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Married my dream wife- my story
« on: August 03, 2019, 12:05:02 PM »
Hi Guys, I used to post on here almost a decade ago. I was so lost back then..haha


I travelled all over the FSU and spend some time in each major city of Ukraine. Eventually, I found my wife and now we're settled down and living together. I'm going to take up a job offer in Germany soon and work for an IT company there. Its the easiest way for both of us to be in one country, visa hassle free.

I met my wife during a BBQ in a local park where I was invited by some friends I met at an English meetup group. If anyone is in the FSU, I strongly recommend attending a group where they have English practice since so many people just want to speak with a foreigner and get some practice.

Well, after lots of trips and heartaches I got married last year. Now I'm starting a youtube channel that shows how to meet Ukrainian girls.

Here's the link:

If you guys have any questions please post here or PM me.


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Re: Married my dream wife- my story
« Reply #1 on: August 03, 2019, 05:53:37 PM »
if you met your wife at a BBQ at an English meetup group why would you need to tell others how to do it? they can just use meetup :'( :'(

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Re: Married my dream wife- my story
« Reply #2 on: August 04, 2019, 10:09:17 AM »
if you met your wife at a BBQ at an English meetup group why would you need to tell others how to do it? they can just use meetup :'( :'(

The story seems very fishy. Allegedly they’re married yet he needs to move to Germany so they can be together. How long have they been apart? I see a single Ukrainian bird with a strong accent in the video, who hopes to get more subscribers.
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Re: Married my dream wife- my story
« Reply #3 on: August 04, 2019, 02:49:26 PM »
1) No, actually I met her at a BBQ I was invited to by friends I met originally at an English meetup

2) I'm moving to Germany since I got a job offer there.


Just look at how great Ukrainian cooking is. Bet you wouldn't turn down a meal like this:


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Re: Married my dream wife- my story
« Reply #4 on: August 04, 2019, 03:15:33 PM »
Is that your wife in the video then?

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Re: Married my dream wife- my story
« Reply #5 on: August 04, 2019, 03:17:13 PM »
 :ROFL:

That looks absolutely terrible!!

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Re: Married my dream wife- my story
« Reply #6 on: August 04, 2019, 03:21:24 PM »
Hi Guys, I used to post on here almost a decade ago. I was so lost back then..haha

Tell me your username then please?

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Re: Married my dream wife- my story
« Reply #7 on: August 04, 2019, 04:43:27 PM »
Hi Guys, I used to post on here almost a decade ago. I was so lost back then..haha


I travelled all over the FSU and spend some time in each major city of Ukraine. Eventually, I found my wife and now we're settled down and living together. I'm going to take up a job offer in Germany soon and work for an IT company there. Its the easiest way for both of us to be in one country, visa hassle free.

I met my wife during a BBQ in a local park where I was invited by some friends I met at an English meetup group. If anyone is in the FSU, I strongly recommend attending a group where they have English practice since so many people just want to speak with a foreigner and get some practice.

Well, after lots of trips and heartaches I got married last year. Now I'm starting a youtube channel that shows how to meet Ukrainian girls.

Here's the link:

If you guys have any questions please post here or PM me.

Why would there be a hassle with visas if you married her?

Take your time.
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Re: Married my dream wife- my story
« Reply #8 on: August 04, 2019, 09:24:38 PM »

Why would there be a hassle with visas if you married her?

Take your time.

Cornfed, I know you've not married an FSU W - it shows ..

If she is granted residency in an EU nation - as a dependent of someone else granted residency to live / work in that EU nation - she is also allowed to live /work  there and travel freely within the EU

Ukrainians can only - legally - remain in Schengen nations for 90 days

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Re: Married my dream wife- my story
« Reply #9 on: August 04, 2019, 09:33:07 PM »
:ROFL:

That looks absolutely terrible!!

FFS - can you think before posting ?

The guy is proud of his missus' (?) and your brain-fart contributions are simply trolling - it's not like he's promoting a biz. model and seeking payment. (yet!?)

