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First time attemting to date a Ukrainian girl
« on: June 21, 2019, 04:10:11 PM »
Hello all,
My name is Ken.  Im 53, and recently separated pending divorce.  I know you guys have probably seen threads like this but Ive been active on some date sites with communications and will plan to visit the Ukraine soon.  About me:  Im very fit and active looking much younger than I am for what that's worth.  I would describe myself as an alpha but Im not an over powering asshole.  Im financially secure, have a good sense of humor and can pick up anywhere into a conversation.  I know zero Ukrainian or Russian.  I do have a Russian friend who has friends in the Ukraine that can assist me if needed.
So I'm communicating with about 10 ladies ranging in age from 29-45.  They all seem  interested in me but a few ( 3) are asking me for financial assistance to get out of the war zone.  Ive been told to NOT give any money to girls without actually seeing them  This makes sense.  One girl there told me in order to get out of that area and meet me in Kiev, she needs $150 for the "electronic pass"  I looked into this and there is a pass or permit that is free but takes 10 days.  I mentioned this to her and she said it is free but people often need to bribe the officer to be let through.  Is this true?  Also, she said she does not feel safe taking a bus or maybe she said train, and will need another $100 for a "taxi"  Is this bull shit or is she telling me the truth?  I am not on the ground there so I have no clue.  Some of the girls I have skyped and want me to come right away.  I'm a pretty handsome guy and Im built like a brick shit house but I'm still not used to girls throwing themselves at me.  It just seems weird to me.  Maybe its cultural?  Maybe some is BS?  maybe a little of both?  How the hell can you be certain you are dealing with a real girl who really wants to be visited by you?  I don't want to go to Kiev and be "that guy" sitting around alone like a friggin idiot.  Thank you to all you guys who have been there and done that!

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Re: First time attemting to date a Ukrainian girl
« Reply #1 on: June 21, 2019, 04:58:16 PM »
Ken, Welcome to RUA.

So you are looking for Barbie! You have a good bullshit meter, I would trust it. I would be a bit sanguine with the information you share with a woman you have not met. The first rule of this endeavor is NEVER send funds to a woman you have NEVER met. The second rule there is no correct way to prosecute this endeavor but an almost limitless number of ways to fcuk it up. The third rule is do not fall in love with a foto.

Spend some time reading trip reports and trainwrecks and figure out what works with your style. Ask questions.
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Re: First time attemting to date a Ukrainian girl
« Reply #2 on: June 21, 2019, 09:52:46 PM »
Another option is the full-service Wife Hunting Safari tours to Ukraine by RUA's primary sponsor:

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Re: First time attemting to date a Ukrainian girl
« Reply #3 on: June 21, 2019, 10:46:25 PM »

Welcome to the forum Ken. Dump any girl that asks a stranger for money. You have not met any of them and you are a stranger to all of them.

There are scammers. There are gold diggers and there are girls in financial trouble. Avoid all of them no matter how pretty their photo looks. Photo may not be of them at all. Even if you get on video chat with them, avoid if they ask you for money. Don't choose a girl that has problems solved with money. Find a girl that has her act together. Once you meet her and she's earned your trust and you enter into a relationship with her, then take care of her financially if you want. There are good girls out there. Be patient and you'll eventually find one.

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Re: First time attemting to date a Ukrainian girl
« Reply #4 on: June 21, 2019, 10:52:41 PM »
Welcome to the forum Ken,

Ukraine is the former Soviet Union nation that most guys go to - and fail ... the women there see so many guys write, but never come, or come with bizarre ideas ...  Belarus and Russia are less 'fished'

I do not agree with the don't send money to a woman you've never met ...  it depends on how well you feel you know them ,,,( example) I paid for a airline ticket from Siberia to Cyprus ( where I lived )  to a woman I ended up marrying - we are not still together - but that is more down to me than her ..    I've paid for a train ticket / taxi to meet someone who had to come a fair way - before I met them ..  The man is expected to pay on a date ...  What AVHdB meant is to be sensible - you are paying - you dicate how / where to meet.

Another option is the full-service Wife Hunting Safari tours to Ukraine by RUA's primary sponsor:

Check them out they are USA based and RUA does not deal with unreputable sponsors:

https://www.loveme.com/tour/order/order.shtml  2019 and 2020 tour dates just updated...

Happy Hunting!   tiphat

..and how have such 'tours'  worked for you, long-term married, Mikey ? ( not)

It's SHYTE 'advice' ... unless you are a sex tourist - if you want to see an un-real 'dating scene' ..  I note 'love me tours' onl;y have one Russian destination, now ...

As for  'unreputable sponsors'.. You might very well think so - I couldn't POSSIBLY comment ... :ROFL:




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Re: First time attemting to date a Ukrainian girl
« Reply #5 on: June 22, 2019, 03:53:46 AM »
good luck on your endavour. be realistic and you will succeed. steveboy runs a dating agency. perhaps he will share his experiences
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Re: First time attemting to date a Ukrainian girl
« Reply #6 on: June 22, 2019, 04:14:21 PM »
A bloke in his 50s writing women in their 20s is unrealistic nowadays. I’d ask the OP how many good looking 29 year olds he dates at home?

