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Offline FredHill

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Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« on: September 23, 2014, 01:01:02 AM »
I'm not talking about fawning, obsequious wimps, or manipulative scumbags who pretend to be nice. I'm talking about honest, down-to-earth guys who treat everybody with kindness and respect. The kind of man who'd stop to comfort a crying child or help an old lady onto a train. Why are some women openly hostile towards this type of male, dismissing them as weak, spineless and inferior? I mean, they may not be drop-dead handsome, but surely their innate qualities make them worth a second glance --

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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #1 on: September 23, 2014, 02:38:27 AM »
I think the word 'hate' may not mean quite what you think it does.

But if by 'some' you mean that there are mentally ill people, some of whom are women who are very anti social then, well, of course they exist, but they are mentally ill.

If you are one of the people you define as being good, kind, decent and you keep meeting mentally ill people then you might want to change your line of work or your lifestyle - or re-examine your self assessment.

Normal people tend to NOT hate other people. Normal people are not openly hostile toward other people.
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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #2 on: September 23, 2014, 02:39:23 AM »
I'm not talking about fawning, obsequious wimps, or manipulative scumbags who pretend to be nice. I'm talking about honest, down-to-earth guys who treat everybody with kindness and respect. The kind of man who'd stop to comfort a crying child or help an old lady onto a train. Why are some women openly hostile towards this type of male, dismissing them as weak, spineless and inferior? I mean, they may not be drop-dead handsome, but surely their innate qualities make them worth a second glance --

I think you will find it a very rare thing indeed that a woman actually hates "good, kind, decent men".

If you're finding that women are dissing you in particular, perhaps they see something in you that you haven't seen yourself.

Edit: lol, I see Andrew an I think likewise...


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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #3 on: September 23, 2014, 04:22:52 AM »
I think he meant women always attract to "bad image" men.   "Good guys always come last"  the old saying

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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #4 on: September 23, 2014, 05:40:48 AM »
I think he meant women always attract to "bad image" men.   "Good guys always come last"  the old saying

Well, that's not what he wrote and it is not a true statement either. ;)
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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #5 on: September 23, 2014, 05:45:50 AM »
I'm not talking about fawning, obsequious wimps, or manipulative scumbags who pretend to be nice. I'm talking about honest, down-to-earth guys who treat everybody with kindness and respect. The kind of man who'd stop to comfort a crying child or help an old lady onto a train. Why are some women openly hostile towards this type of male, dismissing them as weak, spineless and inferior? I mean, they may not be drop-dead handsome, but surely their innate qualities make them worth a second glance --

When I read the thread subject, my initial thought was that there is something wrong with the question. However, when I read the words saying that some women are openly hostile towards the obviously good men, I'thought that you mean something particular.

Before I recommend you to read the theory about the so called alpha and omega males, would you be so kind to give a few examples of such behavior of female hostility towards the good men?
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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #6 on: September 23, 2014, 07:31:49 AM »
I'm not talking about fawning, obsequious wimps, or manipulative scumbags who pretend to be nice. I'm talking about honest, down-to-earth guys who treat everybody with kindness and respect. The kind of man who'd stop to comfort a crying child or help an old lady onto a train. Why are some women openly hostile towards this type of male, dismissing them as weak, spineless and inferior? I mean, they may not be drop-dead handsome, but surely their innate qualities make them worth a second glance --

Perhaps, a second glance makes it even worse?  :8)

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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #7 on: September 23, 2014, 08:59:47 AM »
I'm not talking about fawning, obsequious wimps, or manipulative scumbags who pretend to be nice. I'm talking about honest, down-to-earth guys who treat everybody with kindness and respect. The kind of man who'd stop to comfort a crying child or help an old lady onto a train. Why are some women openly hostile towards this type of male, dismissing them as weak, spineless and inferior? I mean, they may not be drop-dead handsome, but surely their innate qualities make them worth a second glance --

Please activate the imagination. Dating - it's shopping. Online Dating - shop. Potential bride should try all new things for themselves. How do you think the woman immediately make a choice?  :knit:

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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #8 on: September 23, 2014, 09:05:31 AM »
I'm not talking about fawning, obsequious wimps, or manipulative scumbags who pretend to be nice. I'm talking about honest, down-to-earth guys who treat everybody with kindness and respect. The kind of man who'd stop to comfort a crying child or help an old lady onto a train. Why are some women openly hostile towards this type of male, dismissing them as weak, spineless and inferior? I mean, they may not be drop-dead handsome, but surely their innate qualities make them worth a second glance --

I'm not a Russian woman, but I think I can offer some useful insight here...

Inner qualities come out over time.  I have to assume this is a specific experience you're having.  Based on your other posts I'm going to read into the entire scenario to offer what insight I can.

1.  It's a numbers game - start canvasing and find someone that likes your outer looks well enough to invest the time to learn your outer qualities.  This comes out with shared experiences.  So the only way she'll get to know them is if you're spending enough time with her...in person.

