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Re: Taking my UA girlfriend to Warszaw - an eyeopener and I need help!!
« Reply #25 on: November 12, 2011, 01:15:02 PM »
Hi Andreas. How old is this girl? 18?

IMHO, if you want to find a meaningful relationship, look for women who are a bit mature. I don't think this girl is into the kind of relationship you want. I believe she want to party and there's nothing wrong with that. It is just that you both are not in the same page.

FWIW

She is 22, but she never showed any interest in going to bars or night clubs while in Odessa nor in Warszaw. Neither do I, so that's good.

Also, she works insane hours, about 12 hours a day more or less every day.

She says she wants to get married, have kids and she goes on and on about this dog (siberian Husky) she wants us to get when (not if) we live together in Norway. She has promised to nag about it every day until she gets one.  :laugh:

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« Reply #26 on: November 12, 2011, 01:29:58 PM »
I've got to say, after reading this part, I'm agreeing with Andrew.
I'm not sure it matters too much if it's your behavior that may or may not have "contributed" to these responses, nor necessarily where this one is from - she's young, very self-centered, selfish and at least seemingly expecting to be spoiled.  The fact that she is 22 or so doesn't help this - maybe some things she'll grow out of, maybe not.  Some of those traits may be exaggerated or enlarged a bit coming from the FSU, but that doesn't change "what is."  Only you can decide if those things are transient, "for you" or not.  At your age also, with your only "love" experience being so far to your job and yourself, that also isn't too likely to help with most potential longer term pairings.  FWIW, some few of her reactions I wouldn't see as surprising (how many women want to see porn of their partner and someone else?), but others - in general, I wouldn't expect the number of areas to decrease with time, more likely to grow.

If after the dust settles, this pursuit is still something of interest to you, I'd suggest only 3 things.  This isn't meant to be harsh, just as advice I'd give to anyone, given then limited info that's been shared in what I remember of some of your prior posts, plus the pair of TRs.
1.  Take it slow.  You're close enough to make trips without too much time or $ difficulties.  It may also give you some time to think if you are READY for a long term commitment, and think about the realities of the differences there between casual dating and sex vs marriage, which from other posts, I'm not so sure that you really grasp/truly understand.  Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with casual dating when it's understood on both sides, but I'm not sure you have much of a compass/comparison where it comes to longer term relationships?
2.  Increase the age by a few years in general, look for someone ideally that has at least a few years on their own in the real world, or as close to possible.  This might be tough with you at 29, but I have seen a fair amount of difference between most going from 20-22 to 25-30 age ranges.  You mentioned her being mature, but be aware, that doesn't mean in all areas, and you don't want to fool yourself here of all places.
3.  Think about your lifestyle and time, and if/how it would fit in with someone from another country that would suddenly be living with you - in nearly all cases, this person would be needing a lot of support - emotional, time, lots of things that seem "silly" if compared to a local girl, but some things she simply won't understand without help, will get misunderstandings, and will need patience and time.  Chances are good such a person would of necessity need your help and might be seen as "clingy" for at least the first year, if not more, depending on the circumstances, and life would no longer be "all about you" if you want things to succeed.  Are you aware, and ready for that one?

Good luck, and thanks for sharing the story.

Thanks for the tough love, RG. :)

As the for porno - I told her I could delete it; and I simply forgot it was there. I have all sorts of crap on my mobile that has been there for ages.

And you're right that my experience with serious relationships is none. I always wanted a smoking hot, intelligent, kind girl who was compatible with me. When I was a 300lbs powerlifter this was unrealistic, so I simpy didnt' date. If I couldn't choose from the best of the best, then I didn't bother. I still feel this way, only now I get one night stands with plenty of girls (including an underwear model  :king:)

As for my life style I told her i work out six times a week usually, and that she would have to join me in the gym at least a couple of days a week unless she enjoys sitting at home. Often I'm not home from the gym until ten or eleven at night. Then I grab a quick bite, take a shower then head to bed.

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Re: Taking my UA girlfriend to Warszaw - an eyeopener and I need help!!
« Reply #27 on: November 12, 2011, 01:32:04 PM »

Vanessa looked at me with an angry look and said "I don't care about other people, I care about myself. Get it!?"


You want to live the rest of your life like that ? She may care about you ( not likely ) but family and friends will be nothing to her and you will be isolated from them.

She told you all you need to know. Up to you if you are happy with it or not.

