, 2011, 12:02:19 AM
Great thread Bill.  I wish one in 1,000 girls on Elena's Models followed half this advice. But they don't.  And  consequently very few will find marriage to any western guy.  I  know they have to wade through so many unserious guys, sex tourists, etc.  But they never understand it takes effort; almost no FSUW is willing to put in this effort  to find marriage.

I wish one in 1,000 guys on Elena's Models followed half this advice. But they don't.  And  consequently very few will find marriage to any russian girl.  I  know they have to wade through so many unserious girls, scammerss, etc.  But they never understand it takes effort; almost no WM is willing to put in this effort  to find marriage and even make a visit. ;D

I think my version is more correct.

About phone calls...my english speaking ability isn't that perfect to lead brief conversation...
and I can imagine well how much it may cost... ;D one guy complained that his 2 months phone bill was about 800$... I think its too much just to hear my sexy russian ascent  :knit:
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Herrie on November 10, 2011, 12:22:10 AM
Great thread Bill.  I wish one in 1,000 girls on Elena's Models followed half this advice. But they don't.  And  consequently very few will find marriage to any western guy.  I  know they have to wade through so many unserious guys, sex tourists, etc.  But they never understand it takes effort; almost no FSUW is willing to put in this effort  to find marriage.

I wish one in 1,000 guys on Elena's Models followed half this advice. But they don't.  And  consequently very few will find marriage to any russian girl.  I  know they have to wade through so many unserious girls, scammerss, etc.  But they never understand it takes effort; almost no WM is willing to put in this effort  to find marriage and even make a visit. ;D

I think my version is more correct.

About phone calls...my english speaking ability isn't that perfect to lead brief conversation...
and I can imagine well how much it may cost... ;D one guy complained that his 2 months phone bill was about 800$... I think its too much just to hear my sexy russian ascent  :knit:
5-10 minutes on the phone won't cost you the world. I think you might end up paying EUR/USD 1,-/minute to call to the US from Russia. Not really sure though. I pay EUR 0,02/minute over here from NL to call to US fixed or mobile number.

Getting a USD 800,- phone bill is silly, if you act smart you can call very cheap to Russia/Ukraine, also from the US. For example it's usually a lot cheaper to call a home phone compared to a mobile phone (home phone is 2-5 times cheaper!).

Also using Skype might help in bringing down the costs drastically ;)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Millaa on November 10, 2011, 12:25:27 AM
of course it was not me who paid  ;D ... I prefer to write long love letters every day  ;D and get cash
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: ECR844 on November 10, 2011, 12:34:10 AM
But they never understand it takes effort; almost no WM is willing to put in this effort  to find marriage and even make a visit. ;D

I think my version is more correct.

There are lots of guys here who put in that effort to travel whether it's to Tashkent, Norilsk, Siberia, Astana, Minsk, Riga, where ever.

What makes many guys cautious is investing 3 grand or so just to get to the first face to face meet and greet. Then if it doesn't go well, and doesn't have a back up plan nor did due diligence. Well, then he just 'pissed away' $3,000.00 and often more.

About phone calls...my english speaking ability isn't that perfect to lead brief conversation...

The point is not about your abilities, but more about the 2 of you making the effort to communicate and see if there are any of the key ingredients present for both parties to move forward. Often, making the effort counts for a lot.

and I can imagine well how much it may cost... ;D one guy complained that his 2 months phone bill was about 800$... I think its too much just to hear my sexy russian ascent  :knit:

Some westerners don't have this much 'disposable' income to throw at their phone bill. Use technology and the tools available to both of you. (other than what it costs for internet access) Skype to skype free, AIM-AIM free, YIM-YIM free, ICQ-ICQ free, Google talk to google talk free.., etc...

There are tools there and where there is a will there is a way to make this work for both interested parties. Does it take effort and capital? Absolutely, but so does marriage and a family. Are you going to skimp off and absolve your marriage 'because it's just too much work'?

Things that make you go hmmm....
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Millaa on November 10, 2011, 04:56:26 AM
Great thread Bill.  I wish one in 1,000 girls on Elena's Models followed half this advice. But they don't.  And  consequently very few will find marriage to any western guy.  I  know they have to wade through so many unserious guys, sex tourists, etc.  But they never understand it takes effort; almost no FSUW is willing to put in this effort  to find marriage.

I wish one in 1,000 guys on Elena's Models followed half this advice. But they don't.  And  consequently very few will find marriage to any russian girl.  I  know they have to wade through so many unserious girls, scammerss, etc.  But they never understand it takes effort; almost no WM is willing to put in this effort  to find marriage and even make a visit. ;D

Put that just to show that any definitive conclusions and generalizations appear incorrect and absurd...

" Things that make you go hmmm.... "
I think our phone conversation would never happen. I don't fit criterias of men seaching a partner via  exterior only...  ;D
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Larry on November 10, 2011, 07:31:43 AM
Quote
Put that just to show that any definitive conclusions and generalizations appear incorrect and absurd...

To the contrary: both your and my generalizations are true.  Few men or women who post profiles on international dating sites are serious about their searches. It is our task to figure out which are serious.  There was a thread some time ago that Elena's Models' opinion was that only 5% of guys ever visited any girl.  Eric is correct that many guys on this forum are willing to get on the plane.

One of the important tasks in this search is to determine which persons are serious and which are not.

My phone bills usually top $100 a month, even using skype to make phone calls.  But it's worth it.  Nothing like hearing a sexy Russian accent. :)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Rasputin on November 10, 2011, 07:37:58 AM
one guy complained that his 2 months phone bill was about 800$... I think its too much just to hear my sexy russian ascent  :knit:

If you use Skype, even calling a mobile phone only costs 8.9 cents per minute. He would have had to talk to you for close to 150 hours over 2 months to pay $800... There is no way he should have spent so much unless he was calling straight from a cell phone or something else equally foolish  :biggrin:
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: soyoukan on December 06, 2011, 08:52:29 AM
Quote
its too much just to hear my sexy russian ascent

I LOVE the sexy russian accent!  :8) :loving:
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on January 10, 2012, 01:35:04 PM
Sorry guys I haven't been working on this like I should. The next section deals
with meeting the guy. Elena claims to have updated this but some of it is clearly
outdated. As always feel free to correct any mistakes that I make in translation.

The Meeting


MEETING (table of contents)

Options for meeting
Meeting at the invitation of the agency
Schedule a meeting
Appearance: clothing, hairstyle, make-up
Beginning of Meeting
End of meeting
After the meeting
"Soshialsy"  (Socials)
Meeting after the preliminary correspondence dating: Options
The groom comes to you
You go to the groom
You meet in Moscow / Kiev / Minsk, etc., or another country
Preparing for the meeting
Meeting
Important Points
You have decided that man is right for you
You have decided that man does not suit you
You have decided that man is right for you, but the future has not been determined.

PLEASE NOTE THIS IS FROM THE SITE ELENA'S MODELS AND THIS CONTENT BELONGS TO THAT SITE.

Visit Elenas Models for complete information and a highly recommended site to meet the girl of your dreams.

http://www.elenasmodels.com/ (http://www.elenasmodels.com/?goto=ladagirl)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on January 10, 2012, 01:41:02 PM
1. Options for meeting

Sooner or later, one day you will need to meet your man. For some a meeting may
be just the beginning, for others it will be a natural extension began through previous  correspondence.

[Insert by Bill Elena explains WOVO, WNVM]

Thus, there are 2 main options:

Meeting without the prior correspondence [she calls this predating too]
Meeting after the preliminary correspondence
Typically, a meeting without prior correspondence dating will take place in your home town. Your marriage agency invites you to meet with a visiting foreigner, or you can visit the so-called "soshialsy" [Social] - in the evening, which a few foreigners arrive and a lot of women are invited.

Meeting as a result of pre-dating can take place both in your hometown and in his hometown of men or in the city where you both come to the meeting.

PLEASE NOTE THIS IS FROM THE SITE ELENA'S MODELS AND THIS CONTENT BELONGS TO THAT SITE.

