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Offline Anteros

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Re: I met a professional scammer, but found love elsewhere.
« Reply #15 on: December 28, 2012, 08:50:00 PM »
Valeria is an Arab name? 
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Re: I met a professional scammer, but found love elsewhere.
« Reply #16 on: December 28, 2012, 10:51:49 PM »
Ant, my mistake. I thought I saw something else. My apologies.

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Re: I met a professional scammer, but found love elsewhere.
« Reply #17 on: December 28, 2012, 11:03:11 PM »
Ant, my mistake. I thought I saw something else. My apologies.

Perhaps it was the name of her ex husband, or the allegation that she has an Egyptian boyfriend, which Patagonie read?  (certainly no need to apologize, everyone knows I am very far from perfect... :chuckle:).
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Re: I met a professional scammer, but found love elsewhere.
« Reply #18 on: December 29, 2012, 02:19:34 AM »
Hagar the Viking
"I'm new here & to this, but thought i would tell you about my 1st little adventure to Ukraine. Not much of a story but if it helps just 1 of you it will be good.Early last year i started writing & chatting to a lady on dating site Russian Brides. Her user name was Arabica."

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Re: I met a professional scammer, but found love elsewhere.
« Reply #19 on: December 29, 2012, 04:40:30 AM »
The vast majority of the girls on HRB/RLM don't use their real name as their site name.

They use names like 'sexydancer' and 'wetlips' for example.

Even if you pay for an intimacy request for their contact details you often don't get their full real name,which means you can't do a google search on them.

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Re: I met a professional scammer, but found love elsewhere.
« Reply #20 on: December 29, 2012, 09:15:12 AM »
Hagar, I have never met her.  I found the RW under 28 years old not ready for marriage.  red flag to me is she has daughter but would not show you the daughter but would fly around the world. 

Glad you found someone new but I hope you have met her parents and other relatives a couple times already.  A legit RW will introduce you to the family.

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Re: I met a professional scammer, but found love elsewhere.
« Reply #21 on: December 29, 2012, 12:13:36 PM »
Kievstar..

Thanks for the message. Yes i have met my future wives family & a great number of her friends. I think your advice about age is good advice.
I would be interested to know if anybody else has had the misfortune of meeting her? If so let people know. Its the only way scammers can be stopped. From what the site told me & i have read about her since she has scammed many men.. Personally i wish i had known about RUA before i started my search.

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Re: I met a professional scammer, but found love elsewhere.
« Reply #22 on: December 29, 2012, 01:56:53 PM »
Kievstar..

Thanks for the message. Yes i have met my future wives family & a great number of her friends. I think your advice about age is good advice.
I would be interested to know if anybody else has had the misfortune of meeting her? If so let people know. Its the only way scammers can be stopped. From what the site told me & i have read about her since she has scammed many men.. Personally i wish i had known about RUA before i started my search.

It's an industry that will exist as long as there is a market for it. Regardless of whether they are escorts, pro-daters, cam girls, or flat out scammers the pay is good and the job market for normal careers is not. Also, even if women are fortunate enough to land a real job the pay is pitiful generally.

Personally, I'm on round 3. First girl I was interested in was a pro-dater. I got suckered out of a lot of money, but fortunately I didn't make the bigger mistake which would have been to let it happen again. Learn what the flags are. Others have mentioned that if the girl is really into you she'll be glad to let you meet her family and friends.

Another flag is that a pro-dater will not kiss you on the lips. She'll always turn the cheek. This is exactly the same as if someone hires an escort. The pro-dater is working just like the escort is.

I'm glad you met someone who may be genuine. I hope everything goes well for you.  tiphat

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Re: I met a professional scammer, but found love elsewhere.
« Reply #23 on: December 29, 2012, 03:47:06 PM »
Welcome to the forum, SpellBound.  Great observations, especially the one about kissing.  I've read other stories about guys who thought the woman was genuine, but even after spending gobs of cash had barely received a peck on the cheek.  There are some real dim bulbs who go on these adventures.

I have not seen your other posts--Where did you find your fiance?  Did you use an agency, or??
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Re: I met a professional scammer, but found love elsewhere.
« Reply #24 on: December 29, 2012, 04:02:23 PM »
Welcome to the forum, SpellBound.  Great observations, especially the one about kissing.  I've read other stories about guys who thought the woman was genuine, but even after spending gobs of cash had barely received a peck on the cheek.  There are some real dim bulbs who go on these adventures.

I have not seen your other posts--Where did you find your fiance?  Did you use an agency, or??

The only one I found through an agency was the pro-dater. I have since met a number of people in Ukraine, both guys and girls, and have connected with them through the social networks. Also, I've met many in person in Kyiv mainly.

My fiance is a friend of someone whom I got to know through Facebook initially. We just connected and from the start it was really easy to talk with her and we would chat for hours. I don't think it matters where the person is from. You will either connect or you won't.

I do actually respect the pro-daters. They're just trying to make ends meet, most of them - I think.

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Re: I met a professional scammer, but found love elsewhere.
« Reply #25 on: December 29, 2012, 04:05:47 PM »
Another flag is that a pro-dater will not kiss you on the lips. She'll always turn the cheek.

Your system is far from foolproof because some girls are slow to kiss because they are shy and some pros will kiss you anywhere that you want.

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Re: I met a professional scammer, but found love elsewhere.
« Reply #26 on: December 29, 2012, 04:11:47 PM »
Another flag is that a pro-dater will not kiss you on the lips. She'll always turn the cheek.

Your system is far from foolproof because some girls are slow to kiss because they are shy and some pros will kiss you anywhere that you want.

So will some escorts. It's not the norm though.

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Re: I met a professional scammer, but found love elsewhere.
« Reply #27 on: December 29, 2012, 04:12:36 PM »
The 26 year old pro-dater i met in Kiev never kissed me,and whenever we hugged she  always turned her cheek,so that was all i could kiss.

That was despite her constantly holding my hand in our just over two days together,and telling me,through her ever-present Interpreter,how i met her expectations,how comfortable she felt with me,and how she liked me. (:)

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Re: I met a professional scammer, but found love elsewhere.
« Reply #28 on: December 29, 2012, 04:16:04 PM »
It's not the norm though.

Marrying foreigners isn't the norm either.

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Re: I met a professional scammer, but found love elsewhere.
« Reply #29 on: December 29, 2012, 04:16:52 PM »
The 26 year old pro-dater i met in Kiev never kissed me,and whenever we hugged she  always turned her cheek,so that was all i could kiss.

That was despite her constantly holding my hand in our just over two days together,and telling me,through her ever-present Interpreter,how i met her expectations,how comfortable she felt with me,and how she liked me. (:)

This is what most will experience with pro-daters. As Tom pointed out, there may be some exceptions though.