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Offline Ladine

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #45 on: October 15, 2013, 03:35:31 PM »
bluesman, stop trying to figure it all out. There is no point.

He just wants to know WHY?

I know, but he never will. That's why there is no point trying to do so.

Why Vinny? I am here..... I will try it  :)

 эээх ты Винни Пух. Пяточка тебе не хватает ))))
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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #46 on: October 15, 2013, 03:43:00 PM »
Bluesman  Do not worry. I think the child does not exist. Young girls often use this trick. that would get the opportunity to go to another country. The usual pragmatism. and any kind of love. we now have a pragmatic youth


This is not the case. She was coming but had to tell me prior to her exam. She thought about this for 2 months I assume and the damn thing is is that she is still willing to come. The more I try to figure it out the more confused I am. I feel that If she were truly pregnant and willing to come then her main interest would be to have the child here.I feel that this situation is honesty mixed with dishonesty to a degree that I cannot truly figure it out. BTW she is in her 30's so she is not a pragmatic youth.She changed in the last year. Quit driving lessons, quit her friends one by one and so on. Could IOM tell me if she was pregnant from the test?

Isn't pregnancy cause for an automatic denial of the K1 Visa?

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #47 on: October 15, 2013, 03:46:08 PM »
bluesman, stop trying to figure it all out. There is no point.

He just wants to know WHY?

I know, but he never will. That's why there is no point trying to do so.

Why Vinny? I am here..... I will try it  :)

 эээх ты Винни Пух. Пяточка тебе не хватает ))))

bluesman, stop trying to figure it all out. There is no point.

He just wants to know WHY?

I know, but he never will. That's why there is no point trying to do so.

Agreed, move on. Sounds like a lucky escape.
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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #48 on: October 15, 2013, 03:48:33 PM »
Bluesman  Do not worry. I think the child does not exist. Young girls often use this trick. that would get the opportunity to go to another country. The usual pragmatism. and any kind of love. we now have a pragmatic youth


This is not the case. She was coming but had to tell me prior to her exam. She thought about this for 2 months I assume and the damn thing is is that she is still willing to come. The more I try to figure it out the more confused I am. I feel that If she were truly pregnant and willing to come then her main interest would be to have the child here.I feel that this situation is honesty mixed with dishonesty to a degree that I cannot truly figure it out. BTW she is in her 30's so she is not a pragmatic youth.She changed in the last year. Quit driving lessons, quit her friends one by one and so on. Could IOM tell me if she was pregnant from the test?

Isn't pregnancy cause for an automatic denial of the K1 Visa?
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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #49 on: October 15, 2013, 04:22:49 PM »
Thanks for sharing your story.

You found out she's basically a flake now, before things progressed further to marriage.
The warning signs you say where there ( distancing herself from friends/family etc)

You seem to have moved on, and have a good attitude about it.
So just don't let it damage future relationships.

I wouldn't waste much time figuring anything out.
You are no longer  involved with her, and do not want to be, there's no real need to understand the why,unless you can grow or learn from it.

 Since it appears she simply makes choices that are in her best interest *at the moment*, with little regard to others (pretty common really) there doesn't seem to be much opportunity in there to learn much,  other than most dogs, are better than most people.

Sorry vinny.
 ;D
I'll refrain from posting a dog  photo for your sake though.
she had a hip with bad habits , and a shake that was a bit obscene

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #50 on: October 15, 2013, 05:22:18 PM »
" Most dogs are better than most people "

There's a reason why it's said that a dog is a mans best friend.

bluesman,

             Sorry to read what happened to you.

Don't try and figure out why she did what she did,it'll drive you nuts..seriously.

People are people..they do what they do,,you can never really know what someone else is thinking.


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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #51 on: October 15, 2013, 07:13:26 PM »
bluesman,

This question got lost in the shuffle:

how many of your three visits were spent in her hometown?
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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #52 on: October 15, 2013, 07:28:25 PM »
bluesman, stop trying to figure it all out. There is no point.

He just wants to know WHY?

A common mistake men make regarding relationships...why why why why...we drive ourselves crazy asking the question...we are logical..we need answers.  It is pointless and like Vinny pointed out ...there is actually no point in finding out.

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #53 on: October 15, 2013, 08:43:23 PM »
bluesman,

This question got lost in the shuffle:

how many of your three visits were spent in her hometown?

None, Thanks guys im feeling alot  better. We stayed at her apartment but not her hometown. I know thats a flag but we had good times originally. She just morphed into this more recently and im not sure if it was the mask coming off or if its the change or both. I appreciate the support from everyone and hope I can write about something happy one day here.

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #54 on: October 15, 2013, 09:02:07 PM »
bluesman,

This question got lost in the shuffle:

how many of your three visits were spent in her hometown?

None, Thanks guys im feeling alot  better. We stayed at her apartment but not her hometown. I know thats a flag but we had good times originally. She just morphed into this more recently and im not sure if it was the mask coming off or if its the change or both. I appreciate the support from everyone and hope I can write about something happy one day here.

You can.  There is a saying in the aviation community..."There is nothing more useless than the runway behind you"

Step 1 - Put her behind you.
Step 2 - Land on your feet..
Step 3 - Gas up and take off again...

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #55 on: October 15, 2013, 09:35:47 PM »
bluesman ,

take all the good advice mate and move on ,
as others above have said , ''there is no why ''

you might spend countless hours of your time , trying to nut out ''why ''she did this or that , complete waste of time  , the only one you can control and come to terms with is you ?

all you need to focus on is your own conduct & possibly what you learned from it about yourself , if your happy with all you did etc ,

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #56 on: October 16, 2013, 01:27:49 AM »
bluesman, stop trying to figure it all out. There is no point.

He just wants to know WHY?

A common mistake men make regarding relationships...why why why why...we drive ourselves crazy asking the question...we are logical..we need answers.  It is pointless and like Vinny pointed out ...there is actually no point in finding out.
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Absolutely, we try to understand rather than to focus on our daily life, we retire themselves from all to think, to rationalize about like searching a big secret, like if all our life depended of the answer ....  :'(

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #57 on: October 16, 2013, 08:22:18 AM »
But they don't usually use the trick claiming they are pregnant with another man's child.

maybe the guy was just blinded and did not want to understand that the girl is so telling him not? because we are not accustomed to be rude guests. how can you tell about it differently? She found a way out. said that the pregnant woman from the other in the hope that the guy will leave her first.

this trick also used for separation.

Interestingly, I met a Swiss chap who had his heart and part of his bank stolen by a Ukrainian lass. Her get out was that she'd met up with her ex and became pregnant....

Perhaps this is a method used by some women wanting to sever connections, knowing it cuts the guy deep?