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Re: Is it about privacy or something else?
« Reply #15 on: March 18, 2017, 04:52:01 PM »
Will someone please enlighten me in where the red flags are and what the girl has done since the advice is to dump her and move on?

If the travel is work related why does she has to really inform a stranger who sends her stuff but never has gotten on a plane to meet just her?

Is there any signs of her interest in you Bones at this moment in time? Like VK or other information.

If she is calling its her cost so why should she call? Is she desperate? Or busy to survive on the pay check she gets.

If a girl is not hot or looking her best how is she going to attract a man? Or real love?

Where has this girl being dishonest based on the information in this thread?

1. pick a city in the FSU with over 500K population, but not
Odessa, Kiev, Nikolaev or Eastern Ukraine. Buy a ticket to your
chosen city and rent an apartment for two weeks.

You still can find a honest girl in those cities never assume you can't as its only in people head space and paradigm who gives advice on the internet. This is up to your experience to find the truth to you.

But buy the ticket, get an apartment and enjoy the trip!

Stop speculating and arrange the meeting with just her. You can't ask to much when its long distance anyway.


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Re: Is it about privacy or something else?
« Reply #16 on: March 18, 2017, 05:09:14 PM »
 Mr Strange I clearly wrote in my posting that I went to Kyiv to meet her but I became ill & so called her instead. ( I stayed with friends that live there) I also wrote that I have made trips to Kyiv in the past so traveling is not an issue for me but rather coordinating schedules with her trips.. I never asked that she should call me.
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Is it about privacy or something else?
« Reply #17 on: March 18, 2017, 05:11:18 PM »
Will someone please enlighten me in where the red flags are and what the girl has done since the advice is to dump her and move on?

Where has this girl being dishonest based on the information in this thread?

1. The girl goes totally AWOL, huge red flag.
2. He can't coordinate a meeting
3. Calls must be rearranged
4. She can't write back during business trips

pick a city in the FSU with over 500K population, but not
Odessa, Kiev, Nikolaev or Eastern Ukraine.

You still can find a honest girl in those cities never assume you can't as its only in people head space and paradigm who gives advice on the internet. This is up to your experience to find the truth to you.

But buy the ticket, get an apartment and enjoy the trip!

Sure you can find an honest girl anywhere, but in each of the cities listed
they have an industry designed to separate men from their money. So I
advise staying away from the industry cities. There are hundreds of cities
without the MOB industry, why not go to one of them?

FSUW are not for entry level daters. FSUW don't do vague FSUW like a man of action so be a man of action  If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane. There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.
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Re: Is it about privacy or something else?
« Reply #18 on: March 18, 2017, 05:43:18 PM »
Bones try to ask her when she got time for your arrival if you have not done so.

1. The girl goes totally AWOL, huge red flag.

How important is it that she must be ready to reach 24/7 when her work life takes most of her life and her private life is thereby important but of less concern? Why do you expect her to be 100% ready 24/7 to a stranger? We are not aware now how deeply she feels about Bones at this point. What entitlement is that?

2. He can't coordinate a meeting

That sounds like Bones is the problem not her

3. Calls must be rearranged

If she has a busy lifestyle that is part of the things you have to deal with and if you can't sure move on.

4. She can't write back during business trips

Again see my answer to 1. Really If she is on a trip spare time is enjoying the place not her private life as such and we dont know how many hours a day she works on these trips or in general.

Somehow she still writes when she has time and every day too when she is not on a business trip.

Sure you can find an honest girl anywhere, but in each of the cities listed
they have an industry designed to separate men from their money. So I
advise staying away from the industry cities. There are hundreds of cities
without the MOB industry, why not go to one of them?

Sure I agree. It should be a lot more simple if you can't sort the great girls from the good from the bad and those 4 cities are where the MOB are mostly present so the younger the girl the harder it can be.

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Re: Is it about privacy or something else?
« Reply #19 on: March 18, 2017, 05:55:47 PM »
I will once again repeat myself. I NEVER once said nor implied that I expected her to be 100% ready 24/7 to me. Where did you read this? Secondly, please tell me why I can't coordinate a meeting if she cannot commit to a time for her to meet me? (for a second time) How is this my fault? I can't force her. I merely asked for an opinion of this forum (FSU woman) as to why she does not write during her trips - nothing more.
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Re: Is it about privacy or something else?
« Reply #20 on: March 18, 2017, 06:01:47 PM »

Okay bud then why come here asking a question? This woman is obviously avoiding you or so it seems so there's the answer to your question.