Visit Elenas Models for complete information and a highly recommended site to meet the girl of your dreams.

http://www.elenasmodels.com/ (http://www.elenasmodels.com/?goto=ladagirl)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on January 10, 2012, 01:54:49 PM
The Meeting Options

Each option has its own peculiarities, let us consider them in order.

2. Meeting at the invitation of the agency

Your marriage agency invites you to meet with a visiting foreigner who saw your profile and photo and liked you.

First of all, keep in mind that this fellow will usually meet with a dozen other potential candidates, to be his bride. He doesn't know them anymore than he knows you. You
have an hour or so to make an impression. If you do not know the language, a translator will usually be present for the meeting.

If you know the language well, you only have a translator to introduce each other
and will leave you alone. As a rule, the meeting will be held in an apartment rented
by the man. [note by 2tallbill this has not been my experience]

Since the time is limited, you will need to carefully plan your meeting and decide how
you are going to distinguish yourself from a number of candidates. Yes, the plan must
be customized for you!

Usually the girls are thinking first and foremost, what to wear and how to fix up your hair, and that's when their entire plans come to an end. You need to go further in your plans, you want the man to pick you instead of one of ten other equally attractive girls.

First of all, take a look at it in terms of men. He meets with a bunch of nice pretty women, each of which is sweet and kind and obviously pleased with him. Each is trying to please him, and agrees with almost everything he says, without asking their questions or by asking trivial questions like "And what do you do?"

Usually girls come to the meeting, dressed and painted like a doll, do not speak in English,
and they have nervous giggles, don't know what to say, and they make the man come up with topics for conversation, he has to entertain and keep the girls interested.

Many men who have gone through such a meeting, later told me that they just went to these meetings like a kid in a candy shop and they could not choose one. So your task
is to distinguish themselves from the rest of the girls, and to be unlike any other.

It's easy if you know what others are doing and follow my advice.
Your preparation for the meeting should begin well in advance.

PLEASE NOTE THIS IS FROM THE SITE ELENA'S MODELS AND THIS CONTENT BELONGS TO THAT SITE.

Visit Elenas Models for complete information and a highly recommended site to meet the girl of your dreams.

http://www.elenasmodels.com/ (http://www.elenasmodels.com/?goto=ladagirl)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on January 10, 2012, 02:40:53 PM
MEETING

3. Schedule a meeting
As a general rule, the agency will provide the groom with a translator. You should try
to meet the translator first before the meeting at the nearest possible time. Try to offer to meet today, if you can.

Do not hesitate to ask more about the groom: his age, what city, his profession,
has he been looking  for a long time in Russia? how long ago did he come to your
city, if he had seen other girls already, and if he has seen, what have his opinion
about them. Ask for the mans phone number, in case something happens unexpectedly.

The more information you have, the easier it is to impress a man. Look in the atlas, at
the hometown of the man. See what's nearby - mountain, river, lake, etc. Research the Encyclopedia of his city or state. Prepare the atlas to bring to the meeting.

Buy a small souvenir as a present to the man. Yes, and why not? It's great to help you stand out from the from the other girls - and it doesn't have to be expensive. The best souvenir - something typical for your town. A good gift is a photo album with pictures of your city, even if it is in Russian. Overseas books are quite expensive, and your gift will be very significant. If your city or nearby is the famous folk craft, a great gift to a traditional product.

Bring something of products - for example, a package of juice or a bottle of mineral water, or just buy ice cream for three (do not forget about the translator). This will show the man that you take others into consideration.

If you do not know the language, buy a book of greeting phrases and make also 
put together a short story about yourself that the man did not have to "pull" each
event of your life out of you with questions one by one.


PLEASE NOTE THIS IS FROM THE SITE ELENA'S MODELS AND THIS CONTENT BELONGS TO THAT SITE.

Visit Elenas Models for complete information and a highly recommended site to meet the girl of your dreams.

http://www.elenasmodels.com/ (http://www.elenasmodels.com/?goto=ladagirl)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: doc holiday on February 03, 2012, 07:12:22 PM
Interesting information they provide.  I guess it is good that they convey that women who put in more effort are more likely to succeed, but the sheer volume of infomation looks like enough to make many women quit before they start.  I don't know what to make of it.  Honestly, I would be impressed if a woman did these things and did some research before I met her, but I would never expect it.  Maybe that is the point.  I wonder what else they suggest.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 04, 2012, 12:43:09 PM
Interesting information they provide.  I guess it is good that they convey that women who put in more effort are more likely to succeed, but the sheer volume of infomation looks like enough to make many women quit before they start.  I don't know what to make of it.  Honestly, I would be impressed if a woman did these things and did some research before I met her, but I would never expect it.  Maybe that is the point.  I wonder what else they suggest.

I have been lazy, I will post a couple more sections of her advice

I think you get all kinds with the ladies. Some might read every word and take it
to heart, some will read it and only do a few things, while others won't do much
if anything and of course you will a number of them who do the exact opposite  ;D

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 04, 2012, 02:17:17 PM
MEETING

14. Meeting

Finally, you'll see each other in Real Life ! Wow!

However everything is not so simple.

The question burning for many women: what to wear? The best clothes - a simple and modest, nothing trendy or elegant. Your man is probably dressed casually - jeans and sneakers, if you wear a sexy dress with heels and cleavage you will be a little mismatched. Do not wear too sexy or too formal, the clothes should be nice but casual.

Do not do an elaborate formal hair style. A simple loose style without varnish - is the best option. Don't drown yourself in perfume, a drop of toilet water, not more. If you smell your perfume, you put on too much.

A minimum of makeup. There should be an overall impression that you do not use makeup. There are no shades of blue (it is better without them), black and pearl lipsticks. Only natural colors, and do not overdo it with the number. Lipstick should not leave
smears on everything your lips touch (use color-stay lipstick).

Naturally you had a manicure, pedicure, and shaved the hair from legs, underarms and bikini area - for some reason in the West there is a perception that Russian women do
not shave their armpits, do not be evidence to this perception.

Prepare yourself that you will not be enchanted with each other at first sight. This
is perfectly normal. Do not worry, everything will be fine!

The main thing that you should say: "We are friends. The worst thing that can happen - is that we just stay friends." Do not try to please. Be yourself and try to help a man, take care of him. That's it.

For the airport make a sign with his name, with an easily readable font from afar, so that your friend won't inadvertently walk up to another girl, he would feel very uncomfortable.

And smile! Put the "friendly smile" while waiting for him. You should be clearly visible from the place of exit for passengers.

Give the man hug and kiss on the cheek. Tell them that happy to see him. (Glad to see you!) Ask him how he arrived (Did you have a nice flight / trip?). If he has a lot of luggage, offer to help - bring something not heavy.
If you do not know what to talk about - talk about the weather: what was, what is expected, which is now at his  home.

Keep smiling, showing that you are glad that he came.

After meeting at the airport or train station, take the man into his hotel, help register and then leave it on the pretext of some business. A man has to rest and recover after a long journey. You can get up to a man in his room, but not for long. If your guests drink alcohol, you can buy a bottle of champagne and a box of chocolates and offer a toast to the meeting. Do not drink more than a few sips. Ask not whether a man is hungry. If a man is hungry, you can have a meal together in a hotel coffee shop, but do not stay long.

Give the man a rest for several hours (at least 4-5), and then invite him to lunch / dinner. Decide on the time before you leave him alone.

Don't announce on the first day that you have a program for every minute of the duration
of his visit. If you have purchased tickets, tell me about it and see if he doesn't mind and whether he is interested. Do not plan meetings or other events on the first day, just go
with the flow. Before you leave, ask what he would like to see tomorrow ... and that tomorrow you want to show him around.
 

PLEASE NOTE THIS IS FROM THE SITE ELENA'S MODELS AND THIS CONTENT BELONGS TO THAT SITE.