Yeah....I know. But she was tired when she snapped and said it. The thing is that I did nothing to provoke her or anything. She just snapped because she was tired, and I can't tolerate her behaving like that every time she feels worn out.


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Re: Taking my UA girlfriend to Warszaw - an eyeopener and I need help!!
« Reply #28 on: November 12, 2011, 02:08:18 PM »
Fourth day
This was the day before our departure.
As the previous night had barely been spent sleeping, we didn't get up until very late. Then we started the day with our usual routine *wink, wink*.

We then went to the shopping center to pick out some presents for Vanessa's brother and mother. It took a long time, because her brother wanted a football scarf, and for some reason none of the shops seemed to sell one. We searched for hours.
Vanessa then sent a message to her brother asking if he wanted something else. The reply was "we want t-shirts". Vanessa got very irritated because "we" meant her brother and his girlfriend, but her brother's girlfriend never got her anything.

We also browsed some shoe stores, and Vanessa went back to the perfume store to yell some more at the girls working there.  (:)

We then went to get some ice cream. A fat girl in her early 20s or so was working the counter and her English was pretty good, so I ordered three scoops, so did Vanessa. The girl behind the counter got a little unsure when registering the purchase, so she asked "you want five scoops in total". Vanessa then gave her a nice red flag;

"SIX!! Three [pointing at me], three [pointing at herself] SIX!"
The girl got startled.

We bought some more groceries and went back to the apartment. I also believe we bought some *sigh* burgers from  Burger King. *I feel so dirty*
Vanessa had been going on and on about wanting food from Burger King all day long, I don't know why.

I also believe we at at a Japanese restaurant earlier that day, and she fed me sushi.  :sick0012:
I like meat.  :laugh:

In the apartment we sat and talked for a while. She told me (with a concerned look in her eyes) that she was a bit worried that I was "obsessed with sex". She was also "shocked" and "had never experienced anything like it".
She was sitting on the couch and I looked her in the eyes, pulled her head towards me and said "what do you mean honey...while pulling out my penis and slapping her in the face with it!  ;D
She laughed loudly and covered her face. I slapped her in the face with my penis again and again demanding an answer. She laughed more and more and told me I was "a crazy, crazy boy". My penis then got harder and harder and the slapping made Vanessa laugh louder and louder. Good times!!  :laugh:

She then sat on my lap, and then decided to give me a....

Yellow flag
This flag is yellow because I'm a nympho narcissist, but don't tell me you wouldn't get nervous if your girlfriend - out of nowhere told you "my previous boyfriend said I was fat - so I dumped him. I am NOT fat!"

I told her I agreed, she is not fat. "You have a little bit to grab here, here and here" I said squeezing her tiny love handles, her butt etc.  But you are a slim girl. She told me she wanted silicone, I told her that was fine with me, but that I didn't think she needed them.

Now - if Vanessa was asking for a carte blanche to put on weight, than this is a deal breaker. After the trip she also told me she wasn't sure if she wanted to go to the gym on a regular basis and stay fit either. When I asked her why, as she has been an active boxer for eight years, she just told me she wasn't sure she was motivated.

In my opinion you have two types of girls: those who work out on a regular basis and stay fit, and those who get fat. Guess which type I'm interested in dating.

I then started noticing that she had in fact putting on some weight after Odessa. Not much, but maybe a couple of pounds.
I also noticed that all the smoking seemed to make her teeth a bit brown. Not good.

Anyway, the penis slapping had gotten me in the mood, so I asked if she wanted to have a go at it. She was too tender, so she didn't want to. I think I asked for  BJ without getting any, and was left to take matters into my own hands. This made me cranky. :(

We then watched a movie and cuddled. I gave her a foot massage, but I wasn't very much into it. I was sleepy and tired, and we had to get up early the next day to catch our planes to get home.
I then told Vanessa I was tired and went to bed. In bed she asked me if anything was wrong, and I said I was tired. She asked "and now?" I replied "now I'll sleep - we have to get up in seven hours". We then went to sleep.

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Re: Taking my UA girlfriend to Warszaw - an eyeopener and I need help!!
« Reply #29 on: November 12, 2011, 02:10:51 PM »
Fifth day
The day of our departure we started the day with a little cuddling and some quick sex before eating and packing in a hurry.
In the taxi to the airport Vanessa wanted to talk about why I went to bed so early the previous day. I told her I was tired. She later talked to me about it on facebook, as she didn't buy it.

