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Does your FSU wife have a job?
« on: March 04, 2017, 01:34:46 PM »
Without reading too much into my question, does your FSU wife have a job in your new country? Does she want one? If you are a FSU wife, do you work or want to work?

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Re: Does your FSU wife have a job?
« Reply #1 on: March 04, 2017, 02:06:50 PM »
On a previous occasion when this cropped up, this was my answer.

Where we live, most women who have kids dont work. As in Russia, a husband and kids is work, and her contribution to the family unit in that regard is duly respected and acknowledged. The man earns the money for the family and the woman does the home and kid stuff.

Women must work when the man doesn't earn enough money to support the family. That is the case with people who have a lot of credit payments to serve; our American friends seem to live on credit. I never really gelled with that mentality. I never really got the idea of paying for a washing machine or a car each month if you can just save up and buy it.

My wife came here with the intention and strong desire to work. Only after some discussion about the reasons people work for other people (money), and the value a woman can offer her family by being a mother and a wife did she agree to give it a shot. Several years later she does both: She works in our business by choice two or three days a week and is a wife and mother the rest of the time.

I'd hate to see her in some minimum wage job at six quid an hour unless we needed that money; which we don't. It's comforting to know that if we needed the money, she would find a job in a heartbeat. But as it is, her contributions to our household - taking care of the day to day details - allows me to be productive and creative enough to do stuff that pays our bills.

Show me a guy who doesn't like that idea?


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Re: Does your FSU wife have a job?
« Reply #2 on: March 04, 2017, 02:46:29 PM »
My wife doesn't work, household stuff is enough work. I make enough so she dont have to.

In return, I never have to vacuum, clean toilets, make dinner or other stuff like that.

And she finds time to work out, look sexy and make me a happy camper.

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Re: Does your FSU wife have a job?
« Reply #3 on: March 04, 2017, 03:16:10 PM »
Without reading too much into my question, does your FSU wife have a job in your new country? Does she want one? If you are a FSU wife, do you work or want to work?

Yes, Yes, Yes, Yes,
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Re: Does your FSU wife have a job?
« Reply #4 on: March 04, 2017, 05:55:01 PM »
My wife doesn't work, household stuff is enough work. I make enough so she dont have to.

In return, I never have to vacuum, clean toilets, make dinner or other stuff like that.

And she finds time to work out, look sexy and make me a happy camper.

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Re: Does your FSU wife have a job?
« Reply #5 on: March 05, 2017, 01:50:29 AM »
On a previous occasion when this cropped up, this was my answer.

Where we live, most women who have kids dont work. As in Russia, a husband and kids is work, and her contribution to the family unit in that regard is duly respected and acknowledged. The man earns the money for the family and the woman does the home and kid stuff.

Women must work when the man doesn't earn enough money to support the family. That is the case with people who have a lot of credit payments to serve; our American friends seem to live on credit. I never really gelled with that mentality. I never really got the idea of paying for a washing machine or a car each month if you can just save up and buy it.

My wife came here with the intention and strong desire to work. Only after some discussion about the reasons people work for other people (money), and the value a woman can offer her family by being a mother and a wife did she agree to give it a shot. Several years later she does both: She works in our business by choice two or three days a week and is a wife and mother the rest of the time.

I'd hate to see her in some minimum wage job at six quid an hour unless we needed that money; which we don't. It's comforting to know that if we needed the money, she would find a job in a heartbeat. But as it is, her contributions to our household - taking care of the day to day details - allows me to be productive and creative enough to do stuff that pays our bills.

Show me a guy who doesn't like that idea?

I quite agree.
My wife has a full time job taking care of the home and kids.
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Re: Does your FSU wife have a job?
« Reply #6 on: March 05, 2017, 02:09:45 AM »
On a previous occasion when this cropped up, this was my answer.

Where we live, most women who have kids dont work. As in Russia, a husband and kids is work, and her contribution to the family unit in that regard is duly respected and acknowledged. The man earns the money for the family and the woman does the home and kid stuff.

Women must work when the man doesn't earn enough money to support the family. That is the case with people who have a lot of credit payments to serve; our American friends seem to live on credit. I never really gelled with that mentality. I never really got the idea of paying for a washing machine or a car each month if you can just save up and buy it.

My wife came here with the intention and strong desire to work. Only after some discussion about the reasons people work for other people (money), and the value a woman can offer her family by being a mother and a wife did she agree to give it a shot. Several years later she does both: She works in our business by choice two or three days a week and is a wife and mother the rest of the time.

I'd hate to see her in some minimum wage job at six quid an hour unless we needed that money; which we don't. It's comforting to know that if we needed the money, she would find a job in a heartbeat. But as it is, her contributions to our household - taking care of the day to day details - allows me to be productive and creative enough to do stuff that pays our bills.

Show me a guy who doesn't like that idea?


That is the way I see things for myself and the future Ms someday.

