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Offline FredHill

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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #15 on: September 24, 2014, 12:03:33 AM »
Why is such a man interested in women who are openly hostile to him?  Why does he keep barking up the wrong tree?

He isn't actively seeking hostile women. Being friendly and sociable by nature, he bumps into dozens of people on a daily basis. The law of averages predicts at least some of them will be female.

At this point, he has no idea that they view him with contempt, as he hasn't done anything to deserve it.

The hostility only becomes apparent when a totally harmless comment such as "Would you like a cup of coffee?" is answered with "Don't f---ing waste my time, you pathetic loser!"

Is he looking only at outer beauty and ignoring those quality women in his midst who may not package themselves as proficiently?
 

No, he's just being friendly, the same way he is with everybody. He doesn't judge by appearances, and he often invites his acquaintances out for lunch, dinner or drinks, regardless of their looks.

Is his apparent angst over this state of affairs a case of arrested development?  Or is he a masochist?

There is no angst involved, as he doesn't hold grudges. His tolerant, impartial nature suggests a high degree of maturity. As stated above, he isn't actively seeking out hostile women, so he clearly isn't a masochist.

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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #16 on: September 24, 2014, 12:32:47 AM »
I don't know, someone talking in the third person all the time when he's referring to himself is enough to freak anyone out. Perhaps if you didn't, you'd actually get a date.

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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #17 on: September 24, 2014, 03:05:35 AM »
Fred, what is your advice to the person to who you are referring?
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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #18 on: September 24, 2014, 03:40:40 AM »
Fred, what is your advice to the person to who you are referring?

I have no desire to offer advice to anybody. I'm simply curious to know why otherwise rational women would display a completely irrational animosity towards men who've done nothing to harm them.

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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #19 on: September 24, 2014, 04:16:28 AM »
I don't know, someone talking in the third person all the time when he's referring to himself is enough to freak anyone out. Perhaps if you didn't, you'd actually get a date.

Well- one would  do that  if they had adopted a new forum persona  and saw their creation as real  other person !!
Seriously-- how much forum space has been consumed with his inane propositions already .

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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #20 on: September 24, 2014, 06:11:43 AM »
If you have no desire to help this other person then why on earth ask for guidance into his issue? Seems like a terrible waste of time and more than a little selfish.

If the person is actually you then why not refer to yourself?
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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #21 on: September 24, 2014, 07:02:02 AM »
If you have no desire to help this other person then why on earth ask for guidance into his issue?

I have not requested guidance, Andrew.  I have simply asked for information, prompted by an interest in the contradictions of human relationships.

Seriously-- how much forum space has been consumed with his inane propositions already .

The psychologically verified inanities of interpersonal relationships are quite fascinating, and have been the subject of considerable scientific research. Numerous studies of the phenomena are currently available, you can easily look them up online if you have the time or inclination to do so.


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Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #22 on: September 24, 2014, 07:32:11 AM »
I have no desire to offer advice to anybody. I'm simply curious to know why otherwise rational women would display a completely irrational animosity towards men who've done nothing to harm them.

Men have so far developed 124 various theories about women. Unfortunately they
are all wrong. Women either don't know what they want or won't truthfully say.
Asking especially a Western Woman what she wants is only slightly more productive
than asking a Chinese speaking parrot what it wants. If the WW/Parrot tells you,
you wouldn't understand anyway.

The hostility only becomes apparent when a totally harmless comment such as "Would you like a cup of coffee?" is answered with "Don't f---ing waste my time, you pathetic loser!"

This guy you are describing is unable to read any signals that women send out.
He should study, body language and work more at social interaction. Communication
is a two way street and over 80% is nonverbal. This guy needs to learn and study
nonverbal communication. He has nearly zero empathy, or he would know that the
girl had less than zero interest in him.

He should totally avoid FSUW unless he has a wingman guiding him every step of
the way.

FSUW are not for entry level daters. This guy is like a 14 year old boy who just figured
out that he likes girls.

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Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.
Get an apartment not a hotel. DON'T recycle girls

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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #23 on: September 24, 2014, 09:34:36 AM »
Fred, you may have a poor understanding of English that is confusing you. If we share information with you then by doing so we are providing guidance - guiding you toward insight or a solution by providing information that adds to your knowledge.

Be honest with us. Why do you insist on trying to claim that you are asking questions about 3rd parties when it is clearly about you?

Why on earth would you ask about something that happened to a friend of yours and then claim that you'd not pass on your new knowledge. It is hard to imagine a normally socialised person who could be so selfish.

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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #24 on: September 24, 2014, 09:59:20 AM »
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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #25 on: September 24, 2014, 04:35:14 PM »
Why on earth would you ask about something that happened to a friend of yours and then claim that you'd not pass on your new knowledge.

Pardon me Andrew, where in this thread have I stated that I'm talking about a friend?

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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #26 on: September 24, 2014, 08:42:22 PM »


At this point, he has no idea that they view him with contempt, as he hasn't done anything to deserve it.

The hostility only becomes apparent when a totally harmless comment such as "Would you like a cup of coffee?" is answered with "Don't f---ing waste my time, you pathetic loser!"

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There is no angst involved, as he doesn't hold grudges. His tolerant, impartial nature suggests a high degree of maturity. As stated above, he isn't actively seeking out hostile women, so he clearly isn't a masochist.

Sorry Fred, just not buying it as a normal thing for the average nice guy to run into.
The average woman would not have that reaction,nor would she hold an average nice guy in contempt, so it is not going to be a common occurrence.

Could it happen? Sure, that doesn't mean its common place for disinterested women to respond to such a mild question ,with that kind of hostility.

You are asking FSU women a general question that doesn't apply to the general population there,or anywhere else.

So what type of answer are you expecting?
the women to say:
1. that in general they are anti social and hostile ?
2. that in general they do not react that way, even though you've posed a closed ended question already assuming they do?

Overall most of your questions  seem the musings of someone  who was so overly sensitive that some relatively small out of place reaction by a random odd individual, shaped their entire thinking of how others generally feel and interact.

 
she had a hip with bad habits , and a shake that was a bit obscene

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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #27 on: September 24, 2014, 10:17:11 PM »
it is not going to be a common occurrence.

Nowhere in this thread have I claimed that this a common occurrence.

...so what type of answer are you expecting?

Truthful, incisive and thought-provoking.

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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #28 on: September 24, 2014, 10:58:17 PM »
I recommend some "red pill" sites such as Heartiste.wordpress.com , etc.  Site is not always written in a polite tone.

My guess:  you are a nerd and dress poorly.
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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #29 on: September 25, 2014, 01:06:19 AM »
Fred, you keep referring to yourself in the 3rd person or as an abstract and have specifically told us that you were asking on  behalf of some other person. I do not regard each thread you post as being a different and separate entity they are all representations of you, part of yourself.

Each of your questions tells us about you. That you insist upon treating yourself as some kind of cypher suggests that there is something going on with you that is not normal and that if you are a genuine person and not a sock puppet that you are facing some kind of issue or crisis in your personal life. But then what do I know, I ain't a psychoanalyst, but you are, for sure, a touch odd.
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