I then followed her to her terminal and we kissed a lot before she headed off.

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Re: Taking my UA girlfriend to Warszaw - an eyeopener and I need help!!
« Reply #30 on: November 12, 2011, 02:38:48 PM »
The aftermath

We stayed in touch afterwards, and she keeps telling me how much she loves me etc. Less than a week after Warszaw we had our first fight, though.

Here's what happened:

I had come home from the gym on a Saturday evening. Vanessa was in pain, and was in bed. Someone had slammed open a door and hit her spine with the doorknob. I comforted her as best I could through facebook and then suddenly she writes "why don't you offer to pay for my doctor? I'm sorry - but for me this is strange!"
To be honest the thought never crossed my mind. Here in Norway doctors are practically free (as the bolsheviks in government steals about 50% of everything I earn to pay for it and calls it "taxes").

I told her I couldn't transfer any money to her now anyway, as everything was closed for the weekend. I told her that if she opened up a paypal account I could transfer money more or less instantly through the web page.

She tried setting up an account, but then told me she got an error message. I then remembered that paypal deducts $1 from your bank account and leave a pin code attached to the transaction that you have to enter.
I told her to contact her bank on Monday and I would transfer money.

On Monday I sent her a text message telling her to let me know if her paypal account was operational. If not, I would swing by the nearest Western Union office and transfer. She told me she was in the hospital and told me to check my facebook inbox.
There she had written that it would take two weeks to get a new card and "Thank you, honey, I'll be treated without your money. Now I can not do everything to make you feel comfortable to help me"

I got pissed off and wrote her a text message saying we needed to talk about our relationship when she felt better.

Later that night she had taken painkillers and was feeling better, so I told her I was not a doormat and wanted respect as well as love.

She told me she was in a lot of pain and  "I thought that in such moment you will do everything to make it easier for me, and you will not find easy ways ... apparently I made a mistake ... I know that in the future, I'm sorry if I offended you".




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Re: Taking my UA girlfriend to Warszaw - an eyeopener and I need help!!
« Reply #31 on: November 12, 2011, 02:48:51 PM »
My reply went something like this:

"Look - I know you were hurting, but giving me sarcasm does not help.
Also I tried setting up a paypal account so I could transfer some money for medicine directly to your account, with no need for you to go to Western Union. All I get back is a middle finger because your bank needs two week for a new card. How is that MY fault?

I also found it disturbing that you seemed to care absolutely nothing when I told you a close friend of mine died. It was as if his life had no meaning.

You also scared the people working at the shopping center by yelling at them when they offered to help us.

I also can not remember you thanking me once for buying you a vacation, perfume, dinners etc. either. All I get is crap for not being able to transfer money at the middle of a Saturday night.

You can also be very loving, warm and wonderful. But which girl am I going to wake up with in five years if we get married? The loving one or the one who insults me and scream to people?"

She agreed she might have used a bad tone to the shop assistants. She wrote back that she "didn't know how to "draw" pity over the loss of a close person" (I don't understand this one).

The next day she took up the topic again and wrote (among other things) that she was "sorry in advance if she suddenly forgot to say thank you after a lunch". Now that's just sarcasm IMO.

She then felt it to be "humiliating" that I had "listed" the things I had done for her etc.

We went at it for two days. I wasn't very angry at this point, I basically just wanted to see if she was able to give an unconditional apology if she stepped out of bounds. IMO the verdict is no. She did apologize, but it was obvious that it wasn't sincere. She also re-started the quarrel the next day.

At this point I don't know if I should keep seeing her, or simply look for another girl. I hear Vilnius is a rockin' place, and the girls there don't even need a visa to get to Norway. You just buy them a plane ticket and two hours later they arrive at the airport.

....then other days I feel like I want to be with her. And right now she just sent me a message where she wrote that she loved me in capital letters. Is this just a culture clash and something to be expected, or am I getting involved with a girl that simply isn't right for me? Only I can decide, but your opinion might just help me make the right decision.

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Re: Taking my UA girlfriend to Warszaw - an eyeopener and I need help!!
« Reply #32 on: November 12, 2011, 03:05:04 PM »
Hi Andreas,
her not showing empathy and concern and respect to you when you found out about the death of your very close friend would also be a gigantic red flag for me.  I don't know what to say about this turn in events as I had pictured her differently while reading your Odessa trip report.  I do remember reading that she had been a boxer, and that her coach did not like her because she fought very dirty.  It could be there is some childhood trauma which happened to her that she is covering up by displaying a lack of tenderness and caring when confronted with such events that other people would normally have great empathy for -- especially the story about you finding out your close best friend had passed away.  So it may be the question is whether or not you want to try to help her to become a more caring person -- which may involve a lot of work and even therapy on her part which she would likely be resistant to.

