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What is the World coming too?
« on: September 11, 2015, 01:46:39 AM »
Lawyer accused of sexism after complimenting barrister on 'stunning' LinkedIn picture

A 57-year-old lawyer was accused of “unacceptable and misogynistic behaviour” after he sent a barrister half his age a LinkedIn message complimenting her on her “stunning picture”.
Alexander Carter-Silk was named and shamed on Twitter by 27-year-old human rights lawyer Charlotte Proudman who posted her reply to the message online.

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He has since apologised for the message, in which he told Ms Proudman he was “delighted to connect”, adding “I appreciate that this is probably horrendously politically incorrect but that is a stunning picture !!!”
The lawyer, a partner at international firm Brown Rudnick continued: “You definitely win the prize for the best Linked in picture I have ever seen

“Always interest [sic] to understant [sic] people’s skills and how we might work together”.

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Ms Proudman, who is studying for a PhD at the University of Cambridge researching female genital mutilation, told Mr Carter-Silk his message was “offensive”.

Her response, which prompted praise on social media, read: “I am on linked-in for business purposes not to be approached about my physical appearance or to be objectified by sexist men.

“The eroticisation of women’s physical appearance is a way of exercising power over women. It silences women’s professional attributes as their physical appearance becomes the subject

“Unacceptable and misogynistic behaviour. Think twice before sending another woman (half your age) such a sexist message.”

Ms Proudman said she had received similar messages about her appearance before, although not from anyone as senior as Mr Carter-Silk. Unlike her male peers, the barrister said she has never received a job offer through the professional networking site.

• Comment: Did this man's weak sexism really warrant perv-shaming?

Ms Proudman told the Telegraph: "I was just so infuriated after I read the message. Initially I thought ‘Oh God another one, I’ll just delete it’.

"Then I thought, 'no I’m not going to take this'. This is from a senior partner who should know better."
She said Mr Carter-Silk had since apologised in an email which said: "I sincerely regret my remarks have offended you and I offer you my apologies".

But the barrister said the apology was not enough.

"He hasn’t in my view accepted the fact that his actions were incredibly sexist and on the basis of objectifying my appearance.

It's absolutely bare minimum in terms of an apology."

A number of women responded to Ms Proudman with messages of support.

Mandeer Kataria said: “I changed my LinkedIn profile photo to an uglier one so I’d get fewer creepy men adding/messaging me”.

Jessica Asato said: “I would rather be complimented on my achievements than my face. One I worked hard for, the other I was born with”.

Ms Proudman said she had received “lots of supportive messages from men across all sectors”.

• Do men really use sexism to bond with each other at work?

In a statement to the legal news and gossip site RollOnFriday, Carter-Silk said: “Most people post pretty unprofessional pictures on Linked in, my comment was aimed at the professional quality of the presentation on linked in which was unfortunately misinterpreted.

“Ms Proudman is clearly highly respected and I was pleased to receive her request to linkup and very happy to instruct her on matters which [are] relevant to her expertise that remains the position".

A spokesperson for law firm Brown Rudnick told the Daily Mail: “We are aware of the comments made by a member of the firm on a private social media account.

“We have apologised for the offence caused and have no further comment to make.”



My wife asks if this woman is for real, she finds it laughable that she would take this attitude to having a compliment made, and people ask why we look to the FSU for partners  (:)

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Re: What is the World coming too?
« Reply #1 on: September 11, 2015, 01:55:48 AM »
This woman would be better off looking like a troll, she sure has the personality to fit such an ugly creature.
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Re: What is the World coming too?
« Reply #2 on: September 11, 2015, 04:00:43 AM »
She did not choose the pic because it looked bad. For that reason I think that she was being dishonest in her assault on the sender.


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Re: What is the World coming too?
« Reply #3 on: September 11, 2015, 05:12:03 AM »
He has since apologised for the message, in which he told Ms Proudman he was “delighted to connect”, adding “I appreciate that this is probably horrendously politically incorrect but that is a stunning picture !!!”
The lawyer, a partner at international firm Brown Rudnick continued: “You definitely win the prize for the best Linked in picture I have ever seen

Seems to me like she's over-reacting to the attempt by a socially-awkward older gent's attempt to be friendly/complimentary

And really, if that's the best Linkdin photo he's ever seen, then he needs to get out more.

Her response, which prompted praise on social media, read: “I am on linked-in for business purposes not to be approached about my physical appearance or to be objectified by sexist men.

She makes it sound like he propositioned her....

“Unacceptable and misogynistic behaviour. Think twice before sending another woman (half your age) such a sexist message.”

So him being "sexist" was bad but her being "age-ist' is ok?

Ms Proudman said she had received similar messages about her appearance before, although not from anyone as senior as Mr Carter-Silk. Unlike her male peers, the barrister said she has never received a job offer through the professional networking site.

Perhaps they don't come off as insufferable *snip*s who will one-day sue the firm b/c someone offhandedly remarks that she "looks nice this morning"....

"Then I thought, 'no I’m not going to take this'. This is from a senior partner who should know better."
She said Mr Carter-Silk had since apologised in an email which said: "I sincerely regret my remarks have offended you and I offer you my apologies".

But the barrister said the apology was not enough.

So, the guy apologizes but that's not enough b/c he didn't undergo the necessary "Shame Dance" and ritual self-castration ceremony?

In a statement to the legal news and gossip site RollOnFriday, Carter-Silk said: “Most people post pretty unprofessional pictures on Linked in, my comment was aimed at the professional quality of the presentation on linked in which was unfortunately misinterpreted.

He did comment on the nature of the *photo*....

My wife asks if this woman is for real, she finds it laughable that she would take this attitude to having a compliment made, and people ask why we look to the FSU for partners  (:)

Exactly.  She's just awful....

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Re: What is the World coming too?
« Reply #4 on: September 11, 2015, 05:27:50 AM »
Charlotte looks great for forty; unfortunately, she's twenty-seven.
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Re: What is the World coming too?
« Reply #5 on: September 11, 2015, 08:57:15 AM »
Feel bad for the guy getting raked over the coals for sending a compliment.
Yet other guys can get the message, stay away from the nasty Bitch :)
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Re: What is the World coming too?
« Reply #6 on: September 11, 2015, 10:49:09 AM »
Charlotte looks great for forty; unfortunately, she's twenty-seven.

Yes, to this.

Given her other statements it is my surmise that she was seeking a target and for her purposes she needed as senior a target as possible. She could not make such a fuss over a compliment from a peer, the more senior the better.

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Re: What is the World coming too?
« Reply #7 on: September 11, 2015, 11:28:19 AM »
Charlotte looks great for forty; unfortunately, she's twenty-seven.

Yes, to this.

Given her other statements it is my surmise that she was seeking a target and for her purposes she needed as senior a target as possible. She could not make such a fuss over a compliment from a peer, the more senior the better.


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Re: What is the World coming too?
« Reply #8 on: September 11, 2015, 09:07:37 PM »
This woman would be better off looking like a troll, she sure has the personality to fit such an ugly creature.

Well what man on planet Earth could possibly please such an obnoxious woman ever?  She's not that attractive to begin with, but with that personality she is a downright monster.   :sick0012:
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Re: What is the World coming too?
« Reply #9 on: September 11, 2015, 09:12:57 PM »

My wife asks if this woman is for real, she finds it laughable that she would take this attitude to having a compliment made, and people ask why we look to the FSU for partners  (:)

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