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Have you ever been rejected by a woman? In person or by message Romantically

In person I have never been accepted. I have circles all over my body where I have been pushed away by a ten foot pole
0 (0%)
In person I have been rejected so many times I couldn't get a woman's attention in a $20 dollar whorehouse with a $100 bill taped to my forehead
0 (0%)
In person I am a priest take my views of celebacy seriously
1 (4.8%)
In person I have been rejected many times, too many to count
2 (9.5%)
In person I have been rejected many times
1 (4.8%)
In person I have been rejected occasionally
11 (52.4%)
In person I have been never been rejected by a woman
0 (0%)
Women are mysterious and very scary, I have never approached one in person or sent a message to one but hope to marry a Russian woman
0 (0%)
I've sent out messages or emails and got an insulting letter in reply (insulting hard rejection)
2 (9.5%)
I've sent out messages or emails and have been told that they weren't interested (hard rejection)
1 (4.8%)
I've sent out messages or emails that haven't been returned (soft rejection)
3 (14.3%)
I've sent out messages or emails and have only had positive response
0 (0%)
I am a woman and this poll doesn't apply to me
0 (0%)

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Have you ever been rejected by a woman? Romantically
« Reply #15 on: November 04, 2018, 12:33:53 PM »
Sweet Home?

Fossil but I didn't live in the big city, I lived about a mile out of town.
Sweet Home was much closer to a doctor than that.




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Re: Have you ever been rejected by a woman? Romantically
« Reply #16 on: November 04, 2018, 01:03:26 PM »
I've a 14 year old lad I am trying to gently school in the art of dating young ladies. We've recently been discussing that if you ask out 10 hot girls, the worst that can happen is one or two of them say yes. And while his mates are still contemplating getting their act together or how they might proceed, he is off with the hottie and the rest are wondering what happened.

How is rejection negative? Not everyone is everyone's cup of tea - that's life. The world is heaving with women, and hot women if you know where to look. Snagging the odd one that floats your boat isn't rocket science once you know what you are doing and have some confidence.

I'm trying to fast forward my lad through the awkward teenage years where you dont have a clue, and give him what I had learned by my mid thirties earlier than I did. If he can pick that up early on practising with the locals, he'll do well when he later ventures abroad.
please tell me where I'm being / have been 'dishonest'? 
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« Reply #17 on: November 04, 2018, 01:10:48 PM »
Oh, for the record, online dating isn't dating. You don't 'date' until you meet. That's the point where real choices are made.

There's no rejection with online dating - unless one is too thin skinned to manage real life.

Well done, Manny, with the training. I had to figure it out for myself and while I didn't get many knockbacks I was too shy to ask enough. Linda Brown taught me a big lesson, one that I tried to keep in mind, but not with complete success.
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Re: Have you ever been rejected by a woman? Romantically
« Reply #18 on: November 04, 2018, 01:33:05 PM »
I confess, it is very rare that anyone has ever turned me down - but I have a history of not asking enough. ;)

I honestly believe that most women will give most men a chance, within reason. In part 'within reason' means not asking out strangers. One might include avoiding asking out women who a a generation or more younger than oneself.

I totally agree.

There’s also a big difference in being a young lad, asking out young ladies at student venues and the like. Young people generally put themselves out there and hump like rabbits.

It would be odd for a middle aged man to start working the room at say a drinks reception. And by odd I mean totally bizarre.



WTF are you talking about?  Are all middle aged men supposed to be Priests?  :chuckle:

My point is that you have to be more refined in civilised company. Telling some bird you live round the corner and she can pop in and get her back door kicked in, isn’t gonna cut the mustard in the A league.

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Re: Have you ever been rejected by a woman? Romantically
« Reply #19 on: November 04, 2018, 02:37:46 PM »
Of course, I've been rejected -  sometimes on asking out, or when in a relationship  and once dumped when married

Other than BillyB - most guys will admit this



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Re: Have you ever been rejected by a woman? Romantically
« Reply #20 on: November 04, 2018, 03:05:37 PM »
I confess, it is very rare that anyone has ever turned me down - but I have a history of not asking enough. ;)

I honestly believe that most women will give most men a chance, within reason. In part 'within reason' means not asking out strangers. One might include avoiding asking out women who a a generation or more younger than oneself.

I totally agree.

There’s also a big difference in being a young lad, asking out young ladies at student venues and the like. Young people generally put themselves out there and hump like rabbits.

It would be odd for a middle aged man to start working the room at say a drinks reception. And by odd I mean totally bizarre.



WTF are you talking about?  Are all middle aged men supposed to be Priests?  :chuckle:

My point is that you have to be more refined in civilised company. Telling some bird you live round the corner and she can pop in and get her back door kicked in, isn’t gonna cut the mustard in the A league.


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Re: Have you ever been rejected by a woman? Romantically
« Reply #21 on: November 04, 2018, 03:32:43 PM »
As in any endavour , practice makes perfect.

