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Re: Not all endings are happy
« Reply #25 on: November 04, 2011, 12:07:53 AM »
I forwarded the quote about his possible interest in her medical degree/future earnings to Bob and here was his reply which I will just paste.
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Thanks Doug,
 
I'm going to mention this to him. You would have thought the judge would have ruled on that during the final settlement. But he did say they totally skipped out and he has no idea where they are now. And her son left him saddled with two student loans that he co-signed for and will be making payments on for years.
 
Not long after they had been married she wanted her mother over here so he paid for that whole process too!
 
I never seen a guy so depressed in all my life. But it's been about a year now so he's getting along better and wants to come to Ukraine to hang out with me in a couple of months when he is free.
 
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Re: Not all endings are happy
« Reply #26 on: November 04, 2011, 12:12:13 AM »
My own editorial comment.....
I hope he has learned his lesson about pre-nups :)
Can you believe he is back in Ukraine for more of the same?
I hope he finds an honest one this time:)
My friend Bob is very wealthy and does not seem to want to get married.  To each his own!
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Re: Not all endings are happy
« Reply #27 on: November 04, 2011, 02:39:41 AM »
The sad fact is that many WM marry FSU women who they really don't understand and don't know much about. There are many women here (I'm in Kiev now) of questionable character and values. Heck, just the amount of prostitutes in normal (not sex oriented) dance night clubs is ridiculous. I've never seen such concentration of them anywhere else in the FSU.
When you are not a native speaker you will most likely miss many important clues about a woman. Think about it - if you are American and meet an American woman in any kind of setting. 5 minutes chatting with her and you can usually tell if there is something "off" with her. If she has "street" slang and tendencies, or some kind of "roughness" about her, etc you will spot that. Same thing with me, when I talk to an FSU woman I can have a basic idea about her level of education, what kind of upbringing she had and what sort of life she leads. Not being a native Russian speaker doesn't allow you to make some very important determinations which can later result in tragedy such as this one.

Just remember: when a beautiful woman tells you everything you want to hear, pushes all the right buttons and acts like a little angel by day then like a devil in bed at night, it does not make her an honest woman! Women are way smarter than us, men (especially inexperienced men) when it comes to these games. They can be totally heartless and calculating users though, and men who are looking for FSU women should be aware of that. If you don't believe me, ask any FSU woman. They will be the first ones to tell you that there are many dangerous, ruthless women in the FSU particularly in places where people are economically and politically deprived.


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Re: Not all endings are happy
« Reply #28 on: November 04, 2011, 04:28:56 AM »
The sad fact is that many WM marry FSU women who they really don't understand and don't know much about. There are many women here (I'm in Kiev now) of questionable character and values. Heck, just the amount of prostitutes in normal (not sex oriented) dance night clubs is ridiculous. I've never seen such concentration of them anywhere else in the FSU.
When you are not a native speaker you will most likely miss many important clues about a woman
. Think about it - if you are American and meet an American woman in any kind of setting. 5 minutes chatting with her and you can usually tell if there is something "off" with her. If she has "street" slang and tendencies, or some kind of "roughness" about her, etc you will spot that. Same thing with me, when I talk to an FSU woman I can have a basic idea about her level of education, what kind of upbringing she had and what sort of life she leads. Not being a native Russian speaker doesn't allow you to make some very important determinations which can later result in tragedy such as this one.

Just remember: when a beautiful woman tells you everything you want to hear, pushes all the right buttons and acts like a little angel by day then like a devil in bed at night, it does not make her an honest woman! Women are way smarter than us, men (especially inexperienced men) when it comes to these games. They can be totally heartless and calculating users though, and men who are looking for FSU women should be aware of that. If you don't believe me, ask any FSU woman. They will be the first ones to tell you that there are many dangerous, ruthless women in the FSU particularly in places where people are economically and politically deprived.

Hi Ed, i agree with pretty much everything you've said there.  I've only ever passed through Kiev, and in general i don't think i'm in a position to pass comment on Ukraine as i've never lived there.  But i know the city where i live in Russia VERY well, and i can tell you it's absolutely no different at all to Kiev in your description.  the place is overrun with 'prostitues/pro daters/sponsor seekers' call them what you like, they're all undesirable for a guy looking a wife with nice 'family values'.  Any RM/RW would tell you that you never look for a girl in a nightclub [at least not for a serious relationship].  Absolutely the worst possible place without question.  But if a guy is over 40 anyway, why would he be in or be led to a nightclub?  It makes me absolutely cringe watching those WM on tours, the few videos i've seen, incredibly false  :'(