Thanks for the feedback.

Yeah, when you add all the pieces together it doesn't necessarily paint a pretty picture. She told me she boxed because she was angry, she obviously has the potential for great anger, especially if she is sleepy or tired, and then there's the potential lack of empathy.
On the other hand I find it strange that she is so affectionate. She loves to cuddle, kiss, hold hands etc. Its a puzzle to me.

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Re: Taking my UA girlfriend to Warszaw - an eyeopener and I need help!!
« Reply #33 on: November 12, 2011, 03:39:56 PM »
Welcome to the female species!  I have been through almost the identical crap during the relationship with my fiance (Ukrainian).  There are not only large language differences and the way the languages are perceived at both ends, but the cultural differences are enormous.  If you think she is worth it, stick with it for a while longer.  In my opinion, the next one will probably be exactly like this one.  The most recent approach I have taken during disagreements and misinterpretations is to simply state how her comment makes you feel rather than responding in a negative fashion.

One big difference I have discovered between women from the FSU is that they never admit guilt!!  I think it is a cultural thing, so don't expect it is going to change.  It seems that is is built into the culture.  Some women in the west have the same problem so it is not unique:)  Instead of admitting they were wrong they usually respond with something favorable and off topic rather than agree that they were wrong.
Adjust to the culture and get used to it.
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Re: Taking my UA girlfriend to Warszaw - an eyeopener and I need help!!
« Reply #34 on: November 12, 2011, 03:45:31 PM »
Adjust to the culture and get used to it.

Sorry but that is the worst advice I have ever read here. Either you want to put up with bullshit or you don't. I wouldn't travel halfway around the world to find it.

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« Reply #35 on: November 12, 2011, 04:09:46 PM »
Just so you all know, it is impossible to get a Paypal account in Ukraine... just sayin'. Paypal just opened up to Russia within the past month but not Ukraine.

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Re: Taking my UA girlfriend to Warszaw - an eyeopener and I need help!!
« Reply #36 on: November 12, 2011, 04:47:21 PM »
I waited for a long till anybody'll write here that only completely idiot can post such intimate details on public forum... or may be I'm wrong and its ok for RUA?
Why nobody warns this guy what he could find his name in black list on antidate for example?
Hope his gf does not use inet too often...
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Re: Taking my UA girlfriend to Warszaw - an eyeopener and I need help!!
« Reply #37 on: November 12, 2011, 04:55:01 PM »
I waited for a long till anybody'll write here that only completely idiot can post such intimate details on public forum... or may be I'm wrong and its ok for RUA?
Why nobody warns this guy what he could find his name in black list on antidate for example?
Hope his gf does not use inet too often...

 :scared0005: In the west we are not supposed to judge the actions of others, no matter how despicable they are. It's ok to judge the actions of the FSUW we meet though ... I'm not sure how it works but those are the rules.

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« Reply #38 on: November 12, 2011, 05:00:45 PM »
I waited for a long till anybody'll write here that only completely idiot can post such intimate details on public forum... or may be I'm wrong and its ok for RUA?
Why nobody warns this guy what he could find his name in black list on antidate for example?
Hope his gf does not use inet too often...

For some men it is "macho" or... whatever... to post such details. I'm just hanging around to see how it all plays out. It's like watching auto racing (I'm thinking Talladega Superspeedway here) just waiting for that big wreck.

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« Reply #39 on: November 12, 2011, 05:01:31 PM »
I waited for a long till anybody'll write here that only completely idiot can post such intimate details on public forum... or may be I'm wrong and its ok for RUA?
Why nobody warns this guy what he could find his name in black list on antidate for example?
Hope his gf does not use inet too often...

 :scared0005: In the west we are not supposed to judge the actions of others, no matter how despicable they are. It's ok to judge the actions of the FSUW we meet though ... I'm not sure how it works but those are the rules.

You ain't right... "let's go down to the mall and judge people" :)

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Re: Taking my UA girlfriend to Warszaw - an eyeopener and I need help!!
« Reply #40 on: November 12, 2011, 05:04:26 PM »
I waited for a long till anybody'll write here that only completely idiot can post such intimate details on public forum... or may be I'm wrong and its ok for RUA?