Visit Elenas Models for complete information and a highly recommended site to meet the girl of your dreams.

http://www.elenasmodels.com/ (http://www.elenasmodels.com/?goto=ladagirl)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Larry on February 04, 2012, 02:42:46 PM
Quote
I guess it is good that they convey that women who put in more effort are more likely to succeed

I think there's more than a little correlation between effort and success in this endeavor.  If you haven't read this entire thread, it contains an interesting formula for predicting a woman's prospects for success.  It looks at less subjective factors, such as the woman's age, hair length, number of children, facial attractiveness, body build, knowledge of languages, and appearance. I believe it's on p. 2.

Quote
Naturally you had a manicure, pedicure, and shaved the hair from legs, underarms and bikini area - for some reason in the West there is a perception that Russian women do
not shave their armpits, do not be evidence to this perception.
 

Interesting, I've never heard about this perception.  And in my experience FSUW's depilatory efforts have ranged  from very good to superb.

I love this thread.  Thanks for translating the material Bill.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on February 04, 2012, 05:21:42 PM
MEETING

15. Important Points

Your clothes should suit the situation. If you go on a picnic, it should be easy. If you go to the opera - a conservative and elegant. Do not forget to find out what is going to wear.

It is advisable to introduce him to your friends - for it is a sign that you're proud of them. You might arrange - a joint on a nature outing or to a barbecue or to celebrate a friends  birthday.

If happen to meet a friend on an outing, be sure to be friendly, but do not start a long conversation, exchange a few words, and then say goodbye. A man must see that he
is more important to you.

Do not worry about either the age or the small size of your apartment. Invite a man to visit you on the 3-4th day of his visit, but not for the very first. Do not make ready 100 salads and delicacies, the first, second, and third - that is enough.

If you order alcohol at a restaurant, do not drink a lot (in the West that more than one drink - many). It is better to stretch out a glass for the evening.

Do not order the most expensive meals in restaurants. Advise the man to choose, explaining that represents a particular dish.

An important question - sex. It is very difficult to give you advice, but most importantly - in any case, do not start a sexual relationship in the first or second day. The man should not get the impression that you are nothing special.

 Remember that you are - a decent girl, but at the same time passionate. Do not have sex, if you decide that a man does not suit you.

PLEASE NOTE THIS IS FROM THE SITE ELENA'S MODELS AND THIS CONTENT BELONGS TO THAT SITE.

Visit Elenas Models for complete information and a highly recommended site to meet the girl of your dreams.

http://www.elenasmodels.com/ (http://www.elenasmodels.com/?goto=ladagirl)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on March 15, 2012, 01:30:21 PM
MEETING

16. You have decided that the man is right for you

If you like the man, it would be good to visit him in his country. Usually the best option - You would come as a tourist, however in some countries for example, the U.S. or Canada, the only way -is for him to visit you. My advice - do not agree to marry him until you see how he lives and where you will live. If he proposes you should answer - "I love you, but first I want to see where I will live." Do not make a decision until you see the man in his real environment. - You   
should really want to be 100% sure ... remember getting divorced abroad is difficult, and, 
time-consuming.)

You should only agree on the bride's visa only if you can imagine this man as a potential husband. There is an unwritten rule that the bride, returning back to their country and
not married to her fiance who invited her, may have difficulty in obtaining another
visa for a few years. (More about this in the " Visa ").

PLEASE NOTE THIS IS FROM THE SITE ELENA'S MODELS AND THIS CONTENT BELONGS TO THAT SITE.

Visit Elenas Models for complete information and a highly recommended site to meet the girl of your dreams.

http://www.elenasmodels.com/ (http://www.elenasmodels.com/?goto=ladagirl)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on March 15, 2012, 01:37:28 PM
MEETING

17. You have decided that the man does not suit you


What to do when you realize that you are bit a match to each other?

The most important thing is to be honest. Sooner or later, a man will begin to talk about the future of your relationship. Tell him that you were glad to get to know him and that he was - a wonderful man. BUT - you're not in love with him. He is attractive to you as a friend, but you do not see him as your future spouse. Tell him that you lacked, "Chemistry" - which is their English expression that represents love. (I like you but there is no chemistry. I did not fall in love with you.)

Prepare your explanation in advance. Resist the temptation to postpone the explanation to the future, when a man is at home - it is certainly easier for you, but much harder for a man: remember he had high hopes that he had found a bride !

PLEASE NOTE THIS IS FROM THE SITE ELENA'S MODELS AND THIS CONTENT BELONGS TO THAT SITE.


Visit Elenas Models for complete information and a highly recommended site to meet the girl of your dreams.

http://www.elenasmodels.com/ (http://www.elenasmodels.com/?goto=ladagirl)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: JezP on August 26, 2012, 03:15:59 PM
i worked a an agency for 2 years and they ran regular social and tours, we had 20-30 guys5 times a year, based in odessa, ukraine.

when the girls came we tol them in no uncertain terms to talk to all of the men, to get around the tables as much as possible and be open and good to the men.

it makes socials work and thats why all our clients are happy.

all of this "get the money of em" girls BS is based around a certain website beggining ith "Anas..."

its bad for the industry and bad for the country as most of the other agencies are great.

Lots of great guy meet lots of great girls.

any question????

j

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: markk on August 27, 2012, 12:23:36 PM
Hello, maybe a stupid newbie question:

do they make the equivalend guide for men also?
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: RG on August 27, 2012, 02:22:14 PM
Hello, maybe a stupid newbie question:

do they make the equivalend guide for men also?

Sure.  You're on it; it's just a bit more detailed and interactive. ;)

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: arpete on January 27, 2013, 07:51:16 AM
Hello, maybe a stupid newbie question:

do they make the equivalend guide for men also?

Mark, if you go on elena's site, you can sign up for daily emails, spread out over a nine day period, that will tell you what to do as a man to attract a Russian lady.  I actually came home from work each evening and looked forward to getting them!

Look for:  "Nine simple rules for dating Russian women."
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on January 27, 2013, 10:38:47 AM
Hello, maybe a stupid newbie question:

do they make the equivalent guide for men also?

Yes there is

You can follow this link http://russianwomenbook.com/
You also have this forum and there is a chatroom here http://ruadventures.com/forum/chat/index.php
I wrote a how to get started thread here http://ruadventures.com/forum/index.php?topic=4390.0


You have all the tools right here at your fingertips,

Udachi !

Bill
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: JOEL on November 02, 2013, 12:28:20 PM
So tell me, being a newbie, is it foolish to try to contact a FSU Women before spending time in research.  Am I likely to be like a fish out of water or is there possibility of success?  If I am to be successful, what are two or three things vital to keep in mind?  Thank you, Joel
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Larry on November 02, 2013, 12:34:48 PM
So tell me, being a newbie, is it foolish to try to contact a FSU Women before spending time in research.  Am I likely to be like a fish out of water or is there possibility of success?  If I am to be successful, what are two or three things vital to keep in mind?  Thank you, Joel

I suggest going to the section of the forum called "The Adventure Begins" and reading two threads:

1. Top Ten Things You Would Tell a Newbie, and

2. RW Fever, 103 ...

These contain a great deal of useful advice for someone beginning this search.  Reading through at least the first ten pages of these threads would help you and would delay the beginning of your search only slightly.

I would also recommend that you buy the short book, "The Russian Bride Guide", which you can buy either by clicking on the ad on the right margin here, the one with the beautiful blond girl stepping out of a cardboard box, or on Amazon.com.  It contains more useful information than any other book on this subject.  Plus, it's fun to read.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on November 02, 2013, 02:31:25 PM
So tell me, being a newbie, is it foolish to try to contact a FSU Women before spending time in research.  Am I likely to be like a fish out of water or is there possibility of success?  If I am to be successful, what are two or three things vital to keep in mind?  Thank you, Joel


A little bit of preparation will go a long way. Larry suggested some good threads
to get started. Also you should get some photos taken, put together a profile etc.

There are a hundred ways to find a good woman and a thousand ways to screw it
up.

Udachi !