PS...what popka said. all of it, plus:

Lastly, always wear your big boy pants from this day forward.
Don't let any woman lead you around by the nose again
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PPS...she's worse than a hooker! at least w/ a hooker, you know what's up!
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Really Confederate? Personal insults? I came here asking for another perspective from an intelligent FSU woman not a snarky wise guy that needs to work on his reading comprehension. I wrote that we communicate between her business trips – You see that means she comes back to me between trips! If you read carefully you would understand that.  I was wondering what to think about it from a woman’s point of view. Do you get it now…Bud?  --  Big boy pants?? I suggest you empty your diapers and get off this forum. Your juvenile comments are not helpful for anyone. As for being a Hooker, how would you know this about someone I have been hoping to be my wife if she is true. Years past I have seem forums deteriorate to nothing because of gutless wonders that insult other members from the safety of anonymity. -- Do I know what’s up Bud? Yes I do. I know that you are just another coward with a smart mouth that doesn’t know what he is talking about. From now on please ignore my posts & I’ll certainly ignore yours. Better yet go back to your sandbox and don’t come back until you can conduct yourself like a man.
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Re: Is it about privacy or something else?
« Reply #21 on: March 18, 2017, 06:04:28 PM »
1. The girl goes totally AWOL, huge red flag.

How important is it that she must be ready to reach 24/7 when her work life takes most of her life and her private life is thereby important but of less concern? Why do you expect her to be 100% ready 24/7 to a stranger? We are not aware now how deeply she feels about Bones at this point. What entitlement is that?

I didn't say that she needs to be reached 24/7 did I?
She goes AWOL, (probably getting deep drilled by a local yokel)
for long periods of time. Go to Mamba and write any FSUW and
ask her about the behavior. 100% would describe it as negative.




2. He can't coordinate a meeting

That sounds like Bones is the problem not her

3. Calls must be rearranged

If she has a busy lifestyle that is part of the things you have to deal with and if you can't sure move on.

4. She can't write back during business trips

Again see my answer to 1. Really If she is on a trip spare time is enjoying the place not her private life as such and we don't know how many hours a day she works on these trips or in general.

Somehow she still writes when she has time and every day too when she is not on a business trip.

She doesn't write to him at all when she goes AWOL.

The most likely reason she goes totally AWOL is because
she is with another man. An interested FSUW would find a
way. That's the facts, You can argue with me but you would
still be wrong.

Somehow she still writes when she has time and every day too when she is not on a business trip.

Sure I agree. It should be a lot more simple if you can't sort the great girls from the good from the bad and those 4 cities are where the MOB are mostly present so the younger the girl the harder it can be.

It's probably a pay per view/pay by the letter site. That would be the next
question for the OP. But, the girl doesn't show sufficient interest and needs
to be discarded.

At the end of the day, an interested FSUW would make herself available for
talking on the phone, skype etc. She would REALLY, REALLY make herself
available for a meeting in person.

FSUW are not for entry level daters. FSUW don't do vague FSUW like a man of action so be a man of action  If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane. There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.
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Re: Is it about privacy or something else?
« Reply #22 on: March 18, 2017, 06:11:14 PM »
I will once again repeat myself. I NEVER once said nor implied that I expected her to be 100% ready 24/7 to me. Where did you read this? Secondly, please tell me why I can't coordinate a meeting if she cannot commit to a time for her to meet me? (for a second time) How is this my fault? I can't force her. I merely asked for an opinion of this forum (FSU woman) as to why she does not write during her trips - nothing more.

I am just trying understand why she gets red flags so easily out of the gate for having a busy lifestyle to a stranger she has not meet in person or have special feelings for if she has.

So I question the motive for these or what is behind that logic for a clearer understanding.

Why can't she? I am not her so I got no idea on the real answer other than be assertive in getting her to find time or move on.

What is my opinion? Well a busy lifestyle is what you are up against and you have to deal with that. Part of it makes you speculate the things to much and if you ain't got an alternative to this lifestyle or getting through to her on an emotional level prior to going then you matter less importantly in her life.