I read the opening few lines and stopped when I realised the OP's tale had no relevance to my life. I'm surprised any other member who has matured to adulthood read any further.

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« Reply #41 on: November 12, 2011, 05:05:00 PM »
I waited for a long till anybody'll write here that only completely idiot can post such intimate details on public forum... or may be I'm wrong and its ok for RUA?
Why nobody warns this guy what he could find his name in black list on antidate for example?
Hope his gf does not use inet too often...

 :scared0005: In the west we are not supposed to judge the actions of others, no matter how despicable they are. It's ok to judge the actions of the FSUW we meet though ... I'm not sure how it works but those are the rules.



So I have to come to conclusion that its normal to discuss girls behaviour but not allowed to criticize idiots... Am I read the rules correctly?  :chuckle:
And if guy still needs help... my advice to train brains not body only
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« Reply #42 on: November 12, 2011, 05:14:13 PM »
I waited for a long till anybody'll write here that only completely idiot can post such intimate details on public forum... or may be I'm wrong and its ok for RUA?
Why nobody warns this guy what he could find his name in black list on antidate for example?
Hope his gf does not use inet too often...

I don't think I wrote anything too intimate. There were no details. Its also important for me to get good advice, and if I tip-toe around an important subject like sex, then people are going to miss a part of the picture.

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« Reply #43 on: November 12, 2011, 05:20:36 PM »
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So I have to come to conclusion that its normal to discuss girls behaviour but not allowed to criticize idiots... Am I read the rules correctly?  :chuckle:
And if guy still needs help... my advice to train brains not body only

You can give me as much (constructive) criticism you want, no problem.
As for my head, I have a six year education from the university, but I'm still a dick it seems. Go figure. :)

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« Reply #44 on: November 12, 2011, 05:24:56 PM »
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So I have to come to conclusion that its normal to discuss girls behaviour but not allowed to criticize idiots... Am I read the rules correctly?  :chuckle:
And if guy still needs help... my advice to train brains not body only

You can give me as much (constructive) criticism you want, no problem.
As for my head, I have a six year education from the university, but I'm still a dick it seems. Go figure. :)
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« Reply #45 on: November 12, 2011, 05:27:01 PM »
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So I have to come to conclusion that its normal to discuss girls behaviour but not allowed to criticize idiots... Am I read the rules correctly?  :chuckle:
And if guy still needs help... my advice to train brains not body only

You can give me as much (constructive) criticism you want, no problem.
As for my head, I have a six year education from the university, but I'm still a dick it seems. Go figure. :)
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are u sure it was not kindergargen?  :Stickouttongue3:
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« Reply #46 on: November 12, 2011, 06:13:00 PM »
I'm probably a bit of a nympho...

Strictly speaking, you would be a bit of a "satyr", as you are male.

She was sitting on the couch and I looked her in the eyes, pulled her head towards me and said "what do you mean honey...while pulling out my penis and slapping her in the face with it!  ;D
She laughed loudly and covered her face. I slapped her in the face with my penis again and again demanding an answer. She laughed more and more and told me I was "a crazy, crazy boy". My penis then got harder and harder and the slapping made Vanessa laugh louder and louder. Good times!!  :laugh:

. . . . . .

Anyway, the penis slapping had gotten me in the mood, so I asked if she wanted to have a go at it. She was too tender, so she didn't want to. I think I asked for  BJ without getting any, and was left to take matters into my own hands. This made me cranky. :(

I haven't decided if this is incredibly juvenile or totally awesome.  Probably the former (and, really, I can't imagine that any woman would dig a guy telling this tale on the 'web: "Ja, und zen I took out my eNORMus KACK!...it is so big that I always have to put an exclamation point after it when I write about it...and I began beating her over the head with this huge monster KACK! that I have ...soon it was so hard that I could pound nails with it, but she nevah understood that I wanted a bee-j, b/c why else would I have my enormous man-hammer! out?  So I grabbed her by the ears and forced her to eat my entire MEAT! like she was swallowing a gigantic sword and then my cocoanut sized balls! filled her belly with 3 litres of jizz.  Then we cuddled for a bit until my ADD too over and I watch TV for a while.")

 :party0031:

She then felt it to be "humiliating" that I had "listed" the things I had done for her etc.