Bill 


Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Slumba on November 03, 2013, 07:40:21 PM
So tell me, being a newbie, is it foolish to try to contact a FSU Women before spending time in research.  Am I likely to be like a fish out of water or is there possibility of success?  If I am to be successful, what are two or three things vital to keep in mind?  Thank you, Joel

Joel, my few ideas are:

1. do the research that Larry and 2TallBill suggest.

2. Contact some women, and your education in earnest, will begin.

3. Try to determine, when you can actually put feet on the ground.  Plan, read, learn the Cyrillic alphabet so you can at least sound out a word, etc. in the meantime.

4. Understand that this is something that requires you to have a fluid approach - you will have setbacks, strange things may happen, etc.  Be prepared but be willing to be flexible and able to absorb the shock from bumps in the road.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Manny on November 04, 2013, 09:40:28 AM
The topic that stemmed from the comment: "what is going wrong in your life that makes you think that looking for a foreign wife is the best choice for you?" has been split off.

http://ruadventures.com/forum/index.php?topic=19956.0 (http://ruadventures.com/forum/index.php?topic=19956.0)
Title: 33 questions that you need to ask of a man from Elena's Models
Post by: 2tallbill on February 15, 2015, 08:51:48 PM
It's been a while since I've added anything to this thread so I went to see if the Russian
side of Elena's models still works and came across this advice for the ladies. These are
questions that Elena suggests would be good questions for the ladies to ask.
(I agree with her)


1.  What made you decide to seek a life partner abroad?
2.  How long have you been using this dating site?
3.  What impression do you have after communicating with women here?
4.  What do you know about my country?
5.  If you meet someone you really like, do you think you will want to meet them
     in real life? How soon? Where and how?
6.  Do you believe in talking to many women, and then making your choice? Or do
     you think it's best to talk to only 1-2 people at a time but give it your full attention?
7.  It's probably not my business, but how many women are you talking to?
8.  Have you ever been to my country?
9.  Do you enjoy travelling overseas?
10. How many foreign countries have you been to? Which ones did you enjoy the most?
11. What is your typical working day routine?
12. What do you usually do on weekends?
13. How do you usually spend your holidays? How many days a year your vacation?
14. Do you enjoy your job? What do you like the most about it?
15. If you could choose any career you wanted all over again, what would it be?
16. What is your special talent? Something that you love doing and people always compliment you on.
17. What do you like the most about the place where you live? What made you choose to settle down     
      there?
18. How religious are you?
19. How do you imagine your life when you are married?
20. Do you want to have children? How many?
21. Would you want your future wife to work or stay at home?
22. How many serious relationships have you had in your life? Have you ever been married or engaged?
23. What your childhood was like?)
24. Do you have any children? What kind of relationships do you have with your children?
25. What happened in your last relationship? Do you still communicate?
26. What do your friends and family think about your seeking a partner abroad?
27. What are your most treasured plans for the future?
28. Do you think you've done well in life compared to your classmates?
29. What is your view on sex in relationships and marriage?
30. What chores around the house do you enjoy doing and which ones you dislike?
31. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
32. Do you have a bucket list? What things would you want to do before you die?
33. Now that we know each other for a while, what do you think about me?
Title: Re: 33 questions that you need to ask of a man from Elena's Models
Post by: Olga_Mouse on February 15, 2015, 08:56:01 PM

13. How many days a year your vacation?


Google translate detected, or 13 is not a lucky number for everyone?  :D
Title: Re: 33 questions that you need to ask of a man from Elena's Models
Post by: WestCoast on February 15, 2015, 09:09:58 PM
It's been a while since I've added anything to this thread so I went to see if the Russian
side of Elena's models still works and came across this advice for the ladies. These are
questions that Elena suggests would be good questions for the ladies to ask.
(I agree with her)


1.  What made you decide to seek a life partner abroad?
2.  How long have you been using this dating site?
3.  What impression do you have after communicating with women here?
4.  What do you know about my country?
5.  If you meet someone you really like, do you think you will want to meet them
     in real life? How soon? Where and how?
6.  Do you believe in talking to many women, and then making your choice? Or do
     you think it's best to talk to only 1-2 people at a time but give it your full attention?
7.  It's probably not my business, but how many women are you talking to?
8.  Have you ever been to my country?
9.  Do you enjoy travelling overseas?
10. How many foreign countries have you been to? Which ones did you enjoy the most?
11. What is your typical working day routine?
12. What do you usually do on weekends?
13. How do you usually spend your holidays? How many days a year your vacation?
14. Do you enjoy your job? What do you like the most about it?
15. If you could choose any career you wanted all over again, what would it be?
16. What is your special talent? Something that you love doing and people always compliment you on.
17. What do you like the most about the place where you live? What made you choose to settle down     
      there?
18. How religious are you?
19. How do you imagine your life when you are married?
20. Do you want to have children? How many?
21. Would you want your future wife to work or stay at home?
22. How many serious relationships have you had in your life? Have you ever been married or engaged?
23. What your childhood was like?)
24. Do you have any children? What kind of relationships do you have with your children?
25. What happened in your last relationship? Do you still communicate?
26. What do your friends and family think about your seeking a partner abroad?
27. What are your most treasured plans for the future?
28. Do you think you've done well in life compared to your classmates?
29. What is your view on sex in relationships and marriage?
30. What chores around the house do you enjoy doing and which ones you dislike?
31. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
32. Do you have a bucket list? What things would you want to do before you die?
33. Now that we know each other for a while, what do you think about me?

Some other questions might be, in no particular order:

1. Do you speak my language? If not are you willing to learn it?
2. Is there opportunities for [fill in woman's skill set] in your community for me?
3. Would you consider living in my country?
4. Do you expect your wife to do all the house work?
5. Do you expect your wife to do all the child rearing? (Bill I remember you saying you haven't changed any diapers yet  :laugh:)
6. Do you like my country's food?
7. Why did you choose this site as opposed to ...?
8. Would you object to your wife visiting her home country?
9. Would you join her travelling with her to her home country?
10. If we have children could they travel to wife's country to visit?
11. How would you feel if I earned more than you?
12. Would you consider retiring to my country?
13. What do you think of my country's politics?
14. Do you prefer your wife to dress in a certain type of way?
Title: Re: 33 questions that you need to ask of a man from Elena's Models
Post by: 2tallbill on February 15, 2015, 09:35:03 PM

13. How many days a year your vacation?


Google translate detected, or 13 is not a lucky number for everyone?  :D


Elena actually has the questions in Russian followed by good English translations.

I was using Google translate to navigate the thread. I copied both the Google translated
questions and Elena's translated questions and deleted the Google translate version

On lucky number 13, I mistakenly deleted the good translation and left the clunky 
Google version.

Here is the Russian side of Elena's models
http://www.zamuzh.com/

Then here to the blogs
http://blogs.elenasmodels.com/ru/

and finally here
33 вопроса для знакомства с иностранцами
http://blogs.elenasmodels.com/ru/33-voprosa-dlya-znakomstva-s-inostrantsami/

Elena's correct translation was as follows
How do you usually spend your vacations? How many days off do you have every year?
Title: Re: 33 questions that you need to ask of a man from Elena's Models
Post by: SOUTHERN X on February 15, 2015, 10:10:15 PM
It's been a while since I've added anything to this thread so I went to see if the Russian
side of Elena's models still works and came across this advice for the ladies. These are
questions that Elena suggests would be good questions for the ladies to ask.
(I agree with her)