2.  Odds are better with a tighter age bracket.  Not to say you can't find a 25 y/o hottie who finds you adorable.  Just understand that percentage-wise you may have to do a LOT more canvassing.  Less so with women closer to your age.  Some people get on the whole "date close to your looks" thing too.  Confidence is a lot of what makes a man attractive, so I don't read as much into that.  Which brings me to point #3.

3.  Women love confidence, especially FSUW.  If you don't exhibit that quality, good luck.  She'll wonder how you will provide for her, protect her and not let her run all over you.  You don't have to be an asshole, but you do have to be a leader (in some regards at least.)

And if you don't like those answers...well perhaps you should cast a wider net to other parts of the world as well.  :)  Regardless, find what works for YOU and where the odds are best for your strengths and work from there.

Luck!

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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #9 on: September 23, 2014, 09:15:12 AM »
I'm not talking about fawning, obsequious wimps, or manipulative scumbags who pretend to be nice. I'm talking about honest, down-to-earth guys who treat everybody with kindness and respect. The kind of man who'd stop to comfort a crying child or help an old lady onto a train. Why are some women openly hostile towards this type of male, dismissing them as weak, spineless and inferior? I mean, they may not be drop-dead handsome, but surely their innate qualities make them worth a second glance --

Why is such a man interested in women who are openly hostile to him?  Why does he keep barking up the wrong tree?  Is he looking only at outer beauty and ignoring those quality women in his midst who may not package themselves as proficiently?  Is his apparent angst over this state of affairs a case of arrested development?  Or is he a masochist?

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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #10 on: September 23, 2014, 12:16:42 PM »
I'm not talking about fawning, obsequious wimps, or manipulative scumbags who pretend to be nice. I'm talking about honest, down-to-earth guys who treat everybody with kindness and respect. The kind of man who'd stop to comfort a crying child or help an old lady onto a train. Why are some women openly hostile towards this type of male, dismissing them as weak, spineless and inferior? I mean, they may not be drop-dead handsome, but surely their innate qualities make them worth a second glance --

The real question should be why would such a man  worry about *some* women?

Those women likely don't hate that type of man, they may simply not be interested romantically- that's a huge difference.

Even at that, the *some* would seem a minority, so the majority of the female population  would neither hate that type, nor avoid them for romance.

Such a man has precious little to worry about if his interests and expectations are realistic.
(meaning if he seeks women in the same socio/economic status, and relative attractiveness)
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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #11 on: September 23, 2014, 01:26:37 PM »
I mean, they may not be drop-dead handsome, but surely their innate qualities make them worth a second glance --

FH, some women are hardwired to pursue the bad boys. They say they want a nice
guy but then they bed the bad boys. Forget about those women, if a woman wants
to reform bad boys let her go do it and dump her like overly ripe fish guts. Don't try
to reform girls who like bad boys they are like crack heads, they lie their asses off
and go back to them again and again. Dump them and never look back. Do NOT
recycle girls.

Fortunately most FSUW have met enough bad boys to know they can't be reformed.
If an FSUW is over 28 she has met enough bad boys to have them out of her system
for good.

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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #12 on: September 23, 2014, 02:07:31 PM »
The real question should be why would such a man  worry about *some* women?

 :thumbsup:

There are plenty of women who are looking for nice guys.

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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #13 on: September 23, 2014, 02:59:48 PM »
I'm not a Russian woman, but I think I can offer some useful insight here...

Inner qualities come out over time.  I have to assume this is a specific experience you're having.  Based on your other posts I'm going to read into the entire scenario to offer what insight I can.

1.  It's a numbers game - start canvasing and find someone that likes your outer looks well enough to invest the time to learn your [inner] outer qualities.  This comes out with shared experiences.  So the only way she'll get to know them is if you're spending enough time with her...in person.

2.  Odds are better with a tighter age bracket.  Not to say you can't find a 25 y/o hottie who finds you adorable.  Just understand that percentage-wise you may have to do a LOT more canvassing.  Less so with women closer to your age.  Some people get on the whole "date close to your looks" thing too.  Confidence is a lot of what makes a man attractive, so I don't read as much into that.  Which brings me to point #3.

3.  Women love confidence, especially FSUW.  If you don't exhibit that quality, good luck.  She'll wonder how you will provide for her, protect her and not let her run all over you.  You don't have to be an asshole, but you do have to be a leader (in some regards at least.)

And if you don't like those answers...well perhaps you should cast a wider net to other parts of the world as well.  :)  Regardless, find what works for YOU and where the odds are best for your strengths and work from there.

Luck!
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Re: Why do some women hate good, kind, decent men?
« Reply #14 on: September 23, 2014, 07:17:08 PM »
I'm not talking about fawning, obsequious wimps, or manipulative scumbags who pretend to be nice. I'm talking about honest, down-to-earth guys who treat everybody with kindness and respect. The kind of man who'd stop to comfort a crying child or help an old lady onto a train. Why are some women openly hostile towards this type of male, dismissing them as weak, spineless and inferior? I mean, they may not be drop-dead handsome, but surely their innate qualities make them worth a second glance --

something about your posts is askew to me fred
maybe some self exploration would be wise ?

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