Speaking of prostitues/ pro daters in nightclubs.  I have an aquaintance who was socialising with the owners of a top nightclub here, and according to the owner as many as 80% of the girls who go there are Pros in all the meanings of that word.  Some incredibly beautiful girls there, but there you go, the truth coming from the owner of the whole place.  These girls aren't looking for a rich foreigner to come along because they don't need to, there are lots of rich local guys, and these guys are quite happy to spoil them with money.  More  money than 90% of WM coming to FSU countries will ever have for sure.  I suppose you could say these girls are making hay while they can, after all they've got a limited shelf life.  But their lifestyle creates hard edged and in many cases quite ruthless women.  This is what your dealing with, and it's by no means a small number trust me.

I remember my best friend from here warning me about the local girls [here was a local guy who'd been betrayed by his wife while doing military service]  and of course in my first year here i was thinking with my eyes rather than my brain.  But it was a great learning experience.  I can usually spot the merkantil'nie girls just by how they carry themselves and their eyes.  The eyes never lie.  What you said about women being smarter than men in these matters is especially true of the girls here.  They're use to dealing with local guys who play the game way better than a WM can and tbph, WM are seen as easy prey by these girls when and if they appear.  They  don't actively seek them out on agency sites one big difference, but they're just as ruthless. 

I've seen this so many times over the years with new guys just arrived.  I tell them how it is but they either don't listen or don't believe me.  damn i even got a message yesterday from a new guy complaining about a girl who was dropped because he wasn't supporting her and she works in a bank and drives a car  :chuckle:  They met on Mamba before he got here.  he came here to 'learn Russian' without learning the most important rule first  :laugh: :reading:

Just in case anyone reading this thinks i have something against the local girls, i absolutely don't.  I have a few who are friends, and as Ed says they would tell you exactly the same about these girls.  For many of them it is enough просто жить в золотой клетке.

Ed i like your posts, they have a warmness and honesty to them and lack the ego of many posters here.  I don't know you at all and have never used your services and never will to be honest.  However, for anybody there who doesn't know the language or culture and wants to visit, if you've got the money i'd recommned this approach, as you'd be saving yourself a hell of a lot of hassle


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Re: Not all endings are happy
« Reply #29 on: November 04, 2011, 07:58:43 AM »

They can be totally heartless and calculating users though, and men who are looking for FSU women should be aware of that. If you don't believe me, ask any FSU woman. They will be the first ones to tell you that there are many dangerous, ruthless women in the FSU particularly in places where people are economically and politically deprived

Ed, this is so true. My wife said that most Western men are sheep being led to the slaughter.. :laugh:

I had been married for 21 years and was happy for most of it. So going into this I knew what a "normal" happy relationship was supposed to be like. I wonder if a lot of guys who end up in disasters like the one descriced are missing the same kind of life experience.


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Re: Not all endings are happy
« Reply #30 on: November 04, 2011, 08:08:24 AM »
My own editorial comment.....
I hope he has learned his lesson about pre-nups :)
Can you believe he is back in Ukraine for more of the same?
I hope he finds an honest one this time:)
My friend Bob is very wealthy and does not seem to want to get married.  To each his own!

Doug, not trying to flame here, just scratching my head.

What would a prenup accomplish in this specific situation?

Did she take money and property from him during the divorce?

How can a prenup protect your friend once he paid for medical school?

Between you and me, I'd go after her earnings once she starts working as a doctor. As far as I'm concern, he is entitled to half of her earnings.

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Re: Not all endings are happy
« Reply #31 on: November 04, 2011, 08:14:11 AM »
The sad fact is that many WM marry FSU women who they really don't understand and don't know much about. There are many women here (I'm in Kiev now) of questionable character and values. Heck, just the amount of prostitutes in normal (not sex oriented) dance night clubs is ridiculous. I've never seen such concentration of them anywhere else in the FSU.


I guess there is no prostitution in Russia at all. With a population 3 times higher than Ukraine and there are more prostitutes in UA just shows you the amazingly virtuous and chaste character of the women in Russia.

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Re: Not all endings are happy
« Reply #32 on: November 04, 2011, 08:15:58 AM »
Just remember: when a beautiful woman tells you everything you want to hear, pushes all the right buttons and acts like a little angel by day then like a devil in bed at night, it does not make her an honest woman!


Ahem, one more.

Are you accusing my wife of being dishonest with me?

Seriously.  >:(

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Re: Not all endings are happy
« Reply #33 on: November 04, 2011, 08:20:16 AM »
I read that a bit differently, Muzh.  It wasn't that all women are dishonest, just that just because she knows how to manipulate you (a general "you"), it doesn't mean she is honest.

