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« on: April 19, 2016, 07:51:45 PM »
I've been in contact with a lady from Kyiv for 3 months through EM. Eventually we moved to e-mail and skype. We set a date for a meeting in May. All seemed well - she was going to help me find a place to stay and she express happiness about our meeting. We agreed on a time and day for Skype. But she did not appear at our arranged meeting, does not answer my emails and my Skype messages remain unanswered. I am concerned that something may have happened to her. Any ideas on what to do? I have a friend in Kyiv so I can still go but I am still worried.

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Re: Vanished
« Reply #1 on: April 19, 2016, 07:56:08 PM »
How long has she been missing?

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Re: Vanished
« Reply #2 on: April 19, 2016, 11:08:47 PM »
I've been in contact with a lady from Kyiv for 3 months through EM. Eventually we moved to e-mail and skype. We set a date for a meeting in May. All seemed well - she was going to help me find a place to stay and she express happiness about our meeting. We agreed on a time and day for Skype. But she did not appear at our arranged meeting, does not answer my emails and my Skype messages remain unanswered. I am concerned that something may have happened to her. Any ideas on what to do? I have a friend in Kyiv so I can still go but I am still worried.

I believe you may have asked this question somewhere else - with more info.

Based on THAT omitted info - the stats suggest she is avoiding you. Esp. if she's still logging into skype

Sorry, move on - or go to Kyiv and 'sort it out'


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Re: Vanished
« Reply #3 on: April 19, 2016, 11:19:02 PM »
Welcome to RUA  tiphat

Do you know, how many devices does she have to stay in contact with you? If she is limited to one smart phone using Skype and that is damaged beyond repair it MIGHT be an explanation for the lack of contact.

On the other hand she might be testing you.

How far away are you from Kiev?
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Re: Vanished
« Reply #4 on: April 20, 2016, 12:15:56 AM »
Forget the stupid wench!

Find another women , preferably not in Kiev  ;D

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« Reply #5 on: April 20, 2016, 12:20:10 AM »
Move on. If she wanted it she'd communicate.

One thing is for sure,  there's millions of women in your country who have the benefit of being real.

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Re: Vanished
« Reply #6 on: April 20, 2016, 01:11:18 AM »
You should also not be wasting 3 months on ANY dating site communicating via e mails! 2/3 days absolutely max to work out if you have anything in common, if so there is Skype/whats up/Viber to continue communication.
Dating sites are just for initial contact and nothing else.  ;D

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Re: Vanished
« Reply #7 on: April 20, 2016, 02:29:58 AM »
Have you sent this person any money?

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Re: Vanished
« Reply #8 on: April 20, 2016, 02:30:49 AM »
I agree with the guys above. Moreover, its simply not cool sending heaps of messages chasing some bird.....you'll only feel stupid afterwards.

You've reached out, she's not replying.....next!

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Re: Vanished
« Reply #9 on: April 20, 2016, 07:07:55 AM »
Someone else got on a plane sooner, you missed the boat, so to speak.

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Re: Vanished
« Reply #10 on: April 20, 2016, 07:45:24 AM »
Someone else got on a plane sooner, you missed the boat, so to speak.

If, indeed, she was 'real' in the first place. That's not to say that there was not a real person at the end of the computer connection, but that the intent was never to meet. It is not insignificant that she dipped out at the point at which plans to meet were to be made.

He is probably lucky that she did not go along enthusiastically with the meeting and just as enthusiastically help him to spend money for her benefit whilst in Ukraine (and probably afterward as well).

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Re: Vanished
« Reply #11 on: April 20, 2016, 05:52:32 PM »
Hello
This is my first post on a topic on this forum.  I am registered on EM recently.  Have you tried to contact EM admin about the lady?  Maybe they can contact any other agency that she may be a member of?

I have come across dating profiles that were removed from a dating site.  I would sometimes ask what happened to the profile and the admin would give me the reason (such as lady decided to remove the profile, lady moved away from the area, etc.)

BTW, I received a phone number from a lady in Ukraine last month.  I have tried calling the number (it is a valid number for the city in Ukraine), but nobody answers.  Her profile shows that it has been inactive for over a month.  I sent some emails to see if she responds to them.

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Re: Vanished
« Reply #12 on: April 21, 2016, 02:30:20 AM »
I've been in contact with a lady from Kyiv for 3 months through EM. Eventually we moved to e-mail and skype. We set a date for a meeting in May. All seemed well - she was going to help me find a place to stay and she express happiness about our meeting. We agreed on a time and day for Skype. But she did not appear at our arranged meeting, does not answer my emails and my Skype messages remain unanswered. I am concerned that something may have happened to her. Any ideas on what to do? I have a friend in Kyiv so I can still go but I am still worried.

Long ago I got few letters from one American guy. I wasn't interested in him, so replied trying to be polite. One day he stopped to write. Not a problem, I decided. But I was surprised receiving few pages from his "sister" couple weeks later. "She" wrote her brother was died in a car accident three days ago, and his ashes were scattered around in the air. The most extravagant explanation I ever red. Usually the "writers" don't bother coming up with stories, they just disappear.
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Re: Vanished
« Reply #13 on: April 21, 2016, 05:54:30 AM »
Long ago I got few letters from one American guy. I wasn't interested in him, so replied trying to be polite. One day he stopped to write. Not a problem, I decided. But I was surprised receiving few pages from his "sister" couple weeks later. "She" wrote her brother was died in a car accident three days ago, and his ashes were scattered around in the air. The most extravagant explanation I ever red. Usually the "writers" don't bother coming up with stories, they just disappear.

Making up a story like that is one way to make sure that the contact ends I guess.  (:)

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Re: Vanished
« Reply #14 on: April 21, 2016, 09:41:05 AM »
I've been in contact with a lady from Kyiv for 3 months through EM. Eventually we moved to e-mail and skype. We set a date for a meeting in May. All seemed well - she was going to help me find a place to stay and she express happiness about our meeting. We agreed on a time and day for Skype. But she did not appear at our arranged meeting, does not answer my emails and my Skype messages remain unanswered. I am concerned that something may have happened to her. Any ideas on what to do? I have a friend in Kyiv so I can still go but I am still worried.

Long ago I got few letters from one American guy. I wasn't interested in him, so replied trying to be polite. One day he stopped to write. Not a problem, I decided. But I was surprised receiving few pages from his "sister" couple weeks later. "She" wrote her brother was died in a car accident three days ago, and his ashes were scattered around in the air. The most extravagant explanation I ever red. Usually the "writers" don't bother coming up with stories, they just disappear.

It's a pretty good one! Sometimes people think Americans don't try hard enough!   :laugh:
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