She's cooking a variation of баклажан - an Aubergine ( Egg plant) recipe .. served  hot or cold - and very popular across the former soviet union

@JonTrex.. you might want to consider editing out the long silences or chats off screen where nothing is happening. - I found myself skipping again to 'serious action'

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Re: Married my dream wife- my story
« Reply #10 on: August 05, 2019, 02:44:14 AM »
Maybe one or both of them has similar problems to moby.
Pinocchio syndrome that caught up with them?
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« Reply #11 on: August 05, 2019, 04:01:44 AM »
Maybe one or both of them has similar problems to moby.
Pinocchio syndrome that caught up with them?

Dearest 'honest' andrewfi

We now have the latest  andrewfi brain-fart moment ... the desperate need to pass on the mantle of the "poster who posts the most unsubstantiated guff " is an endless series of fails ..

Looking forward to your next 'well-researched' , " I know Moby's life better than Moby"  chapter ..

In the meantime, I ( hope) I see a guy who is well-meaning and proud ..and if it turns out there's a commericial aspect then I'll put my hands up and read him wrong ..

In the meantime, I welcome new blood and note the usual 'sand-pit anarchists' have arrived to offer 'encouragement '... at someone new's expense..




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Re: Married my dream wife- my story
« Reply #12 on: August 05, 2019, 07:17:52 AM »
Hi Guys, I used to post on here almost a decade ago. I was so lost back then..haha

Tell me your username then please?

Wow, I forgot that a long time ago.

I do remember you Manny, the owner of this board.  I know you had a book about marriage also published.


I also remember username mendeleyev. Cool guy. I see he hasn't posted here in a while, I'm sure he's missed.


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Re: Married my dream wife- my story
« Reply #13 on: August 05, 2019, 07:32:40 AM »
for an Australian, marrying a girl overseas doesn't give you automatic residency rights for her, and the application may take 12 months or more to be accessed. there could be many reasons why it's easier in the short term for them to live in Germany

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Re: Married my dream wife- my story
« Reply #14 on: August 05, 2019, 09:32:10 AM »
https://www.uni-bielefeld.de/(en)/International/Scientists/vorbereitungen/familienangehoerige.html

Depends on the type of work visa JonTrex has been awarded.

Some will allow his wife to accompany him and others will even allow her to work .



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Re: Married my dream wife- my story
« Reply #15 on: August 05, 2019, 10:16:35 AM »
Just look at how great Ukrainian cooking is. Bet you wouldn't turn down a meal like this:

It's a bunch of fried vegetables.  Not exactly taxing to prepare, and it's not a uniquely "Ukrainian" meal.  Plus, the woman cooking them doesn't seem to understand that one should not use flatware utensils on non stick pans.  It can damage the coating.

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Re: Married my dream wife- my story
« Reply #16 on: August 05, 2019, 11:51:57 AM »

Why would there be a hassle with visas if you married her?

Take your time.

Confederate, I know you've not married an FSU W - it shows ..

If she is granted residency in an EU nation - as a dependent of someone else granted residency to live / work in that EU nation - she is also allowed to live /work  there and travel freely within the EU

Ukrainians can only - legally - remain in Schengen nations for 90 days

Moldy brain,

The OP claims he married her. Normally he would have brought her to the USA and she would now have a green card or possibly applied for one. The timeline of his relationship and marriage wasn’t clear, hence my question. Stop trolling and let the OP answer.
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« Reply #17 on: August 05, 2019, 11:56:14 AM »
Just look at how great Ukrainian cooking is. Bet you wouldn't turn down a meal like this:

It's a bunch of fried vegetables.  Not exactly taxing to prepare, and it's not a uniquely "Ukrainian" meal.  Plus, the woman cooking them doesn't seem to understand that one should not use flatware utensils on non stick pans.  It can damage the coating.

If he’s an American guy than anything more than a sandwich being made is a miracle.  :chuckle:
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« Reply #18 on: August 05, 2019, 02:23:46 PM »


The OP claims he married her. Normally he would have brought her to the USA and she would now have a green card or possibly applied for one. The timeline of his relationship and marriage wasn’t clear, hence my question. Stop trolling and let the OP answer.

'Claims' ? 

If he has a job in Germany - why would he bring her to the US ? ..She'll still be close enough home to pop back for weekends


Your question needs rephrasing - as it was unambiguous-  and why the "take your time" ?

Is the new  / returned old member on a clock .. ?

