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Re: I have asked her her opinion about sex
« Reply #60 on: December 23, 2015, 04:39:24 PM »
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There are some beautiful actually many women like this, but they SURE wouldn't be interested in some foreigner for marriage . A women like that would get all she wants and more in Russia!   

She would have no need for some cheap iPhone sent to her or anything else!

Well , seems answered that there are at least a few attractive RW like that, that would be interested in a foreigner for marriage.

They may not lack for anything in Russia (or FSU), but expanded their dating pool nonetheless.
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she had a hip with bad habits , and a shake that was a bit obscene

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Re: I have asked her her opinion about sex
« Reply #61 on: December 23, 2015, 09:22:16 PM »
I understand my language quite well.

BTW, I would say once rather than when. Just saying......

If American, you might say when you have gotten instead.

Hmm.  Maybe it's a New England thing, but we would say "once" rather than "when" or "when you have gotten" (indeed, we'd be more likely to say "once you have gotten" in place of that last one.)

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Re: I have asked her her opinion about sex
« Reply #62 on: December 24, 2015, 01:19:00 AM »

Give me a softie, that can smile and appreciate a compliment and manage to say thanks, but no thanks - any day.

that's the thing, she's a softy, cute and cuddly but when alone for a while there's other things that come into that pretty little head that surprises me. It's all about expectation vs what is a reality or working possibility. Practicality isn't something they often consider.

Still I'd rather the upfront-ness than some weak minded, shy irrelevant young attitude.

I make it sound frequent, perhaps it is to a certain degree, but we've only been living as man and wife a short time, what we do have is an understanding now, when I come home and there's an issue I immediately realise there's a difference in points of view, with a quick joke about the purported issue we can then discuss this swiftly with an amicable resolution.

That perhaps wouldn't be as easy if she didn't understand a common language as we do, whilst we speak same language we certainly (at present) do not understand each others expectations or cultures, we are however learning fast. There's an awful lot to learn, that is most rewarding when resolved.
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Re: I have asked her her opinion about sex
« Reply #63 on: December 24, 2015, 02:39:19 AM »


Give me a softie, that can smile and appreciate a compliment and manage to say thanks, but no thanks - any day.

that's the thing, she's a softy, cute and cuddly but when alone

You said, ''my wife..serious attitude problem with strangers''

I was merely saying I'd prefer someone who is not like this in 'new' company..but I appreciate this tends to be a FSU trait..I never figured if it is a defence mechanism or out of some idea that all other men must be sent a clear signal that, 'I am taken'  :chuckle: 



Welcome to the club  tiphat
It seems to be the consensus that it takes about 2 years to iron out the wrinkles.

..and how long for her to 'wrinkle out' yours  :chuckle:

I accept that you are probably being facetious  - as I cannot understand why any one would want to change the differences that make a FSU women appealingly different.

I am gregarious and my FSU partners have tended to be quiet.... but they were never 'walkovers' if their mind is made up about something 

Back on subject - Sex is one area were a FSU woman opinion's 'opinion' is worth seeking out  :chuckle:

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Re: I have asked her her opinion about sex
« Reply #64 on: December 24, 2015, 04:35:03 AM »
The RW in question is average at best for Russia. Badly dyed red hair, standard boots that make any girl here look sexy to men, and quite average in the photo the OP provided.

I'm sitting in a Starbucks in a Moscow mall taking a break at the moment, and a better looking RW passes by every 2 minutes. There are two dev's behind the counter here I'd rather get with than our pseudo redhead.

There have been times in my life when I might have thought this redhead to be quite attractive. You know, like a hamburger tastes when you haven't had a good steak for awhile. When you start to get fed a diet of ribeyes and tenderloins, you understand the difference. Of course, everyone has their own version of beauty, but IMO, this "redhead" is hamburger.

As far as talking about sex, well RW are hardly prudes. Nevertheless, one doesn't broach the topic like an adolesent viewing his first porno movie. If you are just beginning to communicate with a FSUW and haven't met but sense her interest in taking the communication to the next level, then by all means. Think of it like comedy, where timing is key. :P
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Re: I have asked her her opinion about sex
« Reply #65 on: December 24, 2015, 12:47:31 PM »


Give me a softie, that can smile and appreciate a compliment and manage to say thanks, but no thanks - any day.

that's the thing, she's a softy, cute and cuddly but when alone

You said, ''my wife..serious attitude problem with strangers''

I was merely saying I'd prefer someone who is not like this in 'new' company..but I appreciate this tends to be a FSU trait..I never figured if it is a defence mechanism or out of some idea that all other men must be sent a clear signal that, 'I am taken'  :chuckle: 



Welcome to the club  tiphat
It seems to be the consensus that it takes about 2 years to iron out the wrinkles.