She is properly to busy on a business trip to care for her private life and you as it is.

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Is it about privacy or something else?
« Reply #23 on: March 18, 2017, 06:17:57 PM »
I am just trying understand why she gets red flags so easily out of the gate for having a busy lifestyle to a stranger she has not meet in person or have special feelings for if she has.

She is properly too busy on a business trip to care for her private life and you as it is.

An international marriage is difficult. It takes a lot of time, money, AND effort
by everyone involved. That girl isn't interested enough to put in the required
effort.

FSUW are not for entry level daters. FSUW don't do vague FSUW like a man of action so be a man of action  If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane. There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
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Re: Is it about privacy or something else?
« Reply #24 on: March 18, 2017, 06:20:56 PM »
The website in question is not a pay per view/pay by the letter site. As everyone here knows, these sites have a awful reputation for writing fiction.
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Re: Is it about privacy or something else?
« Reply #25 on: March 18, 2017, 06:27:21 PM »
Ok but what kind of interest is missing here?

I know the emotional one but that one takes time and effort.

So she is on a business trip and she informs Bones of going? Then after she comes back there she is again. That is so far the interest so AWOL is only in periods.

Being assertive and a man here should work in getting the time.

How are you communicating with this girl Bones?

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Re: Is it about privacy or something else?
« Reply #26 on: March 18, 2017, 06:28:01 PM »

Okay bud then why come here asking a question? This woman is obviously avoiding you or so it seems so there's the answer to your question.

PS...what popka said. all of it, plus:

Lastly, always wear your big boy pants from this day forward.
Don't let any woman lead you around by the nose again
.

PPS...she's worse than a hooker! at least w/ a hooker, you know what's up!

Really Confederate? Personal insults? I came here asking for another perspective from an intelligent FSU woman not a snarky wise guy that needs to work on his reading comprehension. I wrote that we communicate between her business trips – You see that means she comes back to me between trips! If you read carefully you would understand that.  I was wondering what to think about it from a woman’s point of view. Do you get it now…Bud?  --  Big boy pants?? I suggest you empty your diapers and get off this forum. Your juvenile comments are not helpful for anyone. As for being a Hooker, how would you know this about someone I have been hoping to be my wife if she is true. Years past I have seem forums deteriorate to nothing because of gutless wonders that insult other members from the safety of anonymity. -- Do I know what’s up Bud? Yes I do. I know that you are just another coward with a smart mouth that doesn’t know what he is talking about. From now on please ignore my posts & I’ll certainly ignore yours. Better yet go back to your sandbox and don’t come back until you can conduct yourself like a man.

You are extremely delusional and there's simply no hope for you "bud".   :trainwreck:


PS. If you had any reading comprehension you would have recognized the "big boy pants" as being a statement from Popka. You're so desperate for your fantasy woman to be real that you're just foaming at the mouth now.
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Re: Is it about privacy or something else?
« Reply #27 on: March 18, 2017, 06:32:31 PM »
This from coward? "Yawn" Go back to your playpen. We're done here. Rave on child if you must but I'll be ignoring you from now on. :)))
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Re: Is it about privacy or something else?
« Reply #28 on: March 18, 2017, 06:35:19 PM »
This from coward? "Yawn" Go back to your playpen. We're done here. Rave on child if you must but I'll be ignoring you from now on. :)))

Might as well ignore everyone then since you've received consistent advice from all here, but only wish to live in your fantasy world.  :coffeeread:
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Is it about privacy or something else?
« Reply #29 on: March 18, 2017, 06:35:57 PM »
The website in question is not a pay per view/pay by the letter site. As everyone here knows, these sites have a awful reputation for writing fiction.

Thank you for answering that question. You've read my opinion, hopefully
others will chime in as well, then you can make a decision on what to do.

I've spent years before meeting Mrs Popka, I've written to thousands of
FSUW and dated around a hundred. My advice is based on experience. 
I can tell you that there are many ways to be successful but many times
more ways to screw it up. There are millions of single FSUW you only
need to find one. It's my opinion that this particular one out of millions
isn't interested enough and that your efforts would be better utilized
pursuing someone else.

Good luck
FSUW are not for entry level daters. FSUW don't do vague FSUW like a man of action so be a man of action  If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane. There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.
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