What is it with the serially single 'experts' on here .. ;)

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« Reply #19 on: August 05, 2019, 03:42:10 PM »

What is it with the serially single 'experts' on here .. ;)

like you?! hahaha.... 5 years and you still haven't "married" her. guess when you guys are both 60+ you got all the time in the world.  Slim pickings.

rest assured no one is taking life or relationship lessons from you. 3 failed marriages, getting dumped all 3 times. lost contact with the kids for years.

Father of the year candidate! :ROFL:

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« Reply #20 on: August 05, 2019, 06:20:40 PM »


The OP claims he married her. Normally he would have brought her to the USA and she would now have a green card or possibly applied for one. The timeline of his relationship and marriage wasn’t clear, hence my question. Stop trolling and let the OP answer.

'Claims' ? 

If he has a job in Germany - why would he bring her to the US ? ..She'll still be close enough home to pop back for weekends


Your question needs rephrasing - as it was unambiguous-  and why the "take your time" ?

Is the new  / returned old member on a clock .. ?

What is it with the serially single 'experts' on here .. ;)

It’s up to the OP if he wants to clarify his story.

It wasn’t clear to me and likely not to others.

He says he’s married but it seems he’s here pushing a YouTube channel, I suspect for an agency.

Why not let him answer instead of muddying up the story w/ suppositions?

And were you not ignoring me?  :chuckle:
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Re: Married my dream wife- my story
« Reply #21 on: August 06, 2019, 10:32:28 AM »
If he’s an American guy than anything more than a sandwich being made is a miracle.  :chuckle:

 ;D  That was funny.

I read somewhere that only 10% of Americans like cooking, 45% hate it, and 45% are ambivalent.  So, a sandwich is pretty good.

I showed the video to the better half.  He gave her a 2/10 in cooking, mostly for the attempt.  I hope she makes up for the lack of culinary skill in other rooms.

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« Reply #22 on: August 06, 2019, 12:13:55 PM »
If he’s an American guy than anything more than a sandwich being made is a miracle.  :chuckle:

 ;D  That was funny.

I read somewhere that only 10% of Americans like cooking, 45% hate it, and 45% are ambivalent.  So, a sandwich is pretty good.

I showed the video to the better half.  He gave her a 2/10 in cooking, mostly for the attempt.  I hope she makes up for the lack of culinary skill in other rooms.

I would have given her 6 or 7 out of 10 but what do I know?  :chuckle:

I do enjoy watching Rachel Ray and especially Gordon Ramsay on cooking shows.

Cannot cook well at all but like most men can grill a proper steak.
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« Reply #23 on: August 06, 2019, 12:27:22 PM »
  I'm not promoting any business or agency
Thanks for the advice in the posts above



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Re: Married my dream wife- my story
« Reply #24 on: August 06, 2019, 12:42:05 PM »
I would have given her 6 or 7 out of 10 but what do I know?  :chuckle:

I do enjoy watching Rachel Ray and especially Gordon Ramsay on cooking shows.

Cannot cook well at all but like most men can grill a proper steak.

Gordon Ramsay is a good chef.  I have one of his cookbooks.

I don't really like Rachel Ray, I like Giada De Laurentiis. 

If you like cooking shows, watch the original Iron Chef from Japan.  They're on youtube.

Anyone can cook, it's easy.  Try the Foodnetwork's recipes.  Tyler Florence, Alton Brown, Giada De Laurentiis, Ina Garten, and Emeril Lagasse all have accessible recipes that always work, as do the Foodnetwork Kitchen's recipes.  The site rates recipes on complexity, so you can use "easy".

Here is a very simple recipe, and it's one of my son's favourite dishes, from childhood, and he still loves it, so I make it at least once a month for him -

https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/food-network-kitchen/cajun-shrimp-and-rice-recipe-1972850

I don't measure, add more garlic and cajun spice, and I make it slightly differently, as I prepare the tomatoes first, using grape tomatoes (more flavour), cook that down, then add fresh shrimp, which cooks very quickly - a couple of minutes at most.  I also make the rice separately (we have a rice cooker, at the kids' insistence), and the dish is poured over rice, as that's the way my son likes it.  I don't add scallions, just chop them on top when serving.  Even if you can't cook, this is so simple, anyone can prepare it.