Zero.

Ken, you are at the start of a long learning curve. Buy the book highlighted in the right-hand column and read everything you can read in the archives here for months and months. 

Don’t send strangers money.
please tell me where I'm being / have been 'dishonest'? 
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Re: First time attemting to date a Ukrainian girl
« Reply #7 on: June 26, 2019, 06:34:14 AM »
Welcome to the forum Ken,

Ukraine is the former Soviet Union nation that most guys go to - and fail ... the women there see so many guys write, but never come, or come with bizarre ideas ...  Belarus and Russia are less 'fished'

I do not agree with the don't send money to a woman you've never met ...  it depends on how well you feel you know them ,,,( example) I paid for a airline ticket from Siberia to Cyprus ( where I lived )  to a woman I ended up marrying - we are not still together - but that is more down to me than her ..    I've paid for a train ticket / taxi to meet someone who had to come a fair way - before I met them ..  The man is expected to pay on a date ...  What AVHdB meant is to be sensible - you are paying - you dicate how / where to meet.

Another option is the full-service Wife Hunting Safari tours to Ukraine by RUA's primary sponsor:

Check them out they are USA based and RUA does not deal with unreputable sponsors:

https://www.loveme.com/tour/order/order.shtml  2019 and 2020 tour dates just updated...

Happy Hunting!   tiphat

..and how have such 'tours'  worked for you, long-term married, Mikey ? ( not)

It's SHYTE 'advice' ... unless you are a sex tourist - if you want to see an un-real 'dating scene' ..  I note 'love me tours' onl;y have one Russian destination, now ...

As for  'unreputable sponsors'.. You might very well think so - I couldn't POSSIBLY comment ... :ROFL:

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Re: First time attemting to date a Ukrainian girl
« Reply #8 on: June 26, 2019, 03:24:02 PM »
Lots of good advice here, read it and adapt you can succeed.
Stay inside the realm of reality and it will be a great experience.
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Re: First time attemting to date a Ukrainian girl
« Reply #9 on: June 27, 2019, 04:24:01 PM »
Here is the best advice you will ever get in your life!!

FORGET ABOUT UKRAINIAN GIRLS!!

SEARCH FOR A WOMEN IN Russia/Belarusia/Moldova or some where nearer home.. will save you soooooooooo much heartache and problems..

And when you do try these countries stick to women about 40 years old you will have no problems then... I know it maybe a little disappointing to hear some guy tell you to
stick to that age group.. but it's a realistic age for you..

Of course if you look kind of handsome have a big bank account , have a gift of the gab , a good sex drive and a few other things then you may get away with finding a younger women.. its life and life sucks
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Re: First time attemting to date a Ukrainian girl
« Reply #10 on: June 27, 2019, 09:39:17 PM »
Im very fit and active looking much younger than I am for what that's worth.

Not much.

I know zero Ukrainian or Russian.

Better get on that. 

They all seem  interested in me but a few ( 3) are asking me for financial assistance to get out of the war zone.

Hard no.

Also, she said she does not feel safe taking a bus or maybe she said train, and will need another $100 for a "taxi"  Is this bull shit or is she telling me the truth? 

Bullshit.  Millions of Ukrainians take the buss and Metro every day.

Some of the girls I have skyped and want me to come right away.

Ofc they do.  It's zero cost to them.

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Re: First time attemting to date a Ukrainian girl
« Reply #11 on: June 28, 2019, 08:22:58 AM »
I still wonder why you guys can find girls locally? Were you might meet a girl were you can see everyday and so least chance of being a cheated.

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Re: First time attemting to date a Ukrainian girl
« Reply #12 on: June 28, 2019, 09:43:26 AM »
I still wonder why you guys can find girls locally? Were you might meet a girl were you can see everyday and so least chance of being a cheated.

When you have been living with your mother till your 57 years old it is not easy...

And it doesn't help when mother is shouting down your ear day after day.. "Son you need to get yourself a bride!!" In a southern American accent..
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Re: First time attemting to date a Ukrainian girl
« Reply #13 on: June 28, 2019, 11:27:21 AM »
I still wonder why you guys can find girls locally? Were you might meet a girl were you can see everyday and so least chance of being a cheated.

The thrill of the hunt and it might be that they don’t find “BBW” with tattoos and 3 kids to be very attractive.  :coffeeread:
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Re: First time attemting to date a Ukrainian girl
« Reply #14 on: June 28, 2019, 05:29:36 PM »
I still wonder why you guys can find girls locally? Were you might meet a girl were you can see everyday and so least chance of being a cheated.

I do not think the original poster's native language is English, so I will suggest a modification to the above statements,

I still wonder why you guys cannot find girls locally?   Where you might meet a girl more readily and where you can see her everyday and therefore, there will be a lesser chance of being cheated.   ;D tiphat
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