I concur with Ed on being able to tell a lot with fluency, particularly education levels. 
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Re: Not all endings are happy
« Reply #34 on: November 04, 2011, 08:25:41 AM »
I read that a bit differently, Muzh.  It wasn't that all women are dishonest, just that just because she knows how to manipulate you (a general "you"), it doesn't mean she is honest.

I concur with Ed on being able to tell a lot with fluency, particularly education levels.

I guess there are ways of saying things. Specially after the largest concentration of prostitutes in the former Soyuz can be found in Kiev. Virtually any girl going out at night is one. On top of that, she is nice with the general you during the day and god forbid you go out at night with her and have a good time. You'll need a ton of cash to pay for her services.

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Re: Not all endings are happy
« Reply #35 on: November 04, 2011, 08:40:43 AM »
I read that a bit differently, Muzh.  It wasn't that all women are dishonest, just that just because she knows how to manipulate you (a general "you"), it doesn't mean she is honest.

I concur with Ed on being able to tell a lot with fluency, particularly education levels.

If I were starting over again I would not even consider a woman from the FSU who didn't have a University degree. Based on my experience it cuts out on a lot of the materialistic nonsense. I could see a big difference in the women I dated there based on level of education...

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Re: Not all endings are happy
« Reply #36 on: November 04, 2011, 08:51:16 AM »
My experience was different.  Education is overinflated there, vs a vs the West, at least, in comparison to where I live.

Going back to the guy's divorce settlement, it sounded as if this was closed, unless he can appeal.  I'd suggest, if he is within the statute of limitations, that he sue her for fraud - recoup the cost of her education and the son's student loans, at least.  Hire a PI to find her and serve her.

In any event, one can see the same dynamic in Western marriages. 
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Re: Not all endings are happy
« Reply #37 on: November 04, 2011, 09:00:23 AM »
Just in case anyone reading this thinks i have something against the local girls, i absolutely don't.  I have a few who are friends, and as Ed says they would tell you exactly the same about these girls.  For many of them it is enough просто жить в золотой клетке.

Ed i like your posts, they have a warmness and honesty to them and lack the ego of many posters here.  I don't know you at all and have never used your services and never will to be honest.  However, for anybody there who doesn't know the language or culture and wants to visit, if you've got the money i'd recommned this approach, as you'd be saving yourself a hell of a lot of hassle
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I wish more men would understand the reality they are dealing with when looking for an FSU wife. Off course there are many great, honest women in the FSU who have excellent values but you need to be a fluent Russian speaker to separate good from bad in most cases, otherwise it really becomes just a gamble (Muzh, I hope this clarifies matters for you?). Even talking with them on the phone or Skype isn't always enough to be able to tell. Sure, with some women I can tell that they are "bad news" in a matter of just chatting on the phone with them for a few minutes, they can be pretty obvious sometimes. But there are plenty of FSU women who are not so easy to figure out, and It usually takes 2-3 or more days of face to face time with them to truly start understanding what's going on in her head and in her heart.

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Re: Not all endings are happy
« Reply #38 on: November 04, 2011, 09:17:31 AM »
I think this is true all over the world.
 I spent 30 days with my ex swissmiss, another 30 here in US again, and it was great.
 but 60 days in CH, showed me this would not work out well for both of us.
 And I may add in retrospect, how many of the warning signs I missed, my bad.
 Todate only one girl out of Ukraine has been open and honest with me, showing 100% of who she really is right from the start, we are only penpals, and no intent of more.
 Have a friend here, that just went through the same with AW, we all warned him from the start, but hey sometimes that little head rules our world, no excuse, just fact.
 Then there is a old bud, that married a English girl, only to learn that she was a very high priced call girl. this did not end well for both of them.
 Any marrage is a degree of risk, I was married 14 years to AW, and we crashed, as we grew older, with just the life changes, it was amicable, and still remain friends.
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« Reply #39 on: November 04, 2011, 10:19:37 AM »
My experience was different.  Education is overinflated there, vs a vs the West, at least, in comparison to where I live.

Going back to the guy's divorce settlement, it sounded as if this was closed, unless he can appeal.  I'd suggest, if he is within the statute of limitations, that he sue her for fraud - recoup the cost of her education and the son's student loans, at least.  Hire a PI to find her and serve her.

In any event, one can see the same dynamic in Western marriages.

It's probably not worth throwing good money after bad trying to recover the loans/investment. Marriage fraud between parties is difficult to prove (Canada or US) -not to be confused with 'sham marriage'- especially since it seems they cohabitated for a number of years.