I think I'm with your sociopath nutter g/f on this one....

At this point I don't know if I should keep seeing her, or simply look for another girl.

One of you should dump the other one, pronto.  You are quite simply thinking with your eNORMous KACK!  which is a problem.

I hear Vilnius is a rockin' place, and the girls there don't even need a visa to get to Norway. You just buy them a plane ticket and two hours later they arrive at the airport.

Do ordinary outcall rates apply?

....then other days I feel like I want to be with her. And right now she just sent me a message where she wrote that she loved me in capital letters.

Okay, dewd, that cancels out everything.  Capital letters you say?  That's ho you know it's REAL, instead of just 'real'.  :chuckle:

Is this just a culture clash and something to be expected, or am I getting involved with a girl that simply isn't right for me?

It's that 2nd one.

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Re: Taking my UA girlfriend to Warszaw - an eyeopener and I need help!!
« Reply #47 on: November 12, 2011, 06:28:55 PM »
Yeah, when you add all the pieces together it doesn't necessarily paint a pretty picture. She told me she boxed because she was angry...

She's angry, you say?  I sort of wonder who she knocked the crap out of first, the girls at Odessa perfume counters or those at the ice cream shops....

she obviously has the potential for great anger, especially if she is sleepy or tired, and then there's the potential lack of empathy.
On the other hand I find it strange that she is so affectionate. She loves to cuddle, kiss, hold hands etc. Its a puzzle to me.

I think you should treat this one as a learning experience and move on.  I understand from your posts that you don't have a lot of experience with with women (in terms of relationships) but every older guy here will tell you about a girl that had once upon a time where the sex was INSANE!!!*, however, the girl they were having the insane sex with was also, you guessed it, INSANE!

No mattter how much you want it to work out, b/c the sex is hot and you want to keep sticking your KACK! in her, because you KACK! likes to be in her, what you will discover is that she is broken and you shouldn't try and fix broken girls.

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news,

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*"Ja, insane like you could take out your eNORMous KACK! and then slap the girl in the face with it, SLAP! SLAP! SLAP! SLAP!, whipping it back and forth, until it got really hard, like KRUPSTAHL and then the girl would stop giggling and get that 'glint in her eye that only meant one thing--that she wanted you to put your eNORMous KACK! in her, again and again, until you were both black and blue, and call her a dirty slut! and then she would sigh, contentedly, and be happy for a while, and then the next day she would accuse you of making her feel like a dirty slut and start crying, but then she would cook you breakfast, und after breakfast, you would whip her face with your eNORMous KACK! again, and say something funny like 'There wasn't any sausage with breakfast, so I will give you some now, except my eNOMRmous KACK! is really more like salami, which isn't really for breakfast, but I will give it to you anyway you dirty slut!"



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Re: Taking my UA girlfriend to Warszaw - an eyeopener and I need help!!
« Reply #48 on: November 12, 2011, 06:32:55 PM »
Either you want to put up with bullshit or you don't. I wouldn't travel halfway around the world to find it.

This may be be the BEST advice I've ever read here.  :bow:

Women will test a man, early on, to see how much of her crap he is willing to put up with, the answer to which should be "zero".

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Re: Taking my UA girlfriend to Warszaw - an eyeopener and I need help!!
« Reply #49 on: November 12, 2011, 06:41:43 PM »
I don't think I wrote anything too intimate. There were no details. Its also important for me to get good advice, and if I tip-toe around an important subject like sex, then people are going to miss a part of the picture.

Generally speaking, women do not want certain parts of the story to make it into the trip report.  For example, the parts about slapping her in the face with your penis.  If you like you can post to the "Ask a Russian Woman" forum and see if I am correct or not.

Andreas, despite my jibing at your expense, I have to say that you seen to be a generally good sort, and probably mean well, and I would enjoy having a drink with you*, but you're going about this like you are a 16 y.o. boy. 


Why nobody warns this guy what he could find his name in black list on antidate for example?

Do you know how to go about getting blacklisted on Antidate?  Because I would wear that like a badge of honor.  Can I just ask them to do it, or do I have to have sex with one of the AD girls and then not call her ever again?  I think I'd be willing to do that former, but not the latter.

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*Or more correctly, I would have a drink and you would have a Reindeer meat smoothie, while asking me which of the local HS girls that sauntered past would be most willing to let you grab them by the ears and make them choke on your eNORMous KACK!.  :chuckle:

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