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Offline Rob7

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Russian Mothers
« on: July 20, 2016, 04:17:59 PM »
I  wonder how common is it that Russian mothers force their daughters to divorce if the spouse  is not rich enough? I have come to such an unfortunate situation that I have to undergo a divorce because her Russian mother forces her to do divorce when I am not rich enough . My wife was married to a Russian man former me and she said she was still in love with him when she did divorce him , which sounds very strange in my ears. Can someone explain this to me ? Why Russian women have to do everything their mothers say ?

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Re: Russian Mothers
« Reply #1 on: July 20, 2016, 04:50:24 PM »
I have never heard such a thing in my life! I have heard of many stories about guys telling lots of porky pies about their finances and when the truth comes out the women gets tired of living in a hovel she wants out.

Can you blame her? Leaving her home, family and friends for a life in strange country with a guy who made lots of false promises.


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Re: Russian Mothers
« Reply #2 on: July 20, 2016, 05:12:38 PM »
I have never heard such a thing in my life! I have heard of many stories about guys telling lots of porky pies about their finances and when the truth comes out the women gets tired of living in a hovel she wants out.

Can you blame her? Leaving her home, family and friends for a life in strange country with a guy who made lots of false promises.

Yes , I understand that it can be hard to leave their friends and family. But she was aware of my situation , I was not lying that I was super rich. And she had visited my country twice before she decided to move here. And she seemed to have had problems before she married me , I mean why divorce a man she still loves ?

And our relationship became really bad after her mother had come to visit last summer. Before , we had good relationship only small arguments sometimes solved by talking.


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Re: Russian Mothers
« Reply #3 on: July 20, 2016, 07:30:47 PM »
I have never heard such a thing in my life! I have heard of many stories about guys telling lots of porky pies about their finances and when the truth comes out the women gets tired of living in a hovel she wants out.

Can you blame her? Leaving her home, family and friends for a life in strange country with a guy who made lots of false promises.

Yes , I understand that it can be hard to leave their friends and family. But she was aware of my situation , I was not lying that I was super rich. And she had visited my country twice before she decided to move here. And she seemed to have had problems before she married me , I mean why divorce a man she still loves ?

And our relationship became really bad after her mother had come to visit last summer. Before , we had good relationship only small arguments sometimes solved by talking.

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Re: Russian Mothers
« Reply #4 on: July 20, 2016, 07:44:00 PM »
"Porky Pies" been a long time since I heard that one. But you are spot on. A lot of peculiar lying bafoons in this game.

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Re: Russian Mothers
« Reply #5 on: July 21, 2016, 12:00:58 AM »
I  wonder how common is it that Russian mothers force their daughters to divorce if the spouse  is not rich enough? I have come to such an unfortunate situation that I have to undergo a divorce because her Russian mother forces her to do divorce when I am not rich enough . My wife was married to a Russian man former me and she said she was still in love with him when she did divorce him , which sounds very strange in my ears. Can someone explain this to me ? Why Russian women have to do everything their mothers say ?

Is she a Muslim?

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Re: Russian Mothers
« Reply #6 on: July 21, 2016, 02:03:41 AM »
Uggghhhh, why would anyone marry a person who was so unreliable, so untrustworthy that she'd divorce a man she claimed she still loved?

This is not a mother thing. This is a bloke not understanding how to have a relationship thing.

Rob, your relationship is over. If you are telling something like the truth, there was no relationship.

Negotiate your exit from a poisonous situation as best you can. I am guessing that you are not a wealthy man. The cost to you of a negotiated exit will not be high.

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Re: Russian Mothers
« Reply #7 on: July 21, 2016, 04:27:53 AM »
Life in the West is not a bed of roses! Many women still believe it is and thats why lots are still registering at FSU dating sites, hoping for something better.

Truth is unless you have a reasonable income and can support yourself to a reasonable standard of living you have not a lot to offer say a Russian women. She may relocate to another country and after time realise life was better in Russia..I have heard and seen this story many times. Of course it can take some time before the women realises she doesn't want to become a slave to the system working non stop, running a house and the usual life style of a model Western women.

