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FSU W living in the west - 'confused' by upbringing ?
« on: October 12, 2017, 01:02:30 PM »
This probably applies to those  ladies born before 1975 and matured during the Soviet-era..

I was discussing living in Britain with two Russian ladies - who have been married to Brits and it didn't work out .. 

They are both coming to the conclusion that may be they are mind -f'd by the Soviet doctrine that they should rely on the man to provide and encounter emancipated ladies in the west - independent and contributing to the household or happy to have partly-separate lives  - enjoying living alone - but sharing life together.

They are starting to think their upbringing was a complete 'con'  :chuckle:

Discuss ?


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Re: FSU W living in the west - 'confused' by upbringing ?
« Reply #1 on: October 12, 2017, 02:07:37 PM »
Somewhere, I started a thread regarding the different types of women from the former Soviet Union and what my expierence was/is.

As I recall a number of female posters shared there insights, I think, Halo, Orchid, Mila and the crazy one from Wales as well I think the whacky one from Brussels.

It would be worth posting a link to that thread.
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Re: FSU W living in the west - 'confused' by upbringing ?
« Reply #2 on: October 12, 2017, 04:09:02 PM »
They are both coming to the conclusion that may be they are mind -f'd by the Soviet doctrine that they should rely on the man to provide and encounter emancipated ladies in the west - independent and contributing to the household or happy to have partly-separate lives  - enjoying living alone - but sharing life together.

They are starting to think their upbringing was a complete 'con'  :chuckle:

Is this our resident lefty in denial seeking to disparage the traditional family unit perchance? How unexpected.  :-[


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Re: FSU W living in the west - 'confused' by upbringing ?
« Reply #3 on: October 13, 2017, 04:37:40 AM »
This probably applies to those  ladies born before 1975 and matured during the Soviet-era..

I was discussing living in Britain with two Russian ladies - who have been married to Brits and it didn't work out .. 

They are both coming to the conclusion that may be they are mind -f'd by the Soviet doctrine that they should rely on the man to provide and encounter emancipated ladies in the west - independent and contributing to the household or happy to have partly-separate lives  - enjoying living alone - but sharing life together.

They are starting to think their upbringing was a complete 'con'  :chuckle:

Discuss ?
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She says, either you are married or not, but half-marriage is nothing, not for the man, not for the woman.

It has perks for both men and women, and also disadvantages for both men and women. (But as a man, I rarely have to notice the disadvantages so far  :-\ )
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