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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #15 on: October 15, 2013, 02:16:34 AM »
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you are going to get married to a girl who just showed you few time before the big day that your value is really less than your competitor.
You reward her behavior by marrying with her. This one is especially a trouble with an FSU women. Because more than any AW a FSU women can only love a guy she respects (and we can say this is a universal law, but MORE with FSU ladies). You just showed weakness rather than to be tough.

I let you imagine the rest of adventure with such start.

Your short post is full of neediness :
She decides to go to work as an immigrant (you kid me, before emigrating in USA for something serious like a marriage she suddenly goes in Germany ?)
She was knocked up by her ex GF (are you sure that it is not the opposite ?)
She told me after 2 month along (so during two months you continue to be the puppy dog while she was  :censored: ed every night by .... man or men)
SHe does not love her ex and don't want be with him (your version)
this is the worst a woman has ever treated me (but you want her)
i know she is sorry (your version, when she decided to go to  this guy she was not sorry, sorry is guilt, guilt is something that women don't fear want they think about themselves in relationship, and when they feel guilt, or sorry, it just means that there is no love left and their interest is on an other man).
I cannot understand how some of these girls can be so heartless (so why get married with such girl ?)
I hate it for both of us (why do  you want to hate yourself ? The only one to hate and to fire is her)
THis woman was the one I wanted (but your are the one she don't really want, what is your value ?)
this will be her first child (you are dealing a market with her ?)
all trust is gone (i can believe you, and i would have gone also)
I wish I had someone to explain to me how some of these girls can be this way (yes i can explain you : you have not met enough girl and you are have "bob the nice guy" demeanor with them)

All rebound guys i have met in my life (myself included) had been almost for ever cleaned to the toilets, just a question of time (few months generally, one or two years perhaps).

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #16 on: October 15, 2013, 02:38:09 AM »
Well done for sharing this btw, not an easy thing to do but hopefully informative for others.

The boys called this one right I'm afraid.  Pull your socks up and move on, this girl ain't worth knowing whether there's a bun in the oven or not.

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #17 on: October 15, 2013, 02:51:31 AM »
Where she comes from abortion is contraception. That's why I asked if she was really pregnant.

I agree about dumping her but the game may not be what we think.

Why tell you that the baby is not yours when she did not need to say anything?
Just curious, that's me. Babies have been used to manipulate men since god was wearing short trousers and I am sure that at least one former poster has been a cuckoo, but why to tell you, and that it ain't yours. Are you SURE it ain't yours?
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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #18 on: October 15, 2013, 02:59:02 AM »
or maybe just tell the girl that the guy will do a DNA test? But this test will pay for the girl. Russian girls often can not afford to pay for such tests.  (:) answer game on game
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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #19 on: October 15, 2013, 03:53:12 AM »
Commiserations Bluesman, again I add, thank God you found out in time.


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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #20 on: October 15, 2013, 04:03:18 AM »
Where she comes from abortion is contraception. That's why I asked if she was really pregnant.

I agree about dumping her but the game may not be what we think.

Why tell you that the baby is not yours when she did not need to say anything?
Just curious, that's me. Babies have been used to manipulate men since god was wearing short trousers and I am sure that at least one former poster has been a cuckoo, but why to tell you, and that it ain't yours. Are you SURE it ain't yours?

I wouldn't want to waste anymore time trying to find out unless you enjoy the head  :censored:. Next.....

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #21 on: October 15, 2013, 04:53:11 AM »
Where she comes from abortion is contraception. That's why I asked if she was really pregnant.

I agree about dumping her but the game may not be what we think.

Why tell you that the baby is not yours when she did not need to say anything?
Just curious, that's me. Babies have been used to manipulate men since god was wearing short trousers and I am sure that at least one former poster has been a cuckoo, but why to tell you, and that it ain't yours. Are you SURE it ain't yours?

I wouldn't want to waste anymore time trying to find out unless you enjoy the head  :censored:. Next.....

