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Young women? The Fountain of Youth for old coots?
« on: January 25, 2016, 02:15:54 AM »
How about a little bit of honesty here?

I've always suspected that men in their 40s 50s and 60s (70s?) that pursue women in their 20s have a case of low testosterone. That it takes the chance to get some young tail to get them to rise to the occasion. They certainly can't be thinking long term. I mean what of 10 or 20 years from now when their still hot wives will be called upon to help them to the bathroom and wipe their old wrinkled butts? Of course that won't happen because their hot wives will have bailed on them years ago.

Frankly you guys need to grow up. Find a woman 40 plus with grown children and better yet grandchildren. Someone with flagging energy levels to match your own. Some crows feet along her eyes and stretch marks on her breasts and popkas are a plus. Less likely they'll be looking at the liver spots forming on your hands. You need someone who recognizes she is getting old and is wise enough to stop looking for the fountain of youth in some relationship like some of you old fools.

In case you haven't noticed. There are tons of RW in their 40s, 50 and 60s that are hotter than any of us deserve. When I'm ready that is where I'll be looking. My 2500 post.

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Re: Young women? The Fountain of Youth for old coots?
« Reply #1 on: January 25, 2016, 02:54:03 AM »
I don't know about low testosterone but I do know that a working definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting to get a different result 'this time'!

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Re: Young women? The Fountain of Youth for old coots?
« Reply #2 on: January 25, 2016, 03:19:34 AM »
Is being 40 or 50 something considered old these days?  :-\
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Re: Young women? The Fountain of Youth for old coots?
« Reply #3 on: January 25, 2016, 03:28:42 AM »
Is being 40 or 50 something considered old these days?  :-\

A man is only as old as the woman whose company he is "enjoying"
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Re: Young women? The Fountain of Youth for old coots?
« Reply #4 on: January 25, 2016, 04:34:28 AM »
The honest and self aware man is fully aware that to a a person in their early 20's 30 is middle aged and mid 30's is positively antedeluvian.

That's not to say that many young women don't enjoy a fling with a solvent,  well socialised and decent looking older man. Many women regard this as a part of their growth as a person. Of those only a very small minority can envisage a long term relationship with such a person.

It can be safely inferred that a person who has been unsuccessful over a period spanning many years or even decades probably lacks one or more attributes that make him attractive to the women that he seeks.

So,  yes,  to a 22 year old woman a man of 40 or 50 is ancient.

Reality is a bugger, eh?

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Re: Young women? The Fountain of Youth for old coots?
« Reply #5 on: January 25, 2016, 04:59:05 AM »
The honest and self aware man is fully aware that to a a person in their early 20's 30 is middle aged and mid 30's is positively antedeluvian.

That's not to say that many young women don't enjoy a fling with a solvent,  well socialised and decent looking older man. Many women regard this as a part of their growth as a person. Of those only a very small minority can envisage a long term relationship with such a person.

It can be safely inferred that a person who has been unsuccessful over a period spanning many years or even decades probably lacks one or more attributes that make him attractive to the women that he seeks.

So,  yes,  to a 22 year old woman a man of 40 or 50 is ancient.

Reality is a bugger, eh?

I will have to ask my girlfriend the question..   :whist11:
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Re: Young women? The Fountain of Youth for old coots?
« Reply #6 on: January 25, 2016, 05:17:16 AM »
I am sure that she will have something flattering and reasonable to say to you, after all she has already made the choice that most women reject and you were able to offer that which she sought.

I am sure that if your search had taken decades with no positive outcome, a period of time covering your late 30's to mid 50's that, as a rational man, you'd have altered your modus operandum, to suit your situation at that time.

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Re: Young women? The Fountain of Youth for old coots?
« Reply #7 on: January 25, 2016, 05:30:53 AM »
I am sure that she will have something flattering and reasonable to say to you, after all she has already made the choice that most women reject and you were able to offer that which she sought.

Err, yes, but don't tell my wife  :laugh:

I am sure that if your search had taken decades with no positive outcome, a period of time covering your late 30's to mid 50's that, as a rational man, you'd have altered your modus operandum, to suit your situation at that time.

Any Friday/Saturday evening spent in a local night club/café/bar/restaurant was/is always a success. here or elsewhere for that matter.   :ROFL:
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Re: Young women? The Fountain of Youth for old coots?
« Reply #8 on: January 25, 2016, 05:50:07 AM »
I am sure that even those who have been unable to find a 22 year old woman willing to marry them have not had much problem finding short term companionship. There's a difference though isn't there.