1.  What made you decide to seek a life partner abroad?
2.  How long have you been using this dating site?
3.  What impression do you have after communicating with women here?
4.  What do you know about my country?
5.  If you meet someone you really like, do you think you will want to meet them
     in real life? How soon? Where and how?
6.  Do you believe in talking to many women, and then making your choice? Or do
     you think it's best to talk to only 1-2 people at a time but give it your full attention?
7.  It's probably not my business, but how many women are you talking to?
8.  Have you ever been to my country?
9.  Do you enjoy travelling overseas?
10. How many foreign countries have you been to? Which ones did you enjoy the most?
11. What is your typical working day routine?
12. What do you usually do on weekends?
13. How do you usually spend your holidays? How many days a year your vacation?
14. Do you enjoy your job? What do you like the most about it?
15. If you could choose any career you wanted all over again, what would it be?
16. What is your special talent? Something that you love doing and people always compliment you on.
17. What do you like the most about the place where you live? What made you choose to settle down     
      there?
18. How religious are you?
19. How do you imagine your life when you are married?
20. Do you want to have children? How many?
21. Would you want your future wife to work or stay at home?
22. How many serious relationships have you had in your life? Have you ever been married or engaged?
23. What your childhood was like?)
24. Do you have any children? What kind of relationships do you have with your children?
25. What happened in your last relationship? Do you still communicate?
26. What do your friends and family think about your seeking a partner abroad?
27. What are your most treasured plans for the future?
28. Do you think you've done well in life compared to your classmates?
29. What is your view on sex in relationships and marriage?
30. What chores around the house do you enjoy doing and which ones you dislike?
31. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
32. Do you have a bucket list? What things would you want to do before you die?
33. Now that we know each other for a while, what do you think about me?

bill good questions ,

id think the asking of them would apply to both parties in the usual exchange of information between them
most blokes would be interested in a ladys responses

SX
Title: Thread update
Post by: 2tallbill on November 22, 2019, 02:14:18 PM

bill good questions ,

id think the asking of them would apply to both parties in the usual exchange of information between them
most blokes would be interested in a ladys responses

SX

I've posted millions of questions to ask, but my advice is to
make a list of subjects and organize it into an outline that
you need to go over first before you marry a woman.

If you spend a few hours at this, you will be surprised at how
fast your outline grows and how many subjects that you need
to talk about before you ______________ get on a plane, before
you get engaged, before you get married.

99% of Good girls will want to have these conversations. These 
are true insights about how

Examples

I. Expectations and roles in a family
   A. What tasks are expected of the husband
     1.
     2.
     3.
   B. What tasks are expected of the wife
   C. What tasks are expected of the children
   D. What tasks Exwife, Mother in law, creepy uncle etc.

II. Conflict Resolution
   A. What is off limits for you in an argument
     1. Gun fights,
     2. Calling my mother a  _____________
     3. Etc.
   B. What is off limits for me in an argument
   C. What to do when we disagree
   D. Something else.   

III. Sex stuff
   A. Frequency
   B. What's freaky good
   C. What's freaky bad
   D. Something else
   E. What happens in the unlikely event that Angelina Jolie wants
   to have sex with me (one time only).
   F.

IV. Kids
  A. Do we want to make any of our own
  B. What if we make one by accident
  C. Who disciplines your child/my child 
  D. What happens if child acts out
  E. One million other things here.

V.  Exwife/ExHusband

VI. Inlaws/Outlaws

VII.  Education, learning English, Driving a car

VIII. Pet Peeves

IX.  Jobs and work.

X.   Goals

XI.  Retirement

XII. This list can go on and on and on and it should
this is your due diligence phase.

Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Valenki on December 01, 2019, 03:42:38 AM
It all sounds crazy to me. I met my wife in Slovakia by mere chance. We were both waiting for the same električka. Her very poor German was the only language in which to communicate. She had a ten-year-old daughter and didn't fall into the category of “perfect”. We have been married 15 years now, have a child together, and I think of it as a successful marriage and such a wonderful life together.

So when I think about how I had no intention of meeting someone (and yet how it turned out)  if you want to meet a future wife in any of the “eastern” European countries ….. just go there and have a sniff around. It just has to be easier than meeting someone on line who will probably just tell you anything you want to hear.  :)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: andrewfi on December 01, 2019, 06:13:17 AM
Valenki, you're on the money except: many guys who think there are no suitable life partners in their own country are not well enough socialised that they can meet people face to face. For those who feel that none of their countrywomen meet their high standards, they are so time poor that taking the time to do as you suggest is not possible. Remember that most USAians get only 2 weeks vacation and that a large proportion of them are unable to even take all of that small allotment of personal time.

The constraints upon these poor guys is what led to the online international mail order bride thing in the USA.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: NS1 on December 01, 2019, 07:13:22 AM
    There are narrow minded people who think the world is closed off in sections.
As most open minded people have realized the world in many ways is becoming smaller.
the ability to travel, communicate and see many parts of the world is much easier now.

   I am sure like some men, many women see the advantages of opening up the distance
in which they can search for a partner. As this site proves some have the ability some do not.
I am sure some should never start their search, maybe some should have more of an open mind.

   Different cultures also create different types of people, regardless of where you are in the world
Finding a person that shares goals, futures and outcomes and life styles is always going to be a few of the
key goals. The ability to search further allows the odds to be in both partners favour.


   Like anything in this world, if there is a desire, someone will figure out how to make money from it.
As in any business some are trying to be honest in their dealings with people, some just trying to make
money anyway they can. I suspect you can find this in almost any market in most countries.

   As here like most places, you will find all kinds of people, some good, some not so much, some ignorant,
some smarter than others, many different careers and like most things some are just assholes.
As the expression goes, takes all kinds.

   The part I never understood is why some feel the need to shit on everything they see?
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Valenki on December 01, 2019, 09:00:14 AM
Valenki, you're on the money except: many guys who think there are no suitable life partners in their own country are not well enough socialised that they can meet people face to face. For those who feel that none of their countrywomen meet their high standards, they are so time poor that taking the time to do as you suggest is not possible. Remember that most USAians get only 2 weeks vacation and that a large proportion of them are unable to even take all of that small allotment of personal time.


I see what you mean and I must admit I hadn't considered all of that in preparing my response. I don't really think of this forum as speaking to USAians specifically, but if I had I would not have worded it so matter-of-factly.  Your point on being sufficiently “socialised that they can meet people face to face” is a poignant one and that would certainly inhibit one's capacity to attract interest particularly as Slavic women prefer men who are confident without being intimidating ….. sympathetic yet dignified.

The constraints upon these poor guys is what led to the online international mail order bride thing in the USA.


I understand it better now, thanks. Do you find that applies to Brits as well?
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Markje on December 01, 2019, 01:22:15 PM

   The part I never understood is why some feel the need to shit on everything they see?
This!

Local supermarket in my town got new shopping carts. All the old ones were gone.

And already 1 of them broke because some idiot applied way too much force.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: andrewfi on December 01, 2019, 01:33:07 PM
I think the points I was making do apply to many British guys, except, of course, we have much more time off than our colonial cousins.

One thing that interests me a tad is this manliness thing. Something came up recently that put a new context on it for me.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Valenki on December 01, 2019, 06:44:32 PM
..........................
One thing that interests me a tad is this manliness thing. Something came up recently that put a new context on it for me.
And that something is ...?
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: andrewfi on December 01, 2019, 08:56:27 PM
That's a long reply that might get shifted to another section but I am travelling right now and don't fancy writing it at the moment.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Valenki on December 01, 2019, 10:26:00 PM
OK.
Title: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on December 03, 2019, 03:17:01 PM
easier than meeting someone on line

My father met my mother by jumping in the back seat of
her car when she stopped at a traffic light. I met my first
wife at a garage sale.

The internet is only a tool. In the end it's boy meets girl just
like it's been since parents stopped arranging marriages.

I started this thread because I thought it might be interesting
to know what the agencies told the girls. I found the Russian
part of the site and managed to find different sections and
then I translated it.

Udachi!

Bill
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Valenki on December 03, 2019, 09:28:33 PM
My father met my mother by jumping in the back seat of
her car when she stopped at a traffic light. I met my first
wife at a garage sale.

The internet is only a tool. In the end it's boy meets girl just
like it's been since parents stopped arranging marriages.
I've never met anyone on the internet, I mean not that sort of "meet". I always met girls at the dance or waiting in the queue at the post office or choosing a head of lettuce at the green grocer's.

I started this thread because I thought it might be interesting
to know what the agencies told the girls. I found the Russian
part of the site and managed to find different sections and
then I translated it.