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Re: Does your FSU wife have a job?
« Reply #7 on: March 05, 2017, 04:53:31 AM »
My Wife works a couple of days a week, enough to keep her busy
and she choose this, She does quite well and we have no small kids.
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Re: Does your FSU wife have a job?
« Reply #8 on: March 05, 2017, 05:08:53 AM »
So a Different spin on this very old question

As we are not in the nearly young bracket as others.

Yes my wife works (shock Horror)

Why?

She gets bored just sitting at home gardening etc or doing coffee mornings or shopping,  we dont have our own kids together ( we both have Children from a previous life) and being over 50  its not on the agenda :ROFL: :ROFL:

She also likes to stretch her mind, and feel like she is making some sort of contribution to "team us" its her choice and not one i ever pushed.

I am now only trying to work 5 sometimes 4 days a week (instead of 6-7) but that does not always happen depends on the projects and how needy they are on my time.

last year i only managed 5 weeks holiday (shock) this year i have already gone past half that total in the first 2 months.

I am Self Employed and "L"  works on a NHS Research contract which enables us to travel as long as we can get an internet connection all is good, and she can deal with her work when she wants.

So its all swings and roundabouts what suits some does not suit others.

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Re: Does your FSU wife have a job?
« Reply #9 on: March 05, 2017, 05:20:27 AM »
My Wife works a couple of days a week, enough to keep her busy
and she choose this, She does quite well and we have no small kids.
Having a choice is the right way. My mrs didnt/ doesn't need to work. When she first came she wanted to do something so she did a bit of work in the village for a few hours a week.
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Re: Does your FSU wife have a job?
« Reply #10 on: March 05, 2017, 09:11:32 AM »
When we were first married I made my wife take a minimum wage job as a cleaner.  Staying at home with day time TV and having no conception of value for money in UK was a toxic combination...

When our first child came along she gave that job up and became a full time house wife.  This remained so after we moved to Turkey.  Now the children are grown and at school she is following her profession as a classical musician.  She teaches piano and violin, organizes and performs in concerts etc.  She really enjoys this.  It is not working for money, it never has been.  My business interests provide a high standard of living.

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Re: Does your FSU wife have a job?
« Reply #11 on: March 05, 2017, 11:58:19 AM »
When we were first married I made my wife take a minimum wage job as a cleaner.  Staying at home with day time TV and having no conception of value for money in UK was a toxic combination...

When our first child came along she gave that job up and became a full time house wife.  This remained so after we moved to Turkey.  Now the children are grown and at school she is following her profession as a classical musician.  She teaches piano and violin, organizes and performs in concerts etc.  She really enjoys this.  It is not working for money, it never has been.  My business interests provide a high standard of living.
Did your kids get schooled in Turkey or did you move there after all that was done?
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Re: Does your FSU wife have a job?
« Reply #12 on: March 06, 2017, 08:17:53 AM »
My wife works full time and landed on her feet with a great job. It's challenging, rewarding, a bit stressful but at 25 it gives her something to really focus on.

She moved here when she was 20 and had just finished university. We thought it best that she take things slowly, sharpen up the English skills etc but soon enough she started feeling home sick with so much time to think. She's a real driven lady and wasting away at home was killing her. The problem I had was that as soon as I found her a job opportunity, she accused me of throwing her in the deep end. You can imagine the frustration......

Then one day she declared that she would start work, earn her own money and look to convert her Law Degree into UK recognised study. A business took her on selling luxury cloth to top design houses all over the world and they required her linguistic assets - although I've noticed that this company appears to have many attractive ladies working for them as brand managers  :-X It's been a steep learning curve but she's getting there. Previous to this, a bit like Les, we had our arguments because she was young, living abroad, had no real idea of money or any previous experience of disposable income. I think she assumed everyone had a similar lifestyle to us and sometimes I felt that she needed to appreciate how lucky we were - we had a few heated ones about budgets.

I can't say this was all because she's FSU, although her auntie is very much the stereotypical "your a greedy man if you don't spend all your money" type woman. Needless to say she single..... (:)

But Mrs Rosco will be 26 this year so she's grown as a woman and a person over her 5 years with me. We're starting to talk about kids so I guess she'll have to decide if she wants to be a career or a house mum, helping me out with my business. I don't really have a preference right now and the main thing is that we're happy.

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Re: Does your FSU wife have a job?
« Reply #13 on: March 06, 2017, 08:38:19 AM »
My wife has always worked, in Ukraine before we married and now in Texas.  Been married over 17 years and she would go crazy sitting at home being a housewife.  Many years ago we lived in Germany for 1 year and she did not work.  Drover her nuts, could not wait until we got back to Texas and she could get back to work.  She has a Masters in Accounting and Audit from Ukraine and has worked in that field here almost all of our married life.  I can tell you that I am now retired and it is about to drive me crazy.

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Re: Does your FSU wife have a job?
« Reply #14 on: March 07, 2017, 04:12:19 AM »
Doesn't need to work - owns her own place / car and earns more than enough designing clothes / selling bikinis which she models ..