Agree.  It is a moot point now.  She cheated with one or more guys and then when something that affected her decision process came up, she confessed.  Dump her and move on. She can never be trusted.
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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #22 on: October 15, 2013, 05:01:20 AM »
We learn by learning.

It is likely that the situation is not as the OP thinks it is given the stuff that he (and most readers here) probably does not know about prevalent attitudes toward contraception.

Asking a question or two might be enlightening, but as I noted above, I agree about dumping her. If I understand the timeline correctly, she still has plenty of time to get an abortion anyway, even if the foetus is his.
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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #23 on: October 15, 2013, 06:49:49 AM »
I've been using it for many years.

 only interested in my legs? next ...
 interested in my body? next ....
 interested in my personal property? next ....
 only interested in erotic webcam? next .....

  and so on ....  :chuckle:
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Никогда не оправдывайся, если ты невиновен. Если в вас бросают грязью, к вам может и не долететь. А руки того, кто это делает, останутся в грязи. Люблю вас всех.

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #24 on: October 15, 2013, 06:58:30 AM »
I've been using it for many years.

 only interested in my legs? next ...
 interested in my body? next ....
 interested in my personal property? next ....
 only interested in erotic webcam? next .....

  and so on ....  :chuckle:

I can understand your frustration. Some guys are in a similar boat, taking trips from the UK to Ukraine weekend after weekend trying to find the next Mrs Right and only finding Mrs Right-Now.
...everything ends always well; if it’s still bad, then it’s not the end!

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #25 on: October 15, 2013, 08:15:47 AM »
We learn by learning.

It is likely that the situation is not as the OP thinks it is given the stuff that he (and most readers here) probably does not know about prevalent attitudes toward contraception.

Asking a question or two might be enlightening, but as I noted above, I agree about dumping her. If I understand the timeline correctly, she still has plenty of time to get an abortion anyway, even if the foetus is his.

I think that the OP knows its not his and she's done the deed during his absence, but I may be wrong.

Also, depending on her age I'd assume that she knows all about the pill rather than the abortion route. It ain't the 1950's.

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #26 on: October 15, 2013, 11:17:49 AM »
I've been using it for many years.

 only interested in my legs? next ...
 interested in my body? next ....
 interested in my personal property? next ....
 only interested in erotic webcam? next .....

  and so on ....  :chuckle:

I can understand your frustration. Some guys are in a similar boat, taking trips from the UK to Ukraine weekend after weekend trying to find the next Mrs Right and only finding Mrs Right-Now.

 :-X
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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #27 on: October 15, 2013, 12:01:15 PM »
I've been using it for many years.

 only interested in my legs? next ...
 interested in my body? next ....
 interested in my personal property? next ....
 only interested in erotic webcam? next .....

  and so on ....  :chuckle:

I can understand your frustration. Some guys are in a similar boat, taking trips from the UK to Ukraine weekend after weekend trying to find the next Mrs Right and only finding Mrs Right-Now.

 :-X

 (:) :BLUSH:
smart will learn - a fool would teach.
Никогда не оправдывайся, если ты невиновен. Если в вас бросают грязью, к вам может и не долететь. А руки того, кто это делает, останутся в грязи. Люблю вас всех.

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #28 on: October 15, 2013, 12:51:18 PM »
Commiserations Bluesman, again I add, thank God you found out in time.

Exactly. 

Have you notified BCIS "IN WRITING" that you are withdrawing your K-1 petition?  If you don't do this, they will continue on with the approval and interview process and you could disccover some time next year that she's living in the USA banging some other dude.  Of course as her "sponsor" the government expects you to reimburse them for all the medical and low income benefits she is receiving.   
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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #29 on: October 15, 2013, 12:52:55 PM »
Commiserations Bluesman, again I add, thank God you found out in time.

Furthermore redroo - you have the most fantastic avatar I've ever seen.  If that is your typical Aussie lass, then we're looking in the wrong place   :nod:
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