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Offline bluesman

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My Trainwreck Story
« on: October 14, 2013, 05:17:37 PM »
Hello everyone, This is my experience. I had a lovely Moldovan girl i have traveled with and we decided on marrige and went through the K1 process. Well it takes 9 months for approval and just before we get approval for interview she decides to go work in Germany as an immigrant. Well the last 3 months she seemed different and sure enough it turns out she was knocked-up by her ex boyfriend while there. She finally told me after she was 2 months along. Now she is acting normal again and will to continue with the process if I desire. Guys, things really started well and were great and she will never understand how much I loved her. She does not love her ex and does not want to be with him but this is the worst a woman has ever treated me. She screwed me over right as the door opened. She was never a golddigger. Very independant,smart and well rounded but she gave up on me and burned me real good. I know she is sorry but I cannot understand how some of these girls can be so heartless. I hate it for the both of us. If there is anything I have learned its that it takes a long time to really know some of these girls. THis woman was the one I wanted and made me feel really good. but I cannot understand her train of thought and reasoning. We are the same age and this will be her first child. I was so close yet so far. I wish I could be with her but all trust is gone now.I wish I had someone to explain to me how some of these girls can be this way.

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #1 on: October 14, 2013, 05:27:04 PM »
It comes easily to sociopaths. Unfortunately, people with this affliction can be very superficially charming and can inspire love in others.
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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #2 on: October 14, 2013, 05:30:22 PM »
I'm sorry this happened to you. But, at least you found out before the visa was approved and she came to the US. Your problems would be magnified by a factor of 10. With time you will feel better and you have learned some things along the way. Good luck...


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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #3 on: October 14, 2013, 05:32:33 PM »
How many times did you meet? And for how long?
please tell me where I'm being / have been 'dishonest'? 
Yes, he said that.........

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #4 on: October 14, 2013, 05:37:07 PM »
It comes easily to sociopaths. Unfortunately, people with this affliction can be very superficially charming and can inspire love in others.

Very true.

Bluesman, I wouldn't call it a train wreck. Just think of it as dodging a bullet and learning a lesson.

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #5 on: October 14, 2013, 05:39:24 PM »
How many times did you meet? And for how long?

3 times for 2 weeks at a time.

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #6 on: October 14, 2013, 05:44:55 PM »
How many times did you meet? And for how long?

3 times for 2 weeks at a time.

It should have been enough but it's never enough, if you catch my drift.  Unless some remarkable event takes place (as it did), it takes years of living with someone before you really get to know them. I have to say, having a fiancee who gets knocked up by another man is quite a game-changer.

How many of those three visits were spent in her hometown?
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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #7 on: October 14, 2013, 05:49:52 PM »
Are you sure she's pregnant?

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #8 on: October 14, 2013, 06:00:05 PM »
Are you sure she's pregnant?



No, It would be even worse if she was not.

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #9 on: October 14, 2013, 06:01:58 PM »
Are you sure she's pregnant?



No, It would be even worse if she was not.

Actually, it would be just about the same. It's a good bet that she got hooked up with a German man, not her ex, while she was in Germany.
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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #10 on: October 14, 2013, 06:09:09 PM »
Both are possible, but her ex lives in Germany, I will never know for sure.

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #11 on: October 14, 2013, 06:13:22 PM »
OK. That clarifies things; she didn't go there primarily for work, it didn't pan out and you were her back-up plan.
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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #12 on: October 14, 2013, 06:13:52 PM »
Both are possible, but her ex lives in Germany, I will never know for sure.

Either way, its over and you are better off that it is. You dodged a bullet. Pick yourself up and try again.

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #13 on: October 14, 2013, 06:20:25 PM »
OK. That clarifies things; she didn't go there primarily for work, it didn't pan out and you were her back-up plan.

A plan to escape home i guess

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Re: My Trainwreck Story
« Reply #14 on: October 14, 2013, 08:04:16 PM »
Hello everyone, This is my experience. I had a lovely Moldovan girl i have traveled with and we decided on marrige and went through the K1 process. Well it takes 9 months for approval and just before we get approval for interview she decides to go work in Germany as an immigrant. Well the last 3 months she seemed different and sure enough it turns out she was knocked-up by her ex boyfriend while there. She finally told me after she was 2 months along. Now she is acting normal again and will to continue with the process if I desire. Guys, things really started well and were great and she will never understand how much I loved her. She does not love her ex and does not want to be with him but this is the worst a woman has ever treated me. She screwed me over right as the door opened. She was never a golddigger. Very independant,smart and well rounded but she gave up on me and burned me real good. I know she is sorry but I cannot understand how some of these girls can be so heartless. I hate it for the both of us. If there is anything I have learned its that it takes a long time to really know some of these girls. THis woman was the one I wanted and made me feel really good. but I cannot understand her train of thought and reasoning. We are the same age and this will be her first child. I was so close yet so far. I wish I could be with her but all trust is gone now.I wish I had someone to explain to me how some of these girls can be this way.

As previously mentioned, you ended up being a plan B unfortunately and she is in need of a Daddy for baby.  The trip to Germany was more than likely to try and patch things up with the ex.  Cut off all ties and move on and heal.  They are not all like that so keep the ole chin up and hang in there.  Continue your search when you are ready to do so.
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