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Adios Senora Beloespana!
« on: December 09, 2017, 05:08:07 AM »
So, shes gone......... There was a lot I liked about her, and the kid for that matter, but the Father I can do without, she is incredibly racist and her lack of "grey matter" I can see becoming a liability. Also I think i've exhausted the small vein of Russian and Ukrainian talent I had discovered on the costas.

But, the bug has bitten. I;ve signed up for a few of the usual FSU websites and seen all those gorgeous glamorous looking 20 somethings all allegedly itching to get their teeth into men at least twice their age, but that isnt the case, is it?

Right now, my whatsapp has got close impersonations of Kylie Minogue, Pamela Anderson aswell as a Blonde Cheryl Cole but within 2 messages they are all calling me "darling", insisting I can't visit them because of "the warzone" but they will arrange their visas to visit me here as soon as the immigration office opens on Monday. Talk about  :'(      There is one that I believe is genuine. She's ten years younger than me, great legs, big :whist11: but dull as ditch water and to look at she reminds of a mate I had in High School. Its very off putting.

You guys have been great while I was seeing Alina, (whilst i hate to admit it, Andrew was spot on from the off!) but now im wondering if I really do stand a better chance dating in the FSU than in the UK. I know its expensive and time consuming and I am prepared for all that but does it really pay dividends? Can I really expect to meet someone attractive, intelligent, who is attracted to me and who isn't crazy?

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Re: Adios Senora Beloespana!
« Reply #1 on: December 09, 2017, 09:10:46 AM »
No matter where you search, you will have to face the reality that the women are also looking for the best partner that they can find and that your advantage with FSU women is only temporary. If you have unreasonable expectations, such as a woman who is attractive, intelligent, attracted to you and isn't crazy, then you are sure to fail. Perhaps you should settle for three out of four.

I noticed your comment about buying and selling the likes of Volshe. Women are very intuitive about men's attitudes; this will not work in your favor... because they are looking for the best partner that they can find.
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Re: Adios Senora Beloespana!
« Reply #2 on: December 09, 2017, 09:21:10 AM »
Well use a service who will help all the way and educate yourself on the mission you are willing to get your self on.

Apparently you need guidance and the jungle of web sites makes it hard to find what is the real holy grail in the end.

Look for services who can assist you in finding the genuine girls.

I know of one place that I can recommended which is Dream Connections on youtube. It's American based but a better service than Love me or Anastasia date type of websites which are only for a jump in cold with low odds for success.

https://www.youtube.com/user/iDatingSuccess


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Re: Adios Senora Beloespana!
« Reply #3 on: December 09, 2017, 10:24:14 AM »

If you have unreasonable expectations, such as a woman who is attractive, intelligent, attracted to you and isn't crazy, then you are sure to fail. Perhaps you should settle for three out of four.


why is it unreasonable?  Needless to say but my wife is attractive, intelligent (Phd and professor) and she contacted me.
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Re: Adios Senora Beloespana!
« Reply #4 on: December 09, 2017, 11:07:52 AM »
^ I have no doubt that your wife is everything that you claim that she is but, if we accept a 1% success rate, then your outcome is far from average. Perhaps you brought more than average to the table, including a good attitude toward women.
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Re: Adios Senora Beloespana!
« Reply #5 on: December 09, 2017, 11:23:38 AM »
Have a look at Steve's site. He was offering free membership to genuine RUA folks and he is trying to run a straight business.

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Re: Adios Senora Beloespana!
« Reply #6 on: December 09, 2017, 11:25:43 AM »
TomT, Could you explain what you mean by "advantage with FSU women is only temporary?"

Also, i'm not sure where you are going with my much earlier comment to Volsche. That conversation was unnecessarily heated and both of us were "hurling bricks" at each other. Do you see that as conclusive that I (or he, for that matter) have a bad attitude?

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Re: Adios Senora Beloespana!
« Reply #7 on: December 09, 2017, 11:34:46 AM »
Cheers for the Dream Connections tip.

Who's the big guy with the glasses and the blonde with the wavy hair who pop up in the video from time to time? I've seen them in other videos, just wondered if it was their firm.

This could become one of those life changing questions: Who's Steve?