Udachi!

Bill
It's a damned good thread too. I am glad you started it. I have wondered what the girls were being told about how to catch a man and how to impress them enough to be interested in them. I have always noticed that women from Russia (in particular) post photos of themselves in sexy poses and I figured they'd only get lecherous men to respond and that they'd have no one but themselves to blame for it. Do Russian women really think it's a good idea to pose like that and is it the dating agencies that recommend it?

тьфу!

Valenki


Title: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: 2tallbill on December 05, 2019, 08:02:27 AM
It's a damned good thread too. I am glad you started it. I have wondered what the girls were being told about how to catch a man and how to impress them enough to be interested in them. I have always noticed that women from Russia (in particular) post photos of themselves in sexy poses and I figured they'd only get lecherous men to respond and that they'd have no one but themselves to blame for it. Do Russian women really think it's a good idea to pose like that and is it the dating agencies that recommend it?

тьфу!

Valenki

Yes, it appears that they recommend some of it for sure.
http://www.zamuzh.com/book/photos/example.htm

(http://www.zamuzh.com/book/photos/examples/good-photo139.jpg)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: LoyalMan on December 05, 2019, 09:31:23 AM
The main point of the whole post is:
Quote
At the age of 29 years, I decided to find fiance abroad. I said to myself that from this point on, the search for a husband is my number 1 priority, everything including work and money, was secondary.

So for men, narrow your search in this way woman age: from 29 to ...
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Valenki on December 05, 2019, 09:32:01 AM
Yes, it appears that they recommend some of it for sure.
http://www.zamuzh.com/book/photos/example.htm
Jesus, that is sickening. There's a lot of legs akimbo! Are they looking for a husband, an agent, or a pimp?   :laugh:
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: msmoby on December 07, 2019, 05:17:09 AM
These photos are ancient ... perhaps from 2002- 2005 ?


Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Valenki on December 08, 2019, 05:16:18 AM
These photos are ancient ... perhaps from 2002- 2005 ?
You'd have to be extremely active in order to know that. You haven't managed to find a mate (of the opposite sex) in all of 18 years? I think you must either be doing something wrong or you have ulterior motives for viewing the gallery other than its' intended purpose?  :scared0005:
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: patagonie on December 08, 2019, 06:08:22 AM
These photos are ancient ... perhaps from 2002- 2005 ?
You'd have to be extremely active in order to know that. You haven't managed to find a mate (of the opposite sex) in all of 18 years? I think you must either be doing something wrong or you have ulterior motives for viewing the gallery other than its' intended purpose?  :scared0005:
Elena Models is a legitimate site.
The informations provided here are interesting for any man who want to dig more about FSU and how the whole dating system works, 
They are not extrem photos, you will notice more sexual photos in agencies, especially the more dubious (a majority)
I don't understand the relationship bewteen the morale judgment and some photos of women you are doing, may you explain more?
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: patagonie on December 08, 2019, 06:09:48 AM
These photos are ancient ... perhaps from 2002- 2005 ?

Some come from 2005 - 2010 (2010 maximum)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Valenki on December 08, 2019, 07:36:07 AM
I don't understand the relationship bewteen the morale judgment and some photos of women you are doing ...
I don't understand what is meant by "women I am doing". What do you mean?

...  may you explain more?
I am talking about the moral suggestiveness of the photos and what sort of man they expect to attract by posting such photos. Personally speaking, a woman posing in bedtime attire wouldn't encourage me to think of her as family-building material. So .... if I were seeking a wife I'd look elsewhere.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Wiz on December 08, 2019, 08:23:43 AM
And this photo is very old one ... but the lady in question managed to catch a very big fish with her High Mile poses.

(https://media.gq-magazine.co.uk/photos/5d138cdfb6fee943dfc9d65f/16:9/w_1280%2cc_limit/Melania-Trump-06-GQ-7-Nov16_Antoine-Verglas_b.jpg)

:nod:
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Valenki on December 08, 2019, 08:50:15 AM
And this photo is very old one ... but the lady in question managed to catch a very big fish with her High Mile poses.

(https://media.gq-magazine.co.uk/photos/5d138cdfb6fee943dfc9d65f/16:9/w_1280%2cc_limit/Melania-Trump-06-GQ-7-Nov16_Antoine-Verglas_b.jpg)

:nod:
High-maintenance money-whore. Great for catching fish and old men who are divorced and have grown children of their own but not exactly what you'd be looking for in a wife, a soul mate, starting a family with, or taking along with you to the footy match. Anyway, who wants a woman who wears her shoes in bed?  :laugh:
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: patagonie on December 08, 2019, 10:38:57 AM
I don't understand the relationship bewteen the morale judgment and some photos of women you are doing ...
I don't understand what is meant by "women I am doing". What do you mean?

...  may you explain more?
I am talking about the moral suggestiveness of the photos and what sort of man they expect to attract by posting such photos. Personally speaking, a woman posing in bedtime attire wouldn't encourage me to think of her as family-building material. So .... if I were seeking a wife I'd look elsewhere.

The culture first explains that women pay a high attention on their photos, there is an extrem competition among women. Photos are extremly important.
They damned love the staging and can spend a lot of time to do this.
Now the go between (agencies) are pushing girls to go to some professional studios where they are "invited" to take some suggestives poses with some accessories (belonging to the studio often, if the lady didn't bring theirs).

Agencies are also "photoshopping" a maximum of photos before putting them in the gallery. You will find the same trend in Europe where a lot of so so or ugly girls use some applications that put some doggy face, sparks or other stupidities, and the ones who don't put any photos, only flowers or landscape .....

For the ones who are applying on direct dating sites (Fdating, LuckyLovers, Tinder, Badoo and there are more) the most denuded photos should be generally considered as some dubious profiles, (prositutes full or half time, gold diggers, scammers) so i, myself, avoid such profiles. However a photo of a woman at the gym or even at the beach is nothing to be considered as dubious among many others photos. Some are proud of their body and are very sportive or in very good shape and they just want to show it (as many men are tempted to show also various photos bare chest).

There is nothing wrong to watch photos of beautiful women, every men like it. I would be more cautious of men who have a problem with this or men who hide their eyes when their wifes are naked in the bathroom.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Manny on December 08, 2019, 01:28:02 PM
Anyway, who wants a woman who wears her shoes in bed?  :laugh:

Melania's shoes are a bit tame for bed, really. I'd prefer a decent 4" heel.  :chuckle:
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Valenki on December 08, 2019, 08:45:54 PM
Anyway, who wants a woman who wears her shoes in bed?  :laugh:

Melania's shoes are a bit tame for bed, really. I'd prefer a decent 4" heel.  :chuckle:
I honestly didn't realize who that was till you just told me.  :laugh:  I hear a loud banging on my door. Is it too late do you think for me to edit my comments under her photo?
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Valenki on December 08, 2019, 08:54:23 PM
I don't understand the relationship bewteen the morale judgment and some photos of women you are doing ...
I don't understand what is meant by "women I am doing". What do you mean?

...  may you explain more?
I am talking about the moral suggestiveness of the photos and what sort of man they expect to attract by posting such photos. Personally speaking, a woman posing in bedtime attire wouldn't encourage me to think of her as family-building material. So .... if I were seeking a wife I'd look elsewhere.

The culture first explains that women pay a high attention on their photos, there is an extrem competition among women. Photos are extremly important.
They damned love the staging and can spend a lot of time to do this.
Now the go between (agencies) are pushing girls to go to some professional studios where they are "invited" to take some suggestives poses with some accessories (belonging to the studio often, if the lady didn't bring theirs).

Agencies are also "photoshopping" a maximum of photos before putting them in the gallery. You will find the same trend in Europe where a lot of so so or ugly girls use some applications that put some doggy face, sparks or other stupidities, and the ones who don't put any photos, only flowers or landscape .....