So more rejections means more learning for next time.

And as others stated: You may get rejected based on simply not being on her 'zing' radar..... there's absolutely nothing you can do to change those women so forget quickly and move on.
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« Reply #22 on: November 04, 2018, 03:33:16 PM »
Rosco, you're dealing with a bloke who thinks that his smoothest line is something like: You're prettier than a beer truck pulling up outside my double wide!
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Re: Have you ever been rejected by a woman? Romantically
« Reply #23 on: November 04, 2018, 04:04:22 PM »
Rosco, you're dealing with a bloke who thinks that his smoothest line is something like: You're prettier than a beer truck pulling up outside my double wide!

That’s not a bad line actually!  :laugh:

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Re: Have you ever been rejected by a woman? Romantically
« Reply #24 on: November 04, 2018, 04:33:44 PM »
Oh, I forgot, you're Scottish.  :hidechair:
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Re: Have you ever been rejected by a woman? Romantically
« Reply #25 on: November 04, 2018, 04:38:16 PM »
Rosco, you're dealing with a bloke who thinks that his smoothest line is something like: You're prettier than a beer truck pulling up outside my double wide!

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Re: Have you ever been rejected by a woman? Romantically
« Reply #26 on: November 05, 2018, 09:16:49 AM »
LotD, how old are you?
Unless you are about 14, having asked out only 4 women on dates seems weirdly low. Rejection is part of the process, but very often, unless asking out random women on the street, when a single woman, who you already know to some degree, says no, but she is not saying 'bog off you loser, never cross my path again' but rather it is a 'not at the moment, maybe another time'. Often guys treat the latter like the former.

How many friends do you have who are women? Do you have more male friend than female?

I'm currently 24 and I'll turn 25 in about a month. I would say that I have a fairly diverse group of friends, both male and female, but many of my friends are considerably older than I am myself (church congregation members, pilots, club friends, etc.).

I think you're probably right in pointing out that many men take a simple 'no thanks' way harder than they should. Gauging from the caliber of the men these girls who rejected me are with now, I probably would've had more luck had I been broke, dumb and vulgar. Then again, who am I to judge what a girl wants in her man? That's her choice, not mine.

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Have you ever been rejected by a woman? Romantically
« Reply #27 on: November 05, 2018, 12:40:54 PM »
Oh, for the record, online dating isn't dating. You don't 'date' until you meet. That's the point where real choices are made.

There's no rejection with online dating - unless one is too thin skinned to manage real life.

Of course online dating isn't dating. It's just a tool that you can leverage
to increase your effectiveness. A guy could ask 50 girls to meet him for
coffee online while he would be hard pressed to ask more than 5 face to
face.

A guy asks 50 girls for coffee and what percentage even answer his query?
How many write him back and say no? or yes? The ones who say no or
ignore his question are on the reject side of the equation and those who
say yes are on the positive side of the ledger.

FSUW are not for entry level daters. FSUW don't do vague FSUW like a man of action so be a man of action  If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane. There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
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Have you ever been rejected by a woman? Romantically
« Reply #28 on: November 05, 2018, 01:16:42 PM »
Women usually go for the "bad" guys, it's their psychology. Or at least it is with quite a few of them.

Western women like fixer uppers. They think with a little work around the
edges they can get the guy they want. What they don't realize is that they
are kidding themselves. She might be able to get a guy to wear more stylish
clothes or to pick up his socks but if he bangs her kid sister or a stripper
once or twice a month isn't fixable and the girl who thinks he is, is broken
herself.

Russian women once they get past a certain age realize that they have an
unlimited number of bad boys available, they aren't as rare and they
aren't generally as interested in trying to fix someone with major
character flaws.

What's important is to understand it's a numbers game.

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As in any endeavor , practice makes perfect.

Exactly you get a little better every time


And as others stated: You may get rejected based on simply not being on her 'zing' radar..... there's absolutely nothing you can do to change those women so forget quickly and move on.

Yeah, the girl might be ovulating with two glasses of wine in her and
her brain chemistry is telling her to hump the next guy who walks by
until he cries for his mother.

You can't engineer that to happen, you luck into that or you don't.

FSUW are not for entry level daters. FSUW don't do vague FSUW like a man of action so be a man of action  If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane. There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.
Get an apartment not a hotel. DON'T recycle girls

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Re: Have you ever been rejected by a woman? Romantically
« Reply #29 on: November 05, 2018, 01:45:37 PM »
Women usually go for the "bad" guys, it's their psychology. Or at least it is with quite a few of them.


I think it's not that they are into "bad" guys because they are bad, but because they are different, challenging, and, most of all, not boring.  They want something different from what they normally see and meet, and a bad guy is exciting.  It's a loose-loose situation - if they stay bad then the girl gets frustrated/heartbroken/disillusioned eventually and moves on.  If the guy gets broken-in then they are not exciting anymore, and the girl moves on.

Nice guys are boring.  The key is to not be boring.




 

 

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