He cosigned the loan, if the son defaulted buddy's on the hook, period. The son being a student probably has no assets of his own to recoup and trying to recover the son's bad dept from the mother, especially if he was of the age of majority when the loan was granted, wouldn't fly. However, what buddy should be doing is making sure that the son's credit rating is reflecting default on the loan (borrower has defaulted, lender has had to seek repayment from cosigner) and isn't showing him (the son) as repaying the loan.

I would think that a court would already have considered the former husband's financial interest in this (education) if a final decree has been issued. Hopefully, if properly represented, his lawyer already explored/pursued this avenue during the divorce proceedings, no?

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« Reply #40 on: November 04, 2011, 10:30:24 AM »
Your friend should take her to court and demand alimony based on her income as a doctor. I promise you the court will be extremely sympathetic to him.

I don't know anything about Colorado law, but I can tell you that, in NY, he'd have a property interest in her medical degree.

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If he wishes to recoup monies this should be an angle which his Attorney should pursue.  I would personally not spend to much effort in these directions.  If there could be a quick settlement to assuage his pocket book for her behaviors and fraud okay.  Anything more and he is wasting very precious energy which he should be focusing towards improving himself and improving his odds of finding a better and more suitable partner.
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« Reply #41 on: November 04, 2011, 10:39:23 AM »
The sad fact is that many WM marry FSU women who they really don't understand and don't know much about. There are many women here (I'm in Kiev now) of questionable character and values. Heck, just the amount of prostitutes in normal (not sex oriented) dance night clubs is ridiculous. I've never seen such concentration of them anywhere else in the FSU.
When you are not a native speaker you will most likely miss many important clues about a woman. Think about it - if you are American and meet an American woman in any kind of setting. 5 minutes chatting with her and you can usually tell if there is something "off" with her. If she has "street" slang and tendencies, or some kind of "roughness" about her, etc you will spot that. Same thing with me, when I talk to an FSU woman I can have a basic idea about her level of education, what kind of upbringing she had and what sort of life she leads. Not being a native Russian speaker doesn't allow you to make some very important determinations which can later result in tragedy such as this one.

Just remember: when a beautiful woman tells you everything you want to hear, pushes all the right buttons and acts like a little angel by day then like a devil in bed at night, it does not make her an honest woman! Women are way smarter than us, men (especially inexperienced men) when it comes to these games. They can be totally heartless and calculating users though, and men who are looking for FSU women should be aware of that. If you don't believe me, ask any FSU woman. They will be the first ones to tell you that there are many dangerous, ruthless women in the FSU particularly in places where people are economically and politically deprived.

Somebody needs 5 minutes to assess a woman??  It can be done in five seconds or less.  Then again, the true Grifters are masters of their craft.  It takes much longer to ascertain them.  Yet the signals and red signs are there.  Who are her friends and family?  Have you performed you due diligence?  Only fools love with only their hearts and their emotions.  Clever men know that marriage is not even remotely only about "good" feelings.  It is really about true and loyal friendship.  Many men only find this kind of loyalty under the duress of mountain climbing with guides and partners, or other such endeavors.  Go camping with a woman for 5 days without a cell phone and without normal comforts of Civilization.  If she can't hack that, she is simply no where near marriage material.
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Re: Not all endings are happy
« Reply #42 on: November 04, 2011, 11:01:34 AM »
Muzh_1,
I don't know the answers to your quesitons.  The pre-nup issue depends on the state and I am not familiar with Colorado law.

Since the divorce trial/settlement was a year ago, I doubt he has any intention to pursue this further.
According to my friend he was terribly depressed so he may not have been in the mood to have been in attack mode during the proceedings, who knows.  I can relate to the severe depression as I experienced it in my first and only nasty divorce.  In my case it was not only the financial loss (500K), but fighting for joint custody of my only child.  It can really mess up your head when you are in this state.  It is like the world is closing in on you and you can't see any light at the end of the tunnel or have any options.  The corrupt judges and less than competent attorneys do not help the situation either.

The only reason I made the post and shared the info was because of those that argue that you should not get a pre-nup because you are in love, etc. etc.  Whether it would have helped in this case is unknown and he apparently wants to forget about the ordeal and move on.  I can relate to that feeling as well.