However, even finding the short term companionship does not get easier with age,  no matter how much we choose to delude ourselves.

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Re: Young women? The Fountain of Youth for old coots?
« Reply #9 on: January 25, 2016, 07:33:45 AM »
Any body remembers "Turbo" who married his wife with 37 Years age difference and they are still happily married?

In reply to the comments made by MaXX, I like to ask him if he knows to tell me, ... How the Marathon runners prepare themselves and manage to run the 27 Miles distance?

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Frankly you guys need to grow up. Find a woman 40 plus with grown children and better yet grandchildren. Someone with flagging energy levels to match your own. Some crows feet along her eyes and stretch marks on her breasts and popkas are a plus. Less likely they'll be looking at the liver spots forming on your hands. You need someone who recognizes she is getting old and is wise enough to stop looking for the fountain of youth in some relationship like some of you old fools.


It is obvious that you are trying to encourage your self to accept the inevitable failure. Well now you have 2500 posts and its time to make a move. You had plenty of practice on the board!

It's a fact of life. Some men have it and some don't, and while you were adding to your post count, they went out and smelled the flowers.

Most of us finally we found the one that ticked all the boxes!

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Re: Young women? The Fountain of Youth for old coots?
« Reply #10 on: January 25, 2016, 08:38:51 AM »
And wiz,  your missus, not 22 is she? Not when you met her or  wed her?

Look, there's always an outlier, an exception proving the rule, but the reality is that for most, nearly all old guys - blokes in their middle years or older finding a 22 year old Bird willing to help him cast his spunk into the future simply isn't going to happen.

Why do blokes who have themselves proven the lie to the fantasy insist on deluding others?
It ain't hard, tell the truth; some blokes seem to succeed, fewer actually do,  notwithstanding their most ardent hopes, and most sensible, realistic and honest people end up with wonderful partners in generationally appropriate relationships.

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Re: Young women? The Fountain of Youth for old coots?
« Reply #11 on: January 25, 2016, 09:17:54 AM »
My wife was 26 when I met her and I was 20 years older.  14+ years later we are still together and have 2 talented daughters.

Ever since we married the "Advice Sirens"  have intoned negative comments:  "you bought a young wife", "it won't last", "she will leave you for a younger (or wealthier) guy"

Well it has not happened yet and in my judgment we will be married until death do us part.

Strange but true my wife's father was 16 years older than her mother - but she died first. 

No accounting for Karma is there  :thumbsup:

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Re: Young women? The Fountain of Youth for old coots?
« Reply #12 on: January 25, 2016, 09:26:03 AM »
My wife was 26 when I met her and I was 20 years older.  14+ years later we are still together and have 2 talented daughters.

Ever since we married the "Advice Sirens"  have intoned negative comments:  "you bought a young wife", "it won't last", "she will leave you for a younger (or wealthier) guy"

Well it has not happened yet and in my judgment we will be married until death do us part.

Strange but true my wife's father was 16 years older than her mother - but she died first. 

No accounting for Karma is there  :thumbsup:

How many decades were you searching for?
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Re: Young women? The Fountain of Youth for old coots?
« Reply #13 on: January 25, 2016, 09:30:08 AM »
My wife was 26 when I met her and I was 20 years older.  14+ years later we are still together and have 2 talented daughters.

Ever since we married the "Advice Sirens"  have intoned negative comments:  "you bought a young wife", "it won't last", "she will leave you for a younger (or wealthier) guy"

Well it has not happened yet and in my judgment we will be married until death do us part.

Strange but true my wife's father was 16 years older than her mother - but she died first. 

No accounting for Karma is there  :thumbsup:

Good on ye..    tiphat
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Re: Young women? The Fountain of Youth for old coots?
« Reply #14 on: January 25, 2016, 10:00:17 AM »
And look at the care and attention to detail that went into your mutual choice.

How many others have done the same things?

Plus, I think we can agree that for most women a life with a reasonably solvent,  healthy, physically attractive bloke with no debilitating character flaws able to,  after a while,  offer a nice resort based lifestyle in congenial, sun-kissed, surroundings has advantages over what most men can offer and share,  yes?

And yes,  i know that you did not instantly end up where you are now,  but I think we might agree that most folks would perceive that a decent lifestyle was in the offing back then. You had track record and what I call 'wealth in depth' that showed you were not an overspending, socially handicapped, credit lumbered, arriviste.

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