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Offline Luftmeister

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Abandoning my search.
« on: March 17, 2014, 05:06:56 PM »
As of this writing, I'm dropping the idea of marrying a woman from the FSU. I don't think I have the time, or patience for it to go through it again. I may be back someday, but as of this writing I doubt it.

I was married to a FSUW for 15 years for those of you who don't know my back story.

I don't know that I have the time, or the patience for it. What I mean by that, is right now I'm 47 years old and I have 2 boys aged 7 and 14. I make a decent wage, and have a month of vacation per year. Just too many blow ups so - to hell with it.

Best of luck to you all.

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Re: Abandoning my search.
« Reply #1 on: March 17, 2014, 05:19:29 PM »
Good luck to you.  Drop in every once in a while eh?  tiphat
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Re: Abandoning my search.
« Reply #2 on: March 17, 2014, 05:58:20 PM »
 You're right Luft, you need to be able to take the time and have the commitment to do this. Totally understandable that you don't think you can do it right now, especially with raising your young sons.

 Good luck in the future and thanks for your input while you were here. Take care!


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Re: Abandoning my search.
« Reply #3 on: March 17, 2014, 06:32:41 PM »
Well crap......sorry to hear that Luft. I enjoyed talking to you a while back and really valued what you had to say considering your past experience. One of my bigger "check marks" on my list is making sure that she comes from a reasonably stable family background. I remember your words wrt that as well as setting up boundaries with the in-laws. So "thanks" I guess is what I'm saying.

All the best to you no matter what path you choose but something tells me your decision will not be permanent.

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Re: Abandoning my search.
« Reply #4 on: March 17, 2014, 06:56:51 PM »
Lufty, I understand & have more or less reached the same conclusion.

The odd thing I have in the search learned things, about myself  :hidechair: - about other posters   :thumbsup:  & :popcorn: and about what was the former Soviet Union  :saint:>:(

One thing to consider is to search for a partner who was from "there" who is now here. What is odd there is in men (and women) a need to be a partner. Av
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Re: Abandoning my search.
« Reply #5 on: March 17, 2014, 07:12:35 PM »
I have to admit, being a glutton for punishment is part of an international dater's job description.
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Re: Abandoning my search.
« Reply #6 on: March 17, 2014, 07:15:52 PM »
I have to admit, being a glutton for punishment is part of an international dater's job description.

Unfortunately, not withstanding others postings this is true.
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Re: Abandoning my search.
« Reply #7 on: March 17, 2014, 08:11:56 PM »
As of this writing, I'm dropping the idea of marrying a woman from the FSU. I don't think I have the time, or patience for it to go through it again. I may be back someday, but as of this writing I doubt it.

I was married to a FSUW for 15 years for those of you who don't know my back story.

I don't know that I have the time, or the patience for it. What I mean by that, is right now I'm 47 years old and I have 2 boys aged 7 and 14. I make a decent wage, and have a month of vacation per year. Just too many blow ups so - to hell with it.

Best of luck to you all.

Best of luck to you as well!   :thumbsup:
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Re: Abandoning my search.
« Reply #8 on: March 17, 2014, 08:50:37 PM »
As of this writing, I'm dropping the idea of marrying a woman from the FSU. I don't think I have the time, or patience for it to go through it again. I may be back someday, but as of this writing I doubt it.

I was married to a FSUW for 15 years for those of you who don't know my back story.

I don't know that I have the time, or the patience for it. What I mean by that, is right now I'm 47 years old and I have 2 boys aged 7 and 14. I make a decent wage, and have a month of vacation per year. Just too many blow ups so - to hell with it.

Best of luck to you all.

I have to admit, dating in today's world  compared to say, 15-20 years ago will suck the life out of you. During my nearly ten-year span of seeking "vendela" I gave up a few times. As a matter of fact, I thought of just being single for the rest of my life. But I realized I needed  and wanted to be with one woman. So I dove back in the dating world but went global in my search - I got tired of AW!

I got lucky and found a wonderful lady. She's in a time zone 15 hours ahead and 8,000 miles away. I'm no longer 47 like you. Oh God, if I could turn the clock back to age 47. If I could, I would definitely have a child or two with my lady. I guess what I'm trying to say is you're young at 47, and time flies by, and you can't turn back the clock, and as you age you'll find that there will be less attractive women around your age, and women will find you less attractive. If you feel you want to find someone to spend the rest of your life with, then don't give up. Just keep trying. Good luck to you!

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Re: Abandoning my search.
« Reply #9 on: March 18, 2014, 01:47:05 AM »
....

 What is odd there is in men (and women) a need to be a partner. Av

A truism.

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Re: Abandoning my search.
« Reply #10 on: March 18, 2014, 04:57:33 AM »
It can all be very frustrating at times. Best of luck to you as well LM!
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Re: Abandoning my search.
« Reply #11 on: March 18, 2014, 06:12:27 AM »
As of this writing, I'm dropping the idea of marrying a woman from the FSU. I don't think I have the time, or patience for it to go through it again. I may be back someday, but as of this writing I doubt it.

I was married to a FSUW for 15 years for those of you who don't know my back story.

I don't know that I have the time, or the patience for it. What I mean by that, is right now I'm 47 years old and I have 2 boys aged 7 and 14. I make a decent wage, and have a month of vacation per year. Just too many blow ups so - to hell with it.

Best of luck to you all.
Luft,

I can't say I blame you for your decision to bail. The way things are nowadays, I don't know if I could handle all the ups and downs associated with the process, especially living in America given its distance. It certainly takes a hard-headed person, with a world of patience (not to mention time and money).

Nevertheless, it wouldn't surprise me if you got back in the hunt after some down time. Just always seems to be there, somewhere in the back of your mind.

I too, enjoyed our conversations in chat, and do wish you Godspeed.
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Re: Abandoning my search.
« Reply #12 on: March 18, 2014, 06:55:25 AM »
As of this writing, I'm dropping the idea of marrying a woman from the FSU. I don't think I have the time, or patience for it to go through it again. I may be back someday, but as of this writing I doubt it. 

Wish i would have been smart enough to figure out that plan of action 12 years ago . . . . . . . . . . . .
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Re: Abandoning my search.
« Reply #13 on: March 18, 2014, 07:20:33 AM »
  I'm not sure why this is in the train wreck section, as there was no disaster tale of woe. Anyway, I can understand your reasoning, this isn't an easy thing to pull off, and advancing age only makes it harder IMO. My lil Human Heatertm asked me just the other day if I would 'go back' if we split. I told her quite confidently, ''no.''  I was tired of the trips and hours put in to find someone to visit. The whole process of once you get a girl, is a never ending class in patience. I lack the patience.
 I'm a decade older now, and the things change. Just for a different slice of life, I would probably find me a sexy plumper who was built for comfort and not speed.

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Re: Abandoning my search.
« Reply #14 on: March 18, 2014, 08:21:41 AM »
Wish i would have been smart enough to figure out that plan of action 12 years ago . . . . . . . . . .

Predicting the future is a very imprecise science.
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