..and how long for her to 'wrinkle out' yours  :chuckle:

I accept that you are probably being facetious  - as I cannot understand why any one would want to change the differences that make a FSU women appealingly different.

I am gregarious and my FSU partners have tended to be quiet.... but they were never 'walkovers' if their mind is made up about something 

Back on subject - Sex is one area were a FSU woman opinion's 'opinion' is worth seeking out  :chuckle:
What are you banging on about? Who is saying anything about changing anybody? It is generally accepted that it takes about 2 years to make the transition and the relationship to stabilise after an FSUW arrives.
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Re: I have asked her her opinion about sex
« Reply #66 on: December 24, 2015, 05:10:58 PM »
I never figured if it is a defence mechanism or out of some idea that all other men must be sent a clear signal that, 'I am taken' 

Its the bolded. If you knew more Russian men, you would understand it.
please tell me where I'm being / have been 'dishonest'? 
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Re: I have asked her her opinion about sex
« Reply #67 on: December 24, 2015, 07:14:51 PM »
The RW in question is average at best for Russia. Badly dyed red hair, standard boots that make any girl here look sexy to men, and quite average in the photo the OP provided.

I'm sitting in a Starbucks in a Moscow mall taking a break at the moment, and a better looking RW passes by every 2 minutes. There are two dev's behind the counter here I'd rather get with than our pseudo redhead.

There have been times in my life when I might have thought this redhead to be quite attractive. You know, like a hamburger tastes when you haven't had a good steak for awhile. When you start to get fed a diet of ribeyes and tenderloins, you understand the difference. Of course, everyone has their own version of beauty, but IMO, this "redhead" is hamburger.

As far as talking about sex, well RW are hardly prudes. Nevertheless, one doesn't broach the topic like an adolesent viewing his first porno movie. If you are just beginning to communicate with a FSUW and haven't met but sense her interest in taking the communication to the next level, then by all means. Think of it like comedy, where timing is key. :P

Why don't you post a picture of you with the good ones then Dan? 

I've never seen anyone stoop so low on this site as to insult another member's wife. 

Steve is a good friend and has built a successful life in Russia.  We can all learn from him.  I will not stand for these low blows against a fellow valued member. 

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Re: I have asked her her opinion about sex
« Reply #68 on: December 24, 2015, 07:48:53 PM »
I've never seen anyone stoop so low on this site as to insult another member's wife. 

Steve is a good friend and has built a successful life in Russia.  We can all learn from him.  I will not stand for these low blows against a fellow valued member.

Danchik wasn't discussing Steve's wife.
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Re: I have asked her her opinion about sex
« Reply #69 on: December 24, 2015, 08:45:03 PM »
The most recent photo was from Steve. 

I must have been mistaken then with an earlier post on this thread. 

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Re: I have asked her her opinion about sex
« Reply #70 on: December 24, 2015, 11:37:44 PM »


Its the bolded. If you knew more Russian men, you would understand it.

 :chuckle:

Having seen how Russian and Cypriot men operate - it is a waste of time - they'll still try - wedding ring or not..

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Re: I have asked her her opinion about sex
« Reply #71 on: November 26, 2016, 09:42:52 PM »
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"A well rounded, family oriented,  established WM, may very well not be able to just flash a passport, but he sure wont be lacking for attractive female serious minded attention if that's what he wants. 
 Sure the 23 yo modelesque Moscow socialite/party girl might not be interested, but she isn't really representative of the bulk of attractive women in the FSU either.

And that woman, while extremely gorgeous, is hardly a 'model'. She's 36 and 5'4 (163 cm). And the photos were likely taken years ago. I know you weren't referring to her and I'm actually agreeing with you that there are women in our 'community' who are more physically attractive, as well as have a 'more desirable age' (a bit unfair, unless the man is like 30 or younger, but its unfortunately how many men feel. For the most desirable women they prefer someone in their 20's, especially from that part of the world). So I can definitely see her being willing to look abroad. But as said she is really gorgeous. Definitely no knock on her looks, thats for sure!