I know of two Ukrainian women back in my home town in the UK who left their husbands and returned to Ukraine , life wasn't how they expected..And it usually isn't if the guy doesn't have to much cash..

Lifes a bitch.. morel of the story make more cash :)

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Re: Russian Mothers
« Reply #8 on: July 21, 2016, 06:06:31 AM »
Before , we had good relationship only small arguments sometimes solved by talking.
Sorry Rob, but its highly likely you are not being truthful with yourself here - if your relationship hinged on the opinion of your wife's mother I doubt you had much to lose in the first place.

If the lady wants out its your responsibility to make sure that it happens as smoothly as possible - if you are going to lose a percentage of not much it should be a situtation that you will be able to recover from in short order!!! Good luck anyway!!!

And to answer the OP question - I doubt it is common - you just met the wrong women mate!!!
If you get a minute check out Bruce's TR - Its not quite finished, however its still a pretty good read IMHO.

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Re: Russian Mothers
« Reply #9 on: July 21, 2016, 06:12:25 AM »
Without Rob filling in details and engaging we can only speculate. A guess Andrew is correct in his assumptions. Hopefully we will learn more, it might help the OP in a form of learning.

The thread I think is a warning to some who do not understand relationships.

Perhaps the mother in law saw the squalor and treatment of her daughter and demanded change.
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Re: Russian Mothers
« Reply #10 on: July 21, 2016, 06:15:13 AM »
You can ask the author of the theme post a photo of living conditions? I know that in contrast to the former Soviet republics, many of the young men live in rented apartments. Out of the apartment ownership!
And what about the gap, so now is the time is. No value for family values. Now hardly anyone gets married for life. However, this has its own charm. The Russian guest common form of marriage. And that suits all! Young people are not committed to the official registration of marriage. A little after living and get to know each other, then go down the aisle. Why take the time to draw a relationship? After 2 times of meetings? So what if mother here?

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Re: Russian Mothers
« Reply #11 on: July 21, 2016, 06:16:18 AM »
Without Rob filling in details and engaging we can only speculate. A guess Andrew is correct in his assumptions. Hopefully we will learn more, it might help the OP in a form of learning.

The thread I think is a warning to some who do not understand relationships.

Perhaps the mother in law saw the squalor and treatment of her daughter and demanded change.

I suggest that, a daughter will only listen to her mother, and do as mother tells her, ONLY when she wants to..  :coffeeread:

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Re: Russian Mothers
« Reply #12 on: July 21, 2016, 06:17:54 AM »
You can ask the author of the theme post a photo of living conditions? I know that in contrast to the former Soviet republics, many of the young men live in rented apartments. Out of the apartment ownership!
And what about the gap, so now is the time is. No value for family values. Now hardly anyone gets married for life. However, this has its own charm. The Russian guest common form of marriage. And that suits all! Young people are not committed to the official registration of marriage. A little after living and get to know each other, then go down the aisle. Why take the time to draw a relationship? After 2 times of meetings? So what if mother here?

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Re: Russian Mothers
« Reply #13 on: July 21, 2016, 06:20:18 AM »
I  wonder how common is it that Russian mothers force their daughters to divorce if the spouse  is not rich enough? I have come to such an unfortunate situation that I have to undergo a divorce because her Russian mother forces her to do divorce when I am not rich enough . My wife was married to a Russian man former me and she said she was still in love with him when she did divorce him , which sounds very strange in my ears. Can someone explain this to me ? Why Russian women have to do everything their mothers say ?

Is she a Muslim?

A man could easily lose his head divorcing a Muslim.. :snivel:

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Re: Russian Mothers
« Reply #14 on: July 21, 2016, 06:22:07 AM »
Annushka, Some good questions. My take Rob has naive romantic notions not the best thing to hold to when dealing with women, and in particular those from the former Soviet Union. I wonder were there any children involved?

We do not now ages or the actual living conditions. Bear in mind a fixer upper in lower Fairfield County can be worth over a million dollars and in the Ozark's maybe ten thousand if it has a working outhouse. The same holds true for say Detroit and Manhattan.

With a bit of luck the OP will fill in details.
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