For the ones who are applying on direct dating sites (Fdating, LuckyLovers, Tinder, Badoo and there are more) the most denuded photos should be generally considered as some dubious profiles, (prositutes full or half time, gold diggers, scammers) so i, myself, avoid such profiles. However a photo of a woman at the gym or even at the beach is nothing to be considered as dubious among many others photos. Some are proud of their body and are very sportive or in very good shape and they just want to show it (as many men are tempted to show also various photos bare chest).

There is nothing wrong to watch photos of beautiful women, every men like it. I would be more cautious of men who have a problem with this or men who hide their eyes when their wifes are naked in the bathroom.
But the question is: Would you consider one of these "high photo attention paying" "professional studio posing" "photoshopped" women for your wife? C'est une question personnelle pour vous-même. Alor?
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Wiz on December 08, 2019, 10:24:25 PM
But the question is: Would you consider one of these "high photo attention paying" "professional studio posing" "photoshopped" women for your wife? C'est une question personnelle pour vous-même. Alor?

If you could afford to have your own private jet....a 757  and fly around the world ...... Γιατι Οχι?
Varför inte? Pourquoi pas?

Don't you think it would be a nice relaxation time on a very long Flight?

I was bored out of my mind flying to LA on a Virgin Jumbo and on arrival I could not sleep for hours.

Now I am contemplating  a 5 hour flight to Cyprus in January to meet my "friend" Moby for a birthday celebration...... if he manage to escape from Georgia and his office assignment!

Now I can only dream...... and contemplate ....

(https://www.aerotime.aero/aviation-blog/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/1.jpg)

(https://www.aerotime.aero/aviation-blog/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/319065-donald-trump-private-jet-interior-quality-news-image-uploaded-november-14-2014-1024x578.jpg)

(https://www.aerotime.aero/aviation-blog/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/vv.jpg)

 :thumbsup:
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Valenki on December 08, 2019, 10:49:35 PM
If you could afford to have your own private jet....a 757 and fly around the world ...... Γιατι Οχι?
Varför inte? Pourquoi pas?

Don't you think it would be a nice relaxation time on a very long Flight?

I was bored out of my mind flying to LA on a Virgin Jumbo and on arrival I could not sleep for hours.
And here's me thinking the subject was 'women'?


Now I am contemplating a 5 hour flight to Cyprus in January to meet my "friend" Moby for a birthday celebration...... if he manage to escape from Georgia and his office assignment!
Your birthday or his?  :party0011:

Now I can only dream...... and contemplate ....

We all have our dreams, each of us, but mine do not include high-priced escort women making my breakfast,  baring my children, spending my money, and trying to find the hole without disheleving her hair or  smearing her make-up.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: msmoby on December 09, 2019, 01:10:02 AM

You'd have to be extremely active in order to know that. You haven't managed to find a mate (of the opposite sex) in all of 18 years? I think you must either be doing something wrong or you have ulterior motives for viewing the gallery other than its' intended purpose?  :scared0005:

 :chuckle:

1/ I remember some of the photos / girls  ;)

2/ The style of clothing is SO old
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Guile on December 09, 2019, 02:05:01 AM
we got some senior citizens complaining about scantily clad women  :ROFL: :ROFL:
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Steveboy on December 09, 2019, 10:34:36 AM
I don't understand the relationship bewteen the morale judgment and some photos of women you are doing ...
I don't understand what is meant by "women I am doing". What do you mean?

...  may you explain more?
I am talking about the moral suggestiveness of the photos and what sort of man they expect to attract by posting such photos. Personally speaking, a woman posing in bedtime attire wouldn't encourage me to think of her as family-building material. So .... if I were seeking a wife I'd look elsewhere.

The culture first explains that women pay a high attention on their photos, there is an extrem competition among women. Photos are extremly important.
They damned love the staging and can spend a lot of time to do this.
Now the go between (agencies) are pushing girls to go to some professional studios where they are "invited" to take some suggestives poses with some accessories (belonging to the studio often, if the lady didn't bring theirs).

Agencies are also "photoshopping" a maximum of photos before putting them in the gallery. You will find the same trend in Europe where a lot of so so or ugly girls use some applications that put some doggy face, sparks or other stupidities, and the ones who don't put any photos, only flowers or landscape .....

For the ones who are applying on direct dating sites (Fdating, LuckyLovers, Tinder, Badoo and there are more) the most denuded photos should be generally considered as some dubious profiles, (prositutes full or half time, gold diggers, scammers) so i, myself, avoid such profiles. However a photo of a woman at the gym or even at the beach is nothing to be considered as dubious among many others photos. Some are proud of their body and are very sportive or in very good shape and they just want to show it (as many men are tempted to show also various photos bare chest).

There is nothing wrong to watch photos of beautiful women, every men like it. I would be more cautious of men who have a problem with this or men who hide their eyes when their wifes are naked in the bathroom.


The culture first explains that women pay a high attention on their photos, there is an extrem competition among women. Photos are extremly important.

Pure nonsense!! This is what outdated articles about FSUW tell you.. garbage simple garbage..women from FSU countries are no different to any others some do good photos some do shit photos..
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: patagonie on December 09, 2019, 12:33:30 PM
I don't understand the relationship bewteen the morale judgment and some photos of women you are doing ...
I don't understand what is meant by "women I am doing". What do you mean?

...  may you explain more?
I am talking about the moral suggestiveness of the photos and what sort of man they expect to attract by posting such photos. Personally speaking, a woman posing in bedtime attire wouldn't encourage me to think of her as family-building material. So .... if I were seeking a wife I'd look elsewhere.

The culture first explains that women pay a high attention on their photos, there is an extrem competition among women. Photos are extremly important.
They damned love the staging and can spend a lot of time to do this.
Now the go between (agencies) are pushing girls to go to some professional studios where they are "invited" to take some suggestives poses with some accessories (belonging to the studio often, if the lady didn't bring theirs).

Agencies are also "photoshopping" a maximum of photos before putting them in the gallery. You will find the same trend in Europe where a lot of so so or ugly girls use some applications that put some doggy face, sparks or other stupidities, and the ones who don't put any photos, only flowers or landscape .....

For the ones who are applying on direct dating sites (Fdating, LuckyLovers, Tinder, Badoo and there are more) the most denuded photos should be generally considered as some dubious profiles, (prositutes full or half time, gold diggers, scammers) so i, myself, avoid such profiles. However a photo of a woman at the gym or even at the beach is nothing to be considered as dubious among many others photos. Some are proud of their body and are very sportive or in very good shape and they just want to show it (as many men are tempted to show also various photos bare chest).

There is nothing wrong to watch photos of beautiful women, every men like it. I would be more cautious of men who have a problem with this or men who hide their eyes when their wifes are naked in the bathroom.


The culture first explains that women pay a high attention on their photos, there is an extrem competition among women. Photos are extremly important.

Pure nonsense!! This is what outdated articles about FSUW tell you.. garbage simple garbage..women from FSU countries are no different to any others some do good photos some do shit photos..

This not outdated articles, but five years of live with a 8.4 young ukrainian woman, my ex friends in Ukraine owning a marriage agency, all the people, from Ukraine, Bielorussia (had a GF from there before), Russia and events i came in. More than 20 trips. 
So i maintain photos are extremly important for FSU women.

This is my opinion and my life, i understand you can have your.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: patagonie on December 09, 2019, 12:47:14 PM
I don't understand the relationship bewteen the morale judgment and some photos of women you are doing ...
I don't understand what is meant by "women I am doing". What do you mean?

...  may you explain more?
I am talking about the moral suggestiveness of the photos and what sort of man they expect to attract by posting such photos. Personally speaking, a woman posing in bedtime attire wouldn't encourage me to think of her as family-building material. So .... if I were seeking a wife I'd look elsewhere.

The culture first explains that women pay a high attention on their photos, there is an extrem competition among women. Photos are extremly important.
They damned love the staging and can spend a lot of time to do this.
Now the go between (agencies) are pushing girls to go to some professional studios where they are "invited" to take some suggestives poses with some accessories (belonging to the studio often, if the lady didn't bring theirs).