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Re: Adios Senora Beloespana!
« Reply #8 on: December 09, 2017, 11:59:56 AM »
TomT, Could you explain what you mean by "advantage with FSU women is only temporary?"

Also, i'm not sure where you are going with my much earlier comment to Volsche. That conversation was unnecessarily heated and both of us were "hurling bricks" at each other. Do you see that as conclusive that I (or he, for that matter) have a bad attitude?

The prospects for FSU women who are no longer in their twenties, especially if they have a child, are very grim. This creates an imbalance of power which some foreign men are able to exploit until the the girls learn the lay of the land.

Apparently, you were/are unaware that Volshe is a she so the jury is still out. Nonetheless, talk of buying and selling people of any gender will be to your detriment.
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Re: Adios Senora Beloespana!
« Reply #9 on: December 09, 2017, 01:26:14 PM »
TomT, Could you explain what you mean by "advantage with FSU women is only temporary?"

Also, i'm not sure where you are going with my much earlier comment to Volsche. That conversation was unnecessarily heated and both of us were "hurling bricks" at each other. Do you see that as conclusive that I (or he, for that matter) have a bad attitude?

The prospects for FSU women who are no longer in their twenties, especially if they have a child, are very grim. This creates an imbalance of power which some foreign men are able to exploit until the the girls learn the lay of the land.

Apparently, you were/are unaware that Volshe is a she so the jury is still out. Nonetheless, talk of buying and selling people of any gender will be to your detriment.

There appears to be an imbalance of power and value at most angles of this foreign partnership discussion. However, I have begun to realise that what you mention above may well be true and I suspect I may find myself in a similar situation again before long.

As for my choice of phrase, you have used that well out of context, as set by Volshe. If you wish to question a jurys verdict on the matter I suggest you are well in contempt.

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Re: Adios Senora Beloespana!
« Reply #10 on: December 09, 2017, 01:33:31 PM »
As for my choice of phrase, you have used that well out of context, as set by Volshe. If you wish to question a jurys verdict on the matter I suggest you are well in contempt.

Shift the blame and be as evasive as you like but, if you are as clever as you think that you are, you will never use that phrase again.
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Re: Adios Senora Beloespana!
« Reply #11 on: December 09, 2017, 02:18:52 PM »
Is this a wind up? 

How have you interpreted my phrase?

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Re: Adios Senora Beloespana!
« Reply #12 on: December 09, 2017, 10:21:09 PM »
To Westerners, the expression, "being able to buy and sell someone," is not intended to be taken literally; it just implies that you are wealthier, more powerful or cooler than the referenced person. We don't take the cliche very seriously, so it is unlikely to cause any social issues... in the West. Some people from the FSU, especially those who have been less exposed to English idioms, are likely to consider it the height of arrogance and this would create a far more negative impression than you might expect. Purge it from your active vocabulary so that it doesn't slip out when you are around Russian-speaking people. 
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Re: Adios Senora Beloespana!
« Reply #13 on: December 10, 2017, 01:06:39 AM »


The prospects for FSU women who are no longer in their twenties, especially if they have a child, are very grim. This creates an imbalance of power which some foreign men are able to exploit until the the girls learn the lay of the land.

Can't agree... When were you last in the FSU ...  I see plenty of women with kids in their thirties forties and even fifties who know what they want from life ( having lived well ) and moving abroad with a western guy isn't one of them ...   

Apparently, you were/are unaware that Volshe is a she so the jury is still out. Nonetheless, talk of buying and selling people of any gender will be to your detriment.

I would point out that the good lady is not even FSU ... but studied there...


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Re: Adios Senora Beloespana!
« Reply #14 on: December 10, 2017, 01:39:51 AM »
To Westerners, the expression, "being able to buy and sell someone," is not intended to be taken literally; it just implies that you are wealthier, more powerful or cooler than the referenced person. We don't take the cliche very seriously, so it is unlikely to cause any social issues... in the West. Some people from the FSU, especially those who have been less exposed to English idioms, are likely to consider it the height of arrogance and this would create a far more negative impression than you might expect. Purge it from your active vocabulary so that it doesn't slip out when you are around Russian-speaking people.

Interesting... ifrom where I come from the expression means to be able to talk one's way into superior situations - being crafty, perhaps ...

Example: my youngest daughter could 'buy and sell' her Dad from no age..