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« Reply #43 on: November 04, 2011, 12:39:37 PM »
Just remember: when a beautiful woman tells you everything you want to hear, pushes all the right buttons and acts like a little angel by day then like a devil in bed at night, it does not make her an honest woman! Women are way smarter than us, men (especially inexperienced men) when it comes to these games. They can be totally heartless and calculating users though, and men who are looking for FSU women should be aware of that. If you don't believe me, ask any FSU woman. They will be the first ones to tell you that there are many dangerous, ruthless women in the FSU particularly in places where people are economically and politically deprived.

The cynic in me agrees with this.  :chuckle:  Happily, other women can spot this stuff a mile away also, so before I get hitched (if/when) I will have no problem having the future missus vetted by some female friends of mine--including a couple of native speakers....one of whom told me, point blank, "Listen, I don't care what you think you want, I am *NOT* going to let you marry some b*tch!"  So I have that and "total enlightenment on my deathbed" going for me.  :chuckle:

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« Reply #44 on: November 04, 2011, 12:43:55 PM »
You would have thought the judge would have ruled on that during the final settlement. But he did say they totally skipped out and he has no idea where they are now. And her son left him saddled with two student loans that he co-signed for and will be making payments on for years.

Hmm.  That's weird.  Maybe it's a Colorado thing.  Anyway, if she's working as a doctor, it won't be difficult to find her, and he probably has her SSN anyway.  Should take a decent PI about 10 minutes.

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« Reply #45 on: November 04, 2011, 12:58:21 PM »

"Listen, I don't care what you think you want, I am *NOT* going to let you marry some b*tch!"  So I have that and "total enlightenment on my deathbed" going for me.  :chuckle:

That's a good girl.  I've seen this here quite a few times.  They get very protective if they think another woman is messing around with a friend.    :laugh:



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« Reply #46 on: November 04, 2011, 01:01:38 PM »
The cynic in me agrees with this.  :chuckle:  Happily, other women can spot this stuff a mile away also, so before I get hitched (if/when) I will have no problem having the future missus vetted by some female friends of mine--including a couple of native speakers....one of whom told me, point blank, "Listen, I don't care what you think you want, I am *NOT* going to let you marry some b*tch!"  So I have that and "total enlightenment on my deathbed" going for me.  :chuckle:

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Re: Not all endings are happy
« Reply #47 on: November 04, 2011, 02:08:56 PM »
The sad fact is that many WM marry FSU women who they really don't understand and don't know much about. There are many women here (I'm in Kiev now) of questionable character and values. Heck, just the amount of prostitutes in normal (not sex oriented) dance night clubs is ridiculous. I've never seen such concentration of them anywhere else in the FSU.


I guess there is no prostitution in Russia at all. With a population 3 times higher than Ukraine and there are more prostitutes in UA just shows you the amazingly virtuous and chaste character of the women in Russia.

Right?
Muzh, I don't understand why you take my observations so personally. Boris here is also married to a UW but somehow he understands what I'm saying and agrees. Dugger2 and his lady really enjoy dancing together and so we went to the "Caribbean club" several times. It's a very nice classy place that mostly has Latin dance music playing. This is not the type of place I'd expect to see hookers at in Russia at all actually. I've been to similar type night clubs in Russia and I was never hit on by prostitutes there. Here in Kiev they saw that I was with dugger and his lady but that I didn't have a lady with me and they were coming up to me soliciting almost every time we went there. It was actually irritating to me because if I wanted to meet a woman I could have easily done that, but as you know I'm married and I was there strictly to help dugger2 to have a good time with his lady.

You don't need to be so hypersensitive and protective of Ukraine and Ukrainians because: 1. they can stand up for themselves 2. They will agree with what I say because it's true. I have plenty of family here, in Ukraine and I don't say anything that they themselves haven't said at some point.

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Re: Not all endings are happy
« Reply #48 on: November 04, 2011, 05:20:14 PM »

When you are not a native speaker you will most likely miss many important clues about a woman. Think about it - if you are American and meet an American woman in any kind of setting. 5 minutes chatting with her and you can usually tell if there is something "off" with her. If she has "street" slang and tendencies, or some kind of "roughness" about her, etc you will spot that. Same thing with me, when I talk to an FSU woman I can have a basic idea about her level of education, what kind of upbringing she had and what sort of life she leads. Not being a native Russian speaker doesn't allow you to make some very important determinations which can later result in tragedy such as this one.


The above is very true.

One point and this goes back to my expierence with Masha, listen to your friends of both sexes. I still remember all my women friends say take care and the guys being wow. (me thinking please close your mouth NOW)
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Re: Not all endings are happy
« Reply #49 on: November 04, 2011, 05:27:45 PM »
Somebody needs 5 minutes to assess a woman??  It can be done in five seconds or less. 

Give me a break!

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