Agencies are also "photoshopping" a maximum of photos before putting them in the gallery. You will find the same trend in Europe where a lot of so so or ugly girls use some applications that put some doggy face, sparks or other stupidities, and the ones who don't put any photos, only flowers or landscape .....

For the ones who are applying on direct dating sites (Fdating, LuckyLovers, Tinder, Badoo and there are more) the most denuded photos should be generally considered as some dubious profiles, (prositutes full or half time, gold diggers, scammers) so i, myself, avoid such profiles. However a photo of a woman at the gym or even at the beach is nothing to be considered as dubious among many others photos. Some are proud of their body and are very sportive or in very good shape and they just want to show it (as many men are tempted to show also various photos bare chest).

There is nothing wrong to watch photos of beautiful women, every men like it. I would be more cautious of men who have a problem with this or men who hide their eyes when their wifes are naked in the bathroom.
But the question is: Would you consider one of these "high photo attention paying" "professional studio posing" "photoshopped" women for your wife? C'est une question personnelle pour vous-même. Alor?

Depends of from where it comes, if it's a trusty agency i know or a very serious site, i would consider it.
If it comes directly from the woman and she displays it herself, i would avoid her.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: Steveboy on December 09, 2019, 01:04:20 PM
I don't understand the relationship bewteen the morale judgment and some photos of women you are doing ...
I don't understand what is meant by "women I am doing". What do you mean?

...  may you explain more?
I am talking about the moral suggestiveness of the photos and what sort of man they expect to attract by posting such photos. Personally speaking, a woman posing in bedtime attire wouldn't encourage me to think of her as family-building material. So .... if I were seeking a wife I'd look elsewhere.

The culture first explains that women pay a high attention on their photos, there is an extrem competition among women. Photos are extremly important.
They damned love the staging and can spend a lot of time to do this.
Now the go between (agencies) are pushing girls to go to some professional studios where they are "invited" to take some suggestives poses with some accessories (belonging to the studio often, if the lady didn't bring theirs).

Agencies are also "photoshopping" a maximum of photos before putting them in the gallery. You will find the same trend in Europe where a lot of so so or ugly girls use some applications that put some doggy face, sparks or other stupidities, and the ones who don't put any photos, only flowers or landscape .....

For the ones who are applying on direct dating sites (Fdating, LuckyLovers, Tinder, Badoo and there are more) the most denuded photos should be generally considered as some dubious profiles, (prositutes full or half time, gold diggers, scammers) so i, myself, avoid such profiles. However a photo of a woman at the gym or even at the beach is nothing to be considered as dubious among many others photos. Some are proud of their body and are very sportive or in very good shape and they just want to show it (as many men are tempted to show also various photos bare chest).

There is nothing wrong to watch photos of beautiful women, every men like it. I would be more cautious of men who have a problem with this or men who hide their eyes when their wifes are naked in the bathroom.


The culture first explains that women pay a high attention on their photos, there is an extrem competition among women. Photos are extremly important.

Pure nonsense!! This is what outdated articles about FSUW tell you.. garbage simple garbage..women from FSU countries are no different to any others some do good photos some do shit photos..

This not outdated articles, but five years of live with a 8.4 young ukrainian woman, my ex friends in Ukraine owning a marriage agency, all the people, from Ukraine, Bielorussia (had a GF from there before), Russia and events i came in. More than 20 trips. 
So i maintain photos are extremly important for FSU women.

This is my opinion and my life, i understand you can have your.


Naaa photo's are not so important .. just take a look on Tinder it is a pick up app.. I don't see thousands of women with fantastic photo shoots ? Just normal girls with not bad photos .. simple really.. real women do not do that sort of stuff much today.. maybe back in the 1990's not today..when they still had old cameras with a flash.. :laugh:

All the women you see in agencies with fantastic photo sets are fakes in any case!
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: patagonie on December 09, 2019, 02:23:23 PM
I don't understand the relationship bewteen the morale judgment and some photos of women you are doing ...
I don't understand what is meant by "women I am doing". What do you mean?

...  may you explain more?
I am talking about the moral suggestiveness of the photos and what sort of man they expect to attract by posting such photos. Personally speaking, a woman posing in bedtime attire wouldn't encourage me to think of her as family-building material. So .... if I were seeking a wife I'd look elsewhere.

The culture first explains that women pay a high attention on their photos, there is an extrem competition among women. Photos are extremly important.
They damned love the staging and can spend a lot of time to do this.
Now the go between (agencies) are pushing girls to go to some professional studios where they are "invited" to take some suggestives poses with some accessories (belonging to the studio often, if the lady didn't bring theirs).

Agencies are also "photoshopping" a maximum of photos before putting them in the gallery. You will find the same trend in Europe where a lot of so so or ugly girls use some applications that put some doggy face, sparks or other stupidities, and the ones who don't put any photos, only flowers or landscape .....

For the ones who are applying on direct dating sites (Fdating, LuckyLovers, Tinder, Badoo and there are more) the most denuded photos should be generally considered as some dubious profiles, (prositutes full or half time, gold diggers, scammers) so i, myself, avoid such profiles. However a photo of a woman at the gym or even at the beach is nothing to be considered as dubious among many others photos. Some are proud of their body and are very sportive or in very good shape and they just want to show it (as many men are tempted to show also various photos bare chest).

There is nothing wrong to watch photos of beautiful women, every men like it. I would be more cautious of men who have a problem with this or men who hide their eyes when their wifes are naked in the bathroom.


The culture first explains that women pay a high attention on their photos, there is an extrem competition among women. Photos are extremly important.

Pure nonsense!! This is what outdated articles about FSUW tell you.. garbage simple garbage..women from FSU countries are no different to any others some do good photos some do shit photos..

This not outdated articles, but five years of live with a 8.4 young ukrainian woman, my ex friends in Ukraine owning a marriage agency, all the people, from Ukraine, Bielorussia (had a GF from there before), Russia and events i came in. More than 20 trips. 
So i maintain photos are extremly important for FSU women.

This is my opinion and my life, i understand you can have your.


Naaa photo's are not so important .. just take a look on Tinder it is a pick up app.. I don't see thousands of women with fantastic photo shoots ? Just normal girls with not bad photos .. simple really.. real women do not do that sort of stuff much today.. maybe back in the 1990's not today..when they still had old cameras with a flash.. :laugh:

All the women you see in agencies with fantastic photo sets are fakes in any case!

I would agree with you that the majority of the amazing photos, especially in the 20/30 range are faked profiles.
And it is still true that anyway the photos are photoshoped.

But i have managed in 2009/2010/2011 to meet a lot of real women through 2/3 trustables agencies and Elena models. Two of the three agencies have disappeared, one the owner has emigrated in the Nederland and the other i don't know. The last one is still active. A large part of the photos were photoshopped, some shooted in studio, i would say even many.
Ok it needs to be said that no more than 20 trustable agencies (and i am generous) are operating in Ukraine. Often it's about cross cultural couples owning it.  The agencies i used were among them and i choose them accordingly. 

About Tinder, the field is more contrasted (the same with Badoo, but Badoo is having more average women). Some women, real women, are now IMHO managing to be NOT under the spotlights, to avoid a furia of incoming messages coming from all the stupids men of the world. The lady i met again from Kiev actually use ordinary photos. And other lady from Kiev who had been my girlfriend this summer didn't had stellar photos i do agree. But they like to pose, massively. Here you will find a mix of photos, that fortunately allow you to sort out the nice women from the so so ones, the slims from the more fat ones.
Something important to know : i am chasing women after 38 now at least and that pushes me out of the usual scam and gold diggers crownd. Also my profile is published in russian and it is clearly indicated that i would relocate at least partially in the future. So the perspectives are differents.
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: NS1 on December 09, 2019, 04:28:35 PM
To this point I have never met an FSU women who did not like to pose.
Someone brings out a Camera and its a Vogue photo shoot :)
Title: Re: Did you ever wonder what the agencies tell the girls?
Post by: msmoby on December 09, 2019, 08:48:53 PM
First EVER thing you've posted that I agree with ;)